Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss November 08

Toccara - OMG!!! Yayayayayayayay! :hooray: Sending loads of :stickyvibesgirl: your way... and wishing you a happy and healthy pg :)

Mannie - Yay as well! You are so strong on holding out until the weekend to poas again... wishing you all the best hun :pray:

megsmum - thinking of you in the lead up to fridays bt :crossfingers: x a million

Jen - you're back!! Great to see you sharing the jen-love once again :hug: You are great at being a (storm) trooper for everyone - I hope you are doing ok in yourself too...

afm - the Zen of Jen has been pretty much chucked out the window in the last week! I've found it pretty hard being remotely sensible as I'm at the stage that I'd lost my 2 angels. Thankfully have had 2 reassuring scans last Friday and yesterday at my ob appt - yesterday's was amazing with arms and legs waving everywhere. Little bean wouldn't hold still long enough to get measured! I have another "Chill out Jen" scan in a week's time, followed by the nt scan on 12 Dec. And then I will ...... breathe out .....

Loads and loads of love and :bluedust: for all of you lovelies :grouphug:

xx

Mel - I'm due to test on the 2/12 as well! :goodluck: :noaf:

jenushka - I just wondering about you tonight, thinking that I could do with some of your zen vibes. Only to find out that its all gone out the window! :lol: Still I'm glad to hear your bub is doing great! Rest up hun. If bub has this much energy now, imagine what you'll have to deal with once he/she is born. Goodluck with the upcoming scans. :bellyrubs:

Hello lovely ladies,

Sending lots of :stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy: to Mannie and Toccara- thats fantastic ladies! Lots of prayers for you!

Babymiracles- so sorry, hang in there.

T.Y- Welcome. Sorry for your lost, hope your stay here is short.

Hello to Mel and Hanna, I'm in the TWW with you this month. I get to poas on Sat. Hoping for :bfp: all of us!

Jen- so glad you are getting lots of baby snaps. Lots of :stickyvibesgirl: for you too.

Ruthie ~ Oh babe, you need a break my dear! 2009 will be better, I'm sure.

Hello to everyon else, sorry no more personals, very sleepy must go to bed! Haven't been able to hop on at work recently so catching up is a challenge.

Been quiet here as I'm TWWing yet again. At least I think I ovulated this month, the last 2 cycles I wasn't so sure (no CM or sore BB, sorry TMI), and now I'm just hanging out to get to the weekend (trying not to read anything into every twinge or sore BB or anything- yes crazy person!!). Why is the BD window so small and the TWW so long?? Bah, biology!!! And to think I'm a biological scientist...

take care ladies,

Indy

Morning Gurlies! I am happy to report I am feeling much better and less pain this morning...I am thinking my bout with the flu or whatever it was caused my immune system to react (try to...nearly impossible w/Lupus) which is why I've had the flare symptoms.

Mollycat...I am going to send you a response to your email later today...:hug:

Toccara...WONDERFUL news!!!

jen...I am usually high as a kite this time of year...but the economy and being broke has me less festive this year...Lee hasn't been working his regular hours as his company is feeling the pinch and has slowed production...anyways...it's STILL my favorite time of year!!!

Mel...thanks...I sure hope you miss out on this one as Lupus can be very ugly...I know you must be aware since several family members have it...

All my other gurlies...I haven't forgotten you...BIG :hug:

I've been very emotional the past few days and I just want you guys to know I truly appreciate each and every one of you...there have been times when your posivitivty is what got me through my day...THANK YOU!

:bluedust::pink-babydust:
:stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:

:bfp::noaf:

Jen, Indy, hannah, mel, princess, mannie, blueij: Thank you so much for your support and for the engagement congratulations. It is much appreciated. After having a bit of a cry over frostie yesterday am I picked up in the arvo and feel much more positive today. Have decided just to focus on the very wonderful fact that I am newly engaged and to just enjoy this time. Have been telling family, friends, work colleagues etc and everyone is so pleased for me - which has been great to take my mind off of all the IVF highs and lows.

WTH and Megsmum - thinking of you both and praying for great BT results.

To all of you in TWW - fingers crossed and sending you :stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:

Ruthie: I am so sorry you have been unwell, and are having such a difficult time. Know you are in my thoughts, and in the thoughts of many others on this thread.

Hi to everyone else I've missed. Being brief as in work office and have a deadline to get a massive document to printers - better get back to it - needs to go today!
xx

Many thanksssssssssssssssssssssss for your comfort ladies.

I now just wish time goes faster, so that I could try again very soon.

Have been reading the posts here about when to conceive after mc, seems like some people fell pregnant just after mc, I thought we have to wait until we get our period first, would that be any harm if we don't wait?

Thanks again ladies. I feel much better now, so glad to find this place.

TY - I've been struggling with the same question. My take is that some dr's recommend waiting up to 3 months, while others say it isn't necessary to wait at all. Also, I think that some dr's want you to wait at least 1 month so that you know when your last AF is so that they can date the pregnancy - but with the sophisticated ultrasounds they have, this isn't really necessary as they can date pregnancies from the size of the fetus measured during U/S. I think a lot of people would also say, it depends on how you feel physically and mentally. I think there's no single right answer. I do know that my dr was very clear that I shouldn't have sex or even swim until all bleeding had stopped as both increase the risk of infection. This may only apply to a d&c (my situation) and not all miscarriages - I don't know. I've decided to wait until 1 regular AF - and even if my FS won't do IVF so soon, at least we can give it a go on our own...but this is just our personal choice.

Hello ladies...have been away for a while and had a nice break, so now just catching up with all your news and wishing you all well

babymiracles...congratulations on your engagements!! yay...and sorry frostie didnt stick....hang in there...and I am glad you have happy news at the same time

TY- I second what buliej has said.... personally, we TTC this month, first cycle since my D&C...my IVF nurse said there was no harm in it

Indy- good luck!

smilantu-- sending you all the best

tocara- congrats!!

to everyone else...sending you my best wishes and hoping you get success v soon

afm- well, no AF yet but I don't think I am pregnant with a natural miracle...negative HPTs and no symptoms..I think I am about 15DPO now

Indy - Hi! Goodluck with POAS on Sunday. Wishing you a sticky :bfp:

smi - Glad you're feeling better. :hug:

babymiracles - Hello fellow Adelaidean. I've only just realised that you're in Adelaide too!

T.Y. - I don't think there's any harm in not waiting to TTC. I had a D&C so I waited 1 cycle just to be sure my lining had built back up as it gets fairly well stripped in a D&C. I was glad I did wait, as I don't think my loss really hit me until that first visit from AF. The main reason for waiting seems to be for emotional recovery. But it might be good to check with your doctor to make sure there are no medical reasons to wait. Its a very individual choice and completely up to you. :hug: to you hun.

possums -:hello: :hug:

:bluedust::stickyvibesgirl:

Hannah - so sorry lovely! But at least it means that if I'm not using my zen-vibes at the moment I have plenty to give away - sending them straight to you hun! I am sure I will restore my zen if all looks good for me at next weeks scan... here's some extra :SAAF::SAAF::noaf::SAAF::SAAF: for you leading up to next Tuesday...

TY - I was told to wait 3 months to ttc again by my ob after my 2nd loss - she said this was to make sure I was stable (emotionally I guess). I think she didn't realise that I wouldn't be stable again until I had my next baby safe in my arms! Seriously though, I was told by my GP and Clinical Geneticist that there was no medical reason to wait, and that I didn't even have to wait until AF if I didn't want to. I pretty much bled continuously after my D&C (sorry if tmi) with about 3 days off that cycle until the first AF arrived. As Hannah said, I really felt my body and mind needed that time to heal. We decided to try again the following cycle and were very blessed to get a bfp. Some women don't wait until their AF returns, fall pg and have everything go fine... gl with whatever you decide :goodluck:

Love and hugs to all of you gorgeous women,

xx

Hi,

T.Y. - My DR told me just to wait one cycle. I didn't have a D&C though and my cycle went back to normal the next month. I guess everyone is different. You just need to make sure you are emotionally ready as well as physically. We started TTC again straight away and are still trying but in a way I am glad I didn't get pg again straight away as I don't think I would've handled it too well. I would've been a nervous wreck! As I said though, everyone is different. Good luck.:)

Indy - Best of luck for Sunday.

Smi - Yes, definitely don't want to have Lupus. I have seen many of my family in pain. I really feel for you! :hug:

Possums - I really hope your miracle happens this month! I think we all deserve an early Christmas present.

Hannah - :noaf: !!!

AFM - Not feeling that positive over the last couple of days. Not sure why but I think I am trying not to get my hopes up so I won't be disappointed. Even though I will be anyway!

Thank you for your replies.

Buliej - Hope you can conceive naturally

Possums - Good Luck to you this month, please keep us informed

HannahD - Can't wait to hear the good news from you.

Jenushka - Completely agreed with you, I wouldn't be stable until I had my first baby in my arms!

Mel - I think I am emotionally ready already, I also miscarried at week 6, didn't do a D&C, just want to try as soon as possible. However, I do admit that it's better to wait one cycle.

By the way ladies, I miscarried a week ago, just stopped bleeding, how come I still have tammy pain? not serious though. Is it normal?

Hey Ladies,

I hope your all doing ok. this is just a quick post as i'm at work.

I will be 20 weeks on friday! I cant believe i'm halfway there already!!! I felt my fist proper big kick last night, it was the most amazing feeling in the world. I've having flutters for past couple weeks, but this one you could feel by putting hand on my belly! It was so nice!

I have my 20 week scan on tuesday, so fingers crossed that all goes ok, i cant wait to see bub again.

Sorry only flying visit!

Lots of :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy: and a great big :grouphug:

T.Y It is totally up to you in what you decide. I Had a D&C at beginning of July, and by the middle/end of july i had been totally blessed and had fallen pregnant again. I'm now 20 weeks gone and am feeling bubs every movement. So i didnt listen to the doctors and wait as i wanted to start TTC straight away and i'm so glad i did.

Tocarra - wow, that is fabulous news - Congratulations!!! :confetti:

Big hello everyone, hope you are all doing ok. Big Hugs to my wonderful friends and big hello & welcome to any newbies. Sorry to see newbies in here & hope your time in here is short lived. This thread offers fantastic support!!!

Just a little update on me - 8.5 weeks to go now. Had a bit of a scare on the weekend though with a bleed, Bub and I are both ok but it scared me. I spent Fri night in hospital so they could monitor Bub (who kept me amused by kicking the thingy strapped to my tummy that was trying to monitor his/her hb). Bleeding has stopped and Ob gave me thorough examination on Sat & Mon and has assigned me to rest at home so have started mat leave 4 weeks early. But if I have another bleed I have to go straight to hospital & stay there until Bub is ready. My placenta, although low, isn't low enough to warrant a caesar so I'll be trying for a vaginal birth - somehow I think it will be sooner rather than later but will keep you all posted. Ob just wants to see me get to 34 weeks then he'll breathe a sigh of relief and deliver Bub whenever Bub is ready or my body has had enough. Anyway, enough about me. Just wanted to drop by and let you know I am thinking of you all the time. There is plenty of room in paml so hoping to see you all there soon.

Best Wishes and loads of :bluedust::pink-babydust::bluedust::pink-babydust:

Good morning! :grouphug: This is going to be a quick one for me. Have lots of housework to do before we pick up my step daughters for the Thanksgiving holiday, so will have to try to come back later for persies.

Just wanted you all to know that I'm thinking of you and you're all always in my :pray:


:pink-babydust: :bluedust: :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy: Big :hug: for everyone!!!

Quickie for me too...gettin' ready for Turkey Day!

AJC...REST!!!

Gurlies...BIG :grouphug:

jenushka - Thanks for the zen-vibes. Am feeling much calmer today. I'm still a little anxious but I'm not feeling so impatient. I'm sure all will be fine at next weeks scan. Sending lots of :stickyvibesgirl: and :goodluck: your way.

Mel - Hang in there. :noaf:

T.Y. - If its not serious, maybe its just you're uterus contracting and things settling back down. If it does get serious though, I'd get myself straight to the doctor to rule out an infection.

fifi - Wow! 20 weeks already. And yay for big kicks! :dance:

ajc - Thanks for popping in and giving us lots of well wishes. I'm sending plenty back at ya! It sounds as though you could do with them at the moment. Wishing all the best for you and bub. :stickyvibesboy::goodluck: Rest up!

Happy Thanksgiving to all of our American friends!

:hello: to everyone else :grouphug:

Hi everyone...sadly AF arrived today...feeling yuk with bad cramps etc...but at least I know my body is working again after the D&C...and i didnt really think I was pregnant


sorry for no personals right now...sending you all the best though