Dee :hug:
After having a really really horrible weekend I've decided I'm going to see a councillor before my head explodes.
I just need someone to have a good cry infront of.
Dee :hug:
After having a really really horrible weekend I've decided I'm going to see a councillor before my head explodes.
I just need someone to have a good cry infront of.
teagz :hug: back thanks it must be the weekend for it hey.
Hi Ladies,
Hgirs, thank you for thinking of me. I am here everyday reading and thinking of everyone. I just feel like the ladies that are TTC do not need to read about how dIfficult these past few weeks have been for me. My next scan is tomorrow morning. I think it would be late tomorrow night for just about everyone on the thread. Don't worry too much if you don't here from me right away. I am scared to death. It has been very difficult for me to expect the best. My doctors have really told me that the chances of another loss are high and that has made me assume everything is going to be the same. I am trying to stay positive but it is difficult. I have been feeling a lot of kicks the past week, more than I ever did with Shelby.
Goodmorning girls
Teagz, good for you for making the decision to see someone. I think it will do you good.
Dee, sorry you have been feeling so sad, at times when you least expect it, that lump in your throat comes to haunt you again. Sending you big :hug:
Laney, with all my heart I wish and pray that your scan goes well and little one is growing nicely. Good to hear bubs is kicking away to reassure you all is ok in there. I know you've only been lurking lately but please don't stay away because of us TTC-ers. I can't speak for everyone else but I really want to know how you are doing and am invested in all your pregnancies. If you don't mind, please pop in and just tell us how your scan went.
Beata, thinking of you lots and hope you are recovering well.
Hugs Lan.
Nothing much to report at this end. Day 29 tomorrow so instead of having a blood test to test for pg I am testing to see if I have even ovulated!I also made an appointment with an acupuncturist to support me during IVF. Have heard there are higher success rates with the two combined. Not sure if this is true, but can't hurt I guess.
Jo, how's that lovely long strong cervix going? Did you get to go on a little outing this weekend?
Helen, anymore "scratching" down there?
Paula, how are those symptoms going? Any more to report?
Hi to all and hope you have a lovely day.
Good morning girls,
Teagz - good on you going to a counsellor. I went to a counsellor after my IVF loss and I truly did cry heaps. Hope the counsellor helps you.
Dee - :hug: you have a very special DH. Look after yourself and treat yourself kindly.
Laney - :hug: good luck for the scan tomorrow. I will be thinking of you. Try and think of all the positives, like the movement etc. I know how hard it is and it is totally understandable on how you are feeling. You dont need to disappear from this group. We are all here with a listening ear.
dd0207 - :crossfingers: for ovulating - When I was going to Repromed (fertility clinic in Adelaide) they had done trials on using acupuncturists during IVF treatments and apparently people who did acupuncture, had a bigger success rate. I went to a naturopath during my IVF treatments and after and I found her to be very good and felt heaps better.
Beata - hoping you are recovering well.
xxx Sue xxx
Dianna, Have you ever been to see a natropath? I used to have alot of porblems with AF when I was younger (you know, like 16-18) and the lady I saw would look for the problems in your eye (the coloured part apparently show's different shades for parts of your body) and after spending about 12 months being on a million different pills to regulate my period (and having a million tests for STI's that I didn't have!) she had it sorted within about a month. I also had problems getting thrush just before my period started as well, which she also fixed. If you haven't been to one already I would highly recommend it in between things...
Sue, good to hear your clinic conducted trials that showed good results. Makes me happy :) Did you ever have it done?
Teagz, wow your cycles were a little mental before seeing a naturopath. Glad she was able to help you. No, I have never been because I never had a reason to. You and Sue seem to have had good results so may have to check it out.
I used to have AF for about 3 weeks out of every month! So a little mental indeed!
I strongly reccomend it, the study thing with your eye is called Iridology...
On a completely different note... Has anyone else been absolutely amazed at some of the things people say to you.
I have had my SIL send me a message while I was in labour saying she "wished this was happening under different circumstances", luckily for her I was a little distracted! My Aunty also said that I was lucky it didn't happen the other way... What!? What other way!?!
But today, I just went to lunch with a friend and we got onto the topic of Jayvan and having to wait so long for test result etc... She made a crack at my partner and I being related and making deformed babies, and then decided it to be her duty to advise me that "the population is overcrowded anyway". Yes.. that makes me feel loads better! God...
Teagz, unfortunately there are alot of people in this world with foot-in-mouth disease. Sorry to say this but I would reconsider my friendship if anyone said anything as hurtful as that to me. I hope you let her have it.
My beautiful DH surprised me tonight with tickets to the Gold Coast! We leave on Sunday for 4 glorious days... pity I'm not ovulating :lol:
Teagz, I can't believe those insensitive comments. I think some people just don't know what to say and end up putting their foot in it and others like your friend are just down right out of place. I'm glad that you have decided to see a councillor, I really hope it helps the grieving process for you :hug:
Diana, I hope that you have ovulated. I have a great book on ttc and it covers IVF and the author recommends acupunture as well, sounds like its worth a try. See if the IVF clinic can recommend someone good. Goodluck, let us know how you go.
Laney, please don't ever think you can't post in here, I am sure everyone will be very concerned about you. I will be praying for you that this little one will be absolutely fine and will be born nice and healthy at full term. :pray:
Dee, sorry that you had an awful weekend. Those moments can just creep up on you can't they. I'm the same, can be fine one minute and lose it the next. I think someone on here put it quite nicely recently by saying 'you never know just how close to the surface tears can be'.
Beata, I hope you are recovering well hun. You'll be back in here ttc with us soon I know :D
Paula, how are you any further signs?. The big test at the end of this week, I hope we both get a BFP :crossfingers:
Lan & Tildy, thinking of you and hope you are doing ok.
Hello to everyone else.
Diana -- aha, surprise trips with DH! What a good one you have there. :) I hope you have a great time! Have you continued to DTD in case ovulation came this week? I'm sorry you have to have the added headache of irregular ovulation; it's hard enough to be where we are even when everything is working like a well-oiled machine. I had no idea that there was so much benefit to the accupuncture, though -- sounds like something you might want to look into!
Teagz -- yeah, it is definitely amazing, the things that can come out of people's mouths. I can't recall if anyone said any REALLY obviously dumb things to me (I would call the "deformed babies" and "overcrowded planet anyway" to be in the really obviously dumb category), but even the things people say to try to be comforting are often hurtful when you give them a little thought. :( I think it will be great for you to see a counselor, if it's the right person you find. It can take some of the pressure off of everyone involved and give you a safe place to talk about anything you want.
Laney -- you still have a ways to go before you pass your tough anniversary dates, so it's perfectly understandable that you're feeling so much angest -- even if it's sad and unfair. Like Katie said in the preg thread, the loss of innoconce and joy about being pregnant is something we've also suffered. I'm thinking of you today -- I know your appointment will be later in the day for me and even nighttime already for the Australian girls, but you know we are ALL hoping and praying for an excellent result that will allow you to smile today.
Dee -- I understand what you mean about the BBQ. Sometimes you want to be with people, sometimes you don't, and sometimes the mood shift happens just like *that*. I have some friends who were really good at understanding that I might show up for a party only to turn around and go home right away. Make sure your DH knows how much you appreciate him talking about his feelings, too -- the boys need so much positive feedback! :)
Oh, Theresa... if I say that you experience giving birth to Zachary doesn't sound fun, it would be such an understatement! I'm glad you've gotten to start on your way to a much happier, healthier delivery!
Jo -- congrats on your long service and your ability to move around a bit more! And, of course, on being 26 weeks!
Sue -- sorry to hear about DH's job, but I've noticed that those kind of things are in a whole other perspective now. He will find a new job and you guys will be okay -- Lily's pending arrival makes all of that stuff a bit smaller and less important. :)
Rozzie -- will there be more sessions for your VBAC class or was it just the one? I understand that it was a pain in the ass, and I agree about it being flabbergasting how little some people know. I had to laugh at that story about the woman who was about to have her second baby wondering if you still had periods after a hysterectomy -- don't remember who told it. I can add that my mom thought a pregnancy was "20-something" weeks long when I first told her I was pregnant with Beiron and that I was 13 weeks (she was mad that I'd waited until the baby was "almost here" to tell her...) Congrats on buying the pram and the diapers! It feels a bit funny but also great, doesn't it? I picked up the car seat on Friday night, and it was just sort of a strange feeling, but mostly a good one. :)
Sorry for anyone or anything I missed -- I'm having a hard time just keeping track of who is who some days, especially with BB names vs. real life names. :) Sorry if I'm not totally on the ball!
Hello all you gorgeous ladies!!!
Tildy - Thanks for your kind words.
Beata - Missing you! Hope you are taking it easy and will be back with us soon!:hug:
Diana - Welcome to my part of the world!!! YI hope you have a fabulous holiday!
Teagz - Oh yes - and I am sure we have all heard them! My cousin said to me "Better it happened now and not later." - What the!!!!! and the common one "It was meant to be" - Why? How is that supposed to help me?!?!?! and so the list goes on......I must say - yours takes first prize - People just don't think!!! :hug:
Laney - All the best for your scan tomorrow.
Berry1 - Thanks - I am praying this one goes well too.
MrsRobbo - I am praying you get a BFP!!!!!
Thanks for everyone's kind words in regards to Zachary's birth. If I told you the start of the story, you would all be shocked. That was just the half after we found out Zachary had no heartbeat.
AFM - I have an appointment with the OB on Wednesday morning. Just wanting to do some tests and make sure all is okay so far. Also have to see the diabetic specialist to ensure my blood sugar levels are maintained. I haven't been too well the last few days with an upset stomach but it seems to be settling down.
Take care of yourselves and bring on more BFP's!!!!!
Hi Ladies,
The scan was good! Our little man was 4 or 5 days ahead in growth! We are not out of the woods yet but everything looks great so far. I have an ultrasound at my high risk doctor in 2 weeks, they will check the blood flow in the cord and recheck his size. I am still nervous but I was able to smile a few times at the doctor's office today.
in a big rush this morning but yay Laney on a great scan...
Laney WOO HOO :dance: on an excellent scan. Oh how happy that has made me! I hope you can try to relax a little and enjoy this pregnancy knowing you have a health happy baby boy growing nicely in your tummy.
Tildy, that ticker is moving along so nicely. I actually think we missed our chance as DH and I only DTD (POSSIBLY) once during fertile time. The stupid nurse at the clinic today said my bloods last Tuesday showed I was approaching my LH surge but she didn't tell me that at the time, otherwise I would have given DH some Viagra or something! So unless I caught the little one on Tuesday or Friday night, then it is IVF for me.
Theresa, good luck at the OBs office. Hope they take very good care of you this time around.
Beata, hope you're ok hun.
Lan, I miss you. Hope you're feeling a little stronger.
Good morning to all.
Oh Laney that is FANTASTIC news!! :dance: I jumped out of bed to check if you had posted so yay, I can start the day with a smile :)
Diana - good luck with the blood test today. At least if it shows you haven't ov'd you can stop worrying about whether you missed the egg. That damn elusive egg!! Oh and lucky you with that surprise trip! I order you to BD just for fun while you are away :D
Teagz, they are terrible comments! I was pretty lucky after we lost Luke and nobody really said anything too bad to me. I tend to just let peoples comments go over my head anyway. But the most annoying thing I have found since being pg again is the new comments you get. "Don't get stressed this time" (um, I wasn't stressed last time!) and "I have a good feeling about this one" (so you had a bad feeling about Luke?) -they are the 2 most common ones. I know people mean well which is why I just let it go but it still irks me.
Good luck to the girls testing later this week. Hoping there is some more good news in here soon. And Beata, hope you are recovering well.
I had my 1st ante-natal class last night and it went well. We had to do an intro and when DH introduced us he said how this is our 2nd child and our 1st arrived prematurely and didn't make it. I was totally prepared for this to be brought up as we had discussed it and I feel no need to protect the others in the class by pretending this is our 1st experience but it still got me teary which was a bit of a surprise. Anyway, I rounded it up by mentioning my recent bedrest and then that was it; nobody asked any questions etc. It was interesting though that after watching a really quick birth video the other girls were saying it made them feel a little scared/anxious about what is to come, and all I could think was "Bring it on"! It made me feel empowered and I can't wait for the experience.
Hope everyone else is great and hi to all of you that I missed. I am a bit like Tildy with the foggy brain trying to keep track of BB names vs real ones and where everyone is up to - sorry :redface:
Jo x
Good morning girls,
Firstly - Yeah to laney for a fantastic scan. What fantastic news to hear. I am so happy for you and hoping little bubs continues to grow strong.
Teagz - I honestly can't believe your friend said that to you. I am so sorry you had to endure that. Though my SIL said to me on Sunday "Well you bloody should be feeling better and more relaxed about this pregnancy" and I was shocked and said, you know what, until that baby is in my arms, I will feel better and then even more worrying will start!!!
dd0207 - I have done acupuncture, but not during IVF. I decided to go the naturopath instead. My naturopath did testing through urine and she was the one who picked up my surgar issue. How lucky are you - going to the Gold Coast. Have a fantastic time and your man is very special.
Helen & Lan - thinking of you both.....
Katie - Havent heard from you for a long time. Hope all is going well.
Jo76 - Again havent heard from you for a long time. Thinking of you.
Tildy - Big hello to you. I know you understand about DH job etc. We made sure we put some money behind us, for the "just in case". Luckily we did and yes it will all work out in the end. Hows things on your end???
Theresa - Goodluck with your Ob & Diabetic appointments. Are you on any medication for your sugar??? or are you controlling it by diet??. I have been taking Metformin to control my sugar level and so far, so good. I am sure it was the reason I fell pregnant naturally as I just upped my levels of metformin, as I was putting on weight for no reason and bang next month pregnant.
Jo - I am so glad your Antenantal Classes went well. I must admit getting a little anxious in going. Not sure whether to say about the 3 losses or just focus on this pregnancy.
xxx Sue xxx
dd - Oooh, my DF needs to take a page out of his book! What a nice suprise! I hope you's have fun :)
Zachary's Mom - Yep, I've had the "it was just meant to be" speech as well... And also "you should wait a couple of years before you try again... obviously you're not meant to have babies yet" Ugh.
Sryan - Yep, people who haven't had this happen to them just have no clue... my SIL has had three healthy pregnancies all in a row and is contemplating on planning number 4. I'm interested to hear what she's going to be saying to me once I'm pregnant again... Seeing DF sisters have kids so easily does make me feel a little defective sometimes ^^;
AFM. Af started heavily without warning again last night... then stopped about 10 minutes later.
Whhaaaat? :o
I've also got the number for a lady that runs Morning Tea's and things for people who have lost children, she see's people one on one as well... So now all I gotta do is gather the balls to actually ring the number!
I also called out Dr yesterday in hopes that the results for the postmortum are back for Jayvan... and no such luck. They take so long!
Hi guys just flying in to say a huge WOW for Laney! That is fantastic news.
:crying: :( :wtf: :wall: Ok, think I have covered most of the emotions I am feeling at the moment... bloods are in and on CD29 have still NOT OVULATED. Starting some drug tomorrow, think she said Provera? to bring on a period then I can start sniffing in a few days. All this hard work and there was no little egg to catch BOO HOO
Diana, big hugs to you, if it helps at all your not crazy! When I first started TTC after coming off the pill my cycles where wacko, we fell pregnant fairly much straight away but sadly lost that little one, it was then that I discovered how whacko they were. I had two periods post D&C of approx 45 - 55 days! Was giving it one more cycle to see what happened ( This is also why I started charting) before going onto clomid and WHAM I fell pregnant but guess what day I o'd on??? DAY 60!!!!!!!!!!! We were extremely lucky to have caught that little egg, as you can imagine DH and I were both a bit over TTC by that stage!
Good luck, when are you going to the coast? Maybe it's still meant to be?
dd0207 - :hug: to you.
I am so sorry you didnt ovulate and I can understand how you feel.
Keep positive sweetheart, as you have a big month ahead of you.
xxx Sue xxx
Laney, woohoo!!! fantastic news, and I hate to sound smug but I just knew it... I knew that the clexane would do its job and after your last scan was just like my 18 week scan I knew your next one would be just like mine, 5 days ahead!!! I've had the cord measurements too and mine have come back great, I know yours will too :)
Teagz, I'm sorry if this offends you but what your friend said was horrible and if it were me I could never look at her the same again. Was it meant to be a joke?! either way, you don't joke about such things, and if it wasn't, that's just cruel. I hope you have some more sensitive people to lean on. Sorry to sound so strong but I just don't know what some people are thinking sometimes!!!
Diana, sorry to hear your cycle is all over the place :( I hope the IVF works out for you and try and relax and enjoy yourself on the coast before you have to deal with not drinking and morning sickness!!!
Theresa, if you're willing to share the story of Zachary's birth I'd like to hear it... on'y if you want... I know most of the women's stories here, it helps to understand what they're going through.
Paula, I knew you meant me hehe...
Lan and Jo, thinking of you, I hope you're doing well...
AFM, we did more baby shopping on the weekend... bought a change table, change mat, clothes, blankets/sheets/towels etc (all lovely organic bamboo ones) and put a deposit on a rocking chair my Mum is buying us, was very big!! We're almost all set now. Feels very strange... still stressing about the birth, should we go for VBAC or C-section... seeing the doctor next week after another scan so he will be bombarded with questions!!! He's the high risk specialist at the hospital so if he doesn't know the answers no-one will.
Also big news... gave Mum permission to tell my brother and sister, they were very happy (both have young kids of their own) and also told a few friends. I know it must sound odd that so many people don't know at 29 weeks but I have fairly much isolated myself from a lot of family and friends since the loss, it's just what I felt I needed, and now re-engaging slowly feels quite strange but nice. Thankfully they've all been understanding and patient.
Love Rozzie
Oh, I also just remembered something else the dumb woman said in the VBAC class that I thought was funny/sad- the midwife was talking about merconium stained waters as a sign of a baby in distress and she said 'isn't your baby meant to poo in the womb?"
mmm.
Hey Ladies, wow you have been busy today!
Rozzie: good on you doing more shopping, sounds like you might be getting slightly addicted!! Wait till bub arrives, you won't be able to stop buying stuff. I am still a shocker and Ethan is nearly 5!. Have you any thoughts yet on which birthing option you're gonna go with. My OB told me next time I can go elective ceasar if i want. I'm a bit of an earth mother with stuff like that but still the thought of not brining home a healthy baby scares me so much that I might still go the ceasar option.
Diana: still no O, I can't believe it. Oh well, sounds like you are getting some progress and will be sniffing away in no time. I have no idea about IVF but hopefully it will work super quick and you'll be announcing a BfP before you know it.
Teagz: how weird about your AF. I wouldn't worry too much though. It does take time to get any sense of normal after your body has been through such physical and emotional turmoil. Keep us posted.
Theresa: I can't remember, do you have appointments booked or are you still waiting to hear?
Jo: good on you for speaking your piece at the classes. I agree that you should not worry about protecting everyone else. Those classes are for you too if everyone knows your situation you are bound to get much more out of them and not open yourself up to someone saying something they shouldn't. Although someone is bound to get foot in mouth disease at some point. Nothing surer.
Sue: when do your classes start. It was only yesterday we were mourning little frosty and now here we are gearing up for you to attend classes. Where did that time go!
Helen: special request, you are the chart guru. Earlier in the week I was so confident of getting a BFP as I have had every symptom and then some but now my temp seems to be on a steady decline. It hasn't gone below the coverline yet but just wondering what usually happens if you have conceived?
Hi to Jo, Lan, Tildy, Laney, Katie and everyone else I have missed.
Only 4 more sleeps till testing!!!
Laney, great news on your scan, I am so relieved and happy for you :dance:
Diana, sorry to hear about your crazy cycles :wall: Have a wonderful time on the GC and don't worry about the whole baby thing while you are away - easy to say I know :D
Rozzie, glad you felt confident to share your pg news with your family and congrat's on the purchases, wow, your almost on the home run now. :dance:
Teagz, AF did that to me as well after my first cycle, did it again after my 2nd cycle, but not as much.
Theresa, good luck with your appointments
Jo, glad the antenatal appointments went well.
Got to run.
Hi Paula,
if you're interested I'll bore you with the details as to why my birth options are so complicated.
I had to have a surgical birth with Edward as I had complete placenta previa. I was induced but when they did an internal they could feel the placenta so that was it. I'd love to have a VBAC to avoid further scarring on my uterus as I'd like lots more children, or at least the option, and more C-sections make things like placenta previa, placenta accreta and uterine rupture more likely (I'm sure you know all this but just explaining my thought processes). Unfortunately I'm not a normal VBAC case, as the risk of rupture during labour may be higher for me. This is because the non-muscular lower section of the uterus doesn't usually form till 28 weeks, so even though my incision is low the scar could be in the muscular upper part which contracts and the risk of rupture is higher than if it were in the lower segment. Make sense?
My former OB didn't explain any of this to me, not that there was any option anyway. He said I'd probably be able to have a natural birth but I don't know what he based that assessment on. They can do a scan to see if the uterine wall is thinning but the efficacy of this is unproven.
Don't know what to do!!!
Paula - Thanks for putting me on the spot! I think we should just wait and see what happens tomorrow, if it goes back up that could be a great sign. You can have an implantation dip but it really is usually only a day or two. I hope with all my heart it goes back up a little and stays that way and was just only testing our paitence, I will eagerly be awaiting tomorrows temp! It's too early too really tell yet.
Rozzie - What a dilema, I worry about having a VBAC and my section was at term! I am not sure if after having Cooper naturally gives me any less risk??? I know the risks are very minimal after a normal LSCS but you have a totally different issue to deal with! It will not be an easy decision for you to make hopefully Edward will be able to guide you through it.
Interesting Helen, I didn't know about the implantation dip. I have had a few cramps (well really just slight pains and me being a bit of a woos!) so maybe it is an implantation dip. I knew I would have to wait until tomorrow but just thought there might be secret info out there that all my 24hr googling has not uncovered!!
I was so certain of a BFP a few days ago. I have the slight nausea (very slight) and all the pms symptoms. Which normally wouldn't indicate anything except that since I've been on the prog cream I have had virtually no pms. BB's are a little sore and I am incredibly bloated and gassy (TMI sorry!)
Another freaky thing is that when I was PG with Charlie for the first month or so I would wake up at exactly 4:16am every morning and go to the loo. Last week I was waking up every morning at exactly 4:16am to go to the loo! Freaky huh!!
Anyway, so I guess the temp drop is just to put me back in my place because I was being so ****y about getting a BFP.
Rozzie: WOW that does sound complicated. I was stressing enough about my decision with no real medical reason to go with either just a desperate need to bring home a live baby. I just keep freaking out about having a healthy scan at 38 weeks or something and then something going wrong and knowing i could have delivered and all would have been ok. Next time I start freaking out about it i will remind myself of the decision you have to make. Way harder than mine!! Happy pondering!
Paula, I so hope your temp goes back up and you get a BFP this weekend, you so deserve it hun :pray:
Rozzie, you do have a difficult decision to make. I hope that as you get closer the facts are really clear and that making the final decision is an easier one that you feel at peace about :D
Hi Girlies.. AF has done it again!!
AF started last monday (the 12th) and finsihed the following saturday morning (whatever date that was) I had no bleeding saturday through to this monday (19th), until last night when I had a sort of small "gush" which lasted about ten minutes (which I said before.... It completely stopped for the rest of the night and the rest of today, and then tonight it has happened again!! It happens right after I have finished running around like a headless chook making tea and everything. So, I don't know if maybe that's swishing it around or something *sorry for TMI* and leftover is coming out from AF or what...
but, it's a little odd...
Paula -- check out my chart from the month I got pregnant: 219aae Ovulation Charts . I have super regular cycles of 26 days where I always have EW CM around day 13, so I believe that for me the temp method just wasn't so very accurate for some reason. The reason could be a combination of my broken thyroid and the fact that I spent most of the first half of that month crying and having insomnia and basically being a wreck and a half. As you can see, before O the temps say diddly squat and after O I dipped below FF's coverlilne (clearly implantation though, as I was also spotting just then). It's like a voodoo science :D I had to laugh, btw, about you getting up at exactly 4:16 every day to use the toilet. Mine is 3:53 AM, has been the whole pregnancy! You might be on to something there!
Rozzie -- it is indeed a very tough decision. Normally you can say to yourself "what's best for my baby?" but in this case you have to weigh safety for this baby against safety for your future babies -- and that's a perfectly valid (and tough) dilemma. I'm sure the high risk OB will be able to shed more light on it for you. Oh, and I remembered one from our class: the midwife was explaining how the cervix "dissolves" and then starts to open, and that they wait for it to be open 10 cm. One girl in the class said "Oh, is THAT what they're talking about about being open! I thought it was the vagina opening up!" She and her partner seemed to be about 17 years old or something, so I can forgive her for being a bit out of place when the rest of us were in our 30s. Surprising that she piped up, though. ;)
Teagz -- there's often a decrease or stopping of bleeding when you lie down and an increase when you get up, and maybe it's just a form of that you're experiencing. The blood pools up while you're resting and then all that pooled up stuff gushes out when you get active. They say that this is why some people mistakenly believe that bedrest prevents a threatened miscarriage, because women experience that they bleed less if they lie down. There's also different opinions about whether your first AF after a miscarriage is heavier/longer or lighter than a normal AF, people don't seem to be able to agree on that. But the best thing as always is to ask your doctor if you're concerned, and ABSOLUTELY if you have any unusual pain or discharge and such.
Diana -- I'm sorry to hear you haven't ovulated. It sounds like IVF is going to be a good option for you, and will help you feel more in control.
Jo -- I think it's great that you guys were open and honest at your ante-natal class. I mentioned our loss to ours as well, when we were talking about how we're supposed to know what we want for the birth when we're all first-timers. There was a silence that for a while, but I explained that I brought it up because it helped me realize that the most important thing I need from the staff at the birth, and from my DH to help me enforce, is INFO INFO INFO. Don't touch me without telling me what you're about to do and why, and don't put any electrodes on me or test me for anything without saying whether things are going well or not so well, etc. They all thought it was a good point and we moved on from there, and it felt good for me to have said it.
And last but definitely not least -- Laney! I'm so happy that it was good news (even though, like Rozzie said, I felt in my heart that it would be)! I'm glad to hear you were able to have a few smiles, as I know you need them. A relatively short wait of 2 weeks until the next scan, so onwards and upwards toward that next wave of good news!
Thanks tildy, I'll definately call my Dr tomorrow but until then I thought i would ask because you're such a knowledgable bunch and I'm almost the most impatient woman in the world
:hug:
check out my chart girls!!
Paula - I have a confession to make. I checked out your chart yesterday before you asked Helen's opinion and thought "uh oh". It wasn't looking good with those temps dropping! But now...yay, it is looking great! :)
Can't wait to see what tomorrow brings. I will try and dig out my BFP chart to compare (if I can remember my login and password).
Helen, it was indeed a miracle that you caught that little egg on day 60! I can only imagine how exhausted you and DH were by that stage! I can totally accept cycles being mental for a few months after a loss or coming off the pill but it has been 6 months for me now, and I was ovulating every month after losing Sebastian up until this month. I really don't know what has happened or changed. I am just so upset and tears are very very close to the surface today.
I am leaving on Sunday but I because I am starting the Provera tablets today to bring on a period, I am pretty certain I will not be allowed to TTC naturally so there goes my miracle conception before starting IVF.
Thanks to all of you for your comfort, support and encouragement. I love you all so much and would be lost without you. :grouphug:
Rozzie, the shopping sounds like so much fun. I am sorry you have such a hard decision to make regarding the birth and I hope your OB takes very good care of you and little one.
Teagz, as you can see from my experience, cycles can do very strange things. I would suggest you go to the doctor for a check up to be sure.
Jo, good on DH for saying what he did in your class. I am glad it all went well in the end.
Paula, I have no idea how to interpret those things but I assume your last post shows your temp is rising again and a BFP is on the way? Oh fingers crossed.
Fingers crossed for you too Megan.
Thanks again for your support girls and a big hello to everyone.
Ahhh, see what paitence can do Paula! Looking good, testing day not far off now!
Diana, hopefully your first IVF cycle will bring you that little miracle, big hugs.
Hi Paula,
Chart is looking fantastic.... fingers crossed fingers crossed.
Hey I found my chart as well
Here it is..
1b9f71 Ovulation Charts
xxx Sue xxx
hello!
Again time seems to have passed far too quickly and it has been days since i have been on here! School holidays just fill up my time eventhough i am hardly working! 1 week to go and i will be back into normal routine! Although i have loved the extra time with him -that just never happens! i am feeling a little tired today tho, my fault as i just had to set my alarm to wake up at 3am to watch Obama being sworn in. (why can't he be here running our country!) I am supposed to be going out for dinner tonight so will prob fall asleep in my meal!
So as usual there is so much i have had to catch up on!
Laney -=was going to send you an email and saw you ahd had your other ultrasound -things are looking good but i still understand your apprehension. One midwife said when i was delivering madison, that if i went back to try again nothing would make me feel safe until the baby was born alive and well. but things are looking very positive -so allow yourself those brief smiles you have had!
paula - keeping my fingers so tightly crossed for you! I really hope you have your moment in not too long! will have no choice but to start stalking forum very soon waiting for your news. As usual, we know i am useless when it comes to charts so i won't even try to comment on everyones. Safe to say i would be going mad if i had to do that, so you are all extremely patient!
dd0207 - i am reaching through the screen giving you a hug right now! please take care -we can all at least understand the "frustration" part. xx
jo - i am jumping on the bandwagon of praising you and dh about being so honest in your class when i can say i would be a wreck in the same situation. Its very brave of you both to acknowledge and put it out there and still feel safe to do.
teagz - i was a bit like you, just when i thought the bleeding was over - it'd start right back up again! and when i least expected -i could share many embarassing stories! Sometimes it was next to nothing -enough to notice and have to do something about, other times it would come out in a rush and i'd panic and wonder what the hell my body was doing to me. if your concerned, ask someone about it...
syran - 24 weeks...not bad for a little miracle!!!!!
rozzie - so much more for you to think about! good luck - i am not sure what i'd do in your situation either! At least it sounds as though you are trying to get as much info as you can...but a big yay for the shopping! your ticker is so close too!
anyway -better go -hi to those i have missed this time around! i have my psychic appointment soon and should prob be getting ready! Have decided to take a photo of madison so will let you all know what is said!
xxjo
MrsRobbo - I'm assuming that's a good chart! :p I'm still trying to get my head around all this ovulation stuff, sorry girls! Hopefully you'll get to see a BFP toward the end of this month then! :) &
Tildy - That is a bit spooky about the timed loo trips! ;) oh and:lol: Poor love!:
"Oh, is THAT what they're talking about about being open! I thought it was the vagina opening up!"
dd - :hug: I'm sorry your having such a hard time with your O, I really do have all my fingers crossed for you.
And as for AF, when I woke up this morning with thrush again, I have decided to be proactive and go back to my naturopath now to avoid stuffing around for the next 6 months, especially when it seems my cycle's going to go back haywire. Sometimes it's very tiring being a female, I feel like throwing myself onto the floor and having the worlds biggest tantrum!
Sorry girls, I'm not really good at doing persies because I don't really know what I'm talking about! :redface: Hope everyone enjoys their hump-day-wednesday xx