TTC after Recurrent Miscarriage/Stillbirth or Loss after the 1st trimester ~ OCT07#2

Thanks Judy - they talked about the fact that i may have to monitor my cycle for a few mths - but i really hope it dosent take me that long to fall preg again - if i do fall preg again soon what do i do??

Congratulations Mel!!!!!

hj1981, hi there.. I really don't know what to do if you fall pg again unmonitored. Maybe you can get your GP or OB to run a progesterone test but they won't usually. Though having had 2 previous m/c surely they wil run some tests of some sort to check all is going ok.
It is a hard place to be in coz I would be in the same boat if this one sticks.
hugs
Judy

OK so I go on a internet vacation this past week or so and what did I miss???

OMG Mel!!! congrats!!!!!

OMG Naomi!! congrats!!!

Its all rainy and cold here and I was feeling a little blue then I saw this wonderful news! I couldn't be happier if it were me. WTG girls!

I am sorry I have been MIA, I just needed time to remember Eli, his due date was last Tuesday. And then, DH got a serious ttc bug up his bum and since it was our fertile window, lets just say, I haven't been up at night reading anything. I love my husband, but I would be ok if I don't see him naked for a while. LOL

LOve to everyone!
CeCe

i hopped on this board after my third trimester stillbirth this spring. i wanted to write and thank you for being here and to tell you we're pregnant again! im over forty and we're thrilled. we were encouraged to go to IVF asap, but it didnt feel right to us and we are happy to concieve naturally. best wishes to you all. h

wow! i'm going to go on more 4 day vacations and see if even more bfp happen! Naomi -- :dance::dance::dance: yippee! i'm so happy for you!
Judy-- my fingers are crossed for you!
Jo-Mel- so glad the card issue came up - i have decided it is right to put Yeti on the cards too. he's part of this family too, damn it.
CeCe- big hugs, belatedly, for Eli's due date. hope you are better-ish. lol re seeing your dh naked after your recent late nights not reading. you always give the best belly laughs.

made it through thanksgiving with only some crying. now for christmas.

Cece :hug: for Eli's Angelversary.
lol about DH.. they can get like that sometimes lol.

Congratulations H on your BFP.

Well no line at all today not even a hint. Yesterday must have just been a cruel joke. Oh well... I guess I'd be very surprised if I ever did get a real BFP.
Off to the last playgroup for the year
hugs
Jude

hugs lovely lady

Hey all, how is everyone?

so sorry to hear that Judy- :hug:
i had the same thing hppen last month when i tested day 28 of a 33 day cycle i got the faintest line- but then nothing for 3 days before AF arrived- i sort of tried to stay positve- and look at it as i must have gotten close- but close isnt good enough and it makes me wonder if there are more problems i have that i dont know about!!!
I am restraining from testing early this month (well i did one yesterday LOL but i knew it would be neg!! Just wanted to check!! LOL) but i will try really hard not to test before i am actually late- but then my cycle keeps getting a day longer- so it might mean even when i think i am late- i'm not!!!!
Geez louise this stuff gets complictaed and nerve wracking!!!!

I really hope for both of us that we can stop this horrible cycle of faint BFP's and finally get a real u beaut BFP that sticks and grows into a gorgeous little baby we can love and cherish forever. One day soon i hope.

Welcome home CecE!! :D Hugs to you for Eli's due date:hug: These days are hard! How is your mom?
LOL at DH!!! Mine is the same!! He was parading around last night and when i wasnt too interested he got all upset and said- "oh well i guess your not ovulating anymore then?" and put his clothes back on in a huff!!! LOL I get funny and i dont like to bed in the tww- just incase we shake around too muvh you know!!??? Dont want to scare the little thing before it even starts growing!! LOL

Auntie M welcome home to you too!! How is peanut?? Have you had your morph scan yet?? Do we know the flavour yet?? Hope all is well- you can book your next 4 day holiday in 10 days..... ;)Thats when i can test!! LOL

Jo I am doing ok- trying not to freak out with all these BFP's going on.... Surely it is our turn soon!! Have you had anymore progress with the fs for DH? Fingers crossed for us!!

HJ1981 Hey mate, howz things with you? Your appt is only like a week away, make sure you wirte down ALL the questions you can think of and have them written down on paper when you go in- if your anything like me you will be so overwhelmed you will forget half the stuff you want to know until you step out of the appt, and then kck yourslef for forgetting!!! Sorry i cant help with your progesterine prob- just ask the fs. I dont think you will fall before then- your body is still recovering from your m/c. Take care let us know how you go...

New Hope Congratualions- well done!! Good luck for the coming months, take care and thanks for your inspiring news!!

As for me- i am in the land of crazy- all these bfp's are soo exciting and i am just hoping they are catchy!! Please please let me catch one this motnh!!!!

Good luck everyone!!!

Katti

I agree Kat, lets hope these bfp's are catching, to be honest, ttc seems to be really getting me down at the moment.
It is possible that it could be just xmas coming up (wish I could skip it) or Storms b'day & thats why I feel pretty down atm.

Judy - try not to let it get you down too much! it will happen soon for you - as it will for everyone else! i guess we just have to wait a little longer than we want to!

Katti - i know my appt is not that far away - and thanks for the advice - i will definatly write everything down! as i have HEAPS of questions! i know i most likely wont fall before my appt but there is always that little glimmer of hope! do you know what is causing your M/C?

Hi again
hj1981, my problem is it is now 3 yrs with only 3 m/c and 3 chem pg to show, and nothing in the last year and I am about to turn 44. I've had FSH and LH tests and a lap, hysteroscopy and HSG and a whole range of blood tests for recurrent m/c panel but nothing shows up wrong so it must be purely as they say... age. Have you had the blood panel done? I know some REs wait til you have 3 m/c which to my mind is a sick idea. I think one m/c is bad enough .. my worst one was the 11w4d one so the next time I was told I had no h/b I asked for a D&C that day.
Well tis time to wash the dishes and then settle down for the evening.
hugs to you all and lets see even more BFPs on here :)
hugs
Jude

Jude - im sooo sorry to hear about all your bad luck! :( - i know what you mean about it being a sick idea to make a person wait until they have 3 M/C - it is wrong! M/C are a horrible thing for a peron to have to go thru!
i havent had a blood panel done yet! i hope maybe the FS i will be seeing on the 4th will be helpfull and send me away for all these tests!
Oh and your never too old for anything!!!!!

judy - how did you go today? i noticed your ticker says day 1 of cycle, i so hope its not right, i just looked at your chart too and I can see the line on the 11dpo, i just hope i'm reading the chart right.
cece - we were thinking of you on eli's due date, so hope the day was ok and you remembered eli in a fitting well. even with all your angst you still manage to make us laugh, your comment about your hubby cracked me up. my df is hounding me, all i can say is i'm closed for renovations, re-opening soon, he's not happy about that.
hj1981 - sb is right just make sure you write everything down and make sure you ask all the questions you can. i hpe you get some answers.
sb/jo and the rest of you lovely ladies - i can feel it in my waters (lol), the bfp's are a catching

Hi ladies!!!

hj- thanks for asking bout me- i dont know exactly what all my problem is/are...
i have been tested for everything and it came back that i have anti cardio lipin antibodies which is a blood thing that can cause m/c or cause clots in the placenta like i had with my daughter most recently, i need to take aspirin once i get pregnant.
I have also lost a little boy due to organ problems- no answers for why that one happened, and no answers for my recent very early m/c (except that i was taking the aspirin Before i got preg instead of waiting till i was) or my m/c a few years ago

For ages it seemed i couldnt get preg- then i went through a stage where i fell ON the pill (later m/c) and now i am trying again i have had not much luck in the last few months. I have an appt booked to see another specialist on the 14th- Fingers crossed it will be my first appt pregnant- or if not- i will be asking for more tests and maybe we might figure it all out.

Like the other ladies have said- the dr's are not very emotionally sympathetic when they say have three m/c before they will investigate- after my first loss i was told "these things happen- you are young there is no reson to think it will happen again" and no tests were done- then i had the m/c and they said- well its not the same as what happened before- so there is no real test or reason- then when i lost Zahra my dr finaly said- ok maybe we need to do some tests, a lot of heart ache to go through before they accept that you might have problems that they can fix!!

The other thing with just having m/c is that they are actually REALLY quite common for a woman to have one and for it to be not so much something wrong with her that needs help- its just that sometimes the cells dont do what they r supposed to do- and an average women m/c alot in her life and simply doesnt know it- its only when ppl like us who are trying are fanatical about testing and stuff that it gets noticed- and there isnt much that they can do about the natural m/ces- they DO happen for no apparent reason (sorry but i know that your dr is going to hit u with that one- so be prepared, when i was told that i nearly punched the dr in the face!! LOL)

It doesnt make your pain any easier to bear though- but that is the main reason why they make you wait till you have had a few m/c before taking much action.

I think it also depends on how early or late you m/c- with my first i actually had a missed m/c- the little sac had stopped growing long before my body was ready to let it go, so i thought i was about 10-11 weeks, but at the scan it was only a little 5 week sac, where as with my last m/c i was just a few days late and got a few faint lines and low hcg blood test and then started bleeding- so in a tiny way i was kinda proud of my body- at least it had learned what to do and didnt hold on to it for those extra weeks when it didnt need to. IYKWIM

well what a ramble from me!!! Hope its helped you hj- good luck on the 4th!!

Hi everyone else- that took ages and my lunch hour is over- so i will be back later for some more personals!!

Take care everyone

Jo Fingers crossed its our month!!!!!! I know how you feel about it all getting you down- it just takes so much out of us all month- there is always something to think about- am i o ing- HAve i o'd do i feel anything yada yadda yadda And all that time we are supposed to be able to just go on as normal everyday- its sooooo hard!!! And yes- days like Storms due date and all those things are just constant reminders of what we have lost and dont have and REALLY REALLY want!!!

Big hugs to you Jo- i say it again- I REALLY REALLY hope its our month babe- i really do.

Judy- sorry to see Day 1, hope like klee said its just your ticker ticking itself over and not all hope has been lost for this month yet, chin up darl Big Hug xox

OOoopps sorry Klee and Kat, I forgot it was a self-rolling over ticker.. I have corrected it and hopefull I can change it completely in a few days.
Klee the line is actually clearer in real sight and a pink colour but it needs to darken up quite a lot before i call it lol.
back later. ph ringing.
jude

Hi girls - sorry a reeeeally quick one for me (I am at work and shouldnt be posting, naughty um mah!) but I wanted to tell Judy - I just looked at your 11dpo tests as well... I think you should go and buy a chemist one! I got even lighter lines than those (wouldnt even show in a photo) and my sister talked me into buying a chemist one - I bought Crystal Clear - and I got the darkest positive you could think to get and it came up really quickly. I was using the exact same tests as you, those cheapo dip sticks and even on day AF was due the darkest I got was your 11dpo one, I just dont think those ones show dark! And pg was confirmed by BHCG on Monday! :crossfingers: for you.

And Cece, big :hug: for Eli's anniversary. Hope you are doing ok.

Thank you Mel. I did use a Forelife (3 pk from Woolies supposed to measure 10miu) te same day I got my first line and got nothing on that.. although dumb me should know that even after a beta of 150 alst time at 13dpo I never got a line on that brand til 14dpo. I think I have one Crystal Clear from a couple of months ago so I'll do that one in the morning.

That is so great about your BFP though. you must be over the moon.
What is your EDD?
Naomi do you have your EDD yet?

Kat you just have to get your BFP hun.

hugs to you lovely ladies
Jude