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Not talking to either of you bex or Babyluv with you size 8 selves! Lol I don't think I've been a size 8 since I was 14!!! Normally sit around 62-65 kg or size 12 so am keen to get back to that but I feel happy with my body at the moment (considering!) and you girls should too! I have 10kg left to lose but my problem area from pregnancy is my back, I managed to gain back fat!!! Yuk!!
Oh god the back fat!! Trying on bras today, I noticed I have back fat even when I am not arching my back!!
And little mrs: I bust myself to stay size 8!!!! Trust me, it does NOT come naturally.. I have to starve for it (literally). I naturally sit around 60kgs, not 50-55kgs like I made myself stay before getting pg. I like you have to work very hard to stay fit and slim...
I am sturggling to be happy with my body but I am trying to be kind to myself... it's only been 3 weeks...
Me too :( I wish I could be happy with my body but I'm not but to be honest I never have been. I've always been so hard on myself, I'm a perfectionist.
I would love to be happy with my body & I know I should embrace the way I look but I can't, I hate the stretch marks & cellulite. I'm disappointed at how much my body has changed from pregnancy :(
I'll never wear my short shorts or bikini again. I sound so superficial. Argh I can't explain it!
Its not superficial... You are being honest and it is something that affects a LOT of women!! And you will wear shorts n a bikini again!! Both of us will. We will just hve to work at it and give ourselves time!!! It won't happen overnight.
Time sweets time... That's all we need.
Xx
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babyluv- u will be suprised that you just might love your body, give it time to heal from having a baby....
I hated my body but after having DS1 i learnt to embrace my curves and love it for what it has come after growing a little baby :) its amazing
i now dont care its been 5wks since i had Kaidyn last time i weighed myself i was 80kgs so be it, im not fat but im not skinny either and if ppl dont like how i dress they can go ****off :)
before i got pg with Kaidyn i was the smallest ive ever been since turning 18 and that was a size 12 i plan on getting back there!
my point before DS1 ive never wear short shorts but i do now :) (ull never see me in a bikini)
Gosh all the exercise talk is making me envious. I so wished I could be back exercising. Had all these plans to start doing more this week, walking and also more ab exercises but after Saturday, back to square one again. OB has me back to resting for at least another 2 wks! And no carrying heavy stuff either for at least one week coz of the stitches.
Haven't put myself back on the scales since week 2 but pretty sure I haven't lost much more weight as I still can't pull my pre-preg jeans up. I'd be happy to be able to get back to a size 10 even though I used to be a size 8 pre-preg.
Had my MCHN appt today and Claire's got another growth spurt! Put on 600g in 2 wks and also 3 cm. Glad she's growing so well given that I feel like being milked all day :P Love how she's so much more responsive nowadays and would gaze at me non stop if I held her.
Oh... and I don't know if anyone is the same but I JUST fell in love with Claire on Saturday. Before that she was just a baby and I knew she was mine but didn't feel the connection. But on sat after I woke up from my GA, she was crying in the room. My MIL put her to my chest and she stopped crying, starting staring at me and trying to 'talk' to me. She even gave me a little smile. Suddenly I felt that I would do anything and everything for her, I fell in love. :) 10 months late but I'm glad it happened.
Aw Caixin, that sounds horrible what you've been through. I'm so glad you still have people around to help you out at home and hopefully you are recovering ok. What a stress for you, take it easy and keep your feet up as long as you can.
Bex and Babyluv, don't be too hard on yourselves, your bodies will recover and although they might not look exactly like they did before I hope you can love them anyway for the precious gift they've given you. I think it's probably harder for those who were obviously in good shape like you two (size 8 you say?!) prior to getting pregnant. I was a size 12 before and used to have issues with my body when I was a teenager, but I'm not focused on it at all now. I've actually lost my pregnancy weight but my body shape has changed so much, but I'm going to take time to get back to where I want to be. I had put on 5 kg in the year before getting pregnant, so would still like to lose another 5 kg to get back there, but it's going to take time. All I'm doing for now is walking 20 minutes most days, but I think it's the breastfeeding that's working for me!
Caixin - That's a good growth spurt for Claire, you're doing a great job feeding her. I feel like a cow being milked all day too! Don't worry that it's taken time to fall in love with Claire, everyone is different and your heart will be hers forever now. I fall more in love with Kai each day, especially when he's staring into my eyes or making little cooing noises at me or smilling (I swear he's been smiling for a week or two now even though everyone else tells me it's just wind, stupid people). Sometimes it's a bit harder to love him when he screams all night though, he he.
do they coo while holding them, kaidyn doesnt :( how upsetting
Caixin: it took like 3-4 days for me to really "love" Charlotte... I mean I knew I loved her and she was mine but that overwhelming feeling didn't kick in for 3-4 days. From then it's a daily choice! I struggle when she is screaming all the time... Lol who wouldn't?
Go Claire!! She must be feeding like a champ now! So are your supply issues all sorted now?
Sunny*girl: good job on losing the baby weight already! That's awesome! In the first week or so I didn't care about my body really, I was more focused on Charlotte and having people here like my mum, the funeral etc.. But now everyone is gone, DH is back at work and I am home alone, it's back in my focus... Because I am bored and have no one to talk to or hang out with (Charlotte doesn't count! Lol) it's hard not to focus on the fact that I fit NONE of my pre pg clothes... Lol.
I wish Charlotte coo'd at me... She is either sleeping, feeding or screaming. No cooing for us. :(
I don't think I am coping well... I am just really stressed and when she screams all the time I just get upset and angry she won't stop! How mean is that?!! It's not her fault and yet I am getting mad at her. I want to enjoy her and love her but I just feel like... Well that I was still pg. I love her, a LOT... Don't get me wrong there, just not handling it and wish we could have some just nice quiet awake time where she studies my face or coos at me like the other babies are doing to you guys... :( I sound like a horrible mum.
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Firstly bex and babyluv you girls have nothing to worry about. You should see my tummy!!! Having a 4.7kg baby does not do wonders for your tummy or the muscles in your tummy. I was always prone to stretchies and have them all over my tummy right up to my belly button. It is disgusting!!!! I haven't been able to exercise cause of the c/section and cause i am not breastfeeding often the weight isn't falling off like those of you who are. I am going to have to live in nanna undies for the rest of my life!!!!
Bex you are not the only one who feels like that honey. I wasn't able to bond with ava during my birth experience and in the days following cause i couldn't move out of the bed. She doesn't want to have 'play' time either where she is happy just to lay and look around or even let us hold her and her be calm. When she wakes she is usually so hungry she screams till she gets food. Then she is unsettled till she goes back off to sleep. I do love her more than anything but sometimes just wish we could sit or lay for a minute without the screaming!
Has anyone tried the dri bots or babylove brands of nappies? Because my darling girl was so big she is just about out of huggies newborn, after 1 box, but she is too small for the next box sized huggies which are from 6-11kgs. Huggies do make a 4-8kg one but they come in a bag and are really expensive. I am able to swap the 3 boxes of newborn nappies i haven't used but only for that 6-11kg box. I need an in between nappy?
Sunnygirl: I'm really lucky to still have some help for the next 2 days, but PIL are leaving on Weds so will be truly on my own then. A little nervous about what will happen then. A lot of people talk about how it's love at first sight but certainly not for me. Even through the pregnancy I didn't really feel that connection with bubs until now. I was getting a little worried before coz in the first few weeks she felt kinda of foreign to me yet it seems she should be the closest person on earth to me. I think it's definitely a smile (not just wind!), esp when Claire chuckles in her sleep, I think it's a nice dream she's having. Probably thinking of how she can milk her mum better! LOL
Mitzqtie: Don't worry about not cooing. Every baby is different and I'm sure Kaidyn will do it when you least expect it! :)
Mrs Bexie: The supply issues seem to have sorted themselves out after all the hard work with pumping after feeds, fenugreek etc. Thank god! My nipples have toughened up too so BF is so much fun now. :) My boobs are starting to soften but I think I should still be producing enough milk given that she's had that growth spurt. You're a terrific mum!!! I think every mum finds it hard to not get angry when they are screaming non stop. I've certainly had thoughts of wanting to throw her away when she wouldn't stop crying in the first few weeks (very ashamed of the thought now) and DH said he felt the same thing to me yesterday. But I think I've learnt to cope a bit better by telling myself that the crying will stop eventually and I just need to be there while it lasts, instead of thinking to myself what's wrong and why wouldn't she stop crying. That is after I've fed, changed, carried her etc. The cooing will happen, just wait :)
Renee: Have u tried the aldi nappies? They are slightly larger than the huggies newborns and are reasonably priced too. How is your c/s wound healing?
Bex: Hun trust me I have felt like this, when Sienna has screamed for 8hrs straight there have been times where I've been so upset I've told DH to just take her away. I sit there & cry & I've had an anxiety attack because I've not known what the hell to do! Being a mum is really hard, we all have our moments and that's perfectly normal so long as we can still smile when we're having a good day. Sienna has only made a cpl of coo's & she is the oldest one here. She is grizzly more than she is content. You're a great mummy ok, you need to keep telling yourself that, you're doing sma great job Hun & how you're feeling is perfectly normal :)
Caixin: good to hear your supply has sorted itself out, mine still hasn't & Sienna is still getting top ups a col times a day.
Renee: I've heard good things about babylove nappies but then again a cpl ppl recommended Aldi nappies to me & we are using them Now but I don't like them much although if she is just out of the huggies the aldi infant 4-6kgs would fit her, 56 for $13 but they seem very thin, we haven't had any leaks yet though.
Renee: babylove nappies in newborn size are much bigger than huggies! We took a pack of babylove ones to Coffs with us just after C was born and they were way to big on her but it was all we had!! So for a bubs who is out of newborn huggies but not into the Next size up, babylove may be ok. I personally don't like them anyways cause the "poo pouch" doesn't work and pop explodes out of them...
My SIL uses the aldi ones and LoVES them, that's what we will be using after her newborn ones run out... And they are way cheaper! Snugglers (big w) ones are also really good in the 4-8kg ones and they cone in a big cheap box too..
Thanks girls! Just having a hard few days... A little depressed and just keepin my eye on it! Hopefully it's just the hormones. It's good to know I am not the only one!
Renee: Go the snugglers for an in between nappy! Georgia is too big for the huggies newborn too and the snugglers 4-8 kg are fantastic, no leaks or smells and they really pull the moisture away from the skin. Cheaper than huggies too. I was given some Babylove ones and they leaked when she poo'd too so I'd stay away from them.
Bex: it is hard when they cry so much, especially when your on your own alot I think I'd probly feel the same if I didn't have Dave home so often to help out. I've found the dummy useful to as g was crying just to suckle and me being upset was just making her stress more, I've found if I'm relaxed and happy then she settles alot easier. Vicious circle sometimes, but if you can take 5 mins to have a shower (with the door shut so you can't hear her cry) and calm down when c is being a terror you'll find it easier. I know that might sound a bit mean but like my HCN said to me, they've never seen a baby die from crying.
Caixin: fantastic work on the growth spurts! And when the pil leave just remember your rest and comfort comes before housework! Go easy on yourself for a bit so you can heal!
AFM no wonder G was draining me and wanting more last week, she did the same as Claire! 600g in 11 days, she's catching up to Ava's birth weight!!! We've started using the dummy but not at night, made such a difference to my stress levels! She had her day and night mixed up yesterday tho, slept well during the day but we were up feeding all damn night! I just woke from a much needed nap and she's still asleep on my chest. Had a great morning tho she likes when I sing and pull faces at her, responding really well.
Is anyone elses stitches still really sore - besides Caixin - 3 weeks on and I had to take painkillers this morning it was that bad!
OMG Charlotte will not stop screaming!! She fell asleep on my boob after a full feed then a big top up feed too, I put her in her bassinet and she didn't stir, then 10 mins later all hell broke loose. She burped like 3-4 times, she has a clean bum, she is full... why is she still screaming??? She won't stop being picked up either...
I just googled it and I think she does have silent reflux, that's why she gets the hiccups after every feed, cries all the time, sometimes with no warning, doesn't sleep well, doesn't like being put down (because it's always in laying down positions) she has wet sounding burps but never vomits.
Would I go to my GP for it or someone else?? Maybe trying her on Zantac will work, I don't know! I just can't bare her crying all the time!!
I havent got much time to reply but i wish you all well with the reflux! it must be horrible!!!
Liam has been good, I breastfeed him and then he will have a whole bottle of formula and then he will finally fall asleep, we have had problems latching on in the last few days where would ruin my nipples and make them flat resulting me to screaming, he clicks with his tongue at the end of the feed, i poke his cheek and say no! this morning he did it again and when i he pulled off he laughed!!! and then he did it again, it was adorable despite it hurting i couldnt have been prouder of my little cheeky monkey.
How long are you guys at the boob at a time? Liam will be on there well over an hour and still be hungry. I didn't think my milk supply was low though :(
Renee, I returned two boxes of the newborn huggies with no problems as long as i had the receipt. I dont know about the rest of you, but the huggies if you have a boy its harder to use even if the willy is down, sometimes it moves and it ends up leaking everywhere! it is so annoying :/ Aldi ones i had no problems with.
I have a box of the target nappies and babylove, will be using them. will be looking into the snugglers too :)
I have to run, gotta go to the MCHN to see if he has put on any weight, he had only put on 30 grams last week :/ hopefully he should be back up to his birth weight this week as he feels real heavy!!!
Lots of love! x
Bex- i swore Kaidyn had silent reflux cause everything your describing is Kaidyn to a capital T also...I went to my GP as told no-one but GP can give anything for reflux the Dr said no i wont give anything until u come back and says hes been vomitting, well im now booked in today at 1:15 to hopefully get some Zantac and give that ago hopefully if he will give it to me cause K has started vomitting now not all the time but he still vomits
So i wish you goodluck and i hope your GP is better then my GP cause hes made me live through this for another week!!