Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss November 08

Hi all, I know it is very early days, I began to miscarry on Wednesday night and still am. It is a horrible thing to go through. It can be very awkward and lonely so I am very grateful that I found this wonderful website. I am wondering how long (the bleeding) will last, it is quiet heavy & clots +++ - SORRY FOR TMI. Although I am still devastated I am feeling a bit better today - realising that something just was not right. How long till we can TTC again? I have heard the womb needs to replenish nutrients etc, but I have also read that you are very fertile after MC. Thanks for replies and for such a wonderful website. I am hooked.

Maddysmum - I'm so so sorry for your loss. :hug: I can't help with how long the bleeding will last as I had a D&C. But as for when to TTC again, its completely up to you (unless your doctor gives you a medical reason not to right away). Most advice is to wait at least one cycle to allow the lining to build back up (probably more of an issue if D&C) and to date the next pregnancy more accurately. Take this time to say goodbye to your angel. You have a found a great place here with wonderful, supportive ladies who all know what you are going through. I don't know where I'd be without them.

Mel - Glad you're feeling a little better. *hugs* And yay for enjoying the holiday season! Goodluck with clomid in 2009.

mollycat - :hello: How are you?

jen - Hope your turkey was worth the wait! :hug:

babymiracles - Yay for FET before the end of the year. :pray: it works. Hope AF is taking it easy on you.

megsmum - How did the appointment with FS go?

possums - I'm doing ok thanks. Don't worry, I keep staring at babies too. And pregnant women. Got caught staring at a pregnant woman's belly this morning. She was about as far long as I would be by now. *sigh*

toccara, plc, ajc, krystie, mannie, fifi :stickyvibesboy: :bellyrubs: :stickyvibesgirl:

Big hello and :hug: to buliej, jenushka, ruthie, smi, ty, indy, princess, mo3b, wth and anyone I have missed.

afm - Well, I'm still hanging in there. Not feeling so positive the last couple of days. Will just have to wait and see what happens Tuesday morning. Have had to pee a lot today though...

Hi ladies,

Thanks for all the good luck, I'm really hoping that it'll work!!

But I still don't have my BT results yet :doh: The blood was done fairly late in the day, so will be waiting for results until the morning now, bummer. But the good news is no AF!

:pray: for a good result tomorrow, will let you know how we get on :)

Maddysmum - Welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss :( HannahD has pretty much covered it all, like she said most drs recommend waiting one cycle, but there are plenty out there as well that say there is no need to wait. :hug:

Good morning girls! Thanks for all the Thanksgiving well-wishes!



babymiracles--Yay for sneaking in another FET before the year's end! Hope you're having fun with the wedding plans!



Mannie & jenushka--Sending all my most positive Zen vibes your way! :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy: And lots of bellyrubs, too!



Possums--Oh, I so know how you feel! :hug: Although I have more of a problem staring at pg women than at babies! I'm sure I've freaked quite a few of them out with my long, lusty stares! :rofl: For some reason I can handle the babies--it's the big, round bellies that bum me out!



Maddysmum--My sincere condolences over the loss of your little angel baby! :comfort: You're right, it's definitely an awkward and lonely time--I hope that you're able to find comfort and support here with us so that we can help make the days seem just a little less dark. While none of us would ever wish this pain upon anyone else, it helps so much in knowing there are others out there that can relate to you and what you're going thru! I didn't have a D&C, and bled for about a week after my m/c. Hannah pretty much covered everything as far as how long you should wait--but you're right that women are very fertile after a m/c, so I know that for me that was a HUGELY positive thing that kept me motivated and gave me a reason to keep going. Once I read that there was no real reason why you couldn't begin TTC right away, I was READY! Of course, I'm still working on it.... but there's many who fell pg right after their m/c, so there's always hope! You're in my thoughts and prayers, hon.... Welcome to our humble little thread, may you find as much love, comfort, and support as I have! *hugs*



Hannah--Mmmm, turkey was SO worth the wait! Keeping my fingers crossed for you and sending lots of :pink-babydust: your way!



megsmum--OMG, the suspense! I'm :pray: so hard for you!! :stickyvibesgirl:

Just checking in and letting you girls I'm doing well I just want thursday to be here already so I can know bub is ok !!!

Hi everyone. Just when you thought I had forgotten you all here I am :D

This whole IVF-with-PGD attempt this month has been pretty full-on. BT on Monday but somehow I know it is just not "our month". Because we managed a normal embryo, DH wants to try naturally next month before we are allowed to do our next cycle. So I will no doubt be back on this thread in full swing for the silly season sharing in yet another marathon BD effort.

Jen and Ruthie - happy thanksgiving :D
Jenushka - I am so happy the way things have turned out for you (and you give me a little hope) :dance:
MegsMum - you know I have everything possible crossed for you :crossfingers:

:bluedust: :pink-babydust:

Take care, WTH xx

OMG girls, I just got my BT results......and its a BFP!!! :cheer:

My HCG is 184 and prog 105, which according to the clinic is all good. You don't know how many times over the last year that I have thought this day would never come!

I just have to get through the first tri now without having a nervous breakdown.......:rolleyes:

OMG OMG OMG!!!!! Congratulations Megsmum!!! yayayayayayayay :hooray::hooray::hooray:

I am just so thrilled for you hun - wishing you a happy and healthy pg... and those bt results are great

I have experience in fluctuating between zen/positivity and being a complete nervous wreck - I find closing my eyes and hanging on really tight seems to help ;)

I can't stop smiling for you :)

megsmum Im so happy for you !!! sending you loads of stickyvibes and wishing you a H&H 9months !!!

Yippee Meg'smum - that is fantastic - I hope you have a happy & healthy pregnancy and baby!!!

WTH - it could very well be your month - there's just no way of knowing yet!

Maddy'smum - I'm so sorry for your loss - it's just an awful thing to have to go through. The other girls covered all the main points re: TTC again. We have decided to wait only until after my first AF to start trying again and I was very tempted to not even wait for that but my acupuncturist convinced me - it's a personal choice and there's no right answer -only what feels best for you.

:happyforyou: MegsMum - Congratulations again! :clap::dance:

CONGRATULATIONS MEGSMUM!!!! :loveshower::bluecheer: great HCG and Prog results too.....!!! YAY!!!n its going to be a very happy Christmas this year, well lets hope with not too much throwing up!!!

HannahD - peeing a lot thats a good sign!!!! sending you lots of :bluedust:

Maddysmum - :welcome:sorry to hear of your loss, and glad you found us. I had two m/c this year the second one I had the month after my first m/c however it was deemed a chemical pregnancy by my OB. However I think I should've waited at least one cycle to get my lining all back up to normal thickness, thats why I think the last bub didn't wait. I'm pregnant again now which is the 3rd month after my first m/c however with my chemical pregnancy I was one week late and my bleeding was just like a normal period and my cycle was normal this month so we tried again.....because as you know we all want to have that bub in our arms so badly that it hurts and missing out even once is a big deal...well at my age it is anyway. So I would recommend just because of my experience and if I had to do it all over again I probably would wait one month. Hope I've been of help and Goodluck

Possums - I do exactly the same thing and just watching the babies and toddlers makes me smile so much and also inside I'm sighing hoping and hoping. So you aren't alone.

WTH - sending you lots of :bluedust:

Hiya to all my other lovely ladies Jen - I'm hoping for some good news from you soon lovely...

Toccara and Megsmum sending you out lots of :stickyvibesgirl:

Jenushka,KrystieTam and fifi- plenty of bellyrubs coming your way beautiful girls!!!

AFM - did another pg test this morning.....took a few mins but the results came out postive yay!!! :bfp: for me!!! after I did the first one at 7dpo it took all my strength to wait to do it today which is 16dpo have booked myself app with GP for blood tests and will also book my OB once I've been to my GP. Just trying not to worry so much and hope that this one sticks this time.....of course have had all the symptoms, nausea, very very sore breasts and peeing a lot last day or so and feeling very dizzy at times during the day oh and very tired yesterday ....pray for all us ladies in this 1st trimester its a very anxious time...

Big hellos to all the ladies I've missed, Joey, PlC, Angel, Babymiracles,buliej, Ruthie and everyone esle

megsmum - am sooooooo HAPPY for you!!!!!
:confetti::happyforyou::confetti:

Mannie - don't think I saw your BFP news & congrt'd you yet??? CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

Woo hoo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To megsmum and mannie

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! :cheer::stickyvibesboy::bluecheer: :stickyvibesgirl:

Sending you both lots of :pray: and zen-vibes. Wishing you HTH 9 months!

Hello lovely ladies,
OK, so I'm back before Sunday cos I can't help myself:)

First things first; YAY! for you Megsmum- that is Brilliant! Wishing you lots of :stickyvibesgirl: and a stress free pregnancy.

Maddysmum, sorry you have had to join us here. This is a great place for support and I hope you find a stickbub soon.

Mannie- bring on those:bfp: Good luck with the doctor next week.

Babymiracles - good luck with next round, hoping for a lovely christmas prezzie

TY- there seems to be a few mixed messages out there, mostly I think it is your head state more than you body the Dr's tend to worry about. I know I ovulated and 'felt' super fertile in the 2 cycles after my mc (not that anything came of that, sigh)

Hannah- hang in there, I know waiting can make you crazy (see below;))

WTH- BD is the only fun part in this whole rollercoaster- so have a good time;)

Possums- ok, well we are doing next cycle together, and yes, there are babies everywhere, bellies too, sigh

Jen- hope thanksgiving and the shopping are going well. They had footage of crazy running through shops this morning and I thought of the US girls having fun

Toccara- have a good scan, wave to the bub for us.

OK, need to go and do food shopping, hello to all not mentioned. :grouphug: to all.

As to me- well, caved in yesterday and brought some of the forelife early preg tests, and came back with a resounding :bfn: Poo! (This is about the mildest thing I can say.) Not that I'm terribly surprised as AF has been suggesting her presence by bad skin and headaches (what an into!) but is yet to arrive. Oh well, yet another cycle. And maybe a different story for christmas. Bit down at the moment, DH is running the positive vibes for us but I think I might go and get more checked out in the new year. I know its only been 4 1/2 mnths since mc but going little crazy and I'm pretty sure that I'm not O'ing every month, (LH and CM seem to vary wildly each cycle). At least I can have a drink at our wedding anniversary this weekend (would have been far happier to have a little bundle of cells to protect though, sigh).

OK, off scattering :bluedust: for all,

hugs, Indy

Thanks so much everyone, I really don't know what I would have done without you over the last 8 months or so :grouphug: I really hope that we've got a run of BFPs happening in here :pray:

I'm just so happy, yet so scared at the same time :( I think by the time the first tri is over I'll be wishing that I had bought some shares in Sorbent!!!! I'm already doing the knicker checking thing :rolleyes:

I'm off to the clinic again on Tuesday for the first of my follow up HCGs so obviously praying for a good rise, then they will test me weekly until 7 weeks when I have my first scan. I'm still a bit unclear what will happen after that, I think they hand me over to my ob at about 8 weeks, but I'm a bit worried with Xmas looming that all these drs will be on holidays! So I think if my ob is off I'll have to sweet talk the clinic into looking after me until 12 weeks - 8 to 12 weeks will be my big nervous time as that is when we lost our last baby :(

Anyway, thanks again everyone, it will be a while before I can bring myself to leave here and go to the pg threads, I hope you don't mind me hanging around for a bit longer....

Megsmum--WOO freakin' HOO!!!!!!!!! :leap: :hooray: :cheer: OMG, cycle buddy (no matter what, that's what you are!) I'm SO super thrilled for you!!! Sending tons of :stickyvibesgirl: and lots of big hugs!! Congratulations!!!



Mannie--Official Congrats to you, as well, on your BFP!!! :stickyvibesboy:



Toccara--Big hugs lots of prayers, and some :stickyvibesgirl: for you!!



WTH--Hey, hon, so good to hear from you--we know you'd never forget us! *hugs* Best of luck with your BT on Monday!



Indy--Sorry to hear about your BFN. :hug: I know how frustrating it is.... better luck with your next cycle.



Hi's and :hug: for jenushka, AJC, buliej, & Hannah

Jen - Thanks so much hun :hug: You are such a support to everyone in this thread, you really deserve to get your BFP soon, as does everyone else in this thread :pray: Will be hoping that this is the one for you, so then we can be belly buddies as well as cycle buddies! ;)