I can understand how u feel. I don't see my dad (he was abusive) and even though my mum and brothers and sisters still have his last night I was very happy when I got married to shed that name and it definitely annoys me that my name on my ds's birth cert is listed as my maiden name...its not my name (we were married for well over a year when ds1 was born) I suppose they look as urstep dads name the same as they would ur marital name...something u have changed it to. But really I dont understand the need to have it listed as such to track back to that name.

Surely no one u need to use birth cert as id needs that info so surely it would be enough for bdm to just keep a record for themselves, this could be hurtful for ppl like urselves or others that have been adopted and changed their names etc