Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss June 2007

Kerry - I got your email! I'm just about to send one back off to you, so we can meet up on the weekend. Good luck with the +ve OPK, I have a feeling we are going to be belly buddies again real soon.

*sending positive thoughts out to everyone*

Hi everyone,

We had a great (but freezing) weekend at the beach. We went on the ferry and saw two hump back whales & 3 dolphins - it was a very unexpected and fantastic experience. We also had lots of time for just the two of us before DstepD arrives again this weekend.

Las - I hope the rest of your TWW goes really quickly.

Bun - I read in a mag the other day that having 1/2 an apple before you get out of bed, followed by a light breaky and then the other half of the apple has helped several generations of one family through morning sickness. It sounds a bit weird, but I reckon it would be worth giving it a try. Your level seems pretty high.... maybe twins on the way..... Clomid does increase the odds of course, and they say m/s is always worse with a multiple...... i so hope me suggesting this does not freak you out.

KBowman - you can post here whenever you like. The other thread you are on was only created recently. Before it was, those ladies were all posting here and you are all welcome.

Sharon - Sorry AF arrived. Glad your appointment went well.

Miss belinda - have you done a HPT since your AF arrived? The only reason I'm asking is that when I had my firt m/c a decade ago I bled for a couple of weeks from CD28 but I was actually pregnant. I'm particularly saying this as you are saying you are feeling really tired as well and have had flu like symptoms, both can be pg symptoms. Just a thought.

Claire - we will all be as paranoid as you when we are lucky enough to be pg again so feel free to post away.

Timnik - clomid can really mess with your moods so it probably is it that's getting you down. I became a shrew when I was on it, I'm actually quite thankful my specialist didn't suggest it for me this time around as I hated being on it. Good luck with the termites.

Megsmum - good luck with the CD21 test.

:)

CD9 already for me. Has anyone noticed how quick the first two weeks of the cycle go and then how slow the last two seem to go?

Hi everyone, unfortunately I too will be joining this thread soon'ish. DH & I aren't 100% sure when we're going to start again. I need to get my rubella booster this week, then we defintely can't fall within a month after getting that. I'm just sooooooooo cluck at the moment. As soon as I see a newborn, I HAVE to hold them and don't want to let go! And I missing being pregnant big time!! AF is due to rear her ugly head this week for the first time since my m/c. Wish me luck it arrives.

Princess Confused - so sorry to see you in here as well, are you going to start trying again straight away?

:bluedust: to you all

Salt - yes, I have finally tentatively got myself a pg ticker. I just hope I get to keep it til the end this time! Yay on Oing so early - that's great! I think your temps are fine - it's staying above the CL and that's all that matters. I really hope you will be joining us pg girls too! Your timing was great this cycle, so the chances are looking good. I may ph the OB today but am still not sure if I have the strength to do it. DH said he will ph and cancel if we end up needing to, so maybe I will just do it today.

Satya - yay on seeing dolphins and whales! How exciting! I only had one follicle with the clomid, so my chances of twins are the same as anyone elses, but whatever happens is fine with us! I would be very surprised if it was twins, though. I am still getting m/s and have decided I won't have another BT this week, as the stress is just too much. I have symptoms now so as long as they keep up, hopefully all is ok and my first scan will be next week, so I think I will just wait til then.

kerry - glad to see you are enjoying yourself while waiting to TTC again. Sounds like it won't be too long now!

Claire - sorry to hear you sounding so anxious about things - it is only natural for us to feel this way. I still have a cry everyday when I convince myself it is going to die like the other times, and the hormones certainly don't help us to keep a level head! What a horrible dream you had! I still remember vividly my last pg scan and the news I was given, so scans terrify me too. I can guarantee at my first scan I will be crying and will refuse to look at the scan - same with DH, so it is not going to be an enjoyable experience.

Sharon - good to hear that your OBGYN doesn't sound too worried about things. I am confused about the egg and sperm lifetime too - I thought the same as you. Confusing.

Hi to everyone I have missed. I hope you are all going well.

Love Bun

Hello all,

And sorry to our newcomers here, I hope your time in this thread is short, very short.

Bun - all is well with you - hooray!! You will be so relieved when you have had your scan and seen that flashing heartbeat - can't wait for you to report in after that!

Salt - fingers crossed for you this cycle!!!!!! Roll on 2WW, urghhh! :pray:

Satya - glad you had a lovely weekend away from it all, amazing how good that is for keeping down the stress levels.

Jodi - hope AF arrives real quick!!

Sharon - good plan to BD over a weekend, I'm sure you'll catch that next eggie :pray:

Kiwigirl - how are you, have you tested again????

Claireabel - hugs to you during early pregnancy, it's an anxious time.

kbowman - thanks - I've not tested again. But I will soon!!

Hello to anyone I missed.

I'm just gone 5 weeks, still sooooo early days. Not having any symptoms other than feeling tired. I'm going to my GP in the morning. He has been so lovely to me and DH after our baby died, and referred me to a good OB for my postnatal checkup. So, I guess he'll do the blood test and I'll know better where I am at. Hope all is well, I feel a little apprehensive about it. Haven't told anyone except you ladies and DH of course.

Will report back in when I have something to update.

Hugs to all,

Lee xoxo

Hi Everyone,

SP - Yay you got your coverline!!! If you are finding temping too stressful then stop it, or keep doing it but don't read into it iykwim. With my last cycle I paid more attention to ewcm rather than temps. If I had have gone by temps then I would not have fallen pg. Fingers crossed for you hon.

Sharon - Glad to see your doc is doing somes tests.

Hi to everyone else

Hi everyone,

Lee - good luck at the GPs, I'm sure everything will be fine :)

Bun - hope you are going well

Jodi and Princess Confused - hi and welcome! I hope you don't have to hang around in here for too long

Salt - Yay for the coverline! I know its hard, but try not to worry too much about the temps going down, you never know tomorrow they could be back up - says the person whose temps are all over the place!! LOL Mine definitely get wilder the more I worry about it, I think I'll only do it for another couple of cycles and then I'm giving it the flick!

satya - that's great you had a good time at the beach, hope you are feeling nice and relaxed now :) I just love seeing whales and dolphins - we often get them off the beaches here

Kerry - thanks for the well wishes, unfortunately they didn't help because AF arrived yesterday :( but thanks so much anyway :)

Sharon - sorry AF arrived, we can be cycle buddies this month - I am on CD2 today as well. That's good that your OB thought everything was OK too, sounds like pretty much what happened when I saw mine - I think they think that because you already have a child/ren that there's unlikely to be anything wrong - I don't know....but I'm definitely planning on going back in a couple more months if I'm still not PG - this is our seventh month trying now and we're not getting any younger in the meantime

las - thanks for that! I hope you have better luck this month than I have had!

Claire - unfortunately the hunger didn't turn out to mean anything :( maybe it was because of the cold wet weather here over the weekend and last week LOL Oh well....hope you are feeling well

Belinda - hope you are feeling better and that AF goes really soon

Well, as I said above, its CD2 for me today. I am just so OVER TTC it is driving me nuts! Poor DH, he had to listen to me having a hissy fit over it all on the weekend :doh:
I'm just really starting to get worried that it is never going to happen for us, or that it won't happen without some assistance. I'm just so peed off with it all at the moment, I just feel like chucking it in. The only thing that makes me keep trying is that I don't want Megan to be an only child, but gee I wish we'd started our family now when we were younger!

Well, if you've got this far thanks for reading my little ranty.

I hope everyone else is doing well and hi to anyone I've missed.

Yes!!! I got the OB I wanted! I have been so scared about calling, and after getting off the phone I just had a little cry to myself because I am so afraid of having to phone back and cancel soon. He was actually all booked up for Feb (not sure how that is possible but I know he is v popular). Anyway, I asked the lady who else she would recommed and told her my history and she ended up saying I sound so nice that she will squeeze me in!! I am sooooo happy. Maybe this is a sign that things will go right this time? She was soooo nice. I really needed that; I am an emotional basket case right now (on top of the near constant nausea).

Sorry guys for still hanging around here. I just feel so comfy here because I know all you guys and you are so lovely and am afraid to get too used to the pg forums in case I have to leave soon. I promise I will make the move and leave you all in peace soon!

megsmum - sorry to hear that you are feeling over it all. I know that feeling well. You will get there, but it sure does test your patience in the meantime!

Lee _ I am sure all will be fine, but I understand feeling apprehensive! Let us know how the GP goes tomorrow.

Hi to everyone else,

Love Bun

Hi girls

Las - not long to go now!!the cramps are a good sign, fingers crossed for some good news for you soon.

Belinda - LOL about the orange timtams! i saw them in woolies on the weekend for the first time, bought them for a friend in the UK who loves timtams, but had started them before i even left the carpark! says a lot about my emotional state on the weekend...

Sharon, sorry about AF but that's good timing for o this month. when we were ttc last cycle i was terrified i was going to o the night state of origin was on and we'd miss the boat!

Kerry - hopefully you'll be in the 2WW soon. the mention of fried eggs sent me straight to the pantry for a snack - yum!

Satya - the whales and dolphins sound amazing. where abouts were you?

Princess confused, sorry about your miscarriage and d&c. you'll find this place is fantastic for maintaining your sanity during this time and when ttc.

Salt - yay for the coverline! i wouldn't worry too much about a temp drop and you're still well above the line. my good friend stopped temping after o when she was ttc after m/c a few years ago. i was always very envious of her willpower but i know i would cave and temp anyway! i really, really hope this is your month. you're got every chance too, perfectly timed! hope the next 11 days goes quickly.

Jodi, welcome! i understand about you being clucky, you're in the right place! i'm so clucky at the moment, and am just lucky i've got friends with babies that i can see and cuddle and play with. i thought you had to wait 3 months after rubella to ttc - but someone please correct me if i'm wrong. there's so much conflicting info out there.

Bun - cute ticker! did you end up calling the ob today? hope everything is going well for you.

Lee - good luck at the gp tomorrow. i'm sorry you're apprehensive but that seems to be part and parcel of being pg after a m/c. good luck.

Megsmum - :hug: i don't really know what to say, except i hope it happens for you guys soon.

Thanks everyone for being so supportive, at the risk of sounding a bit soppy, it's really touching.

I've got my scan tomorrow and am still extremely nervous, but would rather have the scan than not... because at least i'll know one way or the other. i've had a funny ache today in my back and i'm sure it's nothing sinister but have worried all day anyway.

i told my family on the weekend, i just had to talk to mum about it. we spoke for half an hour on the phone, hung up, then i called back and told her i forgot to tell her i was pg... she was shocked and happy, but i asked her not to get too excited yet, just in case. she was really good. she's had a m/c too and also fell pg right away afterward, so she did a good job of calming me down a bit. my dad and my sister reckon they already knew (sis says she dreamt it and dad said 'male intuition' - ha!!).

anyway, i'll check back in tomorrow after my scan, hopefully with some good news. i don't even know if they'll be able to see a heartbeat at 6 weeks actually. i'm preparing myself for the worst, but also trying to keep positive.

Hello lovelies,

Bun - How exciting that you could get the OB you wanted! Must be fate... I'm sure everything will go smoothly for you this time. Hope that the m/s is not too rough on you.

Las - What day are you planning to test on? Good luck with staying strong!

Missbelinda - Hope that AF stops soon. How frustrating!

Sharon - Sorry that the witch arrived. Hope you are doing ok. How great that you are O'ing earlier though. Nothing worse that having to wait till CD22.

Satya - You are so right about the first part of the cycle... Hope O comes around super fast. Sounds like you had a wonderful weekend. How special to see whales and dolphins!

Princess Confused and Jodi - welcome and so sorry for you loss. Hope your stay here is very quick.

Salt - Congrats on the coverline! Sounds like you hit the nail on the head with BD'ing this month. Keeping my fingers crossed for you! We are almost cycle buddies... I'm on 4DPO. When are you planning on testing?

Bekz - How are you doing? Hope your symptoms are not too nasty...

Lee - Good luck with your appointment in the morning! I'm sure everything will go fine. It's great that your GP is so lovely, makes a big difference.

Megsmum - so sorry that AF arrived. I completely feel your frustration. If only we had known how hard it was to get pregnant and stay that way huh! I honestly did not think that at 28 I would be having trouble getting pg.

Claire - Male intuition... how cute. I love it how people always say they knew! I'm only impressed if they can tell me BEFORE I've told them. Big hugs and well wishes for your scan tomorrow. I'm sure everything will be moving along perfectly!

Well, I finally got my coverline on yesterday so am now 4DPO.
Salt... like you my temp has already started moving south, so I am completely hearing you on the not temping thing. I'm just so worried that I will miss out. Last cycle I got coverlines a 4 separate times during the cycle! ARGHHHH!! Still makes be crazy.
I'm hoping to hold out testing until at least 14DPO, but well see how that resolution goes...

Big hello to everyone else.

love

Bun, such wonderful news, surely it's a good sign that all is going so well.

Hope everyone else is doing well.

Don't think I'll be getting the news I want this week. Got my period on Friday. It was quite heavy, but only lasted about 24 hours?? I'm sure I'll get to the bottom of it on Wednesday.

Hope you all have a great week!

xo

Lee - Congratulations! I am happy for you :hug: Wishing you a sticky sticky baby.

Princess Confused & Jodi - I am sorry for your losses. I hope this forum helps you deal with the difficult time you are going through.

Hi everyone else. Sorry this a selfish post.

I am wrecking myself with anxiety. I went to see the doc today who referred me for an early scan tomorrow. I started having cramps while I was in the doc's waiting room, and then once I got home I spotted twice (two little brown drops, sorry if TMI).

I'm convinced that I'm going to m/c. I feel like I'm to blame cos I couldn't get excited about this baby and therefore maybe didn't love it enough. My head is so messed up. I had a big fight with DH on Sun night, which was so unfair on him. His grandpa died on Sat.

DH & I have been taking turns to get upset & comfort each other. DH about the death of his much loved pop and me about the impending m/c & my selfishness.

I know they won't find a heartbeat tomorrow (its too early anyway, 6w4d), but I am petrified that I'll lose it before then, or I'll lose it in a hideous mess in the waiting room or they'll tell me for sure that its not viable.

I might be joining some of you on the Waiting for AF thread soon. Is it too pessimistic to start a Waiting for M/C thread?

Oh Pash... big hugs to you honey. I'm keeping you in my prayers and hoping for the best for you. Spotting is not always a bad sign... try to keep positive (hard I know). We are all wishing you the best. Good luck with the scan.

Hi everyone,

Pash - You poor thing, it can't be good feeling like you are. I'm sorry but I can't remember what your history is, but just remember that most women have successful pregnancies after a m/c so the odds are probably very good that all we be OK this time. Good luck with the scan, and try not to stress when you don't see a heart beat, remember it is very early so it's not likely to be there.

Mouse - sorry our AF arrived. I hope this cycle is a more successful one for you.

Megsmum - I think the doctors are less likely to intervene early when you already have a child as they don't see it as urgent. Also most doctors will not act until you've had 3 m/c and that's because one or two are so very common. I think I'm only getting such action because of my age and not having had any kids of my own.

Claire - We were on the Sorrento to Queenscliff ferry when we saw the dolphins and whales. Dolphins are there regularly but it's pretty unusual for whales to be around at this time of year. We only went on the ferry on a whim when we drove past it, and just got on as it was leaving so I think it was meant to be.

Lee - I'm glad all is well with you.

Welcome Princess & Jodie - I hope your stay in this thread is a short one.

Salt - If you are not 100% well your temps can be all over the place.... like mine was last cycle when I had a cold.

Bun - Great news that you got in to the OB that you wanted. It's also good news that there was just the one follicle as that's makes it very likely that it's just the one bub in there and it is clearly thriving with results like that. I'm so paranoid about multiples as when I was scanned last I had two follicles and that was without clomid.... but that is just one of the downsides to ttc later in life like I am.
:)

Well it's CD10 for me today. I've started taking evening primrose oil this cycle and am having a daily dose of full cream icecream. Both are said to help with fertility, in particular fertile CM so here' s hoping it will help. If it doesn't at least I will have had a nice dessert each day. I'm trying to lose weight seriously now as I know IVF has better success rates in women who are within the healthy BMI. I haven't worked mine out but I know I wouldn't be in the healthy range. I'm 79 kilos and only 5 foot 3. In my estimation I need to lose at least 10 kilos - probably more like 15-20. I've lost 2 kilos in the past three months so if I keep going the way I am it would take forever to lose what I need to. So from today onwards it's healthy food for me.

Sorry to anyone I've missed.

pash - thinking of you heaps. xx

I'm so busy at the moment I need some proper time to catch up with everyone's messages.. just a quick note to say AF came and it was way more like normal than last time (mainly just spotting) so I definitely feel like my body needed another cycle to get back to normal. Plus (TMI) two tiny pieces of tissue came out which was another sign to me that I needed another cycle. Going away for a long weekend around O time so fingers crossed this month.

Hi all!

Sharon - so sorry hun that AF arrived :( Praying that this will be your month.

Kaz - thank you! Yay for the positive OPK, that's sounding really positive! Maybe you won't need to wait for AF ;-) Fingers crossed!

Satya - Sounds like you had a fantastic weekend! How cool seeing the whale! What ferry did you go on?? I totally agree, why do the first 2 weeks fly by, and how sucky the last two take so long!! CD 9 already! Hope the break away was just what you needed for this cycle!

Princess confused - so sorry for your loss hun. Hope you don't need to be here for too long.

Salt - I too get very confused with FF, so can offer you no advise, sorry! Hope that it really doesn't mean anything! Good luck! 3 days to go for me! Trying VERY hard not to test early, but I know I probably will :)

Jodi - welcome, but so sorry you are here :( I also hope your stay is short.

Megsmum - I'm so sorry AF arrived already :( It's so defeating.

Bun - so pleased you got the OB you wanted! Love having you here still, so don't worry about that! (but do hope that you have to leave us and enjoy a nice healthy pregnancy!)

Clairabel - Good luck with your scan!! I'm sure all will be going along perfectly! Look forward to hearing how it goes!

Leyla - Oh congrats on the coverline! Good luck to you! Hoping this is also your month!!!

Pash - Really hoping the cramping is nothing to be concerned about and your scan goes well. Thinking of you xx

I had the biggest scare on Sunday. Went to the toilet and when I wiped there was blood. Straight away burst into tears and told DH AF was coming a week early (this happened on my last natural FET). I went 3 more times and each time there was pink blood (and LOTS of CM). Last time I went it had stopped, and I've not had any since, but lots of cramping. And lots of CM. Hoping like crazy it's a good sign of implantation bleeding, although the cramping is intermittent, it feels more like AF coming, so a bit confused! BT is booked for Friday morning, and trying to hold off testing early, but know that I probably will tomorrow or thursday!

Hi to everyone else!

:hello:just dropping in I'm so sorry for your loss Princess confused & Jodie sending lots of :stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl: your way. I hope everyone gets an :bfp: pretty soon :grouphug: is what we all need at this moment.

:angel: Jan 3, 2007.
twenty weeks
We miss him and love him with all our hearts.

Hi all,

Pash - how are you???? Any news, hopefully NOT. I'm praying that you are fine. One of my best friends is 18 weeks pregnant and has spotted every other week from week 5 of her pregnancy. It's not uncommon, but you could do without the extra worry. Praying that your scan went just fine, please check in with us. Hugs.

:)

I just came back from my GP. He's a nice bloke, but doesn't think I need to see the OB till week 12. My blood pressure was fine, as it's been pretty high, so good to know that's settled down. I can't recall if I've had blood tests done now, but he didn't deem them necessary - does this sound right to you ladies? So, it seems it's a case of "sit it out" till I see the OB in another 6 weeks. I don't have any history of miscarriage, so hopefully that won't change. I am feeling a bit anxious, as after loosing a full term babe, I'm now finding myself thinking so much more about "what could go wrong". I guess there's not much I can do but take the best care of myself as possible, and think positively, and hopefully at my 12 week check-up I'll get to see a healthy little person.

Waiting, waiting, waiting......

Hello to everyone else, sorry for lack of personals, but I'm on the scrounge for food :rolleyes:

Hugs to all.

Lee xoxo