Watch out- its been awhile its gonna be LOOOONG
Hello Beautiful ladies!!!!
Welcome to the best thread in the world new comers!!
Sheree- Your story sounds as sad as all of ours. One thing that hit a spot with me was how you said you get confused because your body can make the baby, but not carry it... Welcome to my world!!!
I have concieved without troubles three times. I have lost in the first, second and third trimester for all different reasons. I know that i had aniticardiolipin antibodies in my most recent pregnancy (My daughter Zahra, lost at 36 weeks) but there is no explaination for my miscarrage or for my sons organ abnormality (my pregnancy was stopped at 18weeks as he was not going to make it)
And after hearing about your successful pregnancy, perhaps a test for anticardio could be on the cards for you as it is a blood clotting type issue thing.
And please, never ever ever talk down your saddness and your pain. Take it from someone who has lost at every stage, it hurts all the same. Our pain is not measured by weeks or days, it is universal love and you no doubt have felt the same sorrow as all of us,no more and not one bit less. Big Hugs to you and welcome to our world.:grouphug:
Ellie- If you are still lurking, please dont be afraid to come in and just talk... it says TTC thread, but as long as we dont mind you can stay i think. I lurked around for months before i felt ready to actually start trying again!! The ladies are all very supportive, and its this kind of support we need to help us get back on the horse and try again. (when we are ready... you are doing what is good for you by waiting) i know i needed to spend time in the pregnancy thread becuase i was still sort of dealing with how i handled my pregnancy with Zahra. Even tho i wasn't pregnant, it wasn't hard for me to rememebr how those women were feeling in a pregnancy after a loss, and i still had some issues to talk about becuase those feeling were still so much in my heart.
And then once i was ready to start trying again, i already had my support network here and waiting, coz they were the gorgeous ladies who helped me to feel better!! So i just wanted to let you know that if there is anything you need to let out, you are welcome to do it here!! :)
CeCe Says- Hello!! I am soo sorry that your friend was so insensitive. You did well not to bop her one over the head! Now to me, a nice thing for her to have said would be "Thank you for the maternity clothes, how are you coping with all of this today? If you need anything or i can do anything to make you feel more at ease,please let me know." But hey- thats just me. i hope your nice clothes give her a rash too!! As far as what to do at times like these, i tend to just start crying or walk away. And i have to admit, i dont think anyone has been that insensitive to my face like that. In your case i might have said REALLLLY loudly, "Oh yes, i wouldn't want my miscarrage to put a damper on your day!!! How rude of me." and see what happens from there, but i can be a bit of a sh#t stirrer sometimes.
Good luck with your OPKs, i am getting my first delivery some time this week, i have a brand spanking new digital thermometre and i have no idea what i am supposed to do with either of them!!?? i will be doing alot of peeing while i figure them out!!! Maybe we can help eachother out!! LOL (and no- i am not peeing on my thermometre, thats just silly, or is that what i am supposed to do?? LMAO LOL)
Jo- it is sad to know not many people will get the chance to see Storm, i would be honored too to see her if you would like me to. Not many people have seen darren either, maybe we could show eachother. I would have to figure out how to scan pictures etc, actually i would rather do it in person, face to face so we can really share and cry and hug and be there for eachother, but failing that i will find a way to scan pictures in here, i would like to have one of Zahra's pictures in here too, i am sure there is somewhere to put them where we can look at them. Lets try and work something out soon.... I do remember now you saying that you spent time with her, i think i had just missed exactly how far along you were when you lost her. Did you have any trouble being allowed to take her home and bury her, i remeber the dr's saying either we couldn't or we didn't have to for Darren. I think i was that much of a mess i was more grateful to have it out of my hands then to worry if i was honoring him. Looking back now, i wish i had done something more significant with his body. Does that sound weird?
I too know your feelings of isolation. Small towns are great, but they do get lonely and the chances of finding someone else in your shoes is highly possible, but not highly likely. just remeber you have us, and you can share your most insignificant thoughts with us, (at least i hope we can, coz i do!!!!) and your most deep and sad thoughts too. But i guess too its like what i was saying before, its nice to have someone right there with you who is there for you who can really hug you and be there face to face. And it weird sometimes when we post and then we may have to wait a few days for a response... i have combatted that by swapping numbers with a few of the girls so i can text them and get that support back right away. If you'd like i'll pm you my number and i will be there whenever you need me!! :hug:
Auntie M Hellllloooooo all the way in America!!! I just saw the last episode in the new Dr Who series, they defeated the evil Time lord and saved the Dr!!! Go MArtha!! I'm not sure when the next one will be on, i may have to go down to the video store and rent some of the old ones, i am a new fan.... but i like it so far!
Your description of how the bad days get on top of you is exactly how i feel!! Well actually everything you said was spot on. Thankyou!
How are you feeling today? Is your morning sickness still reminding you everyday that you are on your way to success??? How are your plans and decisions going?
Big Hugs to you from me, while your journey will be hard, it is one that will be worth the wait! Take care!!
MEL Hello stranger!! I have been off the planet a bit lately! (Whats New?) but i am feeling much better. I had a great weekend, we spent most of Saturday doing exactly what i wanted (watching telly and doing nothing!!) and we went out for breakkie on sunday and then went to see some friends. Still waiting for my tests to arrive (they would only have recieved my mail order today, so i'll give them a few days) and then i am going to the dr next week. I have noticed you have been missing from here again, is everything ok? Did you go back to work at that place again? Big hugs if you have! Hope all is well with the family! Take care!!
KLEE i have left you till last coz i am still pacing and waiting to click on those green men. Sore throat in one spot hey??? I like the sound of that!! Making yourself sick, i understand that!! So I am inpatiently waiting...... Sending all the vibes i have your way!! Its beautiful that DF was asking how strong your line was, i think that is gorgeous!! Are you leaving work early today? i am filling in time, but i was silly and started posting first and i cant pm while posting or i loose the post (found that out the hard way!!) But i started this about 2 hours ago!!! I am gonna check if your still here, and if not, i will be here late tonight and i would love the honor of making any announcements needed. BTW have you got my pressie yet?????/
Wow, that took ages!! I bet i have missed some posts while i have been typing this novel!!
Hello to anyone i have missed.... love to all!!
StarBright!!
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I'm jumping up and down!!!
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