Well you proved me wronge ;) Not empting the dirthy clothes haha if thats the only con you have a great relationship. Well done :):
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Well you proved me wronge ;) Not empting the dirthy clothes haha if thats the only con you have a great relationship. Well done :):
We're a bit different... We got together at 16, engaged at 17 and then married at 21, so we were together for five years before we got married. In a few weeks we will have been together for 14 years :)
Met/started dating when I was 15, engaged 8 years later, married 3 years after that (on 11th anniversary), and coming up to our 4th wedding anniversary (15 years in total).
And I'm still in love with him! Sometimes I think i must be a little crazy...
DH#1 - I was 19 & he was 21when we met. We got engaged when I was 23 and married when I was 24 so nearly 5 years before we got married. Separated 3 years later after a total of 8 years together. We never lived together beforehand.
DH#2 - We got together in Sept 07 I moved in March 08, he propsed on our 1 year anniversary in Sept 08 and married April this year...so a total of about 19 months.....oh pregnant in July/August and first bubba due May 2010, two weeks after our first wedding anniversary. Ahhh that is moving fast when I read that LOL
Suppose you just never really know until you meet someone how it will all end up :D
May 2002: We met, became friends sometime over the next few months (I hated him for a little bit, but he won me over and I developed a crush on him... He says he loved me from the very beginning :D )
October 14th 2002: First Kiss, he asked me out the next day
November 20th 2004: We broke up, stayed friends
September 17th 2006: Got back together
June 8th 2007: He proposed at my 21st birthday
October 14th 2007: I moved in with him officially after spending most nights there anyway
August 19th 2009: We found out I'm pregnant after a few "scares" along the way
September 19th 2009: We got married
Sometime next year: We have our first child together :D
We were together for 4 years before marrying
We moved in together after less than a month of being a couple (although he was practically living with me during that time anyway, we never wanted to be apart), then we got married five months after we moved in together. We'd been together six months lol :) Our third wedding anniversary is early next year.
And on the other hand, I know couples who were together for x amount of months/years before moving in together, lived together for x amount of months/years before getting engaged, were engaged for x amount of months/years before getting married, in order to determine whether they would make it last before making the official commitment... and then ended up divorced before their first wedding anniversary. So I don't think the success of a relationship has anything to do with the amount of time involved - for some couples, time will strengthen their bond, for others, it will wear away at the relationship and turn the cracks into shatters.
Met when i was 14 he was 19, lived together since i was 16/exspecting our first born, he asked me to marry him when i was 18, got married when i was 19 and exspecting our 2nd the same month as our 1 year wedding anniversary
We got married on the exact day we met 7 years prior...so together for over 9 years now :)
Reason we left it so long is with us being young when we met + DH is not Aussie (well he is now!) but we wanted to be sure that staying in Oz was the right thing to do + alot of red tape (ie not anting to get hitched just for a visa too!) + I wanted to buy a place before spending $$ on a wedding so that all took time!
DF and i moved in together, i was 16, he was 19 and we had ben together about 2months. We JUST got enaged this christmas after almost 6 years together and couldnt be happier :D
xh & I met in Aug 03, he went away for just over a year to "find himself" up north in Dec 03, he turned up on my doorstep in Feb 05 to stay a few days until he found somewhere (he never left & I was too scared to ask him to go), in June 05 he proposed, Nov 05 we were married, May 08 we separated, Aug 09 we were divorced.
Should have followed advice of friends the day I met him and stayed away from him. Also should have followed the intense gut instinct the day before & the day of my wedding and NOT done it. But when it all started going to hell in a handbasket, I believed in my vows and I tried to save it, shame he was already in somebody else's bed at this point & didn't want to save it.
Now I'm more wary, even though I was brought up with strict morals, I may even go against everything I've been brought up to believe and not marry again, but live "in sin". xh was the first and only guy I've ever lived with. Bet that bit shocked you all :D
Well DF and i are not married yet (will be in 2 months time tho :dance:... we will have been together for abit over 5.5 years... We have only been engaged for 4 months (took him forever to ask me lol)
I met DH when I was 17 and he was 18. He asked me to marry him on our first date. I declined, but agreed to keep dating :) He proposed when he was 21 and I was 20, and we were married a year after that. We've now been married for 17 years.
Like Nelle, we didn't live together before we were married. We think the "success" (for want of a better word) of marriage preparation lies in discussing values, communication and conflict styles, default positions (ie what you've been brought up with), expectations etc, rather than test-running living arrangements. In my opinion, if you can't work out the other stuff, then nothing will make the living arrangements work out. :)
DH and I got together when we were 13, so keep this in mind ;).
DH and were together for a bit over 2 years before we moved in together - however, when I say moving in, I moved in with DH and his mum and brother when I was 16 so that I could do year 11 at a half-decent college. In Year 12 I moved out on my own with a friend though. A year after that DH and I moved in together again, this time sharing with a friend. It was while we were living here that we got engaged - we were 18. While we were engaged we finally moved in together by ourselves.
A year and a half later we got married - we were 19 (I turned 20 the day after). So, we were together for 6.5 years before getting married - and we've now been married for over 4 years :).
We met in March 97, engaged in January 99 and married the following year in April. We've been together 13 years next march. We didn't live together till about 3 months before we were married. I know couples who have been together for years and years and split as soon as the ink on the marriage certificate was dry and know other couples who met and were married within the first year. It's not the length of time that you are together for before you get married, but how committed you are to each other and how committed you are to making it work. I'm sure that your friends know what they are doing and it is their mistake to make if it doesn't work outin the end kwim?
Met and got together April 2000 ( I was 21 he was 25)
Broke up Feb 2001 (didnt speak or have any contact)
Till June 2002 got together
I moved in September 2002
Engaged Feb 2005
Married May 2006
So together 7 and 1/2 years
Moved into a house together after 7 months (although practically inseparable before that), engaged at 8years... we've been together 8.5years now :rolleyes:
He was a little slow realising that I was the one he wanted to commit to
XH - I was 18, he was 21 when we met and started dating. I was 22, he 25 when we got engaged and then moved out together. We were both still living with our parents then. Took us another 3 years to actually get married and then 2 years to get divorced.
DH - we have been friends for 14 years now but both being in other relationships we never considered each other as partners. We actually started dating in Dec 05, a few months after XH & I broke up. I was resisting because I felt it was too soon after my break up, but couldn't resist and knew it was right. We were inseparable from then and he moved in with me 3 months later and fell pregnant 4 months after that. We got engaged in March this year and married in August. So we've been together just on 4 years all up. It has been the best 4 years of my life :) We are soul mates.