TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ July 07 #2

I'm thinking if I've not seen AF on Monday, I'll be testing again, but I'm expecting a :bfn:

Good luck, LizJessie!! Hope AF stays away for you.

Ovulation has been known to happen (albeit rarely) during AF! Zionsmum, I hope your cycle sorts itself out soon. It's frustrating not knowing. I thought I was going a bit mad in the first never-ending cycle after my D&C with three patches of ewcm but in the end it was the OPKs that told the story with a positive in the final patch of ewcm. I knew then how far AF would probably be! Good luck, honey!!!! Are you using OPKs? What are your temperatures like?

Penny, I use Lullaby Conceptions OPKs (best value when you buy in bulk and so I don't feel terribly guilty starting to test early or even testing twice a day when I'm getting ewcm and I think LC is a great Aussie company) and the Ovunow OPKs (a lovely BB friend mailed me hers after she fell pregnant) which are also an internet brand are also good. Buying online really is the best way to go, the chemist and supermarket ones are too expensive and some aren't even reliable! An invite to Berlin, ooohhh can I come too???? :lol: As for maybe missing a cycle, if you do, you could look at like you're giving your body extra repair time. I'd be voting to have some fun (that will be the mental health repair time!). HTH :D

I'm so sorry, Twomums about your father. I hope you are holding up okay. What an awful thing to happen. Sending you lots and lots of hugs. Also sending you and Kim lots and lots of sticky vibes for Monday's iui and wishing you the best of luck with this cycle.

Satya, good luck for Monday's BT. Congrats on the confirmation of your pg!! May those hCG levels keep going up, up, up. :pray:

I'm hoping that I'll be ovulating on Monday, 'cause I'm seeing DP tomorrow! Woohoo. :dance:

Im so sad :( . My brother just rang me and told me that we couldnt come to my nephew and godsons birthday party tomorrow because of DH chickenpox. DH wasnt coming but since cooper and lawson have never had it, then they may have it and we just dont know yet.
His wifes sister in law is 12 weeks pregnant (she only told them today). This is her 11 pregnancy which means she has had 10 m/c. My god how does one cope with 10 m/c ?? Reaching 12 weeks is a real milestone for her, she has never gotton this far. Needless to say, i would feel horrible if my boys had chicken pox and then threatened her pregnancy or baby. I totally understand that i cannot take the boys anywhere near the party, but im still sad. Maybe its a for the best anyway, i would have been 12 weeks on monday....i guess i dont need to be reminded that my angel isnt here. I feel selfish for being sad. And im angry at myself for being envious of her...after all that she has been through, i have no right to feel anything like that towards her.

sorry, just needed to vent
hugs
treelo

Thanks kbowman :) I've thought that from now (it's been 5 weeks since m/c) until I get AF, I'll be testing every monday, seeing that's when I get paid

treelo - I don't think it's selfish at all!I can understand the sadness, I get sad every time I talk to my best mate of 16 years, she had a child without even trying!

Treelo - i think it's perfectly natural to feel the way you do. I would, too! I think it's important to acknowledge all feelings and don't be hard on yourself for feeling a particular way. I think it shows how much love you have inside you, ready to give a precious little one who i know is just waiting in the wings for the right time to plant in mummy's tummy! :)

Penny - have you decided whether to go to Berlin or not? How exciting to even be offered something so wild and fun! If you go, i'm sure you'd have a great time (and if you don't go, i'm sure your son will still give you lots of love and cuddles to make you feel glad to be home).

As for me, the m/c looks like it is finally 'resolved' and over (just light spotting now, like the end of a normal AF, but i will never forget what it was like for the rest of it!). I am hoping my u/sound on Wednesday shows that all of it has come out...then the next stage will be trying to work out if there is any sort of pattern to my cycle anymore! (seems like lots of us are in that situation). Back to temping again....makes me feel like the last 10 months of taking ym temps has been futile and won't even make a difference anymore as my cycle is probably all stuffed up now. :(

Hi to everyone else.
Good luck to everyone in whatever stage of your cycle you are at.

Off to cook at baked dinner now for DH (he is so lucky and spoilt - i am off to stay at my mum's for a few nights.. i felt guilty leaving him with no meals cooked... it would be nice if he cooked me a roast occasionally! in fact, if he cooked anything just to give me a rest!!!)

See ya gals.

PS - Zionsmum - are you thinking of doing your temps? I am in the same position as you, wondering what the hoohaa is happening with my cycle too... but i have heard that temping is the most reliable way to know if you are ovulating (there si a grat website called Fertility Friend that does the charting for you; all you do is put in your temps and it does the rest).

Hi ladies. I'm so worried that everything is about to go wrong. I had a couple of spots of blood about 4 hours ago but nothing since. I know spotting and bleeding can happen during pregnancy and not be a problem but with my history I can't help but feel that it's a bad sign. I'm not seeing my doctor until Tuesday and don't know if there's any point in trying to see her tomorrow as I'm sure she'll just say to wait to see what tomorrow's BT shows.

satya - It might have just been implantation bleeding *shrugs* I'm preying for you darl :)

littlescottishboy - have a nice time at your mums place :)

Satya im thinking of you and praying that this little one sticks.

hugs
treelo

littlescottishboy- I have thought about temps but every morning when I get up I get lazy. I should keep a thermometer near my bed. :) I am sort of at the stage of giving up for now which is ridiculous we have only tried for 1 month since my mc. I think I will temp, i will keep ya posted. :)

Satya- Please try not to stress too much, I am sure your bub is snuggled in there nice and warm getting used to his/her new home. :)

Satya - fingers crossed for you hun. Please try not to stress... praying for a sticky bub for you. I am sure everything is just fine... i had implantation bleeding with Angus early on in the pregnancy too.

Zionsmum - i have a thermometer on my bedside table... that's the only way i can do it cos i am lazy too! Also, you have to do it first thing in the morning before you get up,cos your body temp changes as soon as you start moving around etc. I reckon it's the best way to go to know it you are ovulating or not. I am just having a rest from temping for this month cos it does get a bit tedious!

LizJessie - thanks! Mum's place is a nice change cos she does all the cooking etc! Meant to ask, have you got an engagement ring yet? (if yes, did you help choose it or was it a surprise?).

Ok off to bed now and chat to you all in a few days when i am back from Mum's. Take care guys and looking forward to reading all your news when i get back..

Hi girls,
New to this site, but looking for hope..
I have just lost 2 little girls and 21 weeks on the 28th july, I am really wishing to be pregnant again and just looking for support and hope from girls that want the same..
I know its really quick afterwards, but seeing my girls makes be more sure that me and my DH have so much love to give a little one.
How long has everyone here been trying?
Laura xxx

littlescottishboy - I've got the ring already :) It was a total surprise!It's actually his grandmothers engagement ring that was past onto my DF when she died - so I'm looking after it very well!

Laui - welcome to BB - this place is full of amazing women that are always happy to talk to people

Firstly congratulations Shoegal and Satya sending you lots of sticky vibes.

So sorry that I haven't posting for the last 2-3 weeks weeks but I just get so fed up everytime AF turns up, I am now into my 6th cycle since my m/c and I am just really feeling that it will never happen, all my previous Belly Buddies (except Salt) have managed to get pregnant and move on and I am still stuck here forever hopeful.

Now that is off my chest, maybe I can move forward, the good thing at the moment is that I got my first ever "real" +ve OPK today I say that because I normally only ever get a line that is nearly as dark as the control line, but today's line was darker than the control line, had a fair amount of EWCM too which doesn't normally happen, so I managed to get a BD in tonight, the first time since last sunday as DH has had a really bad infected tooth and was in severe pain and definitely not up to BD'ing.

Sorry this post has been about me, hope to try and post and do more personals later.

Hi everyone,

Gosh there have been so many posts here since I posted last I don't know where to start! LOL

Satya - big congratulations to you! :D That is wonderful news for you. I hope and pray that the spotting is nothing :crossfingers: Big hugs from me and good luck for your BT

Sharon - that's great about the pos OPK! I know how you feel about them not working, I have only had them work 2 months out of 7! And even this month when ovulation was confirmed by a CD21 progesterone test they still didn't work!!! Good luck for this month!

LizJessie - congratulations on your engagement! All the best for your next test.

Laui59 - hi and welcome! I have found the support here to be just great, you are in the right place :)

littlescottishboy - I hope your cycle sorts itself out really soon and gets back to normal so you can start TTC again

zionsmom - I hope your AF shows up soon. Its awful when you can't work out what is going on isn't it? I'm a bit of a control freak LOL so I can't stand not knowing what is happening

TwoMums - I am so very sorry about your father :( It is just awful when a relative dies suddenly like that

treelo - I hope the chicken pox goes away for you really soon. I understand how you feel, I know so many people who are pg now and it has been very difficult coping with all of their good news, even though I am happy for them KWIM?

Kerry - good luck for this month! Hope you had a nice time with your DP yesterday ;)

las - hi, I hope you are going OK now. I am so very sorry for your loss.I hope AF arrives for you soon.

Pash - I am so sorry you have had to go through this all. I hope everything works out for you really soon. Big hugs.

Kiwigirl - what an awful thing to happen! I hope you are well again now and that AF shows up soon.

Hi to everyone else that I have missed, I hope you are all well.

Well I am on CD28 today of my first cycle of Clomid (50mg). I have had some horrible side effects from it in the first 2 weeks of this cycle, nausea and quite bad depression :( I had a CD21 progesterone done early last week and it had risen from 14.8 on a natural cycle to 50.9 - woohoo! My ob was really happy with that - a "very good ovulation" in his words LOL

But things have been sooo different this cycle post ovulation. My temps have been very stable since I Oed, and I have had quite sore boobies and quite a bit more CM than usual for this part of my cycle. Anyway, I gave in to temptation last Thursday (10 DPO) and did a HPT. I went away for the 5 minutes and came back and nearly died - it was a BFP!! And it was not even a faint one - I could hold it away from me and still see it easily. So I did another one using a different brand and that came up pos too. So it looks like trying to relax about things (not to mention the Clomid!) may have worked!

I am 14 DPO today and needless to say I am still a bit shocked. I would have posted earlier but I was worried about jinxing myself! It is early days yet and I am still worried that something will go wrong. I re-tested today and the line is darker though, so I am taking that as a good sign. And I still have really sore boobies, I need to go to the toilet more often and I'm quite tired. I have no idea when I should have expected AF because it was my first cycle on Clomid, so I think I'll wait until the end of the week and take myself off to the GP then I guess. I must admit though that I am still pretty stressed about it all and worried that AF will still show up late :(

It's going to be a long week, and I have to say that the testing early has not really helped LOL its just given me a few extra days to worry about what can go wrong! Oh well, that's what I get for being impatient and not waiting!

congratulations on your BFP! sending you loads of sticky vibes.

OMG, Megsmum!!!! Congratulations on your BFP :dance: I nearly missed your post because I was just about to hit submit on mine after previewing it. That's just such exciting news and I'm thrilled for you! I'd be off to the GP tomorrow, I'd be too excited to wait until the end of the week to start monitoring hCG and progesterone levels!

Satya, I know how stressed you must be feeling right now. Do you have any meditations you can do, or that sort of thing? Everyone here will be sending you lots of stickyvibes and hoping with you that everything is okay and it's just your little one snuggling in and implanting strongly. :pray:

Welcome Laura. I'm in my second cycle of TTC since my D&C at the beginning of May. This is my second tour of duty in the TTCAML thread as I also had an early m/c last October. Fingers crossed for you, that your visit here is short and sweet.

Sharon, it's good to see you back and I'm delighted for you that you've got your first irrefutable dark dark dark positive OPK. A good omen. I have my fingers crossed for you and me. Looks like we're cycle buddies, or pretty close to it. I had a nearly positive OPK yesterday and I'm sure I'll have one today. I'll report back this evening! Hoping that last night and this morning's BD action catches the egg.

LizJessie, how did you go this morning? Did you test again?

Good luck for Wednesday's ultrasound, littlescottishboy. Hope it's all good news. *hugs*

Okay - I better run! Be back later to catch up though.

Hi girls

I didn't make it through the weekend without AF showing up, witch! So feeling really low and ready to give up hope. This was the third cycle of clomid for me and we since discovered that DH also has issues (double whammy) so back to the gyno on Thurs probably for a referral to a fertility clinic. I am guessing it will take a month or two to be able to get an appointment as well. So I am going to forget about it all for a while and have a break from it all including BB. I will check in from time to time but for now don't really want to be reminded of anything even remotely baby related. Good luck everyone, sorry for the depressing post.