Queenluxury how far along are you? i have heard HCG starts to drop at a certain stage
i hope all is ok :hug:
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Queenluxury how far along are you? i have heard HCG starts to drop at a certain stage
i hope all is ok :hug:
How did the scan go? :comfort:
Im so sorry your husband is treating you this way.
He is blind to see a beautiful family infront of him.
Hope everything is OK. been silently stalking.
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Been thinking of you too hun xxx.
Regards,
Dianne
I'm so need to go to toilet lol waiting for a scan in an hour. Now I trying to drink 1lt of water.
Thanks everyone for all the caring and supporting comments. :D
Called old boss at work today and asked him if I can get some casual work b4 I'm due. Unfortunately, it's kind quiet at work at the moment. I was working in freight company so not much shipping during end of year til after jan :(
Ive been stalking too, but had nothing productive to add. Good luck with your scan. Hoping everything is perfect. :hug:
Good luck - xoxoxox Huge hugs!
Both of babies are fine! Hb at 167 & 174
They were moving around too much and give a hard time to the man at radiology :p
Husband hasn't once ask me how the scan go. I was the only pregnant woman that go for a scan alone. Everyone have their partner with them. Feel so upset when thinking about it.
The question he asked me b4 I left home to scan is, Can I change my Facebook status to single?? ..... Seriously?!
After my counseling appointment tomorrow I will tell him that I'm 100% keep these babies. *sigh* I'm so scared! I know He was hoping me to agree with abortion. Gonna be a drama tomorrow
Yay! I'm so glad your babies are fine!
Yay that's great that there happy and active oxo good luck tomorrow maybe your councillor could give you some details for local organizations that can help you
I'm so sorry for what you are going through, it isn't fair and yes men can be selfish. You are hurting right now honey, I can feel your pain. Let me tell you something, your dh will regret his decision eventually, but unfortunately for him it may be too late. He is not a man, he is letting his insecurities hurt you and to expect you to abort your babies is horrible. You want these babies, and you will give them the love they need. There is help out there.
He may not want these babies, but don't let him intimidate you, it won't be him who lays there crying about losing your babies, it won't be him, wondering what they would have looked like and whether you made the right decision. It would be you beating yourself up everyday, your the one who has them growing in you, your the one that has loved them from the moment they were created. That love and attachment just gets stronger. So your dh may want to be alone, until the next woman he meets then does the same thing to her, but honey he has given you something so precious, your babies. They are the most important gift that he has ever given you, don't let him take that away from you too. He may not want the responsibility of being a husband and a father, but let me tell you he is the one that will be missing out.
I wish you all the love and support and hope all goes well for you tomorrow with the counsellor.
Just remember, hold your head up high, as you are going to be a strong independent woman, and a wonderful mother. I won't say that it will be easy, but being a mother is a wonderful thing.
Just while you are hurting and overcome with sadness and feeling of abandonment, don't rush into any decisions, make sure you think everything through, and don't let anyone make your mind up for you, this is your decision, your dh doesn't have a right over you and the decisions you make, especially now that he has made his own decision to walk away from your vows. You make the decisions that is right for you and what you can live with.
I'm thinking of you, and honestly I do hope your dh wakes upto himself, but you need to think of yourself right now.
Take care and I'm so glad your babies are ok.
Hey, just want to add it is possible. I found myself pregnant with two older kids an the dad wanting me to abort the baby or at least adopt it out. I refused and let my family and friends know my situation. I was surrounded by love and support and the generosity of everyone. Clothes, bedding, toys, nappies and pretty much everything you can think of. Many of the bb ladies were a great support, let people help.
Really glad to hear that the scan went well.
So glad your babies are doing well xxx.
Regards,
Dianne
Glad to hear your little babies are doing well!
I second what ryatha said. While I haven't been in your situation myself, I work with a lady whose husband left her when she was pg with twins. They had two older kids as well so she was doing it tough for a while. Her twins are now three, their "father" has nothing to do with them and she is now engaged to another man. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You might have a hard road ahead, but you will get there. I'm glad the scan went well too. :hug:
Good to hear bubs are ok. With your dumb husband, tell him YES change your "oh so important Facebook status" to single and divorce his arse properly before he can hide anymore assets that your entitled too. If Facebook is more important than how your scan went then im sorry hun but he's not worth the stress, your better off without him.
Glad your babys are ok :)
time to lawyer up and kick his butt legally. Go for everything! but don't take less then half. Its his decision to split and his request to abort so fully argue the pre-nump.
Hey QL sorry I have not been on for a while. Do you have Facebook? I can search for you and add you.
I'm not sure if I'm allow to post my name on here? Lol but here is my another fb account that I use to play game " twinkly bubblez duong " I got my two little dogs as my profile picture :):
B4 he went out for a drink with his mates, he asked me how the scan grand when I told him that they both doing fine. They were so active and couldn't stop dancing inside my womb.
" I don't feel like go out anymore " he said so I asked him why is that?
" the babies thing kinda kill my mood " O_O I'm speechless.... He wasn't the man I fall in love with 5 yrs ago. I don't know who he is anymore.
I'm so upset that I have to go through this pregnancy alone. It suppose to be the time to enjoy n feel bless together. Now every ob appointment or birth class i will have to go by myself...
After all this bs he put me through, I still couldn't hate him. Why I still sitting here feel sorry for myself for not having him to support me? When I should be angry, mad n hate him for putting me through this...
Sent you an FB message.:
Got it hun but couldn't add u from another account. So I add u on that one I use it to talk to my mum :) I think it has something to do with ur setting :confused: and can't msg u neither .:
Sent you an FB message.:
I think feeling any hate towards him although understandable would be counter productive and he isn't worth wasting the emotional energy on how did counseling go?
Please feel free to add me on Facebook if you like, there is a facebook icon under my username, thinking of you xx.
Regards,
Dianne
I glad your scan went well. Thinking of you and your DumbH. :support:
Please don't worry about feeling bad about your dh, how can you? You are in love with this man, otherwise I'm sure you wouldn't have married him. You are not expected to fall out of love with him instantly. You are on an emotional roller coaster right now, your feelings are hurt, your confused and most of all you are in shock. Don't be hard on yourself, you will have a love for him for a while no doubt, so please don't be hard on yourself. What he has done is not your fault, he is responsible for your pain, he is responsible for the choices he makes, whether good or bad. Just look after yourself, try to at least, when you are so depressed it is very hard, but please do try.
I can't. :p every time I clicked it, it will bring me to Facebook page " expired link or mistype address ":
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Thanks darl ;) u r absolutely right.
I think I only hold on because im afraid of what will happen when I let go. I just need to slowly put the past behind, forgets everything I ever felt and move on. I'm hurt and torn. I gave him my life & he destroyed it. Time will heal... Sooner or later I will be ok without him in my life
Of course you hold on, when you love someone it isn't easy to let go, you do hold onto hope that things will work out the way it was supposed to. It takes time Hun, you really are grieving right now, your whole world has been turned upside down by someone you thought would never hurt you. That is what is hard to comprehend, because this person you entrusted with your heart.
Just remember to give yourself time, and remember one very important thing, he has given you 2 beautiful bubs and when they are here with you although hard, you will feel all the love, unconditional love from those little souls.
It really is an amazing feeling having these little lives just love you, because your their mum, not because they want something from you in return, just because your their mum.
Take care Hun, and look after yourself.
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Well said Csab, I almost have tears!
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Thanks so much darl *hug*
My D**** Husband text me this arvo and said "I want to be single , no commitment, do whatever I want. B4 I always drink and party even during weekday, having two girls or more and I never a married type. I never changed and def not ready for kid. I lost contact with most friends that's why I never go out in these past 3 yrs. now I have friends I want to go do my things alone"
So he is pretty much want me to abort his babies n divorce me because he want to be single ,go drinking n sleep around!! What a joke he is!!
In your area there might be a student midwife who would be happy to follow your pregnancy. Maybe go along to appointments and classes etc.
Argh what an idiot he is!! You'd think he'd have thought of this BEFORE getting married and doing ivf!!!
Was there any hints of him becoming like this again recently? Or was it solely after you became pregnant?
Does a prenup still hold up if he's been unfaithful?
Urgh you're better off without him, babies or not!! Is there anywhere you can go to stay?
Queen luxury - your story made me cry. 3 months ago I gave birth to twins and yes it's been hard but you can do this, and itvwill be the best thingnyou ever do.
My DH works long hours, travels a lot so sometime I feel like I'm very alone as well. I know it's not the same but this is what I can tell you.... Your friends will spring into action and be there for you. Sometimes my girlfriends come over in their lunch break to bring a sandwich, feed a baby and fold my washing.
Centerline will help you and your husband will have to pay child support - you will have enough money to live. If you PM me your address I will send you enough clothes for the first 3 months (there's a fair bit of pink butnlotsbof grey and navy as well) if you live in wA I will come and help you out - anything so don't have to give up your babies.
Chances are your DH will see these two miracles and change his mind. Twins are a hell of a shock - but you'll get through, I can give you a couple of car seats - I have 4 kids and more stuff than I'll ever need again. It's called the sisterhood - we stick together and we never give up. You are wonderfully young - if he does leave chances are you'll meet someone better who will love you and your miracle babies.... Perhaps this is your destiny.... Who knows.
All I can tell you is that milky smiles, unconditional love, total trust and warm hugs are what bakes do best. Don't deprive yourself of that because your DH has cold feet. If you need help I will help you, as others have done for me. But you must first help yourself - be strong, find the courage to know you have two beautiful lives depending on you. Do it for love and the rest will follow.
If you need clothes, car seats, even nappies PM me, go to counselling make the decision that is right for you. Twins are a miracle and they wouldn't have been sent to you - if the universe didn't think you could handle them.
With love, dan x
Hows things going huni? Stay strong we are all here to support you.. I'm due to start ivf soon myself and can only imagine how you must be feeling.
Dan - you've made me cry. You are such a beautiful woman to offer all the help but when someone needs help there is always support.
Much love rach xx
Make sure you keep those text messages... they might help you contest the pre-nup...
sorry you are going through this
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You made me cry when I read this also. It's nice to know that there are lot peoples out there that so kind n willing to help.
I live in Morley at the moment but I will probably have to move soon. Depend on husband if he is kind enough to let me stay until I give birth while he move out for few months or he could have kick me out in couple weeks because angry at me for keep these babies.
He booked appointment for abortion for me this Saturday. He still in denial n hope in this 2-3 days I will change my mind.
Everyday I still cook , clean n do the laundry for him. I have to put up with the things he did n said because i have no where to go. As soon as the babies born, I will get more payment from centrelink which would help me get my own place.
I couldn't PM u yet because I have to post 50 times before be able to pm anyone. I will PM as soon as I can :) thank you!! Thank you so much!!
Why are you still doing everything for him when he's treating you like this?
This is just an awful situation.