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LizJessie, I just had a look at your chart. It looks like you're either having ovulation spotting or implantation spotting. Fingers crossed for you, honey!!
Satya, just read your other thread. And it sounds like your life would be a thousand per cent better off without him. Good luck.
Satya- DP's SIL has BP disorder too. We certainly know how destructive that can be to a family unit. Am here for support if you need it.
Satya:Ohhh Dear! you are in a really dificult situation.......I have been there many years ago with my first husband (The Father of my first two girls) I was very young (still at school) when I met him and he was mid 20's....he treated me like dirt over the years,was abusive,mood swings and unfaithful....??? well I reckon he wrote the books on it! I tried so hard and wanted to believe he would change he cut me off from Family,friends,I wasn't allowed a phone to learn to drive "nothing" but only I could make the decision to get away and considering my life was in danger and I was scared of him and his threats it was hard! He stalked me for years,tried to use the girls to keep a hold over me until I disappeared and that was 14 years ago!
But what I wanted to point out to you was the deciding factor for me was the Girls....I read that girls often Marry a version of their Father (I know I did) and I just couldn't bare them thinking that this was what they had to expect from a relationship! and then going on to end up in one just like it.....Even though you haven't had a Baby yet you need to seriously think about later on the influence and examples you want for that Child? even though my ex seemingly loved the girls and was never abusive to them they just became pawns,and when it comes down to it we will protect them no matter what,or at least we should.
On a happy note My husband is a Mr Brady off the brady Bunch hahaha white picket fence an all the girls love him and have called him Dad for years....the girls are very strong willed individuals that work and go to Uni and my eldest is heading towards the Police Service (bet she locks my ex up one day haha) and the second eldest is heading towards Television Camera work.....I hope you have a lot of support satya and if you do... use it! but I will say when that trust is destroyed absolutely nothing brings it back!
Sorry for the thread hijack ladies.....:) I am thinking of you Satya if I were you I'd be off White water rafting....Oh wait I am!!!! hahaha! -x-
Oh and maybe I shouldn't use the Mr Brady off the Brady bunch as an example....I meant because he was such the perfect functional Family man(just like my doting Hubby)...NOT that in real life he was a closet Homosexual hahahaha!
Satya-- I’m so sorry you’re going through all this, but I’m glad you are being honest with yourself and thinking through all the angles sooner rather than later. Hang in there. You're in our thoughts!
hello!
firstly satya, i have read your other thread, it really sounds like you have made the right decision regarding your (soon to be ex?) partner.
you are not alone, we are all here to support you and even if now you are not ttc, we still want to talk to you and make sure you are ok:hug:
I know its hard but this can be the beginning of a great new chapter in your life, you deserve the best girl, go find it! try to stay positive, like i said, easy for me to say and harder to do, but you are better off without him and the added crap and stress attatched.
dawnee- i hope you have a fantastic time white water rafting, that really sounds like heaps of fun!!:dance: and the perfect remedy.
lsb- so happy that angus is getting better, that must have been horrid to have to watch your little boy go through that.
kbowman- hope date night goes well tomorrow night, just curious and none of my business really but i will ask anyway, do you work out your o time and try to schedule a date night around that?
Treelo- how are you? are all the pox gone yet?? can you be released from the straight jacket soon?;) i hope everyone in your family is well again and happy.
beaksie- I saw you in the tww, (just snoopin..) fingers crossed and for you too lj.
abig :hello: to charlie, wowzer,jayney and everyone i have missed.
I am soooo bored right now, have been for a walk but i am in pain! seriously considering taking some strong pain killers for these cramps, af has finally visited after teasing for a few days, and its killing me! I never have pain like this.:rolleyes:
oh well, i am just happy that it has come, even though i was half hoping i might have been one of the really fertile ones after a d&C and well........:redface:
there is alwways next month!!;) (trying to be positive!)
wishing you all lots of :bluedust: for this cycle.
xxx
kbowman - :crossfingers: I'm also keeping my fingers crossed for you too! I love the look of your chart.. I feel like I shouldn't be spotting though, because I've got another 4/5 days until AF is due.. IF AF doesn't arrive for me by my due date, do you think I should test?
yes lj, test,test.........
Hi everyone. Just a quick drop in. I got the locks changed today. He will come by over the weekend to get the rest of his stuff and for me to say goodbye to his daughter. That's going to be hard. I think he still thinks things might be able to be retrieved but they just can't. I've had more confirmation today that he was seen with the woman I suspected he'd been with on 3 different occasions recently. He can say all he likes it was a friendship but I don't care - it was all done behind my back. I am done. I deserve better.
You most certainly do Satya, all the very best for your future hun.
SG
xo
Big hugs for you satya. You're absolutely right that you deserve better, and I am so glad to know that you are standing up for that and having the guts to do what's going to promise you a happier and healthier future. I know that it will be hard at times, but we're all here for you anytime you need a talk, a cry, a whinge, anything. Spoil yourself silly. Time to look after number one!
Lots of hugs and chocolate, Lisa xx
The hardest thing about this is that I will probably not get another chance at having a child. I am 41 already. By the time I get over this, date for a while then fall in love again & get far enough along into a relationship to discuss children I will be way too old.
Satya-- It sounds like you've had to make a lot of very tough decisions. I'm very glad you're thinking of yourself. You deserve to be loved and treated with respect, and if that isn't happening...
Might you consider raising a child on your own? If having a child is still really important to you, perhaps you could use a donor. Just a thought. I'm sure you have enough on your mind at the moment without complicating things any further.
Satya- How hard a desision. I think you are a brave woman to set having a child aside and doing what you know is right. You deserve the best. And accepting him doing things in secret would have been a pandora's box. There is no reason nor excuse for him even having a friendship in secret. All that is good and innocent is fine to have broadcast on the Front page of the newspaper. So it is no excuse on his part. About the baby bit. I am so sorry. fortunately, or unfortunately we don't know the future. I hope you still will have the chance but if not it is still better than a life tied to someone who doesn't treasure you. I am sure that someone will see you are worth being respected, treasured and adored. We all see that in you.
satya - my hats off to you! Your a strong woman and I'm sure you'll find someone better :) :hug:
Satya, you are an amazing lady. I really admire your courage, strength & positivity. You do deserve better. What a nightmare you have to live through now. But it will get better and you will be happier in the long run. I am sorry that this will put a halt to your ttc plans. And I know it will be hard for you to come here with your problems, but we are all here for you.
Dawnee Wow, you are one strong lady too. I know what its like to have people ingore a m/c and to have to pretend to be happy. But to have to play happy hostess through it all is awful. How are you doing now?
Lee How's it going? How is the crab apple tree growing? What are you upto ttc wise? You know I bought the wrong thermometer :wall: I'm temping with it anyway. Sheer determination, and it doesn't matter at the moment anyway.
Zionsmum Are you out there? Did AF come? How are you doing?
Me - I went for an MRI scan today. Not sure why, the ppl at the recurrent m/c clinic wouldn't tell me. My oncologist at the mole clinic thought it wasn't necessary. But I think the recurrent m/c clinic think I have a heart shaped uterus (increases m/c risk) and an abnormal abcess in the uterus wall. It wasn't exactly fun though. I'm a bit claustrophobic and started crying when I was inside the machine. Feel like such a wimp!
I'm curled up in a ball at home tonight, just wishing I could start ttc again. And wishing I was pregant still.
Rachael, LizJessie, Kerry, Treelo & everyone else Good luck with your cycles. Hoping we get some BFPs in here soon :crossfingers:
Hi Everyone,
Sorry for being a bit quite lately but everything has been so hectic around here. Everyone is now chicken pox free !!!!! And Cooper's 7th bday party went off perfectly. I have some great photo's that i tried to put in the gallery but it wouldnt work, so if anyone wants to see the crocodile and snakes and turtles and stuff just click on the msn icon and send me an email !!
Yesterday was our 9th Wedding anniversary !! we didnt do any thing special but we did DTD, and it felt weird doing it just for the sake of doing it??? how stupid does that sound !! It was the first time in 3 months we BD when i am not fertile. But we will start on Saturday through to Wednesday and pray for a BFP.
Satya - I am very proud of you, the strength and courage have shown is amazing. You are an amazing woman and I think you have alot of love to give a child. I dont think you should give up hope just yet. If you are determined enough then there are other ways.
Starrysky - Yes the straight jacket is now off !!! although we have a weekend of football presentations and breakup party's so im still a little stressed !!
Pash - I guess at least they are being thourough, but you poor sweet thing, being in one of those horrible things.
LJ - Have you tested yet?
littlescottishboy - Hi hun, how you doin?? hugs to you
Shoegal - wow look at your ticker !!! 10 weeks !!! so happy for you sweety !!
mammal, pash and everyone else - i hope you all doing well, hugs to you all.
take care everyone
treelo
Satya - sorry to hear what you are going through but you have to think about your future - I really admire the decisions you are making. As someone else suggested, once the dust settles you could always think about having a baby on your own. So many women do it today & you sound as though you have the guts & determination that would be required. I hope only good things happen for you now. Big hugs.....