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Hi everyone,
Las - I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear of your loss. I hope you got through the birthday OK, it must have been really difficult to be cheerful with everything that's going through your head right now. I hope you are OK.
Bye Pash - not that you are probably reading this, but just in case you are, please take care of yourself and we will see you when you are ready to TTC. Even six months down the track, I could well still be here!!!
Welcome Beaksie - sorry you've had such bad luck with pregnancy. I hope your next bub is a very sticky one.
Lee - of course you can stay until you feel ready to move on to the pg threads. Things have settled down with my DF's family dramas thankfully.
Leyla - damn that witch for arriving.
Zionsmom - Thanks I am doing well today, everything familywise has finally calmed down.
Susan - I hope your wait over the next week is a nice quick one.
Two mums - sorry that it wasn't your lucky cycle but I wish you the best of luck for this one.
:)
Well even though I'm absolutely convinced there's no way of me being pregnant this cycle (due to time of BDing) my body is doing a very convincing job of trying to tell me otherwise once again. I slept 12 hours straight on Friday night. I've had headaches, felt crap on and off , almost threw up once, had indigestion and went to the loo heaps last night.... so much so that my mum asked me if I was pregnant. I broke out majorly yesteday. I've refused food that's been offered to me that I'd normally want but it has just not seemed at all appealing. I woke up with cramps this morning but they've gone now. I'm only 6DPO so it's way to early to have any real symptoms so it's all just ridiculous.... I wish my body would stop doing this to me.
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satya
im sorry to hear that your body does that to you its bad enough when we are pg never lone having it when your not thats just not fair.
well i got my af yesturday the first one after my d&c as i never had one straight after. and i am feeling really depressed it doesnt matter what i do or think the drepression i just can not hide.its like im in a trans. if any one could help me out on why this may be please do cos i have never had depression with an af before.
two mums sorry to hear the bad news hopfully you will have a good month this month fingers crossed.
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Susan,
Most of us in here get really really down when our AF arrives. It's like it makes it official that you are not pregnant. It happens even on cycles when you aren't trying or didn't think that you would be pregnant. You can just hit rock bottom instantly. I've been like that every cycle I've had since my m/c. That's one of the reasons I post in here. All the ladies in here understand the ups and downs of ttc after a m/c and that's something that those that have not been through it cannot understand.
It's all quite normal so don't worry about it, it generally lifts after your AF disappears and then you get excited about the thought of getting pregnant again in this cycle. Then if it doesn't happen and you start to feel your AF coming on you start heading down again - your mood tends to just follow your cycle like that. At the moment I'm in great spirits (even though I'm annoyed with my body right now) but give it another week and I'll probably be heading downwards again unless shock of all shocks I get a BFP (not very likely I'm afraid).
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satya
thankyou for that i have never been through this before so my body is all new to it. never normally am i depressed.excpecially when i have my af. i do try to keep my mind off it, but yesturday i broke down in tears and just cried for no reason at all. today my dp is going to take me to a pub poker tournament to try and help me get my mind off things so hopefull that works. then 2morrow im back at work which is good cos then i can keep myself busy.
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Britkane, I knew I wouldn't handle my last m/c as I barely held on after the one I had last year. I knew my emotional behaviour would have been erratic. M/c are traumatic events and I feel that there's only so far you can bounce back from them. Each time it's harder. This time I asked my GP for a prescription for antidepressants and I found they helped me as they have in the past. I'm no longer taking them, I feel okay.
Meditation helps, having friends to talk to helps. Bellybelly is where I've found the most support - I've spent so much time on here and I wish I could give back more. I'm trying to.
Britkane, if you need someone to chat to, my MSN address is accessible. Click on the little man under my join date, location and post details. Ok? *HUGS*
Just wanted to add that I think what Satya says is also really true. Our emotions follow our cycle. But if you're finding that you can't get back up again after AF has gone, then that's possibly a sign you might need a little extra help. Some people also find counselling works well for them, too. Thinking of you!
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kbowman
thankyou very much for that information. yes i agree with you there on getting support from belly belly it has helped me alot. i have also found out answers and information on alot of things which is good. i think it might just be a af thing as i was feeling fine up until yesturday. fingers crossed it goes away.
i have added you to my contact list on msn thankyou for that.
this is the first time i have m/c so i am all new to this but you guys have helped me heaps with it all more then what a dr could help me. its good sometimes to talk to ppl who have been through the same thing cos well all understand each other.
love susan
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Anyone heard from Bun? She is having her scan today.
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Hi guys,
Well I am happy to report that I had my scan this morning and all is well. We saw the little heart beating away, and all the measurements are right on target. I am so relieved it's over. I was terrified. I didn't sleep all night and was crying in the car on the way there. The nurses were soooo nice and supportive and told me everything is as good as it can be. Of course it is still very early days yet, but at least we are doing well so far. I have a little picture and can just work out the little head and body. It hasn't really sunk in yet.
Bek - thanks for checking in on me! I am about go over to PAML to post there too.
las - I am so very sorry to hear your news. You really don't deserve to go through this yet again. :hug:
Claire - have you had your scan yet?
Salt - how are you going? I hope your parents are well on the way to recovery.
pash - sorry to see you go sweetie, but I can understand it would be hard to hang around here if you have to wait to TTC again. Make sure you pop back and let us know your results, I will be thinking of you.
Hi to everyone else.
I think it is about time I left here, although I am certainly not out of the woods yet. I will always pop back to check on you guys and I wish you all the best. I am really hoping this is the sticky one for me. I even started packing for our holiday last night! Hopefully we will make it!
Thinking of you all,
Bun
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Hi everyone,
Well its a new month with a brand new internet allowance so I am back! LOL Sorry for the lack of personals last time I posted.
Susan - I hope you are feeling a bit better today - I don't have any words of wisdom to add, satya and Kerry gave you very good advice I think :)
satya - don't you hate it when your body does that to you? I hope things settle down for you soon! I'm a bit the same this cycle and I'm really just ignoring everything as best I can because I am absolutely convinced it won't happen for us this cycle
Two Mums - sorry you had no luck last cycle, but good luck for this one!
Leyla - dratted AF!!!! I hope you are feeling better today. Good on you for having another go though - I will have fingers, legs, everything crossed for you!!
Lisa - I am so sorry for your loss, but hoping against hope that maybe things might still be OK for you? I hope you managed to have a nice day for your DS's birthday
pash - I am so sorry again for what has happened, it is not fair! I hope you are keeping as well as can be expected and that you don't have to wait 6 months before TTC again :(
Beaksie - so sorry for your losses :(
Salt - I'm so sorry to hear that rotten AF arrived :( Damn! I hope you are feeling a little bit better today. That is great that your parents op went well, that must be a big relief to you too.
Bun - I hope you are doing OK? All the best for your scan :) I know everything will be fine!
Also, I know its very late, but happy birthday to Claire and Leyla!
Hi to everyone I've missed, hope you are all well
Well DH and I have given it our best shot for this month, now its in the lap of the gods so to speak LOL But I don't have a lot of hope really. I'm fully expecting to be starting the Clomid in about a week or so.
My DD decided to be of such a caring, sharing nature LOL that she gave me her flu - I have been sick as a dog since late last week with fever and aches and pains as well as snot everywhere!! At least I'm better today though :)
And of course the flu and the fever were on the critical days of the month for temping and BDing *rolls eyes* We managed to BD on 2 of the nights I was sick (barely!!) but I reckon I could have ovulated anywhere between day 11 and day 14, even though FF has given me a coverline for day 11. I guess it just does the best it can with the temps that it has? I had to take 2 days of temps out of FF and could probably take 1 day either side of those out as well because I think they are suspect - oh well though, what can you do? And of course the OPKs didn't work this month either! Although I may have stopped them a day or two early - I was just too sick to care.
So I think that between me being so sick and the supposed low progesterone that I'm in with little to no chance this month - I just can't see how you could get pg when you are as sick as I was. But I can't say that I'm mega bummed about it considering that we almost didn't try at all, so at least I won't be disappointed when AF shows up this month! And I think I'll also stop temping for the rest of the month too - I'm really over it and can't be bothered when it's probably a waste of time for this month anyway. I think I'll just chill and start again fresh next month.
ETA - Bun you must have posted at the same time as me - that is fantastic news! I'm so happy for you - you must be so relieved!
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hi there girls
well i think it was just the first few days of af that got me down feeling much more in control of my body today which is good.it feels good to be better now i just have to shake off this cold.
bun wow that is great news i am happy for you that everything went well.lets hope it sticks.
megsmum im sorry to hear you have the flu it is horrible.you never know what the gods might do they might decide that it is your turn this month fingers crossed.
well a hi to everyone else and i hope you all enjoyed your weekend i will be back on later to see whats happening.
love susan
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Just quickly to say "Great News Bun!" So happy for you sweetheart!!
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Hello everyone, just wanted to ask a question. I am in the last couple of days of TWW, with AF expected on Friday. How early can I do a pg test without it really being a waste of time? The pg test says on the packet I can test up to 5 days before an expected period? I was feeling fairly hopeful that this month might be the one for me but when I woke up this morning I saw a tiny spot of colour in CM which I think may be an indication that AF is on her way :cry:
I am not totally giving up hope just yet though and am thinking of testing on Thurs as that is the day I can ring through to get my BT results for CD21 from my gyno. I know the CD21 BT was to test the progestrone levels but I wonder if they would pick up if the HGC levels are higher than normal??
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britkane8 you have already been given some very good advice and from the sounds of it you are starting to feel a little more positive. I really do HATE the tww as I get my hopes up EVERY time, oh well, lets hope I get my coverline in the next couple of days.
Bun I am absolutely thrilled for you, and I am sure that this is going to be your sticky pgncy, keep packing and then go off and enjoy a wonderful holiday.
Lee stay on for as long as you feel you need to.
Salt how are you feeling hun, hope your parents are doing well with their recovery.
Two Mums damn AF better luck for this cycle.
megsmum sorry to hear that you have had the flu, and especially since it was around O time, I have to say that myself and Jordan have been very lucky to avoid the nasty colds going around my house.
kbowman glad to hear that AF finally arrived, she took her own sweet time!
hello to anyone i've missed.
Well I think I o'd yesterday, just have to wait and see what my temps do over the next couple of days, my pre-O temps have been scarily similar to my pg cycle back in Nov, hope that is a good sign. I am going to try not to obsess this cycle over every single little twinge etc, although I also said that last cycle and the one before that and I did exactly what I didn't want to do, oh, well. Don't know if I told you guys but my dh is a big softie and told my eldest ds that his g/f could move in with us until she finds a place of her own since she got kicked out of home (she is only 16), she was going to go and stay with some friends in Newtown and sleep in a cupboard!
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Hi everyone,
Congratulations on everything going so well at the scan Bun. Goodby and goodluck. I'm hoping to join you in PAML soon.
Megsmum It sucks when you are sick around O time. I was sick last cycle and my temps were all over the place... it made it impossible to tell what was going on and it gave me symptoms that made me think I was pg.... ha ha nothing unusual for me... but gave me some new symptoms is what I mean like sensitivity to smell. It sounds like you and I are pretty much thinking the same this cycle - that it's very unlikely that we could be pg. Who knows we could just be wrong.
Susan I'm glad you are starting to feel a little better. Just take it one day at a time there will be good days and then the odd bad one, followed by more good days.
Timnik When they do the CD21 test they don't test for HCG so a pregnancy will not show up in your results. When I got my test results I was half convinced I was pregnant as I had really high estrogen levels but I wasn't pg at all. That was just a little warning not to read anything in to your results. My GP also told me my estrogen was too high and my progesterone was too low but my specialist said it wasn't anything to worry about. I hope the results come back completely normal so you wont worry about them.
Sharon I wish you the best of luck with your tww this time around. I too say I'm not going to stress about "symptoms" and then find I can't help myself. In week 3 I've had a few symptoms but as per usual they've died down again so I'm now thinking that they must actually be my post O symptoms.
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Well it's CD24 for me & I'm 8DPO if fertility friend is correct. My chart is a really weird one this cycle - big jump after O and after staying up for a couple of days it has gradually gone back down to about 1/2 a degree above my coverline. I've not had this happen before so I have no idea what that means. I usually go up and down a little until I get a huge drop & then get AF a day or two later. I've been getting slight cramping for a couple of days on and off, my skin broke out for the second time this cycle (it usually does at O and when I get AF) and it's worse than it normally is. I was also extremely emotional last night - cried driving home from work and I have no idea why and had a couple of moments whilst at home. As these are all pre AF symptoms for me it means absolutely nothing. I got pinkish discharge after BDing last night so I'm convinced AF is on her way a little early again. CM is clear again this morning though so maybe not. Can't wait til tomorrow morning to see what my temp does.
Apologies to anyone I've missed.
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Hi everyone,
So much to catch up on!! Bun I'm SO so SO happy for you and glad you're making the move to the pregnancy forum and have a more positive frame of mind about it all :)
satya, you're 4 days ahead of me -- when do you plan on testing (if at all)? I am determined this month not to test as early as last month (8DPO lol).
sharon, that's SO good of your DH. Hope having one new person in the house is a smooth transition and things get sorted out for them soon. I can't believe anyone would kick their own kid out of the house at 16!!
Hi britkane8 - nice to "meet" you and hope your stay in this forum is short and we all move to pregnancy after m/c soon!!
las, hope you're hanging in there OK. Have been thinking of you. How did the birthday go?
kbowman, so glad your AF came and you're able to move onto a new phase :)
Hi to everyone else -- been trying to catch up on all the messages.
I had a wonderful relaxing long weekend away after a bit of a stressful week (the random bleeding). Not sure if that counts me out this cycle or not. I rang up a nurse and she didn't think it happening once was much to worry about, even if unusual. She asked if I was on contraception and I said no, and then she said the fateful words "Well you might be pregnant and it could be implantation bleeding. Maybe you should take a pregnancy test in a week or two." I held back saying I thought it was impossible to have that so early in my cycle since I'm monitoring my temps etc. So... the weekend was even more needed than ever!
I'm now 4DPO according to FF but really cautious about this cycle so who knows!
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Hello! Kiwigirl, that's a very interesting chart you've got there! Intriguing. Hope there's a BFP at the end of it!
Congratulations on the EXCELLENT scan, Bun :dance: Hope a few of us will be following you into PAML within the next month of so - it's lovely to have a forward scout!
Glad you're feeling a bit brighter, Britkane, there will be a light at the end of the tunnel for us all. It was good to chat with you on MSN :D Hope you had cleaned up at the poker tournament!
Thanks everyone for your congrats on AF arriving, lol. Be one of the few times when I've ever been sooooooo excited about AF coming :cryinglaugh: Looks like she's on the way out already though- wouldn't that be nice! and then I can start chasing my DP properly! I'm at his place at the moment so not at my computer but his (takes me a while to get used to his Mac system) so I'll try to catch up on personals properly once I'm back at my desk.
Big *WAVES* to everyone - I will be back again properly in a few days xoxo
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Hi girls
Pash, I'm so sorry to see you go :cry:. I hope to see you in here again soon, I'm just so sorry.
And Las, my heart goes out to you too. It really isn't fair. We're all here for you when you need us.
Lee, hope things are still going well for you! It's not too long now until your 12 week scan and I'm sure it'll be a happy one.
Bun - hurrah!!!!!! That is fabulous news, yay! i hope you and DH have a fab holiday, you deserve it!
Sorry to all the girls who have had AF turned up or have found out they're not pg. I just wish you all the best for some happy news soon. Try to hang in there, although that's easier said than done.
I had my 8 week scan yesterday and all was good, bubs was even measuring 4 days ahead! the relief was huge, although of course i'm still worried. we were told that our chance of m/c is now 2%... but we were told that last time so i'm not sure how i feel about that.
I had a big chat to my obs about miscarriage and how i really don't think anyone expects to feel the anxiety and worry like this when they first decide to ttc. he was fabulous, really worth his weight in gold. he reassured me as best he could and really seemed to understand what i was going through. i left his office feeling much lighter. i know i'll be okay, come what may.
I gotta go, not well today and home sick.Sorry for the lack of personals but will be back later.
x claire
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hi girls
kbowman yes it was nice chatting with you on msn.i am feeling much better now think it was just a af thing.but its good cos now i know i have a proper cycle again.
kiwigirl thankyou and i hope everything settles down for you and who knows maybe you might hear some good news.i had spotting for about 2 months with my first and i didnt find out i was pregnant till a few weeks after it stops so could be possible maybe get a blood test done.
sharon thats good to hear and good luck for the next 2 weeks hope you hear some good news at the end of it.
satya the body is a weird thing you never know what it is going to do.thats all im doing taking it day by day thats what my mum said i can only do.but it seems to doing well at the moment havent had any bad days since saturday.
timnik77 just wait till you are ment to get your af and if you havent got it by a few days after then do one you can get a blood test done and that would show if you were or not.
hello to everyone else hope all is well
love susan
