TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ July 07 #2

Hi everyone,

New in here (well, sort of... i used to be "hope2006" a few years ago...decided i needed a new name since it is not 2006 anymore and life had changed a bit). Is it okay for me to join in?

Just m/c last week which really sucks as we had tried constantly for 9 months to fall preg, then we did, then we lost it. About 5.5 weeks my doc reckons. Sigh. Trying hard not to be too upset though.. can't wait to get back on the TTC band-wagon once this m/c is over (have chosen to m/c naturally - i had a d & c with previous m/c and hope i don't need one this time).

Satya - so wonderful to read of your BFP!!! Yaay... Sticky vibes sticky vibes.

Good luck to everyone TTC and i hope we all get lucky soon!

CONGRATULATIONS Satya!!!!!! :dance::dance::dance: Great news!! I am sending you lots and lots of :stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl:

Thats wonderful news hun...im so happy for you. Im praying that i follow in your footsteps.

hugs
treelo

Good luck Treelo... i hope you get a BFP soon!

littlescottishboy - Im so sorry to hear of your loss. I had my second m/c 3 weeks ago. I m/c naturally and nothing was left, so i didnt need a d & c, which i had with my first m/c.
You are so very welcome here, everyone is so lovely. I hope your stay is very short and you get a BFP very soon.

Thank you for you thoughts, im praying but not very hopeful since dh has chicken pox.

Lizjessie - Im sending lots of positive thoughts your way, big hugs too.

Pash - Thank you for you kind words, I really enjoy being involved in the boys sports, DH is also the coach. Mind you..... they tend to miss out a lot of stuff when they con you into being manager. But its all good, i love sharing all their triumphs. And Cooper's first try will be etched in my memory for ever.

Everyone that i missed.....hugs to you all.
treelo

Congratulations Satya - what wonderful news!!!

Satya!!! What wonderful news. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that that line gets nice and dark very soon. So very happy for you honey... all the best!

Hi everyone, I'm sorry but I don't really have time for personals. Got to get dressed to go to the doctors. Yes I am going for a BT. I got a darker BFP this morning so I think it's time for the BT. The clinic I go to always takes a couple of days to get the results back so I wont know for a few days which will be really hard. The last time I was pg by the time I got around to getting a BT I was in the middle of m/c.... I'm not going to make that mistake this time. My temp also went up today, my BBs are tender & there's still no spotting so it's all looking good.

Welcome littlescottishboy - I am sorry for your loss. Your situation sounds similar to mine. It took us 9 months to get pregnant with the last pregnancy only to lose it at 5 weeks 4 days. It's taken 5 cyles to get a positive HPT this time, so at least this time it's been a bit quicker (although it seems like forever). My very first pg took 3 years to achieve so it seems that at least for me it can happen quicker each time.

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Thank you to everyone for your support and very kind wishes and thoughts. The support I've got on this thread has been absolutely amazing. If all goes well with this one we are not intending to annouce it for ages so it's great to have all my BB friends to be able to discuss it with.

OK now, who is going to be the next BFP? I know there's one lurking somewhere here.... there always is..... actually it's usually in threes.

Satya - I'm stalking you girl lol !! Brilliant news about the darker line!! And teriffic symptoms. I just know you are going to get a gorgeous bub out of all this!!

Good luck with the BT and waiting, waiting, waiting :rolleyes: .......... for the results. I've got my first scan tomorrow - anxious and excited, will report in afterwards.

Lee xo

satya - good luck! :goodluck:! You say who's next, I'm really hoping it will be me, but then again, there are other ladies who probably deserve it more than me
You HAVE to let us know when the results come in.. I'm still so happy for you! :happyforyou:

Hi everyone,
I just got out of hospital. Two days ago I was watching TV when suddenly (as in leaving a trail of blood all the way to the bathroom) I began losing a LOT of blood and having cramps. DH called an ambulance and I was raced in. Lost soo much blood and massive clots (6 the size of my fist). Had lots of tests and finally found out that a) I wasn't pregnant and it wasn't a new miscarriage b) There was a 2.2cm piece left from the last D&C in April (!!!!!) which my body was trying to desperately pass (so in some sense, it *was* a miscarriage...). So I had to face my biggest fear: having another D&C (after the last one went so badly and I could have died, lost 2.5L of blood). I was so scared this morning but everything went smoothly and I'm home again now.

I am relieved it wasn't a second miscarriage (if you know what I mean), it makes sense now why I have had weird bleeding and cycles since April and I am relieved that is the reason I haven't got pregnant again yet. Thankfully I don't need a blood transfusion but am now anaemic so have iron pills again.

Everyone was really really supportive, given my very real fears, and they think that I will be in great shape to get pregnant again after I get my period back.

I am hoping to re-join this thread in a month's time, and that this nightmare is all behind me now. I will probably go in the "waiting for a/f" thread to stay sane but keep an eye on things here.

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CONGRATS satya, I am so happy for you.

Hi everyone,
Sorry it has taken so long to get back, have been having trouble getting in (am on dial up at the moment :( ).

Kaz - so sorry you are just coming off AF again, and having a partner away makes it incredibly hard to ttc, it's hard enough as it is :(

Dawnee - so sorry to see you hear. Hope you don't need to be here long. Did you go back to work afterall?

Satya - Congratulations :dance: So very happy and thrilled for you!!! Look after yourself and wishing you a very healthy pregnancy!

Treelo - Congrats to your little guy, a try and a conversion, what a champ!!

Kiwigirl - I think last time I was here, you were still waiting for AF and now you are going through this :( I'm so sorry hun, what a terrible time for you and DH. Hope you are recovering as well as possible, look after yourself.

Pash - They found the empty sac at an early 6 week scan (my HCG levels had been very erratic so they scanned earlier than the usual 7 weeks). It was only measuring about 3mm. The risk of D&C was that it was very small and could miss it, which would mean a repeat D&C, so suggested the Methotrexate instead (apparently a lot of IVF clinics are using it as first form of 'medical abortion' (I hate that term..) for early pregnancy loss and ectopic). I only had the 1 injection and about 5 days later, the loss started. I heard some pretty horrid stories of it taking weeks to months for some woman :( the bleeding finally eased, then started again a few days lighter, they seem to think is was AF though. Yes, my FS is also a gyno, he's been watching me very carefully, he's a wonderful man. My BT today showed HCG of 0, so looks like all is ok. I'm so sorry you need the Methotrexate also. the chemo nurse told me that the dosages required for pg don't have the same side effects ( I too was worried about vomiting and hair loss!) and she was right. I had a little pain in my backside where the injection went in and that was it. Will be checking in reguarly to see how you go with it. Lots of *hugs* to you...

Junebug - I am so terribly sorry for your loss and so sorry for your precious baby. I'd say you have every right to be feeling how you are, I'd be worried if you didn't.

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I read a book that says when our fear of not being able to hold a baby in our arms overcomes the fear of losing another one, that's when we know we are ready to ttc.

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I love that, it's perfect. I've been so miserable over my latest loss, then all of a sudden, the past 2 days I've just wanted to cycle again and people think I'm crazy and not taken the time to grieve, so that makes a lot of sense to me. Can you remember what that book was? I think you are an amazingly strong person! Wishing you all the very best for your next cycle.

LizJessie - so sorry your test was a BFN :(

littlescottishboy - sorry to see you here too. So sorry for your loss. Wishing you all the best for your next cycle.

Sorry to anyone I missed, trying desperately to catch up on everyone.

I had my final BT this morning and readings came back at 0, so very relieved. Also, there was a bit of a mix up, when the FN consulted with RWH as to how long to wait until next cycle, they thought I'd had 2 injections and said to wait 3 months, FS said this morning they'd gotten confused, and since I only had the 1 injection, I just have to wait for 1 spontaneous period and we are ok to go again, so relieved that I can go back when I'm ready.

Hope to be back in a little more reguarly.

Hugs to everyone,

kiwigirl - good luck with everything there - I'll probably still be in the Waiting For AF thread by the time you come back ;)

*las* - I'm all good with it - I wasn't expecting anything to be totally honest, I was expecting it to be a BFN - although I'm feeling sick still and have had numerous headaches.

Kiwigirl - oh my goodness! You poor thing. What a horrendous ordeal to have to go through. I think you deserve a massively big huge ginormous box of chocs after having to go through all that. I hope things settle down for you and that you can rest and look after yourself for a little while.

Hi girls

Wow, i've been away for a while and there's so much news here. i wish it was all happy, but i'll start off with the not so happy stuff...

Pash, I am so sorry for what you've been through, i can't believe you're still having to search for answers and i hope your doctors find them very, very soon. There aren't really words to say what i want to, but please know i am thinking of you and praying your luck turns around soon.

Kiwigirl, i got such a shock to read your post. In retrospect it makes sense (everything does i suppose) with the bleeding you had a while back and the spotting and cramping this cycle. But still, what a shock. I'm glad it wasn't another m/c too, and have my fingers crossed you will have some successful TTC'ing soon.

Las, so sorry to read about your news too, be kind to yourself.

Junebug, i was really sad reading your story. it's not fair to lose a baby and i just don't know how anyone can be expected to deal with it. i take my hat off to you and Lee - you're both amazing women who deserve only the best in life.

To Satya, Leyla and Shoegal - hurrah!!!!! Good luck with your pregnancies. I read something the other day that said 'trust your dreams more than your fears' and that's really helped me get through mine. Looking forward to reading your news over the next few months.

Whoever said the BFPs are coming in threes was right. I hope August brings lots of BFPs for you wonderful women.

Take care,
Claire

Lee - good luck with the scan today.

Liz Jessie - everyone in here deserves a BFP, and trust me there will be more very soon - I've been here for a while (5 cycles) and I keep noticing they happen in threes.

Kiwigirl - what a horrible experience. At least now you will have had a really good clean out which will leave plenty of space for a new pregnancy to implant. Take care.

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I will have my BT results at lunchtime today so will be back on in about 6 hours to post whatever the result in for those of you who are interested. The GP marked the test urgent without me having to ask for it which was very nice of her. I'm very nervous of the result as last time I was already in the midst of a m/c before I'd even got to the doctor for a BT. I'm wishing for a nice big number today.

This is all very new to me so I hope I'm in the right place. I had a m/c in Jan this year and was delighted to find out that I was pregnant again 3 months later. We told everybody this time as everything seemed to be going so well. I was feeling nauseus and there was a heartbeat at 6 weeks. When we went in for the 12 week scan, it showed that the baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks. It was very dissappointing but we are waiting fro the ok to try again. It is a missed m/c and my ob wants to wait just a couple more weeks to see if it will misscarry naturally so as to avoid a d&c. Was anyone else advised to wait?

Look forward to hearing from someone, and please let me know if I'm in the wrong place.

Cheers,

Ems

ems - I wasn't advised to wait, then again, I didn't have a missed m/c - I had a natural one before I even knew it. I'm so sorry to hear the news

satya - August is looking good for the 'all things come in threes' if your blood test comes back with a nice :bfp: