Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss June 2007

Hi girls

Lee & Kiwigirl, good luck testing! Last preg i tested with an ultra-sensitive test and 12 dpo and got bfn, before a bfp a couple of days later, so don't give up hope yet.

Satya, sorry about AF arriving, good luck for this cycle. i always used to look at aAF as possibly day 1, week 1 of a new pregnancy - something to keep my mind off the witch!

Pash, i understand exactly where you're coming from - everything you say about telling people etc i feel too. i have told one friend (she has also been through a m/c, and then two subsequent pregnancies - yay!) so knows exactly how i feel. it helps heaps to have it out there a bit. it's hard not to tell family thoguh, but i know they'd only worry about us at this early stage.

i haven't really had any symptoms other than exhaustion, that's it. i was worried earlier about lack of symptoms but many, many women get through pg without any at all. last time i didn't really get sore bbs until about week 7 i think, and no m/s until week 8 (and then, ironically, it got really bad, to the point where i was still throwing up waiting for my d&c). at the moment i'm telling myself that everything is good unless i get bleeding and cramping together.

hope you have fun in paris, sounds like the perfect trip. good luck with the nhs too. i have a few friends over there who have had pre-natal care through the NHS, so let me know if you want me to get recommendations etc from them. finally, see you over in PAML - you won't be jinxing yourself at all!

Claireabel and Pash, I can totally understand how you are feeling. DP and I are trying not to get too excited as we know all too well how it could go but you need to keep positive. Maybe look at it this way: you have already experienced the lows of m/c, you deserve to experience the highs of a health pg.... I should be taking my own advice!
I am not ready to full on join the paml thread just yet either, but the girls in there are just as great and understanding as the girls in here.
As far as symptoms goes, I dont have a hell of a lot either but I am just trying to keep positive and see how we go.
Maybe join a belly buddy thread for your date range (I am guessing you two are Feb 1-15)
:stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl: to you both.

Bun, how are you holding up? I can very well understand the anxiety. Everything with my body at the moment I am analysing to the extreme. Maybe do what Bekz suggested and lie down each day and visualise a healthy baby growing inside. You certainly deserve only positive news from here on in.

Salt: How are you going? I think about you a lot and hope this next cycle is yours.
Satya: Same thing. Next cycle I hope the best for you.
Sharon: I understand your thoughts on your neighbour. My BIL and his wife announced their pregnancy after our m/c and I really wasnt too happy because I wanted it to be me. I am happy for them now though.

To those in TTWW :bluedust: for you and the rest positive vibes.

You all deserve the happiness and it will come :)

Happy queens birthday to all.

Hi girls,

Shoegal - I think it was you who asked - I am on clomid for a 'stronger O' since I O on my own, and to make me O earlier (from CD20-26 down to CD17 this cycle). It was my first cycle taking it, and it also was prescribed as I know I have had an 11 day LP at least twice, and that is a bit on the short side. I hope your AF comes soon!

jen - I am still pretty stressed and anxious. It's like I am waiting for it to end. I am knicker-checking constantly (which is silly, since neither of my losses started with bleeding - I found out about the first at a scan and the second through BTs, so bleeding has never been the first sign anyway. My body seems to like to hold onto them even though they have died - silly body!) How are you going?

Claire - it is usual to not have any symptoms yet, but I know that it makes you worry! I have really sore bbs, my face has exploded (I feel like a teenager), I am peeing more and feeling a little sick and tired. My trouble is that even after my losses, I have still had symptoms for days afterwards, so it means nothing to me!

nikilove - thanks and I too hope you get a BFP this month!!

pash - I'm sure it's ok to hang out here for a while. I am not planning on leaving quite yet. That's a good idea to take yourselves on a holiday to Paris - it's good to have distractions!

satya - sorry AF arrived, the witch!! When is your GYN appointment?

Lee - it could definitely be too early for a BFP, so don't lose hope!

kiwigirl - 8DPO is definitely too early, so wait and see in a few days!!

Zennie - welcome to the group, and sorry to hear about your loss. The girls have given you some great advice. It is a really hard time getting through a m/c, and it sounds like you have really had a rough trot. It does get easier, even though you probably feel like it never will, and we are always here for you if you need someone to talk to. :hug:

Salt - how are you?

I am still plodding along, really worried that something will go wrong. I am paying attention to every single cramp or twinge in my body and constantly knicker checking. I am still not sure whether to agree to the monitoring the clinic wants me to have, or if I should just go with the flow and hope for the best. I really don't know what's best and even thinking about it is making me stressed. I just can't stand the wait for phone calls every week, and it won't make any difference to actual outcome, will just reassure me if all is ok, and give me advance warning if I am going to lose it again. I'm not sure if there is any point in that, and DH is being totally useless and says to do whatever I want. I am still not even slightly excited or happy, and I really wish I could feel that excitement I should be feeling. I haven't booked an OB yet, I will wait a while before I do that, and I keep getting depressed whenever I let my mind take over and flood me with bad thoughts about it all ending again, and then I think of the hospital experience with my first m/c, and that makes me completely terrified.

Hi to anyone I have missed.

Shoegal: hope your AF comes quickly so you can start the TTC journey again quickly. Doesn't this whole process seem to be endless waiting periods until the next milestone? I tell myself I need to relax more about it and try and enjoy the process... but it doesn't seem to help much.

Lee: I've read lots of women have only got BFP at 16DPO or even later so I guess until AF arrives there's always a good chance! Are you charting on FF? Good luck with the next test!!

Satya: Sorry to hear AF arrived... let us know how it goes on Wednesday with the planning? Although, my friend thought AF had arrived but in hindsight it was implantation bleeding and tested a couple of weeks later as she was convinced she was PG...and she was!

Sharon19270: I totally hear you on the comments about your neighbour.. I have had a couple of fleeting moments of awful thoughts like that too but I know if they came true I wouldn't feel happy or satisfied or anything. Sometimes I feel like I didn't catch the egg this month either since I didn't have any EWCM and usually I have a lot...or that we didn't BD enough (even though rationally I know 1 sperm is all that's needed) but I'm hopeless with being patient. I even tested again today. I don't feel upset getting a BFN or disappointed, just gets that testing urge out of my system temporarily!!!

pash: The whole when to tell people dilemma is a big one eh? It's a big one for us - I mean we were so excited and not worrying about m/c we told our family on the day I got a BFP!!!!! It was my sister's wedding and after the reception dinner was over and my family was all together seemed a perfect time to tell people... I wasn't afraid of things going wrong. In hindsight, I'm glad I told people because they were there for me when things got really bad and I almost died.. I don't regret telling people early the first time. This time, I feel differently about it. I'd want to tell my Mum early but not my MIL (she would worry and she hurt me a lot with her comments and behavior when I had the m/c) which DH thinks isn't right/fair. He's keen to tell people straight away again but I feel like I'm in a totally different place and keeping quiet about it is to protect me, my emotional state etc, for me to get used to the idea again. Does that make sense? For some people, telling before 12 weeks is almost taboo.

I'm going to try and make myself not test again tomorrow and try and hold out until Thursday. I don't think I'll be too depressed if I get my AF this cycle, but it would be my first real BFN since TTC so maybe I will be down about it a little bit.

Hi to anyone I missed :) Hope the weather isn't too insane where you are!!!!!

Hello everyone!
sorry I didn't respond earlier after I had done the Hpt and got a faint positive. It all went pair shaped so I was a bit down and didn't know what to say. I got af so not sure what happened really? I had three positives (faint but visable) on Lullaby 10ml so I guess it was really early and at that stage it really can go either way. I felt bad as I told my husband that I was pregnant and then got af! So back to TTC and after reading all the BFP's this month WOW! Cograts bun! I am so excited for you! I know it is hard not to stress but you are so blessed right now and have a precious baby growing inside you!

Sharon: Have you had the app. at the ob or was it a fs yet? Just wondering how it all went for you?

Kiwigirl: Try and hold out on testing if you can cause after what I have just been through I will definatley be waiting!

So hopefully this will be another month of lost of BFP's fingers crossed for everyone trying!

Bun everything will be alright relax and try not to be stressed out go with the flow God will do the rest.To everyone God knows our desires have faith and patience it will happen sending lot of :bluedust:and :stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl: to everyone that is :ttc:.
Jan 3,2007 twenty weeks.
:angel2: baby boy that I will never forget and love so much.

Sorry I only pop in once in a blue moon but I really battle to load this web site as my internet plays up all the time.

Congrats for all the new BFPs this is just great news, lets hope for a stick, non-eventful 7-9 months for everyone!

Sorry for all those who have got BFN's, as a friend says look at it as being one step closer to that much desired BFP!! Good luck for the next cycle.

All those testing - GOOD LUCK - hope the bding leads to BFP's!

I found out myself last Sunday that I am pregnant myself, which is great news. But now the new journey begins! So far I am just so exciting and enjoying it, although the nausea is less than pleasant! But I will not complain about any symptom that this babe throws at me.

Good lukc to everyone, and I'll try and log on a little more often - internet allowing!

Love, hugs and babydust to you all.
Sarah

Kiwigirl - I have never charted with FF, as only been ttc the last 2 cycles. My full term baby died in early March :cry:

I have not done another HPT - as don't want to see the bfn! I'm really not having any symptoms - I did have sore bbs last week, but they seem to have subsided. A few little niggles in the uterine area, but nothing to speak of. I'm just waiting for AF to show up, but don't have the usual pre-menstrual symptoms I would normally. Waiting is a pain, not sure when I should test again!!

I think I'll try to hold of till 16dpo - 2 days time. If it's a bfn then, I think I can safely assume AF is just much later than usual.

How are you going??? Hanging in there??

Love to all.

Lee xoxo

Hi everyone,

First of all, I missed saying congratulations to pash and Claire in my last post because I did it really quickly and didn't get time to read back through the last thread. So congratulations ladies!!

Sarah - congratulations and all the best to you too!

Lee - I know what you mean about not wanting to see a BFN. I'm planning on holding out this month, and I managed to last month as well :) It's just too disappointing when it is neg early on and you then just have to wait for AF to arrive.

cherie26 - what a bummer :( Good luck for this month though

kiwigirl - good luck for testing on Thursday!

Bun - I don't really know what to say to you because I know that anything I say won't make you worry any less! But hang in there and try not to stress too much - everything WILL be OK!! It has to be!

pash - I wouldn't worry too much about not having sore boobies - I never had them at all when I was pregnant with Megan. Until the MS appeared at 6 and a half weeks, the only symptom I had was needing to pee all the time and of course no AF!

Trying to be Positive - I started taking Vitex this cycle, and also went to see a homeopath who gave me a medicine that has Vitex and a whole lot of other things in it. Anyway, I normally O on day 14 of a 24 day cycle, and this month I Oed on day 10 according to FF (but personally I think it happened on day 11). And after getting neg results on my OPKs for the last 3 months, I finally got a positive this month. So I'm pretty convinced its making a difference.

satya - I'm so sorry AF arrived :( I hope that the gyno can give you some answers and that you can get a plan in place really soon.

Zennie - welcome and I'm so sorry to read your story :( I found this place really helpful, especially in the first month, the ladies here are really supportive. I also went to see a gyno soon after, and I found that really helped me because he gave me some reassurance that it wouldn't happen again. Of course he can't guarantee it, but I found the reassurance helped me personally anyway. All the best and I hope you start to feel better about everything soon.

Well I'm 7DPO today (although FF thinks I Oed a day earlier than I think I did), so right in the middle of the TWW. I'm planning on hanging out to test for at least another week yet, so a bit more waiting to be done still - though at least it seems to be going a bit faster this month than it has the last few! We were affected by the wild storms here in Newcastle over the weekend, so that kinda took my mind off it the last few days!

We went in to see the coal ship that is parked on our favourite walking beach this morning - OMG! I hope they get it off without trashing our coastline :(

We've got a bit of damage to our roof where a tree branch landed on it and no side gate after it got blown off its hinges, and Megan and I had a wild trip home from the centre of Newcastle on Friday afternoon, but we got off pretty lightly because we live up fairly high. The flooding around here on the roads on Friday just had to be seen to be believed! It was just horrible reading about the people that got swept away in their cars, especially the family on the Central Coast. One of the kiddies was the same age as Megan :(

Hi Ladies,

Just dropping in to say hi - I am currently 12DPO and got a -ve yesterday. I am completely unable to wait to test and really ought to know better! Will be back tomorrow for personals. Sticky vibes to all the new BFP's...

Hi Ladies,

I think I have good news to report ladies. I tested on 10 dpo (negative), then 12 dpo (still negative). I took my kids shopping and out for lunch today. By the time I got home at 4pm, I was busting for a wee, so decided to test again. I walked away and returned five minutes later, to discover a faint, but definately clear BFP. I'm shocked, as I really wasn't expecting it this month.

AF is a day or two late. The other symptoms I have had have only been a bit of a bleeding nose, and have felt hot/flushed in my face at night. I have had no AF symptoms, so was getting a bit suspicious by that. BBs are not sore, but were a bit tender a week ago, and I feel a little bit tired. So for those of you on the 2WW, I'm living proof that you can test too early and get those BFNs. I was going to hang out to 16dpo before I tested again. The only reason I didn't was because when I was in Myer with my kids, we walked past the baby clothes - and this really cute bright red singlet jumped out at me (I have a fettish for anything red!!) - it was a bit out of character for me to buy it - but I thought what the hell, and to me it represented hope for the future and to "think positively". Then got home and - whammo BFP!!

I will re-test in the morning, as that line will need to get really dark before I fully believe it. And I'm only 4 weeks, so it's so very very early to know. I pray all will go ok with this little one - not only sticking now, but sticking around after he/she is born (my full term little man died only 18 hours old of pneumonia).

I'm feeling very emotional over my little man - mixed emotions. I know it's pretty early to be preggers again, but I'm not getting any younger, nor is my partner, and we don't want to leave it too long.

Thinking of you all - and have faith that it will happen for you. When it happens, it just happens, and will creep up on you. I pray for you all.

Love Lee xoxo

Wow, CONGRATS Lee & Sarah!!! That's really fab news and i'm pleased for you both. i can't imagine going through what you have both been through, and my thoughts are with you over the next nine months or so.

Cherie, sorry about your news, that must have been hard. Are you okay?

Hope the rest of you girls are doing well - fingers crossed for everyone in the 2ww!

Lee – What wonderful news! I’m so excited for you.:dance: I’m 100% positive that this pregnancy will go perfectly for you.

Shellbell – 12DPO is still really early, I’m sure your BFP is just around the corner! I totally understand the irresistible urge to test though. HPT’s must be big business at the rate we go through them!

Susannah – So glad to hear that you and your family are ok. All my DH’s family and most of our friends live in the Hunter region, so we have been kept well informed on all the goings on. The news of that family near the Reptile Park was especially sad, makes you want to hug all your loved ones close.

Lee – Good luck with the next test. Why is it that time seems to slow down during the TTW? Just not fair.

Sarah – Congrats on the BFP!! :dance:That is wonderful news. Hope that the m/s is not too severe!

Cherie – So sorry that things went pear-shaped. Hope this cycle is the one for you.

Kiwigirl – Good luck with the next test. I know what you mean about the whole telling before 12 weeks thing. I was absolutely bursting with the news the last time (ohh… to have that innocence back again). But this time (if it happens for me :cry:) I’m tempted to wait until at least 16 weeks to tell everyone.

Bun – hope you are doing ok. Such a tough choice about the monitoring, maybe just let things sink in a little bit first and then see how you feel about it.

Zennie – So sorry that you have to be here. Can’t believe that a workplace could treat you with so little compassion after everything you have been through. Sounds like you might have made the right decision in leaving if they could treat someone like that. Hope things start getting a little easier for you soon.

Sharon – Hope you are doing ok. Maybe it is a good thing that you are not obsessing too much this cycle. For some reason it seems to be when loads of people get their BFP’s. When are you up for testing this cycle?

Trying to be positive – Oh honey! So sorry that you are having such a long crappy cycle. I totally empathise with you. My last cycle was 49 days and nearly sent me over the edge. My GP said that it just happens sometimes. (Not much help I know…). Glad you got a BD in anyhow, I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you. When are you due to test?

Satya – So sorry that nasty AF arrived. Best of luck with the appointment tomorrow. Having a plan always makes me feel better! Hope it works for you.

Claire – how are you feeling now? Hope things are going well.
Pash – Best of luck, hope things are going well for you! Paris sounds like an excellent plan…

Shoegal – How are you going? How frustrating is it to have to take the cycle off. I was told to wait 2 cycles, and it nearly killed me! No, I’m not seeing a FS yet. My GP seems to think there is not a problem yet because I have only had one m/c (one too many if you ask me), and counting the months we had to take off, she said it is not a full year of TTC yet. Hmmmm.

Kerry – How are you going honey? Are you trying this cycle? (Sorry if you have already said, have kind of been out of the loop for a while.)

Sandielreese – So sorry that you have to join us here. Looks like we might be cycle buddies? I was wondering if anyone else was at the same stage as me. I (unfortunately) have quite a long cycle though, so not quite sure when I will O. Best of luck for this cycle, hope you catch the eggie.

Salt – How are you going sweetie? Hope you are doing ok.

Not much to report from me. Starting to feel a little more positive about this cycle. Thinking I might be about to O, and have been coaxing DH to do some serious BD’ing. So wish me luck and keep me in your prayers, we could really use them.

Love

Leyla, my GP said that if we weren't preggers after 6 months of TTC then she would have referred us to an FS. She says 12 months is too long in her opinion. Turns out we are seeing an FS anyway about something unrelated but isn't it amazing the different things we are all told. I know it's *best* to wait a cycle TTC for my mental and physical state but I feel more desperate for my AF to return every day know that others have been told that they can TTC as soon as bleeding stops after a natural miscarriage or D&C. :wall: :wall:

Hey everyone else, will be back on the weekend for personals, sorry, just so flat out with work ATM.

Just dropping in to say :happyforyou: Bun & Lee, and Pash & Claireabel.

Fantastic news!

Hi everyone

Lee, Bun & Pash, Claireabel- Congratulations, all the very best for a H&H 8 more months!!!

Shellbell - Maybe it is just too early, wait another couple of days, i know, its torture!

Shoegal - I just said that i had an appointment with a specialist and needed a referral letter. You are paying the Gp for a service, its not up to a gp to decide when you can see a specialist...the waiting for AF is torture...i know, i hope she is here soon.

Satya - So sorry af arrived, give this cycle your best shot its all you can do xx

Leyla - Happy B'Ding, hope you catch the egg...

Kiwigirl - Good luck for thursday, all fingers crossed for you.

Cherie26 - Pee sticks are evil, if they didnt exist it would be a whole lot easier i think...either pos beta or af i say...in saying that i test from 12dpo :D

Sorry if i missed anyone else, thinking of you all...

Well we had the insem on Sunday and we still only had the one follicle, but hopefully it will be a FSH super charged follie!!! so its only 2 days post IUI, so in about 10 days we'll test at home to see if there is a faint line... fingers crossed. The timing feels good, kim said the insem was painless and our dr said that she had really fertile mucus etc and the os was open a little bit so i think everything is in with our best shot...Officially in the TWW again!!:pray:

Hi everyone,

First of all apolgies to anyone I miss as it's been really busy in here since I was last on.

Trying - Do give vitex a go. I've been taking it since February & I got a BFP in March. Obviously it didn't stick or I wouldn't be in this thread, but I think it had something to do with me conceiving that cycle. I was taking it for PMS as my partner had complained about me getting psycho in the lead up to AF - I bet he wishes he could take his words back now as I get far worse now we are actively TTC and I now think I'm worse.
Sharon - Don't feel bad about the neighbour. I would have felt exactly the same way as you did with such an announcement. Nothing you said or thought could have affected the outcome of her pregnancy.
Pash - Don't worry about the lack of symptoms. Some women don't get any at all.
Bun - I think you should go along with the monitoring. As much as it will be stressful and inconvenient at times, at least it will keep your mind at rest that you are doing everything possible to sustain this pregnancy. If you don't do it and something goes wrong you will be here beating yourself up saying you should have gone along with it.
Kiwigirl- As much as I'd like to think of it as an implant bleed I don't think it's likely. Yes it was a couple of days earlier than AF was expected and it was light & short (two days followed by 1 day so far of spotting) but my temp went down a couple of days before it came and has stayed down so I don't think it's possible. Good luck holding off testing.
Lee - congrats on the :bfp:. Sending you heaps of :stickyvibesgirl:
Cherie26 - Sorry things didn't turn out well. It sounds like you may have had a chemical pregnancy.
Congratulations to AngelJemma.
Megsmum I'm glad you didn't suffer too much damage in the storm. It really was awful hearing about those swept away in their cars. I was so hopeful that they would find that family washed up somewhere, but it did not turn out that way.
Twomums - good luck ith the TWW.
:)
Well my AF came and went without any drama. Two days of spotting, two light days then a day of spotting. I'm still getting up throughout the night to wee, must be the cold weather. I'm CD4 now.

The weekend was not an easy one. I went to a family gathering and I had myself convinced that my SIL was going to announce she was pg. Of course this didn't happen, but I had myself so worked up about it... she had arranged for us all to meet up and rumour is she is TTC so I just jumpted to conclusions. Really silly I know. We also went to a party & there was a pregnant couple there. I knew they'd be there and I knew they were pregnant. I basically just said hello and kept away from them all night. I am just so envious of them I had to stay away as I didn't think I'd handle it well if they talked about the pg. I felt like if I talked to them I might be negative and say something like "its early days yet, anything could go wrong" so I just avoided them. Being a same sex couple they are likely to have already had some challenges in getting where they are now so I just didn't want my negativity to invade their space, if that makes any sense.

I'm off to the gyno this morning and I'm hoping that by taking my BT results and my scan images with me it might speed up the process. I know this is only wishful thinking as I know doctors all like to do things their way.

Hi Satya - just wanted to wish you a successful appointment today! I really truly hope you get a good plan in place and you WILL succeed this cycle OK.... you will........ you will.........! Looking forward to you reporting in later.

Hello to everyone else. Sorry for lack of personals, but doing a million and one things this morning. I re-tested when I woke up today - and same again - faint positive, no darker that yesterday afternoon. Today, I'm 15dpo, so still early by my books. Shall re test in a couple of days. Last 2 nights, I've had trouble staying asleep.

Hugs to all.

Lee xoxoxo