LMAO - one of my cousins wore a white suit to my wedding! I do feel that only the bride should wear all white, but a white top should be OK.

Just so long as she isn't getting married in ivory and wanted it to look white, because then you'll show her up for having a non-white dress! But who is going to really notice a white top if you're covering most of it up (say with a jacket because it's cold). And you're not going to be hugging her in the photos by the sound of it either.

I think all the rules for dressing for weddings have gone now. You don't see so many hats these days either. And what with wedding dresses being all crimson and gold and pink (I like white!) then you can't just blanket ban every colour that the dress could be.

Good luck, I hope your DH likes the first dress so there's not a worry for you.