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Shelly, its always the way, you sit down to eat/catch up on bb/go and have a shower and the crying starts :D
Bexie: Ivy squeaks and hums and snuffles all night :) I dont understand why nipples are made of such sensitive stuff. They should be made of steel!! I'm sure all babies poo and pee all over the photographers props :rofl:
Mrs Bexie: Love the photos of Charlotte! They are so gorgeous, certainly doesn't show all the pee and poo she went through during the photoshoot :P I've got some days where I won't get much discharge then some days it's back to bloody mucus again so I'm still wearing normal pads. Keeps me wondering when it will really stop. I'm still in track pants and yoga pants most days, not even going to attempt fitting into pre-preg pants. Claire squeaks and moans and squirms all night too, keep thinking she's waking but she just settles back to sleep herself.
Babyluv: Sounds like Sienna gives you some really rough times some days. Hope the sleep school helps. I co sleep with Claire at times when I'm exhausted at night from waking up every 2 hrs and can't be bothered to get up and check her in her cot. I put her in between me and the snuggle pillow with my arm that is down wrapped over the top of her. She loves sleeping on me too but I'm afraid I will fall asleep and roll over forgetting she's on top of me! LOL Have I got you on my FB? I can't remember?
Little mrs: I think all the 2 hourly feeding at nights have certainly maintained my milk supply.
csab: :hugs: What a rough time you've been through. Hopefully ur headaches start to bugger off and give you a bit of a break. I've certainly been more emotional since having bubs and when I was having problems with BF I didn't want to talk to anyone. Hope you get some relief from all you have to do at home so you get some time to just you and Chloe alone.
Kirsten: Ivy's a gem letting you sleep from 3.30-7.30! What a treat! Few days before Claire saw the MCH she was feeding every 2 hours almost all day and night for about 2 days so maybe Ivy is going through a growth spurt.
So I didn't get around to uploading my maternity photos but my photographer has put them on her blog. I've put the link on my FB for anyone interested coz it'll be a long time before I'll get time to scan and upload those photos.
Claire gave me a nice break last night, getting up only at 12mn, 3am, 5.30am, 8am. That's so much better than every 1 1/2 to 2 hrs. She's starting to respond to us talking and gave her first smile yesterday while we talked to her. Love the cooing that she does in respond to us talking too. Makes the hard work all worth it. :)
Hi ladies,
Can't catch up with persies right now, I'll be back later but I'm needing a little support at the moment.
Sienna wouldn't settle last night, as you know she is a very unsettled bub.
Has Silent reflux and quite often wants to feed constantly sometimes the screaming and feeding can go overnight 7+hrs. Last night I fed her and she drifted off then 10 mins later she was screaming again 'so I put her back on the boob she would suck then pull off scream and keep doing this both sides, we were headed for another crazy night. I could tell she was hungry but i dont think she was getting anything from me. I ended up giving her formula, which for some reason is making me feel like a failure :(
She drank 80mls after being on my boobs for an hr and then trying to feed again 10 mins later.
So often after a feed she is unsettled, screams, feeds again in 10 mins, can't sleep etc. The LC told me that my body would be providing her with enough but now I don't think so.
She was settled & slept for 3hrs after her bottle last night, went straight to sleep & did the same at each feed, no crying at all!
I feel like I've been starving my baby & I also feel like a failure for having to give her a formula top up. I think all the drumming it into me at hospy about how much better breast is has made me feel like formula is bad. I know breast is best but If I don't think she is getting enough from me what else can I do?
Claire put on 500grams in a week & Sienna put on 180grams in 2 weeks. Do I Continue to give her a top up? I want to BF but if she's hungry she needs food and my body doesnt seem to be giving her what she needs.
I've had concerns about my supply but the LC & MCHN assured me this wouldn't be the case but I think I've worked out why she is so unsettled alot of the time.
I feel terrible :(
Advice & support would be great right now :(
Thanks girls xox
Babyluv- Thankyou for your support now its my turn. I am going through the same thing with Chloe. She is so unsettled, wants the bottle at her mouth all the time. She too has reflux, I believe both silent and the spewy one. Trying to BF has failed me and I too feel like I have failed little Chloe by not getting to BF her, but she just wont BF. I am now taking some medication to help with my BM supply, yet atm I just dont have the time to express or even keep at getting her to the BB's. Everytime i go out, and I have to feed her with the bottle, I just feel like everyone is judging me for not BFing her. Yet everytime I put Chloe to the BB's she either goes to sleep after a couple of sucks or she screams that much for something quicker (bottle). She continuously feeds throughout the day and night, and also strains, crampy etc all day and night. Last night she cried that much, my DH asked whats wrong with her, it isnt right, something must be wrong. Yet ontop of everything she was also constipated and only just not long ago finally pooped. I had her pead appt today thankfully and he has changed her formula from S26 AR to Nan AR in the hopes that it wont be as constipating. I also have to give her Mylanta 1ml 6 times a day in the hopes of settling her. If that doesnt work then I have to put her on Zertec.
You and I have to stop beating ourselves up with the BFing hun. Honestly I would keep giving her some BM when you can and just top her up with the formula if that is whats settling her. Maybe even composite feed her, like 1 feed BM and one feed formula and see how that goes, yet it really will be trial and error unfortunately. As your little ones mummy you will do whats right for her, have faith in yourself. I am trying to do that myself, as I really want to give Chloe BM too, even if I can only express it. I think i am going to be in for another long night tonight, I hope you have a better night tonight. Hugs
Thanks everyone for your support, I have days where i feel not too bad and then those really down days. It doesnt help when you feel like every direction you turn you run into a brick wall. Hopefully the trisillian or karitane (cant remember who it is now coming on Tuesday) can help somewhat.
Well I went for the u/s today to check how my insides are doing, and appears they arent fairing to badly, nothign retained. So looks like I may need to start taking the meds the DR prescribed. OMG the transvaginal u/s killed, I felt like i wanted to die it hurt so much. Let me jst say this, I am not looking forward to DTD at all, the longer it takes for that time to come the better.
Anyway everything looked fine, yet for some reason they couldnt find my left ovary. Dont know what the go is with that. Ohh well.
Ohhh and Little Chloe weighed 2.49kg today, yet she was aslo constipated so that may have contributed to her weight. However I really dont think she is going to have the trouble little V has had with gaining weight, so thats a good thing. Her pead was going to see her again after her hearing test next week, but he wont be at his office, so we have decided to just wait until our next appt for both her and V on the 31st. However if she is still very unsettle he wants me to call him to let him know so I can bring her back earlier.
Sorry everyone for all of my ramblings, I hope you and your bubbas are doing well. hug
Csab: sounds to me our situations are very similar. Thankyou so much for your support. Having a baby that screams constantly is so exhausting & frustrating. There have been times where hubby n I have also said what's wrong with her this isn't normal. The meds are helping Sienna & I really hope they help Chloe!
Big hugs Hun, thinking of you!!!
Good to hear you're insides are all well!
Hope Chloe gets some relief from the constipation, poor little mite!
Wish I could give you a big hug, I know how you're feeling xo
Babyluv don't feel bad, formula is a great substitute and it does NOT mean you've failed! Can u look at people around you and pick who was fed breast milk and who was fed formula? I can't, so by giving sienna formula if that's what she needs you're doing the best you can for her and yourself, all this is gonna take a toll on you and Dave too and that'll make the whole situation harder to resolve. Not saying you should give up BF but do what you think is right, no one will judge you for formula feeding. In fact, we'll all be jealous that you can have a glass of wine!
Thanks for your support little_mrs :) you're right I can't tell who was BF and who was FF.
I guess I'll continue to BF & top her up with formula when she needs it.
I think ive gone mad!
I've been MIA and was back at the hospital with a uterus infection due to the c/s!
I hope everyone is well Miss you all
babyluv you are not a failure. not everyone can breastfeed, if little sienna is going to be healthier on formula so be it!!
Caixin: Aww how lovely Claire is cooing and responding to your voices!! Charlotte isn't quite there yet, although when I talk her little mouth starts sucking! hahaha... she knows I = Boobies! Yay to her giving you a bit of a break too!! It's lovely to get some sleep!
Babyluv :hug: :hug: :hug: Sweetheart you have not in ANY way failed Sienna!!!!!! You are doing your absolute best as her mum and you are doing an AMAZING job!!! There are things you can do to increase your milk supply and in the mean time topping up with formula is not the end of the world. It is making her happy and full, and if you have to use it for now that is fine!!!!! Do not feel bad for that honey! I wish I could just give you the biggest hugs right now! I cannot imagine how hard it has been for you lately with no sleep, silent reflux etc. Things will get better!! Try to express after a feed and that will help you produce more milk, try to drink fennugreek tea (from heath food shop) as that increases your milk supply, also keep with the RLT cause that helps too... Maybe try Kirsten's cookies (recipe a few pages back) that she suggested to Caixin for your milk... doing this stuff will increase the supply and then you might be able to drop the formula top up... With settling her, have you tried getting the both of you naked and just having skin to skin contact?? Feed her and let her fall asleep on your boob and hold her nice and tight... it works to setlle Charlotte everytime, Sienna may like the skin contact!
But seriously sweetheart, do not feel bad or like you failed. You haven't!! And know we are all here for you whenever you need us!!!!!!!
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Kaylee: Boo to an infection!!! That sucks!!! Were you allowed to have bubs in with you? Are you all better now???
We went this arvo and chose all our photos! I am so excited.. we got a massive framed one (20x24 of jeo holding charlotte's head and I was holding her bum but you can only see our arms.. it is gorgeous!!! On my FB there is a link to a youtube video of some of her photos, my photographer put them up for me...
She has been pretty unsettled tonight! since about 7pm has just wanted to be on the boob but she only sucks a few times and falls asleep but as soon as the nipple comes out she screams! She just wants to sleep on my boob!! She is currently passed out on my boobs cause I took her suit off and my top off and went skin to skin to calm her down! It works everytime... she just loves the skin contact!!!
We are driving to Brisbane tomorrow cause we finally found a route that is open!! The main hwy is not open, Ipswich mwy isn't open, the route we found will add about 1-1.5hrs to the trip but it's the only way through!!! Please pray we have a safe trip through and my mum can make her flight on sunday! We are staying at a hotel tomorrow night in Northgate and she flies out sunday morning...
MrsBexie: thankyou for your support Hun, I'll go to the health shop today & get some fenugreek tea. I'll also try the cookies. I should get back on my vitamins too. I'll give everything a go & hopefully my supply builds up. I really appreciate your kind words, they mean alot to me xox
Anytime sweetheart. That's what we are all here for, to support and love each other!!
I have no doubt you can build your supply and sienna knows you are doing your absolute best for her.
Just keep your chin up and keep persevering!!!
The fenugreek tea isn't actual tea leave either, they are whats called "kibbled" which is looks like it is little tiny rocks or something. They person at the health food shop should be able to tell you how to use it...
Xx
babyluv- please try some "Aktavite" you buy it from the milo section of the supermarket, im pretty sure its boosted my supply its an orange tin, its a chocolate drink full of vitamins have a glass every morning and im sure after 3 days hopefully you will have a good supply and on the tin it states that its for exspectant/nursing mums!
You havent failed Sienna hunny don't ever think that you are not given a handbook on how to raise a baby and be a good mum you do what you think is best for you and her, and can i please say im on my second baby and there are still things you learn everyday! :hug:
Well not much to report except Kaidyn slep really well lastnight he went 7-7.5hrs :) im sooo happy cause i feel abit better today, all ive done is stuck some nappy rash cream on him so woohoo for me
in the middle of feeding so bbs
before i go if anyone has a colicy baby (windy bub) try 3oz boiled water (cooled) with 3 drops of brandy it works :)
Csab- i agree with what Kirsten has said, dont beat yourself up over BFing, when you have been through alot its hard to BF...I had a very traumatic birth with DS1 to the point i almost died and BFing was hard i did it for 2wks and gave up i cried and cried and cired i too felt horrible for doing this but you know in the end we do whats right for our bubs and i just knew that bottle feeding was best for him and he is no different to any other child that was BF or bottlefed he is a healthy almost 3yr
Babyluv- what ive commented to Csab is the same for you hun, dont beat yourself up over formula feeding its not meant for everyone and there are many reasons why some mothers formula feed, as you read what i commented to csab about my first experience with BFing
kaylee- i hope you get better soon, its not fun when you get things like that its quite painful sending lots of :hug: 's your way!
Kirsten- Yay for going out for a walk, bet it was lovely to get out of the house and have some quality time with just you, DH and Ivy! BTW i LOVE her name :) im jealous you had a little girl! (infact im jealous of everyone who had a little girl)
Well today was my real first day of being home with both boys on my own and ive coped pretty well today but i must also say thankyou to DS1 for being such a good boy and a big help, he gives Kaidyn his dummy (new ones i bought that he actually accepts, they are natural nipple shaped ones so suppose to not interfere with BFing) and he was super cute and wanted to feed him a bottle of boiled water, with this heat here i think he's been just wanting a drink instead of milk so i gave some water and he accepted it well and drank half so we shall see how that goes :)
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Babyluv: you haven't failed Sienna in the slightest. You are doing all you can to look after her and to be the best mummy ever. And you're doing an amazing job at it too. The other thing you need to do (which is virtually impossible) is to rest and sleep as much as you can, that helps build your milk supply too. lots of water and all of the other things Bexie suggested. And formula feeding isn't failing at all. There is a lot of pressure on mums to breastfeed because breast is best, but honestly formula isn't the worst thing you could give your baby. The pressure is the worst thing, a friend of mine couldn't BF either of her kids and she said she feels guilty every time she gets out the bottle in public and feels like she is getting judged all the time. People have no right to judge you especially if they have no idea what you've been through. You're doing a great job!!!
Bexie: aww those photos of Charlotte are so cute, I love them, she's adorable! Good luck with the drive to Brisbane, I'm sure you will get there safely.
Kaylee: boo to the infection, that's terrible! Hopefully you are on the mend now. Good luck with your photo shoot today - Can't wait to see the photos! :D
Csab: you are right you do have to stop beating yourself up about the BFing, you and Chloe have been through a lot and you are an amazing mum to be able to do what you're doing with her and also look after all of your other kids, not to mention recovering from a cs and all the issues you had that were associated with that!!! Excellent news on Chloe gaining weight too. Good on you.
Caixin: ooh i love the big smiles and the coos. they just melt your heart don't they :) Yay to Claire sleeping so well too. great news. I think you might have been right on the growth spurt, she seems to be sleeping a lot today after the feeding frenzy yesterday. she went to sleep at 11am and is still asleep now.
Mizqtie: wow thats a great sleep! bet you feel almost human!!!!!
DP and i went for a walk and out for lunch today, DS is at his nannas. so its been a lovely day so far, so nice to see the sun too after all of the rain we've had. my tomato bushes have loved all of the rain though, they are going mental!!
Babyluv: You're definitely not a failure by giving Sienna formula!! You're doing such a GREAT job holding up despite all the crying and lack of sleep. I felt the same when I had problems with my milk supply earlier on the first time I had to give Claire formula but then I realized later that it really doesn't matter, it wouldn't leave any dent at all in her life. What matters most is for her to grow up. Have you tried expressing after each feed to help increase ur supply? I found that to be really helpful. It's tough to keep up but I started to see some results within 3 days. I also made sure I ate enough coz I was getting anxious and that made my appetite drop. Then also definitely the resting... after a good 2-3 hrs sleep I always found my boobs to feel much fuller. I also took fenugreek capsules 1000mg three times a day after a feed. If the formula means she gets a longer sleep then by all means go for it coz it will mean you get some time to rest to build up ur supply.
csab: Yay to chloe putting on weight and your ultrasound all going well. :) My MW said the same thing about formula, that Nan might be less likely to cause constipation.
KayleeF: Ekks on the infection! Hope you're feeling better now.
Mrs Bexie: Hope u get to Brisbane safely and Charlotte is good for you in the car.
Kirsten: Claire did the sleep thing yesterday then started the feeding thing again today. I'm trying to tell myself it's another growth spurt to get me through the lack of sleep. LOL. Good on you for noticing ur garden. I haven't had a chance to admire my garden yet. Actually, I haven't been out of the house at all besides to the clinic and hospital since the birth coz my mum and MIL wouldn't allow me out till one month.
I thought babies were meant to sleep and feed but Claire just looks at me with big wide awake eyes wanting someone to talk to her. Not fun at 12 midnight when I've got a spliting headache.
Thankyou so much girls I don't know what I'd do without you! Your support & advice keeps me sane when things are tough!
Hugs xox
Can't do persies cause I'm on my iPhone and god it's annoying! Lol...
Babyluv: I am the same! I have no idea what I would do without you girls! Being alone n away from family, I love having the support of other women!
Well we got to Brisbane fine, went a longer way but it was a gorgeous scenic route so the drive was lovely! We went to chermside and got sushi and starbucks mmm... And Charlotte slept the car trip and shopping for 2hrs! But now she is awake and not so happy so I am feeding her again! Fed her like 4 times so far and she'll fall asleep but then scream if I take the boob off her. We're bout to go out for dinner so hopefully she stays asleep now!!
just wanted to see what others think, check out this
http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-...6_921302_n.jpg
these are my two boys at the same age!
Hey Girls no persies sorry. Xani had her photoshoot today FX we got some good shots! She has been so unsettled since yesterday afternoon a completely different bub I don't understand what I'm doing wrong she was such a good eater & sleeper and now she won't sleep at all. I'm exhausted and have been in tears since we got home from our session. She also has developed a really gunky eye I'm assuming it's a blocked tear duct and I've been washing it with saline and EBM but it's not helping, anyone have any suggestions??
:hug: to you all & hope you're doing better than me xx