So DS's birthday is coming up in a couple of months and I've started thinking (Read: making myself anxious and panicy) about it.

I have a couple of issues

#1:
I am NOT good with social situations, being a host is my idea of a nightmare and I am freaking out. Last year his b'day was ok. Really scary for me, but we pulled it off ok, I was just really stressed - trying to make sure everythjing went ok, people were happy (what are they thinking? Do they wish they hadn't come? etc), add to that my mother , minimal help from DF although now he SWEARS it was equal. I'm so scared it will be the same this year. I feel like crying just thinking about going through it all again. This isn't how I want to feel on my baby's special day (or for the next 2 months!), I wish I could get excited about it. On the other hand I'm kind of excited that I found a dinosaur cake mould and some cutters and things so I'm excited about having found a cool theme, then I remember the rest and I start to feel sick again.

Help?

#2:
MIL +FIL and his GF. FIL has a new GF. MIL has decided she hates her on the basis of.. well nothing. According to MIL she must be either really stupid or there is something seriously wrong with her to want to date him. To the point where we can't mention her NAME in her presence. She wont go to SIL's house because they live in the same building. It's absolutely rediculous. I can understand not wanting to make friends with her but she could at least be polite and keep contact to a minimum rather than flat out refusing.
We like her, more importantly, Isaac likes her - more than he likes FIL actually . We want her to come if we end up having a party, but what do we do about MIL? We live with her so cant really tell her to suck it up or homelife is going to be rather awkward.

Erk! I hate organising stuff