Thanks guys. So I am trying a gradual wean for now with lots of distraction. The weather is warming up so outside time is really helpful for distracting. Inside is harder, like you said Saffy as soon as you sit it's a free for all.

I tried talking to her about it but that was a bad move it made her want to feed more and she got quite upset and extra clingy for about a week. So I think slow and subtle is the go. I still feel sad, but I think it's time.