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I think that is near my inlaws?? Who knows I am so lost up here! I can name any street in the city.....glad you are ok. Loneliness I think is the stem of my teary's most times. I think I rely to much on my DH for emotional support - need to get "back out" into the world a bit myself.....I think my brain is turning into Iggle Piggle's some days.....
Ver very true, I'm much the same. I have been very reliant on DH for emotional support (as I should be!) and have been doubting myself and what I can do on my own. Being a mummy is so not easy! Don't have so many friends that I realy on (read: none, lol!) and try not to rely on mum too much...
mmm I think I expect too much from DH too - You know when they are trying there best and do 9 out of 10 things right but you still let the 10th thing annoy you? When you feel like all you do is clean the house and say "No!" "Dont touch" and "Beaauuuu!" all day? I guess we loose sight of our abilities outside of being a mum. I dont have any friends around here either - except my SIL but she never "opens up" IYKWIM? I dont know what the answer is - I have lined up two freelance jobs in the city next month I think to re-connect with my busioness brain and be paid for it!
Holy Moly Mel.....see what happens when I cant get on the net?!?!?
Congratulations on the safe arrival of Jared Ray. And well done on the labor and birth and coming home so quick. Rest up and enjoy.
Dis-CONGRATS on the birth of Jared
I will apologise up front for the me post.....over the last month James has just been a nightmare which has left me tired,sad and feeling like a failure as a mum....Ithink going back to work after the xmas holidays has not helped at all either....and all of this because i gave in just once...one noght i put him to bed and he said "up up" so i figured it would not hurt to get him up for a little longer..well how wrong could i be...since then every night has been a battle to get him to bed and to stay asleep...I have to fight to get him in the cot and then he will just scream no mater how i try settling him it want work and then because he is screaming so much he will vomit so i give in and have to get him up..eventually he will go asleep but then wake up so i have spent the last month lying on the floor of his room just so he will sleep..if i added up the hours of sleep i have had I am sure it would not even add up to 24 hours in the past month...having Natasha whinging all the time as well and having to find activities to amuse her everyday has just left me BLAH....
Ok sorry about the whinge I just needed to get it out....Hi to everyone else...hope the new arrivals are doing well and the new mummies are getting more sleep with there new bubs then i am with my almost 2 y.o...
ok must go sorry for no personals Tash is now bugging me to blow up that 10th ballon and i will just have to give in to keep her quite so she want wake James...god i pray for me time
Hey Von- big hugs to you. You do need some "me" time. Sounds like you have tried loads of stuff. Ok, so heres my 2 cents worth and I know some people dont agree with it but for me it was a case of desperate times needed desperate meassures.... when we were having trouble with olivia getting off to sleep, mum suggested phenergan for a few nights in a row. So I went to the chemist to get some, they dont give it out anymore, so they gave me some polaramine....which is an antihistamine....which we also use for her allergies.....I gave her 3 nights in a row and she seemed to get into a routine. It worked for me, maybe you could give it a try. I felt guilty giving it to her for that reason but like I said, I was desperate......please dont think I'm a bad mother, but I did what I did.
HEy All,
Tis quiet in here....I just had the best sleep. It was still light outside when we went to be...930 and didnt get up til 445am. Back to sleep at 6 and woke to Olivia at 830. Its a beautiful day, hope youre enjoying it too.
Beter go get something done...the day goes fast when you get up late
Grrr, I wrote a post the other day and have just realised that it's not here! How annoying!!!
Oh well...It was something along the lines of the fact I can sympathise with you Von, and that you're definately NOT a bad mummy Mel. We all do the things we need to to get along in life. Our kids are none the worse for it!
How's this for a bad night Von...last night I was up every hour or more. Once for and hour and a half with Liam and once for and hour with Lily. Then for varoius reasons withone or the other, dummies, feeding, drinks...I'm beyond tired. I'm over trying to sleep. Why bother I never get to?? It was the same the night before. Night before that not so bad, but still pretty miserable! I'm soooo over it all and I'm considering going to Karitane, even though I don't agree with how they 'teach' babies to sleep. But I need to get sleep. I haven't had a decent nights sleep for almost 2 years. Now Liam is here it's even worse. I'm so jack of it!!
Ok that's my little whinge for the day, can't muster up the energy to write much more! Hope you all have a great weekend :D
Hey All....
Woah I am melting! I am over this heat already! I think our electricity bill is going to be in the 4 figures!:lol: And I am ovulating so DTD is sending me over the edge! Its too hot for that!
Wow Kel, on your scale my night was tame, once at 11:30 to turn the ac on and open Beaus door, waking him up in the process and having to sit up with him then to get him back off then my silly dogs escaped and were in the neighbours yard barking their heads off at 5:30am!! Hugs to you, I think in this heat its hard to sleep anyway and function in the day let alone with two wakful bubbas! I think you should call karitane, you never know, now Lil is older, she might take to it quicker and it wont be as bad as you think. Its worth a try. You can make the times as short as you want that you check in on her remember, you need some rest, otherwise its impossible to think, be a mummy, be happy or string a sentence together! Would you consider Lil maybe going into family day care or something for a day a week to give you a small break?
Mel - Wow you sound rested after your nice sleep! Good on you - hope it continues! I wouldnt feel guilty about any decisions you make as a mum, you have to look after yourself and your sanity too so you can be a mum afterall.
Von - Wow you have been through the wringer, James sounds like he is punishing you for going back to work the only way he knows how! Does he take a bottle to bed to chill him out? Is it his teeth do you think? Have you had his ears checked out? Sorry I have no real advice but I hope things are improving now x
Us - Were ok, my SIL just rang and they are doing a pop in soon so I need to get moving....my other brother is coming tomorrow and I have had my mum and her husband here this week and they are coming again next week to stay. Dh, Beau and I are going to hibernate at home this long weekend I think!! Happy Australia Day everyone!!!
Melissa-I was prescribed phernergan from my GP when James had an allergic reaction to something and his eye puffed up the size of an apple...anyway I have heard that is makes them sleepy and thought yay maybe I would get some sleep..BUT would you believe it did nothing to help him sleep...it did however help with the eye:rolleyes:
Kel-I am sorry that you are also having sleep issues...I would call Karitane you have nothing to loose..I tried a centre like that here but it was not for me but i did pick up some good tips that i did not think of.
Jen-yep i am soooo over the heat as well I have a wedding to go to tomorrow and it is outside in a winery so I am hoping a cool change comes through cause i dont think i can stand outside in the heat for an hour while they get married....James still has a bottle at night..the only way i can get him to sleep, I am thinking it may be his molars coming through...
us-well last night i was up every hour and a half with james so feeling stuffed again today..what i find amazing is dh just sleeps through it and at the moment he is sleeping in the room right next door to James' (don't ask)...anyway when i go into James' room i can hear him snoring through the bloody wall:wall: ok well i have a wedding tomorrow and nothing to wear so will have to go pull all my clothes out now to see what is wearable...
Hey Von...hope you found something to wear to the wedding in this ridiculous heat! You know what they say, babies can sense tension in the house....otherwise maybe Dh's snoring is keeping james awake too?????LOL
Hey girls,
I've been MIA due to a couple of days of feeling really tired and unwell. Two bleeding nipples and a mastitis scare thrown in just for good measure!
Apart from that, we're doing well :lol: Jared had a great night last night... slept for four hours, woke up for a feed and then slept for another three. Boy it makes a difference! For the first three nights he was here, I didn't sleep much at all, which is why I was feeling so ill. Anyway, hopefully it's all behind us now.
Ben is waking too early in the morning though which is a pain. He hears us up at 5am and decides that he'd like to get up and play too. Hopefully he'll settle back into later sleeps soon. I don't think the ridiculous heat has been helping much either.
Sorry, I don't have time to catch up much right now, I want to right up my birth story before it becomes too foggy to remember.
Take care :)
Howdy girls,
Wow, time is so flying for me I come in here thinking it's only been a day or two since I posted, but it's been almost a week!
Jen, the heat here has been foul hasn't it? I've been going from my place (aircon) to mums (aircon and pool) and back again, and that's it! Though today was much cooler! Thankgoodness. Since having Liam I so can't stand the heat...
I'm so torn over calling Karitane. I get to the end of my tether and then all of a sudden we;ll have a week of great nights and I'll think thank god she's sleeping, and then BAM! It starts again... and I just keep thinking it will stop soon, she's nearly 2 and she'll get the sleep thing...and now I think her ears are playing up again which is why she's been so bad again. SO I just don't know what to do!
I would love to ba able to send Lily to childcare or something for a break, but money is too tight for it. CC in our area is $60 a day, just too much. As an early childhood teacher, I have very specific requirements too, so it will be hard for me to find a centre! Family day care is cheaper and more appealing, but is fairly hard to find a place. She will be going to occaisional care when I start working for four hours once or twice a week if I need it, but otherwise it's too much money :(
Von, your nights sound like mine lately...they suck. Big time! My DH isn't as bad as your's he does eventually hear the kids, but he can sleep through most of it....where as I'm up at every peep. I think that's half my problem. I think that makes it all the more stressful cause they're not there to help, kwim. Well it does for me sometimes, and I resent that he can have a good nights sleep regardless of if the kids are wakeful or not. WHere even is the kids have a good night and I get to sleep, I can't cause I'm wondering why they're not awake, LOL!
DG, sorry to hear you're having a tough time. I hope things settle for you soon, it might take a few weeks but it does get easier and you get used to the extra work. You're lucky Jared is sleeping so well already, Liam is still up every 2-3hrs most nights :( Sorry to hear Ben's up early though. For me it's the early mornings that are the killers.....anything before 6am these days really hurts!
As for us, well, DH is on holidays now for 2 weeks (yay!) and I get to catch up on sleep! LOL :) Lily has been ok, a bit stroppy some days which has got me thinking her ears are sore again. I will be taking her to the GP tomorrow, and we have another specialist appt in mid Feb. I'm thinking dairy will be off the menu for a while. Which is ok for me, at least she won't have to have an operation sor grommets.
We are going to Adelaide in a few days (so I won't be online much in the next week or so) and then I start work and uni again in Feb, so I will be busy busy busy!!! I only have one unit to do for uni, and I'm only working 3hrs a day, but it will be fun trying to keep up with everything! I'm thinking BB might be the thing that's going to have to suffer for it all! But I will still be around a bit.
Ok that's it for me, I hope everyone had a great long weekend!
Ok gotta go
Hey Mel- sorry to hear about your sore boobies...ouch. Like Kel said, things do get better...albeit slowly!!!! Bugger Ben is waking up early though, hopefully he will settle quickly back into his old routine.
Wow kel you are going to be one busy chick...i admire you. Have fun in Adelaide.
Us- well Olivia is pretty much finished with her day sleep:( She gets tired around 5pm which is wy too early, so the rest of the evening is hard yakker coz shes a misery guts. We get her into bed by 7 ish and shes asleep straight away. I miss her having those arvo naps coz I am buggered by then. Am hoping its a phase. We still go through the same routine though- in bed at 1pm and bottle, she has rest time, although she usually does poos so i have to take her out of the room. Oh well....it cant last forever.
Shes back climbing everything again. She tries climbing the fly wire screen door, on tables...which she fell off today and scraped her chin, up on the edge of the couch. Oh and shes also worked out how to climb up the handles of the cupboards in the kitchen.
Rebecca is doing well. I cant believe she is 10 weeks already tomorrow. How time flies. She smiles lots and is desperately trying to make noises...so cute. She has her moments with feeds, last week for 2 days in a row, she fed 2 hourly and didnt want to be put down, then the following day she slept all day between feeds. I can never keep up with what shes doing!!!
We are doing pretty good managing it all. My body has healed reasonably well, although I have about 12kgs to loose:( Doesnt help with the bowel of ice cream dh made tonight:) Dont think I will go back to work this year either, unless we are desperate for money. And if I need to I will probably do night shift on the weekends.
Ok, I should get to bed...the tennis is keeping me up, and bb!!
Mel, Olivia sounds like Lily. She's a climbing monster too. Lil climbs up the kitchen drawer handles to get onto the bench....so now I just let her have a dining schair there to see/get what she wants and just make sure I don't leave anything dangerous there :rolleyes: I'm fast running out of surfaces to leave 'stuff' on. Like important papers, just things I don't want her having!
Don't admire me yet....not sure how I'm going to go! I'm thinking I might be a tad ambitious yet! But it's stuff I have to do, I have to go back to work and I have to finish my degree this yr or the rest of it will have been for nothing cause I can't do it next year. So it's all a matter of have to not want to!
Hey All...
happy Australia Day for yesterday....we performed our patriotic duty and had a sausage sizzle for lunch, lamb rack for tea and followed it with mini pavlova...its tough loving your country so much! Hope everyone else had a good day too....
Mel - Oh, I think I would be mourning the loss of day sleeps too....I hope for you it is just a phase aswell. I guess just keep putting her in there and hope for the best. Good on you not having to work for the rest of the year (I mean PAID work that is) :)
Kel - Can you put your name down for part-time family day care and maybe by the time you start up uni again something might pop up? I think its good you have high standards! At least you are super aware of what they should be doing etc, I have only ever looked at one daycare when Beau was 1month and left crying! (I am sad tho!) It does sound like LIl's ears, good luck at the specialist - I cant imagine Beau having to give up dairy! It would halve his diet :lol: Have a great time while DH is off all together, try and find time to put your feet up and let him take Lil out for a bit to give you a break. (even better L & L and go see a movie)
Dis - Oh Dis I hope your mastitis has cleared up. I am sure you are doing amazingly well with the boys. Hope Ben starts to sleep in a little bit more, bit tough if he hears Jared though! How is he settling in to being a big bro?
Us - Beau is coming out with lots of new words every day atm, he is discovering lots of his toys a bit more and is obsessed with his wooden skittles and standing them all up and bashing them down, he is obsessed wth drawing!! All day its "drew drew!!" Its always hard when DH has a few days off and goes back to work..we realise how much we miss him x
Oh well, better go and take advantage of the little one being asleep...
Good morning!
Oh how things have improved here! My mastitis has cleared up without too much trouble and I'm getting a bit more sleep. Jared is asleep in the hug a bub right now - he seems to like it as much as his big brother does, but if this heat keeps up, he won't be in it half as much. Ben is still asleep and it's 7am! When I got up for Jared's feed this morning I just sat in silence watching him feed instead of turning on the tele and that seems to have done the trick with Ben - yay! I just hope it's not a one off.
Jen, don't you love all the new words? We miss Craig when he's back at work too. He's only had to work two days since Jared was born, but things are back to normal from tonight :( It sucks here because I have breakfast and bedtime on my own which is pretty tricky.
Kel, hope you're having a good time in Adelaide. You're in for a busy time with uni, work and the two littlies!
Mel, I don't know how you and Kel deal with the climbers you have! It would drive me nuts!!! It's bad enough that Ben can now reach a lot of things on our counters and table by standing on his tippy toes!
Von, I hope your nights get better soon. It's horrible when you're up all night and even worse when DH doesn't hear a thing. I can't sleep through the slightest noise from my boys!
Ben has been doing so well with the big change in his life. Yesterday, Craig went through the alphabet and he repeated every letter after him :lol: So funny. I managed to get half of it on video. Most of the time I miss all the cute things because by the time you get the camera out - you're too late!
He's also back to eating better and last night had an awesome 10 hours (he's just gotten up now). Something I hope is going to become common again!!!
Well, best get him some breakfast. Hope you all are coping okay in this horrible heat :(
Hello just a quickie from me...its way too hot and I must get Olivia to bed. Shes been off her day sleeps for over a week now and today she fell aslepp on her bedroom floor at 4pm til 530 so she is running around the lounge room like she is on speed...and the squeals!!! Shes learnt to climb up on her booster chair and our bed today:( She also eluded me out the back and ran onto the concrete which was very hot an she screamed so loud. we popped her feet into cold water but shes ok...obviously...shes running after the dog!!! And ...oops "fall down"...giggle!!!
Back to her day sleeps...I want them back! Although bed at 7pm for 12 hours is good too!!!
Mel- you sound great. Glad Bens settled back into things. isnt he cleaver.
Jen- Good to see you had your lamb and pav...ooh pav...yummy!!! Beau sounds like hes picking up loads of things. Olivia just yelled out "mummy computer" They are amazing arent they. I didnt teach her that! Does your Dh have to go away for waork or is it long days? i miss mine too, specially if hes working on the car out the front!!! Just kidding...I do miss him when hes working!
Us...again...we are good. DH got me a wii and a wii fit today to help me along with my weight loss. You see I was tossing up between a gym membership or a cross trainer...or the wii!!!! I have about 12 kgs to loose, so its going to be a long process. We both want to loose it by DHs b'day in July, so I think thats pretty achievable.
Ok, should go and wind Olivia down, shes so high at the moment.....just gave becca a kiss, clapped her hands and squealed away!