Boobs sore = PREGNANT :pray::pray::pray:
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Boobs sore = PREGNANT :pray::pray::pray:
Here's hoping! I think! LOL!
Do they know why any of your babies were stillborn, is there any explanation for it? Sorry to touch this sensitive issue, if you don't wish to reply, that is fine.
Sheree, i don't mind, even though Storm was classed as a misscarriage, I think of her as a Stillbirth because of the fact that I still gave birth to her & held her etc... Does that make any sense?
There seemed to be no apparent reason for Storm dying, the doctors said finding a reason was very slim!
So I guess i'll never know but will always wonder IYKWIM.
Jo, oh I thought Storm was a stillborn because of the fact you had to give birth an you buried her??? At what stage do they call the baby stillborn. At what stage do they not make you give birth too???? Sorry for all the questions.
jo - so hope you are pg, the sore boozies are a good sign lol. what day are you on?
Funny you should ask- i'm not- but thats where the chicken farm is. we do the office work out of the pub- but thats where the farm is.
Sheree joy- i have just up dated my TTC journal with most of my full story in there if you want to check it out.
If you make it to about 16-18 weeks they induce you as a d&c is too dangerous. you dont have to have a funeral until they are past 20 weeks or so, i like that Jo decided to do that- i didnt for my first loss (18 weeks) and sort of feel bad about it. At the same time though i didnt associate his spirit with his body(you will understand why when you read my journal) so i wasn't too concerned with what happened to it. (GOd that sounds awfull, but it was how i was feeling)
I had Zahra cremated and she sits in a Noah's Arc childrens Money box on a shelf in our lounge room. We still brought her home- just not how we expected to.
****- i have to go to the dr';s i will be back!!!!
Where do I find your journal sb?
Klee - af is due today or tommorrow.
Sheree - as Kat said, before 18 weeks there is no law that says you have to have a funeral, but the Ob that delivered her, said that anyone is most welcome to make arrangements if they want! We chose to for our older kids sakes(& our own too i suppose), so now they have somewhere to go to visit her KWIM?
Kat - Only reason I ask is cos we might me heading up that way just after xmas & for some reason I thought you might have been near there?
Jo I think it was lovely you buried her, but was it cruel for them to make u deliver her. How did you feel about that?
At first I just refused & cried & screamed that I just couldn't & wouldn't do it, mostly I think I was still in shock that she had died, I didn't think I could face it.
After they induced me though, i seemed to get really calm up until she was born, & now I don't think I would have done it any other way, at least this way we got to see her & Know her a little bit IYKWIM
Yes I do, thank you for sharing that with me.
I reackon I would be the same, irrationally say no, but realistically in the end, it is the best way, I agree.
Sorry to ask so many questions. I just want to try to understand what you have been through. I feel for all of you ladies.
jo - hon, sorry you had to go through all of that, its soo hard isn't it. when we found out we were sent home, they induced me the next day, but she didn't come for antoher 2 days, so we waited 3 days knowing she had passed away. even though you might think sending me home was bad, it actually gave me a chance to come to terms with the fact she wasn't coming home, i wouldn't have changed going home that first day, i got to tell my family and they basically rallied around me.
jo - good luck i am going to have a look at the stillbirth foundation stella day tomorrow and i'll let you know about having one in melb, will be thinking of you tomorrow, good luck, c'mon bfp
Sheree- go to the bottom of your screen to the forum jump thing and click on it so you can scroll down all the choices. click on TTC Journals and then look for StarBright's TTC Journal.
Anyone is free to look.
i was devasted when i found out i had to deliver darren. i ended up quite high on pethadine and i was pretty out of it. Shane begged them to just put me under, but they just dont do that. I had an emergency c section with Zahra- went to sleep and woke up with out her.
Still no Af jo??
Jo - thinking of you and sending you heaps and heaps of :bluedust: I hope so much that you get your BFP very very soon! :hug:
SB - how are you feeling? I'm sorry to hear that you were in hospital. I hope you have got some answers.
ShereeJoy - sorry to butt in on your conversation but I just wanted to say how I felt. I thought the same thing when I found out that Cooper didn't have a heartbeat. In all the shock I didn't understand how I would deliver. I asked my ob and he said that I had to birth him. I thought that was so cruel. I wanted a c/s but he suggested that I didn't because he said that I wouldn't want to be recovering from that and grieving. At the time I didn't think it was right but did it anyway. On the day it was like a terrible nightmare and an out of body experience - but I can remember every second. Now I look back at it and I think it wasn't cruel - I got to give birth to my son..........that is special to me.:
but was it cruel for them to make u deliver her
Thank you guys for sharing that with me. So glad you all got those moments with your babies.
I kind of feel out of place here now with what you have all been through.
You shouldn't feel out of place - we have all lost, lost something that was so precious to us. And you have been through so much as well :hug: