4 month old at wedding reception

[CoNNiE_Melb]

I should have mentioned, that the initial reason for not having children, was that our reception didnt allow children... possibly because it was right next to a lake and could be dangerous. If you say no to 1 person having their child, you have to say no to all otherwise people start getting offended.

[MummyTummy]

If you say no to 1 person having their child, you have to say no to all otherwise people start getting offended.

See this is where I slightly disagree. I agree about children as opposed to babies under 6 months where milk is their only source of nutrition. If they are under 6 months and not on any solids and especially if they are BF (relying on Mum). If they are able to be fed in another way, then sure, asking them not to come is a reasonable request.

I know Ruth is doing both BF and bottle feeding, but this is due to supply issues, not for convenience. And of course the best way to get your supply up and keep it up is BF, BF, BF.

I just want to add that this isn't an attack on you Connie, you do make a valid point.

[CoNNiE_Melb]

Hehe absolutely, I dont take it as an attack! Everyone has their own opinions and is different...

I guess the reason I was most frustrated is because the week before the wedding, they were happy to leave the baby with someone else to go to the footy grand final all day, but they weren't willing to do it for our wedding...

I also know for a fact that she was not BFing.

[Doing my best]

Personally I wouldn't have an issue being asked not to take my child no matter what age if there known and trusted babysitters on hand e.g grandparents/aunt/uncle.

But travelling interstate or overseas it is different. There is no way I would trust someone else to find a babysitter for my kids, so asking someone to travel that far and not include the kids is a bit rough. If it is a case of not being allowed due to venue, then I am sure people would be respectful of this, but I would want to know that is the reason, and I am sure the bride/groom would also respect my decision not to go.

But also as someone else already mentioned, it is possible the bride isn't aware of the full needs of a child if she doesn't have any. I know my perspective changed when I couldn't give the baby back ..

[Bloom]

Thanks for your input everyone. I spoke with the groom and he said that there was a blanket rule no children at all allowed. I said that DS is very quiet and wouldn't create a disturbance but he needed to be with his mum. He said that he's asked his sister not to bring her children (not sure of their ages or if they have local sitters) so I therefore can't bring my DS. The groom offered to find a baby sitter for DS - and I was like NO WAY! He didn't seem to understand that I wasn't happy to leave a 4 month old with someone I'd never met before...

So it was a choice between DS AND me or neither, and they chose neither. It's their wedding so ultimately it's up to them, but it's not a decision I would have made... Still, at least I won't have to sit through the speeches! LOL.

[Miss E]

OMG Ruth I'm so sorry they haven't been more understanding. I went to a wedding on the weekend with my 4 month old and it was fine. We had him the pram the whole time and he was happy as. I think it's hard for people who don't have children to understand what they need and why they need it.

[luna moth]

Oh that SUCKS! That would make me so friggen mad! Especially when you are already booked to go down there!

Oh grrrrrrrrrrrr!

[sneakysparkle]

Im shocked! Wow. Shame youre booked already!

[*Beema*]

Gosh I cant believe the reaction really

That sucks that you have already booked as well, I would leave my DD with someone I didn't know either and at 4 months old... I think NOT!!

[AliB]

What a bugger!!

I do feel sorry for those having to make the judgement calls though... maybe his sister's kids are TOTAL nightmares and in order to keep them away and keep family harmony he has to take a hardline approach.

Stupid formal weddings! My first wedding reception was in my then woolshed, kids welcome... and if I walk down the aisle again with DP I will remember this thread