Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage/Loss July/August 2009

hi, I'm Lauren, im 23, im new on here.

I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks just over a week ago and would love to talk to women who are going through or have been through the same thing. Even though i was only 9 weeks we already had names picked out and had started buying lots of baby things.
As hard as this is to get through we are trying to be positive and my partner and I would love to start trying again as soon as we can but have been told to wait a month.

Naturally im terrified the same thing will happen again or that we wont be able to conceive again but I desperatly want a baby of my own, its so hard seeing friends who are pregnant so I'd love to chat to women who are going throught the same thing I am.

xxx

:pray:

I'm confused about my cycle. I was thinking that I needed to do the deed around Friday but checking FF says i'm at day 15 which means yesterday or so i should have o'd. dtd mon and wed so fingers crossed. I have decided that if I am oh so lucky this month I am not going to tell db till fathers day, give him a gift with a handmade card that has a photo of a positive test :)
I feel good about this month but, I kind of think that every month so I just don't know. I think I am kind of rambling...guess I am now in the tww.
who's with me ?????

I hear ya Tina!
hehe i was planning on something like that.. was going to go buy a 0000 jumpsuit and wrap it up with the test and give it to him after a candlit dinner at home :D I just dnt know if I could keep my mouth shut that long...

what does everyone think about me testing tonight or tomorow? Ive been thinking about what you said milly and im just not sure if i can hold out hehe.. is it technically to early for a BFP at i think its 6 days till Af is due

what do u all think? Should I do one?

I dont know, maybe I should wait a couple days... its just that im so tired for no reason and i dnt know if im imagining things but it looks like my nipples have gotten a bit darker (TMI) And jugs are so damn sore!
mind you most of that could be af on her way

I dnt know, im getting ansy as i do every month,,

advice??

Kyrawolf-i'd wait at least til the morning i have never had a pos hpt earlier than 4 day's before AF due with my 3 boy's the line showed up real strong 4 day's before but with abbi nothing until the day AF due and it was so faint.

Tina- what a good idea when i found out i was preg with DH and mine's first baby together (abbi) i was so excited it had been 11 years since my last and my hubby never thought he would have any more kid's we had tried for 5 mth's and being a west tiger's fan i went out and bought a tiny singlet that said daddy's little tiger on it and a tiny pair of bootie's the look on his face i will never forget i hope i can do it again.

ok i think ill try to wait a few more days then.. Thanx :)

Kyrawolfe-So did you weaken and test this morning!

Tina-I found ff went on my temps and as it is hard to get an accurate temp unless you do it as soon as you wake without even moving my temp's changed even just sitting up in bed so i go off opk's the one's online are real good and i only get a dark line just before i ov and on the day then the line is very light for the rest of the time ff kept changing my ov day based on my temp's it drove me batty.

AFM-i'm enjoying my holiday and i think AF is definately comming monday i was so cranky yesterday i went off my nut at centrelink they are holding up my compensation settlement as they havn't signed the release for the insurance company to release my check it has been 8 week's now and i didd't even get any centrelink benifit's while i was injured from my car accident it was covered by workers comp but they have to check and make sure i diddnt get any payment's for god sake i was only off work for two week's then went back to work on light duties which work cover paid for gggggggggrrrrrrrr!!!!!! they p i s s! me off i have paid all my deposit's for our ivf and have drained our saving's so the money is reeeeeaaaaaaaaalllllllly needed right now.

Oh my gosh so much to catch up on. Have been away and it was sooo nice to have a little holiday, much needed!! And my first AF came after the d&c , exactly a 28 day cycle, so very excited about that, TMI - it was very heavy for the first few days but then literally stopped and no cramping so gotta be happy. Can't try again till Oct so will just be charting to figure out what my cycle is doing, although it's going to sooo hard not to try when i know i am O'ing, its like missing a major opportunity!! :) Anyway, going to accupuncture again on monday and just generally cruising along. Hope everyone is well and we have some BFP's on the way. Will write more and catch up later.

OOOeeerrr Kyra... sounds promising!!

Ferals, I am not sure if af coming for oyu is a good thing or a bad thing. I am kinda hoping that you get a sticky bean with out the aid of IVF, but I know you would all be a lot less worried if you know your bub is all ok. I hope that makes sense.... (((hugs)))

Of course I was way to weak to wait LOL
Of course I did a test ! :rolleyes:

both me and DH thought we saw a second line appear ever so faintly but then it dissapeared again.. So TBH I have No idea whats going on.. Im still skeptical enough to say theres a pretty damn gud chance RB is on the way to bring me down again lol.

Im going to stick to the idea that its way too early for a BFP.. DH is excited so hes bought me a 3 pack of tests and im going to do a test again in a couple days..

Dnt get excited for me cuz im really skeptical that any of this meqans anything significant at this point ..

but still,, fingerrs crossed :pray:

Tanya-yes you make sense part of me would love to get pg natrually and avoid ivf and the other part want's to avoid the worry of if the baby would be effected so i guess i wont be disapointed if i'm not pregnant this month.

maddison -YES! I have the same thing! I go 29 then 32 then 29 then 32. Ovulation harder to pick up on a 29 cycle though.

Snugglybean my ovulation alternates too. on the 28 day cycles its around day 12-15 and on the longer cycles its day 20-21. But i always have a 14 day luteal phase.

I think I always have a 12 day luteal phase, but on the "off" cycle FF sometimes doesn't pick it up, even though I know when it is.

Afternoon all,

Kyra-OMG I'm with you I bought a 3 pack of First Response today and will now have to try holding off not to use them all up before wed. I've never had a BFP before dpo14 and used up all my early tests that I got off the net on last months cycle. :crossfingers: for both of us for the next few days.
Yes Psychiatrists can prescribe drugs but Psychologists can't. I love my job and have been doing it long enough now that I can separate my life from my client's and very rarely take my work home( obviously there's the odd case that sticks with you a bit). I love working with kids but I enjoy the mix of seeing adults too. Couples are just frustrating and I want to bang their heads together most of the time :lol:

Elise & Maddison- my cycle varies between 31 and 45 days depending on whether I O or not. I've heard that generally we alternate which ovary we o from so that might explain the different cycle lengths on alternate months, maybe one ovary is just more responsive than the other, just a theory! Might be worth seeing a FS even if its only for one visit if you have queries about these things.

TinaR- FF seems to be very confusing for lots of people and seems to change its mind alot about when people o'ed.

afm- I'm so happy its friday, I've been exhausted this week and just hanging for the weekend to get here. Confirming clients has helped heaps and most have now shown up :D. Trying hard not to obsess about possible pg symptoms, not many to speak of anyway. Will try to hold off testing until monday at least that'll be dpo13 but it would be a really fantastic start to the week.

Have a great weekend girls, I'll try y to pop in at some point.

Im promising myself I'll save at least one if not all of them till tuesday..

I was thinking a gud excuse will b that DH is home with me till then so if i can hold out I can do one alone and surprise him with my gift idea if it comes back BFP

:pray::pray::pray::pray::crossfingers:

someday we will all look like this

:family:

Kyra- its so hard to hold off isn't it? I'm a bit disinterested right now though as I feel entirely unpregnant. Apart from being tired I can't say I feel anything. Last 2 times I had intensly sensitive nipples and right now I feel nothing so really not getting my hopes up.:rolleyes:

How do you feel?

Pretty much the same..
I was really tired the other day but thats gone now.. I havent had any AF cramping yet but thats prolly cuz im a few days off yet.. Other than that completely nothing. Just the usuall af symptoms like sore boobs and lower back thats all.. so im with you there nothing significant to report..

Still hopeing tho.. I mean last time I was preg I had no signs at all other than fatigue and i was already 5 weeks. So who knows eh? Dont give up hope yet, its not over till the red aunty shows :)

Till wednesday Ill have my fingers crossed for both of us ;)

:bluedust::pink-babydust::fertilise: to those about to test - those BDing and to all of us!

:dunno: whats going on with me, I know I am def in the :2ww: but I am all over the place as to whether I think I am utd or not. One minute I am certain I am, the next I am berating myself to not get my hopes up etc. Still, we have to have hope right?

Ferrals: for your peace of mind I hope RB arrives but if not and you are blessed with another bundle I am sure your precious Abbi has picked the perfect brother/sister for her and sent them to you

Kyra and Sunbeam: although you both seem doubtful I have my fingers crossed that this is your month (and mine!)

Maddison: Sorry, can't help you, I never chart so don't know what my body is doing one minute to next :)

Coco: there are certainly some great signs out there for you!! Lets hope to see your BFP in here soon

hi to Snugglybean, Tanya, Sparkles, Cherished, Sunny (r u still lurking?), JoshsMum (you lurking to?), Milly and any other ladies I have missed...hope you are having a great weekend!

AFM: I worked out I would be 14 weeks when I go on holidays which would be perfect so have my fingers, toes and eyes crossed for this month. I'm guessing I will go through at least 10 tests because I'll start a week before RB due just coz I can't help myself :rofl:
DB laughed when I started calling him my baby batter factory...its been great that he has really come around, considering he swore he would never have kids!
Think it's to early to test now lol.
I'm at Warwick today and unless you are outside it is damn cold :(

Hi everyone, just dropping in to say hello and hope you're all doing well..
Me trying not to think about my DPO etc...I would like a drink tonight but not sure whether to or not..

Catch up in a few days!!
xx

Coco

hi im new to this forum i had a early miscarriage in dec last year should have been 12 weeks but baby was only 8 weeks with no heart beat. had no dnc. didnt get a period until april this year was told i had very high prolactin levels and they have just come good in last month now my periods are very irregular two were 38 days last one was 48 days. dont even no if im even ovulating. finding it all very frustrating and hard just wondering if anyone else out there has been through this after a miscarriage? baby dust to alll xxxx

Hi all!!!

Sounds like everyone is doing well right now, which is fabulous!!!


Just a quick drop in to say....Have that drink Coco, enjoy it because it may just be the last for 9 months!!!
And goodluck Tina.......my eyes are crossed for you! BTW are you also a Perth girl? I live in the northern suburbs, about 1/2 hr from Warwick!!!

Hi Ladies !

How are you all ?

We had a really busy day yesterday. My DS#1 plays on a mixed Netball team on Saturdays. They had their Grand Final yesterday. Unfortunately they lost by 1 point. It was a brilliant game - a real nail biter ! Considering quite a few of the girls on the other team are like giants, our team did a fabulous job. Seems so unfair that these kids can be so huge - its an 11 and unders team. Only 3 of the kids on our team are of age - the rest are 9 or 10. My DS is 9 and we are vertically challenged !
Then we stayed and watched the 15's play their Grand Final - they won - great game too ! So proud of them all !

I am testing tomorrow morning (Monday) ! Eeeeekk ! I have some symptoms - i am trying not to get too excited......slight nausea, insomnia, headache, slightly bloated, occasionally crampy, burping and have just discovered the sides of my (oYo) are tender to touch - all this since Tuesday at 6dpo....will let you know how i go !

BBL

xoxox

Morning all

Chickybabe-i to had a nailbiting game yesterday with my son's soccer he is in the u 12's and they were playing the team that is comming 1st in the comp as we are comming 7th we diddn't hold out much hope they have slaughtered us 5 nil before anyway we scored the 1st goal and it ended up a draw 2 all the parent's were screaming and yelling it was an awesome game if they win the next game they are in the semi's.

Sunny- good to hear from you.

Hello to everyone hope your having a good weekend.

AFM-I swear i have been expecting a line to appear i have sore boob's more than usual and could not stand the smell of mince cooking yesterday but it concern's me a little as when i was pregnant with abbi the line was extremely faint on the day af due and her hormone's were real low because of the SLO that was the first sign of her problem all my other pregnancie's the line was real dark 4 day's before i was due i have woken up with a headache today which i get the day before af so we will see.
Tomorrow we go to sydney for all our ivf appt's and tue we go back for FS and DH work up i hope they can tell me a more accurate time frame as when we can start.

Sadly last night after dinner I started getting really bad back pains and sure enough, when I went and checked, I had begun to bleed. This morning it's turned into a very heavy flow and I don't think there is any way that I could still be pregnant. This baby just wasn't meant to be. Last night I just felt so angry but this morning I can't stop crying.

Sammy: :comfort: my heart just broke when I read your post, I can't help but to still hope for you even though you seem quite sure of the outcome. There really are no words I can think of to say to bring you any comfort except to say we are always here for you and are more than happy to listen to you if you feel the need to vent.

Sammy :comfort: Is there a doctor you can go to today to get your HCG tested? I am so sorry and know how frightened you must be... Take care of yourself and your dh xo

My doctor has organised for me to have a blood test first thing Monday morning and she will try and get it pushed through so I get the results on Tuesday but I already know.

Hi everyone,

Havent been on for a little while, you guys are such chatterboxes! Would love to do persies for everyone but can only see some below so everyone else, I am thinking of you too.

SammyP - I am so sorry to hear what is happening...so wish I could make it all better and your pain go away. I hope you are surrounded with caring people to look after you. I just wanted to let you know you dont deserve this :comfort:

Cherished - how is everything with you? How is the fitness stuff going. I am envious of you...I have put on so much weight being emotional, I used to be so fit - going to the gym all the time, then I started trying for a bub and everyone kept saying you shouldnt diet when you are trying and also you should be wary not to exercise too much (I was going to classes every day) and I am the type of all or nothing. Got to a stage where enough is enough though! Going to see a dietician on Tuesday so hopefully she can give me some advise on what is right! She also specialised in fertility.

Ferrels - seems as you are stuck in the world of unknown, whatever happens I hope you are happy with the outcome - If AF comes or you are straight to IVF! I have a friend who is currently doing IVF with the genetic testing...I was talking to her about the changes that come through in Jan - re being more expensive, and she said the new medicare changes were not as bad for qld couples, I dont know the ins and outs of the new rules though. Where do you live?

Chickybabe73 - symptoms sound promising - good luck with testing tomorrow! :goodluck:

Tina - how is everything with you? Have you worked out where you are at in your cycle? Fingers crossed this is your cycle...with all that BD you should be UTD! :D

Sunny - glad everything is progressing nicely with you...enjoy this special time

Kyrawolfe - any more signs? Good luck with testing on Wednesday!

Coco - hope your TTW isnt too hard - I know you are not thinking of it but what DPO are you? I want to know who will be a testing buddy with me!

Sunbeam - testing time....yay! Fingers crossed for a positive result for you!

Sugglybean - how is everything with you missy? How are your cycles going?

Hi again to everyone else

AFM - I am finally in the TWW, 3DPO today...yay! Finally ovulated on day 19...sick of cycles longer than 28 days..I know there are people who have longer cycles but it sucks! I used to have 28/29 day cycles...but now it is anywhere from 28 to 35...makes it hard to know when you will o and the fertile days seems to like 2 weeks...it is hard to keep DP up with the baby making that long - he gets tired! haha. Trying not to think about it now!Only 10 more days to testing! yay

SuperstarMumsy: I'll be your testing buddy! we appear to be only a few days apart with testing...although knowing me I will be testing from tomorrow onwards lol

SAMMY - :comfort:

I am so sorry - i really hope the BT comes back saying otherwise

You are in my thoughts

:hug:

xxooxxoo

Sammy- I am sooooooo sorry i was so excited for you and you gave me hope that i still had plenty of time to have a healthy bub it is unfair that good loving people who want healthy babie's have so much trouble :hug::comfort:

Well i spoke to soon my headache was right on que AF has turned up and i'm actually relieved so i guess i want the ivf way to be sure.

Superstar-i will be talking to the ivf account's people tomorrow so i will find out if the government passed the new medicare rebate cut's i know they were supose to rule on it last week but i havn't heard anything yet i'm praying it diddn't get passed so it give's me an extra month or two incase the first attempt doesn't work.

Good luck with everyone testing and in the TWW.

Sammy - You are in my thoughts. Dont give up hope yet. There are lots of stories on here about early bleeding and going on to have a healthy bub. I pray you get positive results from your blood test tomorrow. :comfort:

All the best Sammy, I understand the fear and heartbreak you are experiencing. I send lots of love to you and dh. :pray: for a good bt result.

Sammy - I am so sorry.
I am thinking of you, and am so hoping that it still is all OK for you.

Sammy honey my heart goes out to you :comfort: hopefully the blood tests will come back with a good result for you. Dont give up hope just yet sweety and let us know how you go :hug:
Hope everyone else has had a good weekend, mine was massive had a huge night last night. Seens AF turned up i knew i was definately not pg so i thought id make the most of it while i still could and gosh im paying for it today :sick:
Have just cooked up a big batch of chicken & vegie soup and am now ready for bed i think.
Have a good week and talk soon

Evening everyone!

Sammy :hug: hoping that things smooth out for you sweety. You're in my thoughts xxx

Ferrals: um..yay? lol I guess it is better that you can go with the ivf option if it is going to be safer for you?

Elli: Hahahahahaahah *points* You have a hangover bahahhaa. That's good, sticking the proverbil middle finger to the TTC game when AF turns up :) Hope you feel better!!

AFM: I am roughly 4-5DPO..i think.. I am not sure exactly..pretty sure I ovulated tue/wed..FF told me wed when I put temps in...although they're bogus temps after thursday..I just wanted to see where the cross hairs would come up. Either way the intercourse timing thingy says "high" so..

Im hoping and praying that the operation did its job and I can now just fall pregnant. We had our god daughters christening today and I was soo teary!! I have a pic below cos I really want to share with you :D Her name is Lily Rita Russell and she met me for the first time on friday night and she loves me! :confetti: We bonded over mashed pumpkin & Avocado :) She is 6.5months old.

Hope you have a good week everyone!

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Ferrals: There is still plenty of hope for you. I produced a lovely, healthy baby girl at the age of 41. I'm just afraid that an extra couple of years have really made a difference and I may not have what it takes any longer.

Good Morning Ladies !

Well it was test day for me today -

So i got up and did my POAS and the result is in................



BFP !!!! for me- Hooray !!

Feeling a bit :o

Gives me an EDD of April 29th 2010


Will definitely be lurking to see how you are all going.

I want to say thankyou so much to all of you for your support....when you go through what we have all been through it is so nice to have a safe place to fall. Somewhere to go that people understand !

I am not going to do an announcement for a few weeks yet - feeling apprehensive....

I really hope that i see lots and lots of BFP's coming out of this thread very soon and i want to wish you all the very best of luck - you all truely deserve it !

Thankyou so much for 'looking after me'

Ladies - YOU ROCK !!!!

Take care :bluedust:

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Chickybabe - WOOOO HOOOO on the BFP. Huge Congratulations!!!! :leap: