Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss May/June 2010

The man I love no longer believes me that I love him. I don't know what to do. Is there even a thread for that?!? I don't know where else to go

damprye: why does he think that ? what happened today ? i saw you wrote another post then edited it to this one......

Iona: did you test again today or are you waiting for a blood test ?

Matthews mum: good to hear your blood are as they should be, how many embies are you thawing ?

hi to everyone else, more dramas for us, my 4 year old DD fell out of (our) bed in the early hours of sun morning and ended up in hospital, she needed surgery on an injury to her eyelid, it was all very stressful, could have done without anymore drama right now

bons-thanks,sounds like it'll be a big weekend for you to....damprye-we're hear for you if you feel up to sharing,ttc & the heartbreak of suffering loss can put tremendous pressure on our relationships,do you think councelling be an option?hugs...minniemouse-how is your dd now?their thawing one,see how that thaws,if doesn't thaw well,they try another...afm-has anyone been to dr mcgrath(newcastle area)?

Matthews mum- I tried provera a month and a half ago when my af hadnt come 10 weeks after m/c.. it made me bleed for a couple days, i then started taking clomid to make me 'o' and then when i was meant to be 'o'ing i got my normal af- cramps and everything! so i just dont think provera is the thing for me.. i have realised no amount of drugs is going to correct my body.. i guess these things just take time.. and when its ready to start co-operating it will! I just hope its not too much longer.
Sorry to hear ur sick :( i hope the antibiotics kick in soon.. and i really hope it doesnt affect the transfer.

Damprye- Arent men just frustrating! I hope u sort it out with dh.. he will hopefully realise hes being silly and that u do love him alot.

Forshelby- Yeah i reckon u let dp have his way with u before the big 'o'.. like matthews mum said.. u want fresh spermies.. u dont want stagnant old ones trying to penetrate ur egg :) So when will u start testing on ur opks?? what day did u 'o' last cycle?? day 14??

Nite nite x

Matthews mum- Maybe ask in the ltttc after m/c or loss thread.. maybe those ladies can help??

Damprye: Sorry you are having a hard time. TTC can be a trying time especially after a loss. Or perhaps something else has happened. YOu can post here but do you have friends to talk to who would be good listeners. Or seeing someone for counselling was a good suggestions too (you could talk to your GP about helping you find one).

Minnie: Hope your DD is feeling better soon. Scary how accident prone littlies are. My DD dropped something heavy on her foot two weeks ago and we had a little trip to emergency. All good, it's just a nasty colour now.

Hi Bons, hope your good week continues.
Welcome Kellbell, i hope your ttc journey is short this time round.
Reet, Forshelby, Mathewsmum, Ms Kara, Thopes and anyone else i may have missed, hello and wishing you well...

Sorry I have calmed down a bit now.

Minnie- I hope DD is ok. With everything going on at the time I don't know what I had up earlier, today has just been such a blur.

Matthew's Mum- FX that all goes well :)

Reet- I'm sorry to hear that AF is still not playing fair.

Possum- I hope all is going well :)

AFM- Things with DP have been complicated right from the start but things went wrong and basically he thought that I would be vengefull and find ways to get back at him and make the problem worse for him. I could never do anything to hurt him and in turn it ripped my heart out to think that he thought of me like that. All I want is to be a happy family. I doubt that this month has been a success, I just don't feel it right now especially on top of the bug I've got which is playing havoc on my body. I have started getting AF cramps so that should be coming around in the next week, it's been a while since my last short cycle, not that I'm complaining. Hopefully since the last one was a long one and this one SEEMS to be a short one, the next will be just perfect and I hope me and DP will be too.

damprye - oh hugs sweety....these things can cause a strang between our relationships, I know with DP, the major arguement we had when we went on holidays was a build up of everything in the last few months. sending you heaps of hugs and I hope you are feeling better soon

Reet - I really wish you AF shows up for you real soon, time to give her a talking to!!

Matthew's mum - I hope that your transfer date doesn't get affected by the antibiotics and hope you get better soon too

Forshelby - how are you sweety, hope all is well, missing you!!

Minnie - I did test again yesterday morn, still positive but not totally strong...compared it to my test in january and it was faint as well at CD30/16DPO

Hi to bons, t-hopes, loops, mskara, porsche, alice and everyone else I have missed

AFM: taking every day as it comes, haven't gone to the dr yet as want to wait a week or so, i still have a lil bit of brown discharge not a lot but TMI WARNING sometimes once a day when a wipe or a lil spot on my knickers....someone did say it could be because of my personal training even though we have toned things down a lil. Keep having a talking to lil bean telling it to snuggle in and make itself comfy

Thanks for the welcome girls

have a sick little chicken this week least its taking my mind off AF coming. AF was due yesterday but got all neg tests and my temp dropped so just waiting again for her to show herself

i went on facebook and there was a pregnancy announcement from a friend due in February she cant be more than 5 or 6 weeks cant believe she would put it all over facebook that early. guess that's the difference when you have lost babies before. It was like a punch in the face reading it though i was happy for her it still hurts. Think everyone around me that i know is pregnant at the moment :wall:

Hope my body is kind to me this month and AF comes soon like today!!!!!

Hey Girls I aure have missed you all.. and im soo sorry i havent been on its been crazy around here with summer here.. Picnics reunions,vacations
We got back last week from Birgina Beach it was Beautiful (hope i can post the pics heres)
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I want to welcome all the New ladies to the forum.. and im hoping to here Good news that the TTC ladies for there BFP :)
Were TTC again this month. we thought we would wait a month and give my body some rest :)
Im hoping this month is our Month!!! :)

I would love to do personals but Wow i be here for weeks if i was going to catch up :)

I wish you all the best of luck and i do hope i get back in here more then i was the last month :(
my fingers are crossed for everyone ttc this month :)

Iona - Not even slightly saddened by your news. It's so great to see more BFPs in here, and I'm glad you're one of them!! I'm thrilled for you :D I hope it's my turn in 3 weeks, as well.

Matthews mum - Good luck with your embies defrosting. And sorry you have the flu, I hope you still get your FET on time. No more waiting!!

Kellbell - Welcome! I'm sorry to hear about your losses, it's never an easy thing to go through or deal with. I hope you find the support you need here with us.

Damprye - I didn't find the familys comments all that bad, just a bit strange since this is only our second attempt. I guess they didn't exactly plan their kids... so maybe they think it just happens instantly?? Who knows. I'm sorry things are hard on you at the moment. *hugs*

Loops - we'll miss you! But if a break is what you need, then by all means do what you need to do. Let's not call it 'giving up'... how about 'taking a TTC holiday?' :) Hoping you get a natural sneaky bfp in before October. Enjoy some you time and relax, since technically you're on holidays. Just don't wander too far, ok? :)

Reet - Hoping af comes properly according to your schedule.. hehe. Kinda funny how we plan things all out in our heads. :)

Bons - Glad you're having a good time with your family. And yay for DH coming home on the weekend!

AFM, cd 10 today, still not much to report. I'm noticing the same cm pattern as last month though.. looks like O should be around cd15 again. Slight ouchies in the bbs as well, so I'm pretty sure I'll be timing it right. For now I'm planning to BD on cd 12,14,15. I haven't decided whether to use the OPKs yet or not. I found they made me feel a bit......... edgy last month. Maybe without them I'll find it a bit easier? What do you think?

I was going to write more, but now I can't remember. I've had a hectic few days with DP's family visiting and then trying to catch up with the mundane chores. Like grocery shopping and dish-washing. Blech. I think I might just take it easy tonight.

I forgot to share the amusing antics of my DP after DTD the other night. All of a sudden, he points to my tummy and says "GET IN HER BELLY!" in a very realistic 'fat bastard' accent. (austin powers for those who aren't hip.. lol) I laughed so hard I thought I might pee myself. :D Thought you all might get a kick out of that.

forshelby, that is so cute of your DP!! Oh Oh Oh the BD bonanza is going to be starting for you in 2 days hehehe and then I get to stalk you more :D :lol: :D :lol:

forshelby thats so cute!!!!
Mine said yesterday the day af was due i think we made twins today out of the blue - i had to laugh as he seems to have noooooo clue sometimes :D

I didnt like the OPKs i used them the last two months i never got a positive one once put me on edge too and we must have hit ovulation day somewhere in there to get a chemical preg so i couldnt figure them out. All i got was the light lines think well just go with the flow if AF ever shows itself :doh:

Also i am terrible with taking my temperatures i always forget

Iona - LOL, stalk away my dear... And yes, I thought it was cute, too.

Kellie - I don't bother to temp either, and I do get positives on OPKs but last month got 3 in a row. Makes it a bit confusing, but I'm pretty sure I pinpointed my O day to day 15. I'm still leaning towards not using them this month. I have a few left though so we'll see if I can resist the urge to POAS.

I am freaking out right now. I am nowhere near AF and I have started bleeding. What do I do? I don't know what I am supposed to do? I have no idea why this is happening.

WOOHOO!!!! AF HAS ARRIVED!!!!!!!! :clap:

I have been cramping really really badly since lunchtime.. and it seems like im shedding about 5 linings! I think i have a major buildup from the last 4 months. Im over the moon with happiness!!! :dance: Im not even taking panadol or anything to try and ease the pain.. i have been looking forward so much to af arriving that i think i will enjoy every minute of her.. and pray to god i dont have to see her again for a long long time.
And whats even better is cd 14 will fall on a wed and dh will be home 4 days before that on the friday and wont be leaving again til the sunday, 4 days later.. YAY!!!! Perfect timing! I think this time it is meant to be.. no crazy drives anywhere. Well im hoping it all works to plan.. i guess anything can happen with my body :wall:

I also bought some pills for dh (thanks to ferrals for telling me bout them! xx) they are called Sperm Max.. they are for healthy fertility in males. If anyone is interested they are specially developed for
- sperm health
- sperm quality
- DNA health
- Seminal volume
- Sex drive (DEFINTELY dont need this tho!!! ..especially when he is away! haha)
- Stress
So we are on the road to success!!!
It was funny.. i bought them yesterday when i was shopping then i got a phonecall from dh saying he had forgotten to pack a harness before he went away and wondering if i cld drop it to the boat depot (he is working on an island at the moment) so i sneakily stuck the pills in there with it! The sooner he starts taking them the better! haha. I hope none of his work mates saw them.. or :redface: for him! :)

Sorry this has been all about me.. i am just so so happy that i can finally get serious again about ttc. It has started freaking me out.. in 3 months its going to be a year since we REALLY started ttc.. in 3 months also its our little angel babies due date.. hhmm if im not pg by sept i dont think its going to be a very good month for me :( FX i am tho. Wow i am still going on about ME! Sorry :shakehead:

Forshelby- Yay for 'o' time coming up for u soon!! Ill be a week behind u i think :) yeah maybe dont use the opks.. or just try one at day 13 or something just to make sure there is a positive and then dont do anymore. We might be able to test at the same time.. u wait til ur late and ill test 5 days before af is due.. anyway its a lil while until then.. think im jumping the gun a bit! haha

Damprye- Maybe ur body just needs more time to regulate itself?? my body has only just started sorting itself out after m/c and that was 4 months ago. Or it cld be leftover tissue from ur m/c?? Did u naturally m/c or have a d&c? If u continue bleeding maybe go see ur dr and they may be able to give u an u/s. to see if there is anything remaining.. that might be why u have been feeling a bit sick and dizzy lately too.. Keep us posted.

Hi Kellbell- Hope af comes soon for u! wait 4 more days and ill send u mine!!! hope dd feels better soon.

Well im off to bed.. hello to everyone!!! xxx

Hi Ladies,

I have been reading, but not posting, hope you do not mind. Usually I do not have anything to say, but today I do, so I am sticking my head out:
Dampyre - I think this is probably normal. Your miscarriage was so recent, your body may not be on track yet. Your hormones may be still out of whack, and if the levels have not returned to normal yet and they dip too low at the time of ovulation you will get a bleed instead of the ovulation. And then you get another one at the time of the supposed period, only the bleeding is probably lighter because the lining did not thicken. After my miscarriage in February, I had a D&C, then got what I thought was my period about 6 weeks later and then bled every 2 weeks for the next 3 months. The bleeding was not like my regular period, but way more what you would get for ovulation spotting. After 3 months the "real" AF finally came. It just felt different than the bleeds, so I knew it is the real deal this time and I got a normal cycle after that.
If you are worried that there may be a tissue left over, talk to your doctor, but I think your body probably needs more time to get back to its rythm.