Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - November 2009
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Coco I am with Inanna its not over till its over. Hope your in for a huge surprise in the next day or two.
My DH is been unsupportive and I am actually looking forward to going to work to get away from him. His cousin had a baby yesterday and he was trying to throw a picture of it in my face. I know I shouldn't feel like I do but its the last thing I wanted to see especially when the parents think they are a cut above the rest. I told him why would he do that when he knows how I feel about birth annoucements etc and he said its always about me. WTF? He just can't seem to realise that if I didn't m/c I would have a baby by now and if it didn't happen again and again I would be heavily pregnant and happy etc. His way of coping is it will happen and has no feelings of loss. Its seems like a reminder of everything I have lost and am not about to have IYKWIM. Boohoo. I can't stop crying now and wonder how on Earth I am going to go work in maternity in an hour. This is the pits.
So sorry all for the poor me post.
Snugglybean your signs are sounding promising. When do you plan on testing? Before AF or wait till she is late?
Hello to everyone else and I hope your all having a nice Sunday.
I have had a nice morning this morning, DH cooked me bacon & eggs and baby spinach & muffins and coffee then we were discussing this morning and we're definately going to be starting IUI in feb is no avail...he said to me, and this broke my heart, "I really thought this month would be the month. I was really hoping for your birthday & christmas this would be it" ...I think he saw the POAS with the blaring single line in the bin. He said this was the most down he had ever felt about it.
We then went shopping for our 3rd wedding anniversary gifts together. The tradition is leather so I got a black leather pandpora bracelet with an irish cladder charm & he got a black leather bracelet band thingy aswell. It felt so amazing So loving and so beautiful.
Im having cramps in my uterus. Not period pains but different. Cant explain it. like a tight feeling. I dont want to jinx anything and Im praying its not AF.
Emmy, thats tough, and maybe your DH doesn't quite know how to handle the situation and thats his way of dealing with it??? but yeah it must be tough also having to be working in maternity.
coco: hopefully you get your BFP this month
afm, haven't posted in awhile but have been reading posts, just hoping that I get a BFP this month- but tested today and got a BFN so feeling a bit down about that.
Hello to all the lovely ladie here, how HOT is it, better than cold and rainy though i suppose.
Emmy sorry to hear DH is being unsupportive. I think sometimes they just find it a lot harder to show what they are feeling and dont fully understand our feelings. My DB can be like that at times too. He just says to me stop stressing and it will happen. But he came home last night and said i just want you to be PG now and we had a big hug and that made me feel really good. Hopefully your DH starts to be a bit more supportive for you.
Em sorry to hear you got a BFN, not over till AF shows up though for you
Coco sorry to hear you too got a BFN, sounds like you have had a lovely day though with your yummy brekky and your wedding anniversary shopping. The bracelets you bought sound lovely. Hopefully you can top it off with a BFP in the next couple of days. Those pains your having sound promising too
Snugbean your temps too are sounding very promising. Hope your AF stays away and you will get your BFP as well. Are you planning on testing or just waiting it out?
Ferals at your comment about the white pants and no emergency tampon, surely if anything was going to bring on AF that would be it. Hopefully she shows up very soon so you can have your BT and get your IVF journey started.
Twinsis sorry you got a BFN this morning, has the spotting gotten heavier? Maybe it is just implantation bleeding for you too.
Hello to everyone else i have missed and i hope your all having a lovely weekend.
AFM had my sisters hens party yesterday and we went shopping in the morning and when i got out of the car i had a very wet feeling in my knickers and i thought cant be AF, WAY to early. So i went to the toilet and i had lots of EWCM. Im hoping that is because i was ovulating (thought it was past that, but maybe not) because DB came home last night and is still home tonight as well so we got lots of BDing in. Think i might use an OPK next time i need to pee and just see what that says. Ive never had a positive result with them so not really thinking it will show up but ive got heaps in the cupboard so may as well give it a go.
Good luck to everyone testing and bring on some BFP's
Last edited by eliselouise; November 11th, 2009 at 08:14 AM.
coco that sounds so lovely! Even that he was feeling down, it is so special when you can share feelings like that as a couple.
elise - glad you spent time getting busy! OPKs have never ever worked for me either.
Blood test tomorrow, may or may not show anything - 9DPO
testing Tuesday morning using FR at 10DPO
testing again Saturday if nothing using internet cheapie.
Emmy83 shame your dh is being unsupportive but in a way i think m/c affects us more than it affects them. we had to go through all the changes when we were preg and going through m/c is very tough on us. my dh does make insensitive comments sometimes, like oh you would have a big belly by now, but i think he doesn't mean it in a nasty way. i think it takes us a longer time to get use to not being pregnant anymore than it does them. but that's just my opinion. must be hard for you having baby pics shoved in your face though, would be too much for me as well.
coco1411 how cute buying gifts like that for your anniversary hope your pains are good pains!
em... still a chance so don't give up hope.
eliselouise85 hope you manage to catch the big o this month!!! maybe some opks would be useful for you if you're not sure when your o date is in the month.
snugglybean i have a good feeling for you this month
ferals is there was any way to bring on af that had to be it. why when you want it to show does it have to be late?
afm, have to organise an ultrasound to have the bleeding checked out. will ring an make an appointment tomorrow. also one of my friends wants me to be bridesmaid next christmas and i don't know what to say as she wants to order the dress now. i would feel bad if the dress didn't fit me next year as i have no idea what size i will be, and she doesn't know about my m/c. i think i will have to phone and explain the situation to her (she is in the uk which is why we didn't tell her about m/c).
I'm going to start with good news on my end (for now anyways). Yesterday's spotting was a false alarm. I had a tiny bit of pink tinged CM (which is usually how my spotting starts) and then nothing for the rest of the day. So now It's early on day 3 of spot watch and I'm still spot free. My tummy's pretty crampy though, and I've been a bit nauseous the last few days, so we'll see what happens. For now I'm still in the TWW. I'm going to try to hold out until Tuesday to test providing AF doesn't show up before then.
Had a bit of a scare this week-end with DS. Friday night he broke out in ENORMOUS hives all over his body (toast sized hives on his back). They went down but Saturday he was covered again. He was crying because they were itchy and sore so we took him to emerg. They gave him some steroids, antihistamines and a prescip[tion for some cream, and sent us home. By the time we were home he was hive free but a few hours later, hives all over his body again! He slept with us last tonight so I could make sure his breathing was ok. He's still sleeping so I'll have to see what happens today. Nothing new in his environment or diet so have no idea what's causing them! Poor little guy.
Snugglybean -You're temps and sensitivity to smells sound promising. Yay for not caving to the stick.
Emmy - sorry to hear your DH is not being supportive enough. My DH's is the same way (though he's supportive in other ares of my life, just not this one). I don't think it affects them the same way. Since they aren't the one to get pregnant, they don't seem to feel the loss as heavily as we do. They don't have that empty feeling after or that need to get PG again straight away. I just don't even talk to my DH about this stuff anymore as he thinks I'm being obsessive and ridiculous.
SPF - good luck with your U/S. As for the bridesmaids dress, that's a tough one. Why does she have to order the dresses so far in advance? None of the bridesmaids dresses I've ever worn were ordered more than a few months before the wedding. Definitely talk to her and see if she can wait a bit on ordering yours until closer to the wedding so you know how much extra room you need in front
eliselouise - yay to late ovulation! Hope you have a great weekend with your DB.
em... - boo to the BFN. What cycle day are you? Hope you get better news in a few days.
coco - I keep expecting you to post your BFP. Come on girl! Sounds like you had a nice week-end with DH. he sounds very sweet.
I can't believe it still no AF WTF! never am i this late what is going on with me i am now feeling like there definately some higher power that does not want us to have a baby we have not one once of good luck since the day we had abbi's first U/S and got the bad news everything that could go wrong has and all we want is a break just a little help so somthing will go our way i am so ready to through in the towel i am way over this whole process it has been the worst 7 months of my life.
Sorry for the emotional me post i have just had enough.
Thanks Twin Sister, scarypinkfairy, eliselouise85 and em!
Work yesterday didn't go very well. I broke down on several occassions. Very embarrassing one in front of a patient well she could see, another time in front of a work college. Then to top everything off I was bored and reading my scan results (I haven't done it before its all online at work) and found out my first scan that they didn't see my ectopic with said I was never pregnant and to ? patients story (meaning me) and in the conclusion it said maybe a BT should be done to confirm a pregnancy every occured. Gee thats after my refer said my BHCG was declining.
Then I read the next confirming the ectopic then the third it said I have 4 cysts in my uterus. That just topped it of for me. Why was I not told that earlier? Maybe the thats why the Dr was so keen to do a hysterscope. I just hate how I was treated like shiat from the moment I got pregnant last time and it still haunts me. Its not like the whole experience wasn't bad enough. Now I am wondering if Ill ever get pregnant again.
Twin sister I am happy to hear no spotting. I hope it stays that way and you get a strong BFP on Tuesday if you can wait that long.
Scarypinkfairy I hope the bleeding has stopped for you and your cycles return to normal. Mmm maybe tell your friend your plans and she should be able to accommodate your needs ie a dress with more give in it incase you have recently had your baby or are heavily pregnant. Or maybe you could just buy a bit of extra material where the dress could be made into a maternity dress or a panel down the side if need be.
snugglybean That sounds like a good test plan. Hope it shows a BFP for you.
For those who don't want AF which is almost everyone send her to me. I am now on CD32 and am in need of the witch before my surgery next week. I have 2days to get it or else I will be bleeding when I have my surgery how gross. Dr said he would do it anyway but gee I hope he wont have the extra mess. The 3 Drs that will be doing the surgery I work with them all. Maybe they will remember me as the one with AF lol
Ferrals you can join the club with me trying to steal AF of someone else. I really hope this wait is almost over for you. I have nothing to complain about in comparison
Emmy and Ferrals, you guys can have AF this month, keep her away from my house! I would be so appreciative if you could keep her away from me!!
Emmy - sorry work didn't go so well. That's so frustrating that they withheld information from you. I had a cyst on my very first U/S with DS and was told to have it checked with each subsequent U/S, but despite me asking repeatedly if it was still there I never got any answers. I agree, WTF?
Ferrals - ugh poor you, how annoying is that! When we desperately want her to stay away she shows up and when we desperately want her to come she is conveniently missing. Are you sure you were really safe during your fertile times?
This waiting is killing me. I'm obsessively checking in on BB to help pass the time.
Twinsis-yes we were safe and i have done 3 hpt's to be sure it is just another one of lifes cruel jokes to p#ss me off i think i have hit rock bottom hopfully the only way is up from here otherwise i don't know how i will cope i am a mess right now.
Suprised much? I had a temp spike today so what the hell is going on?!!! Hurry up already!!!!!!
Im sending my AF vibes to you Emmy & Ferrals....so Twinsis & myself can get our bfps!
I think we've waited long enough..DH's words still ringing in my ears from yesterday "I am realy upset...I really wanted it to be the month for your birthday & christmas...I need a hug" I felt for him so much and it took all my strength to not cry! I love him so much right now
I had thought for a long time that he didnt quite care every month, but he admited he does get upset and his way to deal is to ignore..hope that's the case for those having issues with their DH's.
Morning all, hope everyones weekends were nice and relaxing.
Ferals how annoying that AF still hasnt showed up, im keeping everything crossed for you that she does. I know what you mean about wanting to throw in the towel. Sometimes it just seems like it would be the easiest thing to do, but try and stick it out and like you said things have got to start looking up from here
Emmy sorry to hear work wasnt so good. That is so wrong of them to keep that information from you. Its your body and you have every right to know whats going on with it. It really makes you wonder how much drs dont tell us
Twinsis to spotting being a false alarm, hopefully you'll be posting a BFP very soon
SPF thats a tough one about the dresses. Its a very long time in advance to order them, anything could happen in that time. I would probably talk to your friend and explain the situation and ask if she could at least wait till the start of the new year. My sister is getting married in 3 weeks and we ordered our dresses back in may and i was 6 weeks pg. My sis knew and i should have been 7 mths pg at the wedding so we ordered it a bit bigger but going to have to pick it up this week and get mum to do alterations. Also good luck with the U/S hopefully they can give you some answers for the bleeding.
Snugbean your plan sounds good, keeping everything crossed for you that the BT may give you an answer. Be sure to pop in and let us know.
Coco any news yet??? Hanging out for your post
AFM used an OPK yesterday but still didnt really work, two lines on it but not quite the same in colour (not much difference but i dont think a positive) so anyway just hoping that DB's little swimmers got to my eggie at the right time and i suppose im officially in the TWW now too. Also my weight loss journey is off to a good start, have lost 2.4kgs since last monday so hopefully ill be able to get my 10kgs by xmas. Im already feeling better dont feel so wobbly when im walking
Anyway better go and get ready for work, talk soon
Last edited by eliselouise; November 11th, 2009 at 08:15 AM.
I think whoever is BB's server provider should be shot. So sick of having to retype EVERYTHING if i dont copy/paste...and I shouldnt even have to do that!
I was saying...
I have finally done our own vegie garden I planted..
Zucchini
Lebanese Eggplant
Chilli
Baby spinach
Rosemary
Tomatoes
Spring onions
and strawberries
Also we have seeds for brocoli and small watermelons. Need another garden bed because the one we have is a little crowded and Im thinking Ill have to transplant some of them when they're a little bigger. See how we go I guess..
Yeah I thought the temp spike was interesting too...I have no spotting or anything and not sure..Im due today or tomorrow or maybe wed...not sure of that either..*shrug* Thought about going to get a pregnancy blood test to see...but that's probably a little dramatic..Im sure the stupid thing is on it's way. Murphys law...
Trying to see it as a good thing (umm.is it ever once you're ttc??) because that way i will be able to drink on my birthday on sat and I definately wont have my thingies on our wedding anniversary as has been the case every year!
Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - November 2009
It felt so amazing 
Emmy, thats tough, and maybe your DH doesn't quite know how to handle the situation and thats his way of dealing with it??? but yeah it must be tough also having to be working in maternity.
for you
at your comment about the white pants and no emergency tampon, surely if anything was going to bring on AF that would be it. Hopefully she shows up very soon so you can have your BT and get your IVF journey started.
I felt for him so much and it took all my strength to not cry! I love him so much right now
to spotting being a false alarm, hopefully you'll be posting a BFP very soon
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