TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth 2010

Hi ladies

Angelic - Congratulations on your BFP! How very sneaky of you to announce it that way... I wish you lots of luck that this one is your earthbound baby :hug:

Tenibear - I thought men were always ready to go, that is unless there is something really wrong - stress or illness. I hope you can both work this one out soon.

Crumpet - hope you are looking after yourself - I found my insomnia settled quickly if I had a warm glass of milk - never have done that except when I was pg but it really worked! Take care of yourself and your little bundle hun.

Lemonade - congrats on finding what sounds like an amazing ob! To find health professionals that understand and go that extra mile can be quite challenging.

Hi Possums - it is good to hear from you. Will probably see you in the AC thread sometime soon I imagine, when I work up the courage to post!

Samcougar - Jasper is a great name for a cat. I bet he/she is very snuggly at the moment - it must feel like heaven coming from the RSPCA. I hope you get lots of cuddles from him!

Hi to dory, CharlieB, cmeglles, Hope and everyone else - I hope you are all doing well.

AFM, off for next b/t tomorrow morning. If my levels haven't increased then it looks like onto Clomid for me. I have never been on Clomid so am a bit concerned that I might turn into a crazy person, but I figure I can't be anymore crazy than I am at the moment. I had another bad headache last night and went to bed early but thankfully it has stayed away today. But I am a bit of crazy, moody cow at the moment and even told my boss off this morning because he was late for a meeting and I never do that! I still don't know what to expect from this whole AC process. We have been bitterly disappointed in the past so it is hard to think positively about the whole process. But I am trying by telling myself that at least we are trying something new and this is the first time that anyone has actually monitored my cycle to try find out what is going on. Is it too much to hope that maybe Clomid might be the answer we have been looking for when IVF didn't work?

Anyway, must go and shower for some dinner.
Take care all.
xx

BFN again today...

Oh well..., at least I can look forward to lots of TTC with DH!

Has anybody just kinda known they were pregnant? I'm not 100% sure, but I just got this overwhelming feeling last night after DH and I DTD that this time was the one. If I get my BFP in a few weeks, I'm offering my talents as a psychic ;)

Hiya sweet ladies. Just a quick visit from me today.

Teni - yes absolutely....... Fingers crossed.

Susie ! - big hugs sweetie.

Possums, Lemonade, Hope - nice to hear from you.

Crumpet - I get lots of insomnia and early on, headaches. The biggest thing that has helped me is not working. Still get insomnia, but at least can sleep during the day if I need to

Chez - sorry that your levels are not rising and clomid looks on the cards. I suppose all you can do is see how you go. Some women don't get crazy on it and some do. Hoping that you are one that doesn't....

Angelic - how are you doing? Scared beyond belief I imagine.... it's normal if you are.

Hiya to everyone else, this is a flying visit for me, so only really quick persies. Hopefully will have more time tomorrow. Had some unexpected guests today, whcih was great, but am really tired now and am going to dinner for my Aunt's birthday... so got to try and glam up. Take care.

Thank you for the congrtas. Sorry I have been MIA but this house has just been so hectic and I have not had a break never mind sleep.. what are beds for? Not sleeping in that's for sure. yuo lay down then the teenagers come waking you up and hand you a baby so they can go to sleep.
So needless to say running on body reserves my body couldn't cope with everything so decided a pg was not in the grand scheme of things so after 4-5 days of lines today has none and I have spotting and cramps and temp has gone down a fraction.

Chez just read about the clomid. hopefully it has no great impact on yuor moods or CM. It can dry you up. I was in Priceline today though and in the hpt section they now have sperm friendly TTC lubricant so may be worth investigating.

Crumpet funny thing is when pg I don't so much get insomnia as i get vibrant bad dreams and wake up early unable to sleep. Bear in mind I am NOT a morning person. The day should not start before 10am yet when pg I am up around 7am and wide awake!

Susie I hope the TTC path smooths out for you hun. yuo have been through quite an ordeal and I just hope you get a BFP soon. Big hugs sweetie.

pre-AF trigeminal migraine ( a migraine that hits the nerve running down the right side of my face and no painkillers work on it not even panadeine forte and it leasts for 24-36 hours before AF :( ) so I am going to lay down while Daniel is napping.

hugs and hope to you all.. thanks again for the wel wishes and I just hope the next one lasts longer.
Jude

Hi ladies

Angelic - I am so sorry to hear that you have cramps and spotting. I was sending lots of positive vibes your way. :hug: hope you are doing ok under the circumstances and have managed to get some rest.

ChrisW - sorry for the BFN hun. I hope things turn around for your soon. :hug:

TeniBear - everytime we DTD I try to visualise being pg but so far it hasn't worked but I hope you are psychic - once you are pg you can start focusing on each of us and work your magici! And you got your DH in the mood - you must be magical!

Dory - sounds like you have been very busy with visitors. I hope you had a nice dinner at your Aunt's place.

AFM - b/t results today show no change so I start clomid tonight for 5 days and then test again on Tuesday. And we're supposed to BD on the weekend just in case. DH is soooo disappointed ;)

xx

Hi everyone,

Angelic - I'm so sorry about the cramping and spotting. What a rollercoaster this weeks has been for you. :hug::hug::hug:

ChrisW - sorry about the BFN. Has AF actually showed up yet?

Chez - good luck with the Clomid - I really am praying that it does the trick for you!

cTeniBear - I really really hope that you're right! I kind of lost faith in my instincts over this whole journey but I hope yours are bang on the money!!

SusieQ - sorry you are having a rough week :hug: I hope you can get some answers at your appt tomorrow and get back on the TTC horse (so to speak ;))

Hope - hope this cycle on the clomid brings you some better luck

Sam - congrats on the new family member!

Dory - enjoy your dinner tonight, sounds like you have been busy, hope you get to catch up on some rest tomorrow.

Lemonade - how are you feeling??? any news yet?

Hi to Gigi, blessed, crumpet, Aries, cmeglles and anyone I have unintentionally missed

xx

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Has anybody just kinda known they were pregnant? I'm not 100% sure, but I just got this overwhelming feeling last night after DH and I DTD that this time was the one. If I get my BFP in a few weeks, I'm offering my talents as a psychic ;)

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:ROFL: ill be coming to u as a psychic for sure!!! good luck hun!!!

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Crumpet - I get lots of insomnia and early on, headaches. The biggest thing that has helped me is not working. Still get insomnia, but at least can sleep during the day if I need to

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im so lucky im not working so i can lay donw and rest in the afternoons.....

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Thank you for the congrtas. Sorry I have been MIA but this house has just been so hectic and I have not had a break never mind sleep.. what are beds for? Not sleeping in that's for sure. yuo lay down then the teenagers come waking you up and hand you a baby so they can go to sleep.
So needless to say running on body reserves my body couldn't cope with everything so decided a pg was not in the grand scheme of things so after 4-5 days of lines today has none and I have spotting and cramps and temp has gone down a fraction.

Crumpet funny thing is when pg I don't so much get insomnia as i get vibrant bad dreams and wake up early unable to sleep. Bear in mind I am NOT a morning person. The day should not start before 10am yet when pg I am up around 7am and wide awake!

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:hug::hug: hun sending u loads of sticky vibes..... hope all is ok.....

im cool with getting up in the morning but after no sleep its not so cool!!:wall:


hope ur all going along well, nothing mch to report, am having trouble keeping up sorry girls:redface:

Hi ladies!
I hope you don't mind me stopping in to tell angelicdragon that i am sorry things didn't work out. hugs hun

Angelic - So sad sweetie to hear that things have changed. I was s happy and hopeful for you. Big hugs.

Lemonade - I am so glad you found a good ob who has given you, already, a sense of being important. Well done you.

Possums - not long to go now.... keep the faith and you'll be celebrating your tcc soon and the anguish of the 2ww.

Thinking of everyone else. Feeling quiet today - went to a funeral today, always sobering, even when not really close to the person. Have a good weekend.

Angelic- So sorry hun. So close. Thinking of you xoxoxoo

Love to all xoxo

Angelic – Hun, I am so sorry this happened. Sending lots of love and hugs your way.

Chez – I was on clomid for 4 cycles and had no side effects that I or DH could tell. Hope your experience will be similar and that this will do the trick.

Hope – sorry that evil AF has come around. Hopefully the clomid will help.

Teni – got my fingers crossed for you psychic abilities!

Hi to CharlieB, SusieQ, Samcougar, Dory, Crumpet, Lemonade, Gigi, Possums and anyone else I may have unintentionally missed. Hope you all are well.

Love to all xoxoxo

Having quite a few "blah" days lately - last night I felt so lonely! I just need something to take my mind off things... Sigh...

Oh, I've been charting for a few weeks now, I'm a bit slack though so it's not highly detailed. And the silly site I'm using, although very user-friendly and free, just goes off how long you say your cycles are to say when you've Oed. I did a ovulation test on the day the site said I'd be ovulating, but it was negative. Not even the faintest of lines.

So, being new to this, I have no real idea if I have or not. Can someone check it out for me? (linky) Am I now in my tww, or should I keep jumping DH every chance I get? ;) Is it detailed enough? I don't check everything every day, so I know it's hard to tell...

Hi Teni,

It’s never a bad thing to jump DH every chance you get! ;)

I charted for 2.5 years, but then got to the point where my cycles were so regular I just spot check with an OPK kit starting on day 11 (I typically show positive for LH surge on day 13). If you are going to chart your temps though, it’s best to do them every day so you can tell when there’s a real change as opposed to normal day to day fluctuation. There should be a dip on the day you ovulate followed by a rapid rise to a temp above your normal baseline. Also, your cervical mucus should be egg white just before and during ovulation (rule of thumb… if you have egg white, BD your brains out!) Based on your chart, I think it’s possible you did O on the date they predicted, although it’s tough to be sure unless you have more temp readings. Did you get more than 1 day of egg white?

About the neg OPK, the thing to remember is that they don’t indicate that you have ovulated, just that you are about to. The luteinizing hormone (LH) that the tests detect is released as a spike into your system in order to initiate ovulation, but it doesn’t stick around. Ovulation itself occurs 24 to 36 hours after that LH spike. If you did O on the date predicted, then the LH would have been gone by that point (neg OPK). You most likely were positive for LH the day before (based on your egg white). Since DH’s swimmers can survive anywhere from 3 to 5 days, it looks like you’re covered. However, more BD is never a bad thing!

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Why oh why didn't the OPKs arrive a day earlier? :lol: I did one as soon as they came in the mail, and I was sooooo disappointed when I only got one line! Should've read more first, I didn't realise it can change so quickly... Hoping you're right and I did O when I was "meant" to!

(tmi) I did only have the one day of noticiable EWCM. Since I found out what it was I've been checking every time I go to the toilet lol - not pleasant a lot of the time :p I've also just learned how to check my cervical position, so I've done that today. Pretty embarrassed to work out that was what I used to feel when "experimenting" with myself ;) (tmi over)

:pink-babydust::bluedust: to everyone - here's hoping some more of us get our BFPs soon!

Teni - I just posted a message to you in the wrong thread.... blah to me. What I posted was that I saw Ianto's sunset picture on Carly's website - it's beautiful. If you hadn't of asked about your PK etc, Chris wouldn't have answered. I am glad to have been able to understand a bit more....

Chris, Possum, Hope - similarly I posted a hello to you in the wrong thread.

I am a bit glum today, not much to say. Had a funny experience with the fur babies on the weekend - taking them to the vet was hilarious. I'll tell you about it later. Have run out of puff. Take care my sweets.

Angelic - sweetie - how are you going? Big hugs.

Just popped in to catch up on what everyone is up to.

Just wanted to pass on my sympathies to Angelic. So sorry sweetie. I imagine things are pretty tough right now. Thinking of you.

Hi Teni

I think Chris has given some pretty good advice about your chart. I had a quick look and agree with everything Chris has said. I know my CM can be pretty scant at times, so it is a good idea to be looking at other signs such as temp and cervix position. Have you tried the Fertility Friend web site. I think that is free to chart with and I think it is a bit better than the one you are using and actually gives you a warning beforehand of O, but I think that part is a paid upgrade from memory. Might be worth checking out if you are going to continue with temping etc.

oxo

Yeah, I'm using both that site and FF - the "you're about to O" warning is in the paid update :(

angelic - I'm so sorry, I've been caught up in my own stuff and didn't realise that you definitely lost your new bubba :cry: :hug:

I just wanted to pop in and say sorry to Angelicdragon. Sending you lots of love and a little bit of hope in this sad time.

Also wanted to say welcome to ChrisW, Hope and Possums and wishing you all the best for TTC.

I have been lurking and wanted to put in a plug for a few things....for those on clomid (I was never on it) but I did try the TTC friendly lubricant (Preseed) and was happy with it. Didn't get to use it too much..... I also wanted to recommend the book "Making Babies: A Proven 3-Month Program for Maximum Fertility" by Sami David and Jill Blakeway. They really break down a lot of things and offer solutions.....and it was nice to have a book that took both a western and eastern perspective towards ttc and they do have an entire section on clomid and ivf and why it fails sometimes......they also have a lot of success stories that I thought were helpful. Sorry--just a plug for a book I thought was helpful.

Hi to everyone else and best of luck this cycle....I am trying to focus on day to day things--sorry if I am not posting, but I feel like I am just kind of holding my breath sometimes...Hopefully I will be more comfortable and post more soon.

Angelic- I'm so sorry it hasn't worked out for you. Thinking of you, Big hugs hun.:hug:

A big hello to all you other lovely ladies :hello:

AFM 3 days till testing, I got a bit carried away yesterday and tried but i think the test was faulty.:doh: Anyway hope you all have a lovely day.

Just marking my spot again. My PC died so DH had to set me up a new one so I am back but off t the Drs. I'll be back when time permits.
hugs all.
Jude

Time for a new thread everyone.