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Welcome Sharon and Bun wish we could have met under better cirumstances.. I wish you guys a short and sweet stop here.. We have decided we ALL deserve to leave this thread for a long long time.....
Not sure whats going on here got watery cm well heaps of it anyway but temps are high.. I got heaps of cm which i had when i was pg so not sure only 6dpo today so wait and see got my +ve hpt at 15dpo last time...... Oh well not going to read into it anymore just wait see.....
Welcome Sharon and Bun to a great bunch of people
Tink :happyforyou: you go girl good luck and lots of sticky dust for you
Jane I havent been camping in ages and I'm jealous as hell LOL
Well so far FF is all low temps not sure about O'ing yet but had a +ve OPK yesterday so maybe? Been BD'ing like mad my DH thinks its Xmas! Had my birthday on Sunday so can I please have a sticky bfp for my birthday present LOL
Hope everyone is well and GOOD LUCK TO US ALL
Thank you so much for your congratulations Flowerchild, Kbowman, Shan, Rach75, Mummyto1, Tinsel, Janeo & BekZ! Doctor couldnt fit me in until Wed so I will hopefully have my blood test organised by the end of the week and results back so I can celebrate knowing definitely happening! Thanks so much for your support girls, couldnt have coped without it.
Sorry to hear AP arrived Mummyto1 - praying for next month for you! Good luck Shan with your weight loss and cant wait to hear you are BFP too! Fingers crossed for you Janeo that this is your month too! Kbowman how embarrassing you poor thing, you will find it very funny though later on once the embarrassment has worn off! You made me laugh xx
Lots of love, Tink xx
Thanks Sarah too! Good luck this month too! xxx
Bun hopefully you wont have to be in this thread for too long either, I am hoping that since I have a fairly good idea of when I O, that I won't have to be here too long either.
Flowerchild it is nice to be able to maybe take my mind off of our loss while I am TTC, or at least not let it consume my thoughts so much.
Tinsel I am also a bit of a PIAC addict too, and I started testing usually at around 8 dpo.
janeo I found that I had an abundant supply of watery CM just before my last bfp (I usually have to "go and get" my cm from my cervix LOL), so it could be a good sign
sarah hope you managed to catch your eggie, if you got a +ve OPK yesterday then I think you should be getting just one more BD in for luck, i'm sure your DH wont mind ;)
tink good luck with getting your BT and results this week, and congratulations anyway :D
As for me I am on CD 15 and just want AF to hurry up and visit, then leave as quickly as possible so that I can start TTC, I am a really impatient person and I hate having to wait for anything :p
Oh i hope so i had heaps last time but more on the creamy colour side oh well wait and see..
Hi Ladies,
Thought I would drop in and introduce myself as well. Like SaltPrincess said I wish I could be meeting you all under better circumstances. Hi to all the ladies I have already have the pleasure of meeting and sharing journeys with.
Salt after my mc I really felt that I could not face another pregnancy for quite some time. I really do not want to go back and have another DandC and I am not looking forward to the worry that my last pregnancy brought with it from day one.
Since I found out that I was not pregnant anymore I started to think about all the reasons that I should not have another baby. Such as my DD is only 15months and I shoud dedicate all my time to her until she is older, I would be happier with myself if I lost 5kgs (which I am working on now), I should focus on our business and not a baby. I actually did not grieve the loss all that much (although I wanted to), now it is all hitting me. I am starting to feel depressed that I won't have a baby in September, that my DD wont have a playmate etc etc. So the thought of ttc again is becoming more attractive.
Also because my docs won't do anything until I have another mc my thoughts are to TTC again now and see what happens. If the bub sticks and grows then excellent, but if (god forbid) it doesn't then I can get some answers.
Oh yeah I also had a dream when I was 7wks ( the time my little on died) that I would deliver my next healthy baby on Dec 18. This is really wacky I know and I would have to get AF pretty soon and I would have to conceive again in the next month. This is such a long shot, but who knows dreams can come true.
Sorry to ramble. This time with TTC I am going to take things as they come. No pressure. I know you will know when is the right time as well.
Question: Sharron I noticed that you are on CD14 but you have not had AF yet. Does this mean we should count our cycle from the day we had the D and C?
HI Saltprincess its a pity we are back to where were last year..... It is hard we felt the same way.. You wont ever forget this angel baby they will always be a part of your life, your angel baby will watch over you and bring another beautiful bundle of joy soon... Just take each day as it comes and cry when you need too as i found i put on this front for the first month then it all fell around me...... I hope your journey is short and sweet....
Hi Bekz, dreams are weird through this horrible time, i kept dreaming of a little girl called Zahra and that it was my next baby not when but my friends children were there and were toddlers so shouldnt be far away hopefully.....
Hugs to you both and looking forward to getting to know you both pity its under these circumstances... But our angel babies are playing together and looking for our beautiful babies..
Janeo - Lets hope we are all chatting about our new bundles of joy this time next year, or we are egerly awaiting arrival announcements. This is my wish for each and everyone us.
Thanks Bekz.......
saltprincess glad to see you made your way over here :hugs: like you after my D&C I just wanted to be pregnant right then and there, I hated the "empty" feeling and I really hated seeing AF everytime I went to the loo as it was like a big slap in the face reminder that I was no longer pregnant. For me, having some really close friends to talk to about my loss has really helped me realise that part of my healing process will be to be pg again, we wont be actively TTC until I have had my 1st period which hopefully wont be far away.
BekZ I too have decided that I am going to actively start trying to lose a couple of kilos while waiting for next af and then TTC but I am not going to put off TTC if I haven't lost the 10kg I want to lose. In answer to your question about cycle day and D&C, yes, I looked up on FF on what to do if you had a D&C and I think there is check box (where all the symptoms are) which was Miscarriage and/or D&C and you mark that box on the day you had your D&C and it will then put that as CD1. Hope that helps.
janeo Dreams can be very strange indeed. I actually had my best friend get a sudden feeling that something was terribly wrong with me on the day I had my ob appt and consequently found out I had miscarried, and another best friend, just had feelings for about 3 days that something was wrong, both of these women I class as my sisters, we are that close and I honestly don't know how I would have coped without them.
I also hope and :pray: that we all end up with happy and healthy bundles of joy in the not too distant future.
Hi all,
Who would have thought when I said at the beginning of the year "hopefully this will be the last of AF I will see for the year" and she has been hanging around since Dec 20!
Well I am back after a month away. It looks like it is going to take me hours, even days, to catch up in here. Then I'll need another holiday. I thought I had resolved in my mind what I wanted to do in regards to continuing with TTC, but after starting to read through the threads, I'm just as confused as ever.
I'll be back sometime soon to do personals.
Salt Princess & Bekz - welcome to the group. Sorry for your losses & hoping you both have much to celebrate over the coming months. For me after my m/c I wanted to start TTC right away but we are all so different we should do what feels right for us. We could never replace our angels......
Janeo - hope you got a good temp this morning. Will you hold out testing this month?
Missbelinda77 - nice to see you back & sorry you are confused. Trust your gut instinct about what you want to do....
Well D day has arrived for me - my little bundle of joy was due to arrive into the world today. Have had a few tears & some last night when I reminded DH but hopefully once I get through today I can get some closure. I truly thought I would hve been pg again but it wasn't to be...It's almost like I have been holding my breath for the last 6 months iykwim? Hopefully now I will be able to take a big deep breath & move onto the future with a positive attitude & some positive results in the next few months!
Hi to Sharon, Tink, Sarah & all the other ladies. Good luck wherever you may be in your cycles....Thanks all for listening to me - BB rocks!!
Thinking about you and your angel baby today Mummyto1. Sending you lots of cyber hugs...xxxx
Welcome back Miss Belinda was wondering how things were going... Did you have a great holiday???? Sorry to hear your confused its so hard isnt it... Have you cycles got any better, what is the gp or ob saying about the length of it?????
HUGE HUGS Mummy to 1 im thinking of you and your angel.....
Well temps still up at 36.3 been that for 3 days now so wait and see, im going to test at 15dpo so thats 7 days away so this time next week........
All the fingers and toes in the world crossed for you Jane. Good luck sweetheart. xxx
Morning girls, thank you for the warm welcome.
mummyto1 - I am thinking of you today :hug:
sharon - I hope we are both out of here soon!
Salt Princess - it is a difficult time deciding what to do after a m/c. I was the same after my first, I just wanted to be pg again, then I went through a stage where I never wanted to be pg again as I never wanted to go through that hurt again, then eventually I was ready to try again. Then after the second m/c, I went through all those familiar feelings again! It think it is natural to feel the way you do and to change your mind lots. Just give yourself time until you feel you are def ready to try again, and in the meantime, talk to us girls!
Hi to everyone else, I hope you are all travelling well.
Well, I am on CD12 now and no signs of impending O. Looks like I will be going back to my usual pattern of O'ing on CD20 at the earliest, which is such a pain. I have an app't with my RE next wk to get BT results to find out if anything is wrong. After having 23 vials of blood taken, I wonder if they will find anything?? I'm not even sure if I want there to be something or not - if there is a reason for the m/cs, then it can be treated, but if everything is ok, then that is good, but means we are still in the dark and trying again is so scary.
Hello,
Mummyto1 - Hugs to you hon. I know how you feel, this month I should have been giving birth to my first angel but instead I lost another. I wish you all the best and you are in such a wonderful place with all these lovely ladies.
Sharon - Thanks for the info re cycle days. Your sister friends sound so in-tune with you and that is so special to have people like that around. I call them earth angels.
Belinda - hi. Follow you instincts about when to TTC. This can be hard though, especially if you are hormonally challenged like me.
Jane - Fingers crossed for your testing. I guess if you get consistant high temps for 10days or so then you should be right to test.
Bun - Good luck with the test results. My SIL had 2 confirmed m/c and 1 unconfirmed before she had her DS. My whole family thought that she could not carry girls like my step mother and they thought this was the reason for her m/cs, but she is now 20 wks with no2 and we just found out it is a girl. So that theory was wrong. It is so scary to TTC again but I look at my SIL and she just kept going until she got her baby. That gives me strength with the TTC journey. Although I am scared becasue if I have another m/c then I know there is a problem to be found.
SP - How you doing?
Hi Everyone
I am so miserable at the moment. I am 14dpo, got a BFN this morning and just want AF to show her ugly head so we can get started again. I have 35 day cycles usually but I O'd on CD20 which is late for me. Work is stressful as well so am a big grump at the moment.
Mummyto1, I am sending big hugs to you. xx
So sorry Tinsel.. I hope af arrives or that its just too early and you will get that bfp..
Thanks girls for all your kind words of support today - you are all priceless!! I so wish we could make a mass exodus from this thread but for some of us it is going to take time. It is about having faith that our dreams wil come true in the end & about staying positive.
Shan -I hope your happy & in a good place!
Janeo - good luck for a week from now - I love your resolve!!
Bun - I hope you O & catch that slippery little eggie this time. Hopefully you will have success soon & not need to go into the 'whys' & 'hows' of your m/c's.
Tinsel - big hugs - 14dpo is too early for some so hang in there.Wishing a BFP for you real soon!
A big hello to all the other ladies - catch up with you all soon!!
Well i had a temp drop this morning from 36.3 to 36.1 but i woke 10 mins early and presses button but pressed it twice so i had to turn on the light to make sure i had it on knocked over the lamp so lots of moving b4 putting it into my mouth so not totally confident on the temp....... But having some niggly pains and things today so maybe bubba is burying herself inside me FINGERS CROSSED.................
To all you girls you are an amazing support and its a pity we have to get to know each other for this reason instead of being belly buddies but i feel that it is all our turn to have a break and have our dreams come true... So lots of sticky vibes and +ve thoughts going out to you all......
I 3rd that thought. You girls crack me up with the temping strories.
SP - Glad you are ok. I am ok as well thanks.
Jane - Have my fingers crossed you hon.
I started to temp today and my temp is really still high 36.8!!!! Ok I just checked my temp history on FF abd 36.8 was my normal coverline temp. How quickly you forget these things. I have a long cycle as well and I usually don't O until day 18 to 22.
DH is getting very keen to BD again. Poor thing he has so been on a drought lately. The doc told me not to DTD until 2wks post operation. I am still deciding whether we should be careful until AF comes or just see what happens. Why do they say to wait until you have one AF?
Stickey vibes to all:)
SP - I just stalked your chart, looks like you may be getting ready to O!!!!!
I wish I could get some info on why they tell you to wait for AF. I might google it or ask in the mc thread here.
Hi girls
BekZ & SP - I was told by my old (idiot) GP to wait 3 months to allow the endometrial lining to build before trying again. How that makes any sense I do not know, as the lining breaks down every month! Who knows. After both m/cs I decided to wait one cycle before trying again to allow some time to recover, and as I have long cycles and it took a while to O after each m/c, this wait will probably be 2 months anyway, and the wait after my first m/c was 10 weeks before TTC again. I have done a lot of research and a lot of the time the reason for waiting seems to be to allow the dr to date a subsequent pg, but with dating scans, I don't really see how this is necessary! I had a lot of trouble getting a straight answer on this one too, as the hosp dr told me there was a higher chance of m/c if you tried again in the next 3 months, but since then I have found out that there is no scientific backing for this at all.
I think at the end of the day, it is up to each individual to decide when they are ready to TTC again.
SP - I am not brave at all. I just have no choice - if this is what I need to go through to have the family I have always wanted, then this is what I have to do. The only alternative is to give up, and I am def not prepared to do that, not at this stage anyway. It does suck though - I am so jealous of those people who get pg, and it results in a baby. I never have that certainty and will never again feel that excitement at a BFP. I suppose all of us are like that now, and it really does take a lot of the joy away and replaces it with fear at a time in our lives when each and every one of us should be so happy.
Bek - your poor SIL - I am so glad it all worked out in the end. Why could your stepmother not have girls? Please try not to worry about this happening to you again and about there being a problem - my specialist has said there is only a 20% chance of finding something wrong even if you have all the tests done after recurrent m/c. There is a 1 in 4 chance of m/c in every pg, so someone has to be unlucky enough to roll the unlucky number on the dice a few times in a row with no underlying cause. And the fact that you already have one healthy bub prob means your chances of m/c or having a problem are even lower. You have done it before, so of course you can do it again!
Well, I hate O'ing late! I am on CD13 and I don't think I will O til about CD20 again... so annoying. And I always have this background fear that the cause of my m/cs could be such late O. Hopefully some of the tests I have had done will tell me one way or another what is going on. Only one week until my RE appointment.
Hello to everyone else. I hope you are all ok.
It was funny Sp thats ok i was thinking the same thing as i typed....... Well i found this early from when Oct last year when i was 9dpo and was pg...
Oct 17th 2006 9dpo..
Well i feel a bit funny in tummy today and I have pains low down i cant cough it hurts and when i bend over it feels uncomfortable maybe im getting bloated which could mean either pg or af ARGH!!!!!!!!
So wait and see....... Oh and Sp all your posts were in then so funny reading back to what we all said......
I agree with what bun said......... Oh and they will have to give me a dating scan cos i sitll havnt had a af since d & c 10 weeks ago.. although i know my o day so they might go by that...
It is hard Sp but you will know when your ready to go and see them..
Thanks for your info ladies regarding AF and TTC.
I think I will resume TTC after AF but in the mean time I won't be that "careful" either.
Bun - You are so right about all subsequent pregnancies bringing fear and nervousness. This is such a shame. I remember breezing through my first pregnancy, with not a care in the world (except normal mummy-to-be worry). Now the journeys feel so different and I am sure I will not be confident with the next pregnancy until the 19wk scan. I do have to be thankful that I have one very happy and healthy daughter. I so appreciate her very much, and I thank the guy up stairs every day for her.
SP - I am sure your SIL will understand and you will get the strength to visit her soon. Maybe going to her home would be easier for you. There at least you can have a cry in private if you need to.
Today I saw my SIL baby's scan. I took it really well and it has helped my so much to talk to her about her baby. I think it helps to know that she has been through what I am now going through.
Jane - Wow 10wks without AF. Damn I thought AF would come soon and all would be good to go again, but from reading your and Bun's experience it looks like AF will be a while away.
Its meant to have come by now i think im a freak LOL.. Nah i have problems with length of my cycles anyway although never this long but thinking my body is just taking a LONG time to heal.. But hopefully it wont come for another 9 mths now and longer when im b/f lol..
Well I've decided for now, that I will not be actively TTC, as I can't handle going back onto Clomid at this time. My head just isn't in the right place to deal with the stress of it all or the prospect of anymore heartache. So I guess I just need more time to heal, before I can jump back on the horse (or the man!).
That doesn't mean that I won't still be stalking you guys and checking out what is happening around here!
Bun I normally O around CD 19-21 and it definitely stinks having to wait that extra week than what is normal. Good luck with the BT results
BekZ I think my DH is actually dreading the BD marathon (usually only 3-4 days in the month though) but because he is 41, and works long hours he is usually buggered by the time he gets home. My Ob told me to wait till my next cycle, never thought to ask why, and it wouldn't have mattered even if he said we could start now as DH is away all next week and that is usually when I O around then so I think I probably wasn't meant to be anyway.
mummyto1 big :hugs: to you for the other day, it must have been very difficult for you.
Tinsel :hug: it is horrible when you see a BFN when all you want is a +ve I will cross my fingers and hope that it was just too early for the test to pick up.
janeo my DH would get cranks big time if I made that much noise temping LOL it is hard enough keeping the 10 beeps from the thermometer muffled enough so it doesn't wake him.
saltprincess I also believe that coming back in here after my D&C was the best decision I could have made I don't know what I would do without my online "family" I also think that your SIL will understand why you couldn't visit her, and I am sure that in your own time you will be able to visit.
missbelinda77 you obviously feel that you need a TTC break, I would love to have a chart "stalker" as i've never had one before, and it will be nice to see you pop in every now and again.
Today I went to lunch with a friend, and another friend of ours happened to be at the same place, she gave birth to her DD on the day I had my D&C and I couldn't help myself but I just started to cry, not too much, but enough for her to see that I was sad, she was really nice, and I assured her that I was happy for her, but at the same time I was still sad for me.
Hi to anyone I may have forgotten (and sorry if I have) hope you are all doing OK
Hello everyone
have just been away for a couple of days at my mums so couldnt get online (had to go to the dentist :( ) Seems I have an abscess under my tooth so now I'm on AB's for a week then the tooth will be coming out!
Jane I really hope that you get a bfp soon what strength to hold out so long to test
SP it doesnt really make any difference if you do get pg without waiting but sometimes that time gives you the chance to build up courage to keep trying
Hello everyone? I had my miscarriage Janurary and just not had my D&C tuesday. How long do you bleed I am so ready to start trying again. I am hoping and praying that everything go well this time.
Good Luck to everyone
Morning girls,
Sarah - sorry about your tooth. Ouch!
missbelinda - make sure you hang around anyway until you are ready to TTC again!
SP - I totally understand how you feel about your SIL and not wanting to visit. When my SIL had their first bub 6 wks after my first m/c, I was terrified about going to visit them in hosp, as I didn't know what my reaction was going to be and the whole family were there. It turned out ok (I surprised even myself), but I had had a lot longer than you to come to term with things. Don't push yourself - I am sure she understands, and you will visit them when you are ready. I am thinking of you as I know this is a really difficult time :hug:
Sharon - :hug:
Bek - It is only supposed to take 4 - 6 wks to get AF back - my body just normally has long cycles, so it was a bit longer for me. I am sure you won't have to wait that long.
Well, I am not doing so well atm. Went to the ILs for dinner last night and it all just got too much. My BIL and SIL had a boy, the first grandchild, just 6 weeks after my first m/c (and 6 weeks before my second), so now all family get-togethers involve the entire family (2 parents, 4 kids plus partners, and a visiting aunt) getting clucky and cooing over a baby all night. Now, I know that it SHOULD be like this - of course they should be enjoying a new addition to the family but sometimes it just all gets a bit much for me. Luckily it is a 3 storey house and DH and FIL were upstairs in the study and everyone else was in the middle level, so I managed to escape to the ground floor where I balled my eyes out in the bathroom for half an hour, and DH and FIL thought I was with everyone else, and everyone else thought I was with DH and FIL, so I don't think anyone noticed. It seems to be getting worse, not easier, I wasn't this bad before, but it is all just getting on top of me, and I am so sick of being brave all the time and putting on a happy face when everything is falling apart.
I have an appointment with my counsellor tomorrow, so hopefully that will help. The trouble I have is that hardly anyone knows about the second m/c- I found most people so unsupportive the first time that I didn't see the point in telling them about the second. The only few people who know are our parents and a couple of friends that we found a great help the first time. So I feel like I am pretty much on my own (apart from you guys of course!!). I think that makes it even harder.
Also, I had a dream last night that my little sis announced she was accidentally pg, and she told me this while sipping down strong alcoholic beverages - I was so angry!! But it was only a dream...
Hi to everyone else - sorry to ramble on for so long...
I lost my baby early this year what a way to bring in the new year. I am ready and want it so bad to be pregnant again I think about my baby everyday I was five months pregnant and didnt have a clue that I was. I often blame myself for not knowing would that made a difference. I think about why did it happen to me am I a bad person I already have two boys ages 9 and 10. Its hard and I am also afraid of what might happen all I can do is pray and ask God to make everything alright so I can have a healthy baby. I dont know why I miscarried you never think something like this would happen to you until it do.
Sorry for your lost Nikilove:(
I'm not really ttc yet (MC was 2 1/2 weeks ago), I guess it's sensible to wait for at least one AF. But, if it happens before then I certainly wouldn't say no.
But I thought I'd pop in to say hello, a big 'hi' and lots of :hug: to the girls I already know, and looking forward to getting to know those of you I've not met before. I wish we could have met under happier circumstances.
Immediately after my MC all I wanted was to be pregnant again, I think I thought that would 'fix' everything. Now I feel that I want at least a bit more time to grieve for the baby we lost. Although I am also open to getting pg again soon. It's a very confusing time, I don't really know what to do. Do any of you feel confused about ttc again after your miscarriages?
Anyway, I wish all of you the very best of luck and hope that you all get your bfps very soon and have the healthy, happy babies you all deserve so very much.
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Morning Ladies,
Bun - HUGS. I know how you must have felt. Thanks so much for all the info you have given me over the last little while.
Sharon - HUGS to you too. My DH is so ready for a BD marathon, he can't wait!!!!! He says this now but after the first few times he'll want a break.
Belinda - Good on you for recoginising that you need a break. Please stick around. If I don't conceive by March I will be having a 3month break as well. I am going to stick around regardless.
Sarah and Niki - Hi nice to meet you both.
Niki - I really did not bleed at all, just a bit of spotting here and there. It has been 11 days since my D and C and I now feel like AF is coming.
I have posted this in another thread already, but I feel like AF is coming. Last night I had strong cramps, heavier spotting, sore boobs, and today all the same but a wicked headaches as well. Oh yeah my temp dropped too.
Sharon, lol at waking dh with beeps my Dp was on early's so at work when it happened or there would have been a BIG what are you doing?? LOL.. Huge hugs also it is hard seeing your friends babies but they do understand and your friend showed that...
Sorry Nikilove, it is hard but it's not your fault try not to blame yourself i know its hard took me a good 4-5 weeks b4 i stopped doing that... On the bleeding front mine stopped about a week or so then the occasional spot for a week or so...
Bun Huge hugs matey must be hard i have friends with babies and every time i see them its hard i have all my friends coming over Sunday for lunch as my friends husband is having a head wetting for there daughter so us girls are getting together everyone that is coming except one has children and one is pg again so its going to be hard but they all understand as im sure your dh family understands...
To all you lovely girls take each day as it comes this journey is hard and if your having a bad day cry dont feel bad that your crying its your right you have lost your beautiful babies and dont let anyone tell you you shouldnt cry and to move on because its not that simple....
Sp i dont know but when we lost our baby every show we watched there was either and m/c or mention of it, it drove us NUTS.......... Im going well just want to test lol but holding off dont want to waste them and get upset with a -ve when its still too early.. Im 10dpo to day so a few more days would be better to wait.... Im better around my friends now one of them i avoided for a few weeks cos the day i started bleeding she had told us she was expecting no2 and when she dropped me home i found out i was bleeding it was hard on her too cos she felt guilty and found it hard to know what to say.... Looking forward to catching up with them will be hard not to yell "I THINK IM PG" but i wont be telling anyone until after 12 weeks this time...
Jane - I have my fingers crossed that you get a BFP when you test.
SP - I agree about how hard it is when everyone and everything around us is about babies or pregnancy. My best friend had a baby boy last month at the same hospital that I was admitted to, and I went to visit, and it was very surreal - the same nurses etc, but I figured I wanted a happy memory of the place to compensate my memories. But it was still very hard. Some days I just think about wanting to hold a newborn baby in my arms, and I can't remember the last time I did, it was probably 5yrs ago when my niece was born. My gf doesn't like other people touching her children because she has a germ phobia, so we weren't allowed to hold him. But it's probably just as well, because I would have started blubbering :)
Wow, lots of action in here today. Thanks to everyone who had their fingers crossed but AF arrived today :( so am a bit sad that we didn't catch the egg and will try harder this cycle. My temp took a nose dive this morning and she came at lunchtime. Just like you Niki, I am so ready and really want to be pregnant again. To answer your question, I only had spot bleeding for about a week after my D&C and the week after that, my libido was out of control LOL.
Bun :hug: It's terrible that people were not supportive of your first miscarriage that it made you feel like you couldn't tell them the second time. My boss told my work team that I had a miscarriage when I was at home recovering and they were really good except one that just didn't acknowledge it which was really weird because she is always so over the top with everyone else. Another woman at my work brought her baby in a few weeks ago for cuddles and when she left the woman who didn't acknowlege it said to me "how does it make you feel?" and I was looking at her thinking "how do you think it makes me feel. It makes me feel like I should be 5 months pregnant" but instead I just smiled. I just don't get people sometimes.
Janeo - fingers crossed for that BFP.
Will catch up with everyone else soon. Have a lovely glass of wine waiting to help me get over AF arriving today.
Tinsel - sorry about AF arriving, but I hope you enjoy that glass of wine! Yeah, I really don't get people sometimes either. What a horrible thing to say! There was one woman at my work who I had a bit of a problem with too. I decided I didn't want anyone except my direct boss knowing what had happened. Everyone else just dropped the issue when I said I didn't want to talk about it, except her. Out of my friends, most do not have kids and a lot obviously did not understand what it feels like to go through something like this and expected me to be over it in like a day or two. I decided it would only hurt and not help to tell them about the second one. The trouble is, now everytime I see someone and they ask what has been happening, I have nothing to say. The major thing in my life right now is trying to cope with depression, having copious amounts of blood taken, waiting for psych and specialist appointments, worrying about ever having a family and trying not to cry 24 hours a day. Thus, I really don't have much to say to anyone, except you guys.
Jane - I see pg women everywhere too, and it's so hard. What I have seen a lot lately that has really made me mad is pg people smoking or eating things I know they should NOT be eating. Grrr...
SP - yes, I have found the counsellor helpful, but have only seen her once. Mine specialises in this kind of thing too. I hope you find it helpful too. I am glad your DH told his sis about your m/c, at least it is out there now and I am sure she will understand how you are feeling.
Niki- I am so sorry to hear about your baby. Please don't blame yourself sweetie, you did nothing wrong. Try to take it easy and give yourself some time to grieve, and remember we are all here for you. Yes, most of us feel confused about TTC again after a m/c, it is perfectly normal and we all understand the feeling. :hug:
Have a great weekend all.
Love Bun xx