Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss Jan 2010

Hey gals - I just wanted to say thankyou so much for your support and kinds words. It means a lot to me.

The trees we planted ( well DH did and I "supervised") were muraya also known as orange blossom. Both DH and I love them but more so now. When Amelia died in Feb 09 our front garden was full of that beautiful scent. I would go out the front and just sit there and be surrounded by the scent and think of my precious baby girl. So now everytime I smell their perfume, I am reminded of and feel close to all of my little ones.

Not many personals tonight......

Sunbeam - I am so sorry you almost puked, it's awful to feel like that in a public place. But I had that yesterday too. I thought for sure I was going to puke on my boss! This was the most severe nausea I have had in a while. But today not so much, and I feel by comparison, on top of the world and bullet proof ( at least as far as nausea goes).

ChickyBaby 73 - welcome back sis. It took you courage to stop TCC but even more to start again. Hopefully your time in here will be short? Wishin a BFP soon.

KitFaerie - I love my cats. They are pretty amazing. They teach me lessons all the time - ie it's not about me it's about them!

Murraycod - Go you good thing emby Harvey! Sorry the TWW is doing your head in. Glad the FS gave you some reassurance. Hopefully you don't need your frostie, so its all a moot point.

T- Hopes - oh bugger I was hoping for a BFP for you. Uhm, good idea to take another BT because this miracle of our AF cycles is not the same every cycle...... I am gunning for you.

Crafty - go you good thing at egg catching. And enjoy your boys. Hopefully it
s not too hot for them in Aus!

Hey ladies

sorry i haven't been on for a few days. Thanks Matthewsmum and dory for asking about me.

I have just spent so long catching up and i'm so confused! So many posts since i've been on!

I hope that everyone's journeys are going well. Seems to be a few people in the tww so hopefully a few BFPs coming up very soon.

Dory - how was your swim? I certainly have been doing exercise for you!! I have been doing a lot of strength training this week with my trainer. Talk about ouchies! hehe, love it.

I have been busy working hard at organising my new workshop on weight loss for the women of brisbane. Its very exciting. can't wait to get brisbane looking and feeling healthy!

as far as my ttc journey goes - AF arrived on Wednesday. 9 days late. Not happy :(
I know what this means. This is it for me. No more ttc for me. My partner isn't giving in on this one. Its just been too much for us. My friend gave birth to her baby girl last night, another friend gave birth a few days ago. Two more friends on the countdown, one will pop any minute. Its just too hard for me to deal with right now. I just look at these gorgeous little babies and i want it to be me lying in the hospital holding them. I'm happy to take all the pain of childbirth and everything else that comes with it, just to hold my little angel in my arms. But I guess it's just not my time.

The good news is that DP and I talked today about our future, and we're going to focus on setting some goals to work towards... goals that don't have anything to do with ttc. I'm hoping that we only need to take a break and we can start trying soon... but i'm not holding my breath.

Well i won't be ttc for while, but i'd still like to pop in and keep updated on how you are all going!

Please get some BFPs for me!!!!!! Good luck ladies!! Will be thinking of you all.

Ciara I will miss you so much if you don't pop in now and then!!!! I do wish you and DH all the very best for your fresh journeys ahead, I hope you both reach your goals in speedy time, and he will realise how much of a great team you make together. Sweetheart I hope your TTC journeys are not far into the future, you deserve very much to be a mummy, and it will happen, I promise XXX
You have helped me in many ways through my story so far, and I thank you so much, you are a great great girl XXXXX

Dory I love Orange Blossom and yes it does have a beutiful perfume XX I hope that you are starting to feel more confident that this little bean of yours is sticking around for the long haul!XX I'm not confident little Harvey has.

KitF I am so glad to hear that your levels are down to base line now, congrats!! 1 step further towards your goal XXX I hope that AF will show in good time X

matthew'sMum, it sounds to me that Matthew is a strong spirit who has chosen your family to love, that is why he has tried twice, he will try again, perhaps his timing just was not right for everyone, please don't think he doesn't want to be with you, you just can't think like that....I won't let you!!XXX:hug: I am happy to hear that you don't have to wait too long to see FS in Feb, well done X

Sunbeam, I hope you are doing better at this TWW than I am, any more symptoms???
I just dread this part.

Chickybabe73 nice to meet you, glad you have decided to jon in, I hope that your TTC journey here is a friendly and successful one XX I'm so sorry for the 2 losses you have gone though, I pray that you get your sticky bub soon, to complete your dear family XX

THopes I am so sorry you too are going through such an emotional rollercoaster X How are you feeling? Don't give up hope (easier said than done I know;))..........XX

Crafty, have a fantastic time with your boys, .......remember, you said you'd have drinks for us.......:D Don't forget!!!XX

TTCALC I hope you are feeling better today, your FS visit wil be this week won't it??XX

ScaryPF, how are you darling XXX Sounds like you have plenty of homework hey!!:lol: Hope you caught that egg hun XX Good luck in your TWW X

HubBub hope you are well sweetheart XX

Ferrals and Snugglebuggs, thinking of you and miss you so much XXXX

AFM cramping back with a vengance, nasty AF signs knocking on my door, I couldn't help myself today, I POAS and got a BFN ...........:(

Hello lovely ladies, sorry i dont get in too often and when i do there is so much catching up to do that i just cant get my head around doing persies.
Thanks to everyone who has been asking how im going. Im doing really well (well apart from the constant sick feeling) Im 10 weeks todays and so glad that the 1st trimester is almost done and dusted and hopefully ill start to feel better soon.
Sending you all lots and lots of :pink-babydust: and praying that you all get your BFP's really soon.
Murraycod sweetie im missing you lots too and check in very regularly to see how you are doing, hope your journey ends in a lovely BFP very soon

Hi All,
Im very new to all this and not sure how it all works, but i'll give it a shot, I had a missed miscarriage 7 weeks ago, i needed a d&c and i was a little ova 8wks.
I healed quickly but the last couple of weeks hav been tough as i have had bad period pains and all the other symptoms that come along with it, but im not bleeding not one bit!!
We had been ttc for 3 mths and it was our 1st pregnancy, my cycles before were regular and 30 days apart.
Iam a healthy 24yr old, who just wants so badly to move on but dont feel like i can til my cycle is back and not havin these painful cramps.
I have had a scan 2wks after d&c to make sure they got everything, all was good.
I took a pregnancy test that was negative and that was two wks after we had unprotected sex so im pretty sure it would hav picked up a positive by then if i was.
I will go to the doctors, they wont be much help but might be able to run some tests.
Thanks so much.:wall:

hi guys... sorry no persies just have to ask for some support!!
Please please :pray::SAAF: I have been so supper regular since Kyarna was born like to the minute even and now i sit here and type this with No AF.... i am now 2 days late!!!
i am :pray: this is it..... Bit worried tho cause i POAS this morning and it was BFN...
i still have a chance right?

mummyof4 im keeping everything crossed for you, your definately still in with a chance if your cycles are always regulare and Af is not here its all sounding very good. Good luck hun
Sophia sorry to hear of your loss, hopefully you can get some answers from your doctor very soon and get a BFP nice and quickly too :)

sophia-sorry for your loss,hope the cramping subsides for you soon &another bfp is here for you sooner than later...mummyof4-i tihnk your still in with a good chance ,keep us updated..kitfairie-thanks for your nice words,did af come?..murraycod-try not to let poas result get you to down,i think it would just be to early,thank you for your nice words as well...thinking of everyone

Hey Ladies..
Sorry i havent been on for a few days.. been little busy

MurrayCod.. thanks for asking about me..:) im doing much better no cramps again Grrr as bad as i hate it i want her NOW..LOL
Kitfarie~ yes that would be kool if we got them together! :fingerscrossed:
T- Hopes nope not much longer 3 more days Woot woot.. i cant wait to go see the doc.
Sunbeam~ I didnt think so but it sure did seem like i did.. its just that wishful thinking we get after a m/c they say ..

Hopefully soon!@

AFM just waiting for AF and for me to see the doc..
I will stop back in tomorrow i got 5 kiddos here tonite..lol and actually its been pretty mellow and quiet.. and 2 are still up trying to get them to bed..

My fingers are crossed for you all and im sorry for the nones that got AF and i'm :pray: that AF stays away for the ones that are ttc still :)

xoxox
anita

Sophia - Sorry you lost your little one. It's heartbreaking hey and the journey now, is pretty tough. Stick around in here, we are a great bunch of ladies, and by being in here you can get some support, and talk to people who truly know your heartache and it's good to know you're not alone ( although that can bring its own pain too). I can't give you any advice on the cramping, except to go to the Dr.

Ciara.e - Oh sweets. What a tough place to be in right now. Maybe it's a good thing to have a break from the merrygoaround that is tcc, and focus on other things - like exercise and your project? Still I understand its tough.

My swim was awesome. I only did about 1km, and no speed work or continuous distance work as I was trying to swim my cares away and do some light exercise seeing as it's been 3 weeks since I did anything but walking. The last time I did, I went for a great run only 4kms ( running distance is not my thing) and some exercises after ( squats, lunges etc), but over did it, hurt my back ( doing jump overs) and caught some virus that gave me next to no energy. So it's good to feel like I have some energy again! Going for a swim today too - I am looking forward to it.

Murraycod - I still am crossing everything for emby Harvey. But I totally understand how you're feeling, Having felt very similar to you just recently, feeling taht all is lost.

Mo4 - always a chance. Don't be too hard on yourself.

EliseLouise - I am not sure if I said it earlier - well done on the BFP and getting to the 10 week mark. I am pretty excited for you. I am 5 1/2 weeks... and getting better at enjoying each day and not letting fear take control.... one moment at a time. But when I have insomnia ( which I have never really had before so maybe its a sign of my true level of anxiety?) it's pretty hard not to let my fears envelope me..... but that's what fur babies are for - a good cuddle or purr or feed me miaow.

AFM - it seems for me my life is never far away from some sort of drama. I said I was going to visit my aunt on Thursday night, but in the end called and said I wouldn't come because I felt so sick ( I almost puked on my boss at work! yuk I still don't know how I managed not to.) My aunt gave me a hard time about "reneging" and not keeping my word. Not even a sorry you're not feeling well. The thing is I have suffered from nausea for a long time, and I don't often let it get in the way of doing things. Mostly because if I did, I wouldn't have done a lot of things over the past 6 years, so for me not to do something because I feel sick, means I feel pretty rotten. So really I feel indignant and hurt and angry. Going over to see my Aunt after my swim. Wonder how it will go? Hopefully the swim will freshen up my mood towards my aunt. If I was the sort of person to tell her to shove it, this would have been solved straight away! But I am not that person.....

Anyway, thinking o you all as always. Take care my lovelies, even if I haven't given you a persie today.

oh mummyof4... thats sounding really good!! Of course there is a chance, a huge chance!! A late period has to be the number 1 symptom right... and you have it! Have you got any other symptoms?? when are you going to poas again? let us know how you get on...
ciara-so sorry that this wasnt your month....please keep in touch and let us know how you are going... i hope that DP misses the ttc journey and that you can get back in to it very soon! good luck with your workshop! sounds fab and will miss you xx
matthews mum- sorry never heard of that fs or anything about the tubes. but thats great that you have an appt next month, i hope it brings to closer to that bfp! and that must have been hard to hear about matthew, it sounds llike it just wasnt his time and sometimes god has other plans.i just wish we understood what they were! his spirit will always be with you though xx hugs to you xx
spf - good luck with your 2ww!! and glad to hear you have found something to keep your mind off things with your exam! xx
murraycod - get DH to hide those sticks away! too early for that and only gunna make you feel down! im backing in little harvs!! just give him time!
sunbeam - the nearly spewing sounds great!!!! any other symptoms now?? wjat day are you testing?
ttcalovec - good luck for your appt tomorrow!!! let us know how you get on!!
crafty! have lots of BD fun! Enjoy your boys!! how long are they here for??
elouise - hello! so glad things are all going smoothly!! its fabulous news! enjoy it all! xx
kitfaerie - hope AF has arrived for you over the w/end! she is so rude not being punctual! no manners at all!
welcome with open arms to the newies...im sorry to hear of your pain and loss. i hope in some way, we can all help a little xx
cookie - how you going hun?
hello to those that i missed! hope you all had a good weekend!
afm - now 6days late. on friday night i noticed teeny tiny little pieces of brown discharge - no more than a pin head in total size! such a scantly amount that if i wasnt examining every wipe than i would never have even seen it! thought it was the start of af but still nothing..??! i am going to have another BT on wednesday if AF hasnt arrived.:pray: Dont really know what to think.

Hi Ladies

Just a quickie now I got 5 mins to my self,

Murraycod hang in there your not out of the running yet keep the faith and wait and see your days are numbered now :dance: so exciting can't wait !

Thopes sounds good no AF so in my book thats a good sign any other symptoms tingly boobs or sickness yet !

Mummyof4 no AF so sounds good to me keep thinking positive my sweet you will get your BFP soon !

eliselousie wow over 10 weeks I am so pleased your feeling Ill its a really good sign everytime I haven't felt really ill I mc so I know what im talking about !

Dory too I think its great your feeling so sick I think this is the bub that will stick for you and your in my thoughts everyday !

My boys arrived and nice to have them here they leave on Feb 5th so not too long but its so nice to have my whole family under one roof ! will be so sad when they leave ! but trying not to think about that as I will be in the TWW so stressed anyways !

all the new ladies sorry your in here with us but glad to meet you hope you get a BFP real soon !

everyone I missed sorry ! just snatching a few mins and can't remember all of you !

speak soon ! :)

Good morning ladies hope you all had a nice weekend,

Only got a few minutes as I'm waiting for a client.

T-Hopes- have you POAS again? Anything showing up?

Murrycod-how you feeling?

I now have the porno boobs but that could just as well be the progesterone as I've been getting them each cycle on IUI. Did have one strange feeling on saturday morning. The only way I can really describe it was like a tugging on my cervix?!?! Who knows! I will probably start testing from wednesday just because I still have a bunch of the early tests from the net left :crossfingers:

Okay gotta run have a great day.

Hi Ladies,

Thanks for the welcome back !

Sophia - sorry for your loss - but a big squishy welcome to you xo

Hope everyone is having a lovely day so far.

Sunbeam - yay for the porno boobs.

Hope everyone that is in the TWW is coping :doh:lets hope it goes quickly.

Hi to all the lurkers ! xo

I'm going to have to go and do housework now - yay !

Catch up later
xoxo

Dory enjoy your swim, excercise has a good way of halving troubles, always feel better afterwards. So glad to hear that you are starting to enjoy yourself now, I hope you start to get a decent night sleep though! I understand how you feel though, I lay awake at night with a hundred things going around in my head and it is so hard to just close your tired eyes and sleep. Take care honey, it is so nice of you to be so supportive of everyone XXX

Sunbeam.... porno boobs hey!? :lol: Oh the joys of ART with all the hormones on board hey!! I'm so over it! Hey good luck testing babe, but try wait it out, don't do a me....and get yourself all worked up, cuz it's just horroble.
If I do my time over again, I will be PUPO (pregnant until proven otherwise) and wait till BT. I made a mess of myself this time round, and I am just exhausted from it all. Honey good luck, I really hope this is the one for you, but try hold out as long as you can!XX Trust me!

Crafty, I am so happy to hear that you are having a great time with your family XXXX

Amyways will be back later on for more persies, it is DH and my 1st wedding anniversary today, and it has made me realise how lucky I am to have such a supportive giving Husband. He and i had a D+M until 2am thismorning!! Just chatting about what we have just been through and the dissapointment we have gone through, but i is so nice to nkow, that he thinks it has brought us closer together, and is ready for another try of IVF in April May. I know we need to wait until Fri BT day, but we are just talking in reality, not wishfull thinking land now, and it is so comforting to do so.
No more being upset at what isn't to be this time, just lovi'n eachother.

Happy Anniversary MurrayCod :hug:

xoxo

Hi everyone...

I am new to this thread but have posted on others so in case you haven't seen my story here it is...

My DH & I have a 20mth old daughter who was conceived on our 2nd IVF cycle (first FET). We were so lucky that it happened so quickly. We didn't have any eggs left after her so we have gone through it all again trying for #2. And to our surprise we fell on our second cycle again. Sadly though I ended up in hospital having a miscarriage at 8.5 wks, was so hard as we had only had an ultrasound the day before & all looked great :(

So I had my D&C on the 8th Jan & am now waiting for AF to arrive so that my FS can make sure everything is ok to do another FET (we have 2 frosties left).

I am looking forward to sharing in your TTC journeys, the support I have received from Bellybelly has helped so much. I am trying to read up on everyones journeys & wish all those in the TWW all the best, hopefully we'll see some BFPs!!!

AliCat welcome, I am so sorry to read of your loss.
It is sooo lovely to meet you, I am sure you will find plenty of support and friendship here, and I hope that we can all share your TTC journey with you.
Best wishes for your next FET, I do pray that you find great success.

I too am on the bumpy road of IVF, I just had my first ET a week and a half ago, but don't thin it was a success. So it is very assuring for me, to read that you had success on your second try XXX

I was only lucky enough to get 1 frozen Blasty, and my FS does not reccomend that I have a FET with only 1Frozen, as the chance of only 1 surviving the thawing process at Blasty stage is very low. He likes to thaw atleast 2 at a time. Which means I will have to do another full Stim Cycle again for our next try. Unfortunately that wont happen until April/May due to being a blockies wife (harvest time starts now) and finances.

I hope that we can share our stories, it is great to meet other girls here that are going through the same things XX

Take care, is lovely to meet you :hug: