Babies Born December 2007 #24

Sorry guys for lack of posts i am just so busy at the minute and am finding i have had no BB time.

Adkins- :hug: You know where we are if you need us.

Sorry i'll try and come back later to catch up properly

:hug: Adkins.. I hope the bleeding turns out to be nothing..

Hi to everyone else.. just been busy busy busy. Will try catch up later..

Kids doing well at school. Isaac cried again but was ok. I couldn't walk him in today. I was so close to crying it was better if I just said good bye at the car

anyhoo.. Catch up soon..

Oh Janine big :hug: hun. PM me if you wan to chat. Thinking of you.

Lauren- You must be melting you poor thing... heatwave!! Kinda glad it's you not me ;)

And awww Nic that must break you heart, with him crying like that... :(

Kellie- Glad you had a good time away and yay on the steps!!

Hope I haven't missed anyone. Alicia I will check out you r pics on FB, I want to see the butterfly one :)

I have found my computer time has gone out the window because Ty can now climb on the lounge to get the lappy so I have to pack it right away when he's up and it's a pain inthe bum hookign it all up again. But the goo dnews is my house is clean for the first time since I upgraded my membership :lol:

Hello Ladies.

Hope you are all doing well.

Well i am not doing very well at the moment and TBH am a bit of a mess. Things are really bad between DH and i again and i am thinking about leaving but its so hard to actually do, where would i go, i have NO money etc etc. Neither of us are happy. I am willing to work on things but he doesnt know if he wants to and says all he wants is to be able to see the girls. So to me thats him saying that he doesnt care if i go as long as he has contact so i'm left thinking 'is that what he wants' I am starting to feel like he wants it to end but doesnt want to be the one to actually walk out iykwim. I just cant get my head straight and poor DD1 is picking up on the vibes and keeps asking me if she can make me happy. I dont even know where to start with our issues as he says i am a perfect mum and perfect housewife but he loves me like a sister and isnt attracted to me anymore. He blames me and says i've done it to myself as for the last 6 months all i've done is reject him sexually. To an extent this is true but i have felt he only wants me for that one reason. He never wants to do things as a family and the stuff he is interested in doing is too hard to do with 2 young children. So then i feel he resents them and the circle continues. He is a fantastic father and often helps with the girls but then he throws it back at me saying none of his friends have half the responsibility with their kids and i expect too much. Maybe i do but i thought parenting was and should be an equal partner ship. He tells me i hate him and i've made him feel like that so its all my fault. I dont hate him at all but he wont listen to reason. He is the type of person that you cant argue with or really say what you want as it all gets turned around. Nothing i say is ever really taken in iykwim i just get made to feel like i am the one who's in the wrong. I missed him like crazy when he was away but TBH i wish he wasnt home. When he's here i feel like i'm walking on egg shells. I have tried to kiss and cuddle him but he pushes me away and says i only do it because he whinges i dont and tells me i dont want it so dont bother. I know when he comes home he wont say anything he will just mope around and i have to go to work at 10pm so i dont think it would be a good time anyway as i cant cancel work with too little notice. I just cant pretend all is well anymore when it so clearly is not. I jsut dont know what to do from here. He wont tell me what he want but tells me if i have to leave then to go. I am so confused. He said 3 yrs ago he had the perfect life and marriage- funny DD1 is almost 3. My heart is breaking and i'm crying again but thanks for listening. I know this really isnt the place for this thread but i had to get it out and could do with some support from you girls.

Oh Hoody :hug: I just don't know what I can say to make yu feel better.. I don't knw how counselling works but have you thought of giving that a go?

:hugs: Hoody - i know it can be sooo tough to contemplate being a single mum. Money is such a heart ache. If you know its over which sounds like it well and truely is for your hubby, (i have been in that situation where a guy says he loves you in a different way, not they way 'normal' couples do and its just pathetic) and your ready to decide its over also, can you look into exactly what goverment support you can get and getting the girls in care so you can go back to work full time?? I dont know your finanical situation but with me im hoping once im full time i can find a small unit for me and ash again, do you think you could get a small place somewhere?.. Maybe spend some time budgeting and see where your at. Im glad hubby still wants to make an effort to see the girls though,... might be worth getting an estimate of child support too, - I know its prob the LAST thing you want to think of, but it REALLY helps in knowing ALL your figures before you make any solid decisions. Ive know ive had to make a tone and hate it, but im glad i researched as much info as i could.

I hope your ok hun, im here if you need to talk. Sorry this is all breaking up stuff, i really dont know what to say to offer you advise on making it work, kinda seems hubbys made up his mind already. :hug:

OMG just got this txt msg from DH (he

Hi babe, I'm sorry for how i've been acting i'm just down at the moment. I dont mean to hurt you please forgive me. I do love you and have been thinking of you and us all day. Love DH

Grrr now i'm even more confused. I am relieved though as although we DO have major issues its a bit of a break through for him to admit he has a problem. Maybe now instead of thinking about becoming a single mum i can think about staying and working on things. Nic- i would go to counselling in a heart beat but DH wouldnt. He believes in keeping private issues private. He wont even raise his voice when we argue incase anyone hears etc. I got the msg and started crying again. My head is seriously messed up but i am going to write him a letter explaining how i feel etc and all my issues as like i said i can talk to him them maybe we can move forward.

He must have just realised how hurtful he's been and had time to think about what it would mean if i left as last night i told him to think about what he wants. He's lucky i was on hold to centre link and had rung a friend to organise a place to go if need be. Still might come to that but i hope note. At least now i have some hope

Hoody - Hugs sweets. I really would give couples counselling ago. I am sure you guys don't want to give up your family without trying to get help. My parents broke up without seeking help and I resented them for not trying hard enough. Just so you know DH and I have had our rough patches, particularly in the intimacy area (my issues apparently). I am trying but I am at the point of seeking some advice as well, although I won't address this until after bub is born. We are trying to rekindle our love affair by going on dates and trying to have a laugh with eachother. It is hard when you have your babies so close together, they tend to take over your existence and Mum and Dad as a couple get pushed to the side out of sheer necessity.

hi all bbl

Hoody. thats great to hear, i hope he sticks with it and you can work it out! just be careful, once a guy starts saying things like hes not inlove with you.... theres a always that chance hell do it again.. sorry im am a bit of a pessimist and have alot of men anger but just look after yourself too..

Hi everyone! I just wanted to pop in and say hello tp all my belly buddies! It has been a while not sure if any of you remember me? I have to do lots of reading to catch up on everything thats been happening, congrats to all of you that are pregnant again (hopefully soon I will be too)

Hope your all well!

Hey shell_bell its been ages!!! thats great tohear your TTC again.. how exciting.. keep us posted if you get some news!! hope your all doing well!!!

Hi Shell__bell - i have thought about you a few times!!! Where did you go? Goodluck TTC?

lol bek! I have been trying to spend less time on the computer, i started feeling guitly with all the time i was spending reading forums. Yeah,ttc at the moment, its just not happening for us though. Last time it happened straight away so its very frustrating, lots of other factors i think?? Hi nic, trish, tinsel, alicia and all my other belly buddies!

Evening all..

Not much to report

hi Shell_belle.. good to see you back

Hoody: I wouldn't know what to think either about that sms. Its a tough one,.

:hug: to all.. Talk soon

Hi Shell! :)

Hoody - The sms makes it seem like your DH wants to try, but I agree with Bek that maybe you should try to get some help now before things get worse. Was your DH visitng someone overseas or travelling with someone? Just asking because you mentioned that last time you had problems it was after he had got back from a trip, maybe someone is getting in his head iykwim.

Adkins - I am so sorry, I'm not sure what else to say :hug:

Nic - I hope the boys are settled in at school. Only one more day and then you have all your babies back for the weekend :D

Lauren - How are you and Ash doing with the heat? We have been ok here so far (aircon working, power still on :pray:) but we are getting so bored just being stuck at home. DH has had to use the car the last 2 days so Olivia and I haven't been out at all.

Well Olivia finally made the effort :lol: and took 5 steps on her own today! She let go of the playpen and walked over to me, it was very exciting but of course the camera was on the charger :rolleyes:

Hope eveyone is well tonight :hello:

Shell - How is miss Caitlyn?

Hi girls,just a quick one here.

Adkins- So sorry to hear your news,hope you will be ok,hun.

Hoody- Sorry also to hear things aren`t so good with DH,but you know what, if this keeps going on Hun,you & your girls are the only ones who are going to suffer.You both should get someone to watch the girls for you & DH have a good heart to heart,and if you can`t work it out,tell DH,you can`t keep going through this crap,it`s upsetting you & the girls & it`s not fair. Sometimes Hun,leopards can never change their spots!!! Good luck,though. Some men just want their life back before they got Hitch,but they are selfish F-cks!!!

Tincel-hi hun,how are you,loved your pics on f/book.

Alicia- Your DD pics on f/book were gorgeous with the butterfly,hope you are doing ok in all that heat.

Buzzie-Hi hows work & Ash settling in,are you holding up ok,hun?

Bekz- Hi how are you going,too?

Nic- I bet you notice a big difference at home with the two kids now. Hope your doing ok,hun.

Well,got to get off the pc,I?m suppose to be helping DH,pack the van up to go away this weekend,YAY,it`s my 36th Birhday,Sshhhhh........old bag,lol. Will catch up with you all after the weekend,ok.Take care everyone,Hi to those i`ve missed.Susan,xxx.;)

Janine - how are you doing hun? :hug:

Hoody - sweetie I nearly cried with you after reading your messages. I'm glad he has admitted it is stuff going on with him and I really hope you can work things out. Tell him he is not going to Vietnam ever again and that he needs to take you all on a family holiday ;)

MoM - Happy Birthday for Saturday and have a wonderful time at the coast. It should be lovely there weather wise too.:happybirthday:

shell-Belle - hello again! how is everyone doing? sorry to hear the ttc isn't happening straight away. We were reverse with our bubs (a few months after mc with monique and straight away with this one).

Bek - hi, how are you doing? I want to establish a date night with DH as well but just have to get organised.

Was going to do more personals but I am absolutely melting and it might be better lying on the bed with the fan pointed on me so have a great night and bbl.

Morning all.. Sending a little of our cooler weather to you poor southerners.. Hope you wake to a cooler day

Hi all,

Hoody- Awww hun I don't know what to say. Big :hug: I hope he does realise the error of his ways and start making more of an effort. It's never going to be perfect all the time- maybe this is just a really bad patch?

Alicia- Yay Olivia!! :cheer: Ty took anohter 4 steps this morning and then face planted and started laughing :lol: Cute!

Hi Nic and Tinsel hope you are both doing good. Nic how can you be in QLD and it's cooler than Melbourne? Doesn't sound quite right :lol:

And a big Happy Birthday Susan :happybirthday:

Not much happening here.... Ty is still whinging, it's been two weeks of it now. Surely he's got to go back to normal soon. GP reckons it just teeth :(

ETA- Sorry, so rude.. hi shell bell :D

OMG IM MELTING!!!... 46 here in lovely melbourne! im definatly over it now.. poor ash is holding up. our aircon is definatly struggling but we are all sprawled in the lounge...

Hello to everyone, just a quick one cos the lappys making me sweat sitting here with just a fan on in my room..

Keep cool everyone and take care,
Incase you havent gone yet susan HAPPY BIRTHDAY for tomorrow!! :D

For those of you who dont already know - and im not going to go into detail here as its not appropriate - Trish will no longer be on BB. If anyone wants to talk to her you will only be able to contact her on FB.
Shell_bell do you have facebook? if you do you can find her on our pages..

Hi ladies,
just a quick pop in i have my mother in law from hell visiting with her new "man" - can anyone tell me how many days until wednesday?
Apart from that things are great here Alex went back to school on Tuesday and Jack started prep as well so now during the day i only have two at home which is a huge difference.
Susan - Happy Birthday
Hoody - hugs to you hope you and your hubby sort things out. Marriages can be trying at times but most of the time they are worth fighting for. Here if you need to talk.
Bekz - Not long then until the ultrasound cant wait to hear all about it. Lol i am baby mad but no more for me.
Adkins - how are you holding up? Hugs to you
Buzzie - hope it cools down soon. we seem to have gotten cooler weather up here so maybe the north and south have changed poles!
Gotta run ladies Ethan is having a "ethan monster"day. Chat to you all soon

Hi Jas08 too many sleeps til Wednesday hon..sorry. I hope your survive.

Thanks for asking about my u/s. It is on the 16th of Feb at 9.30am. Only 2wks and I am half way OMG!!!!

ok attempting personals..

Hoody: How are things this weekend?

Lauren: That heat would be sending me bonkers I tel you. Stay cool

Jas08: 4 more sleeps till Wednesday. I am about to accept your friend request on FB :) I am finding things quiet with only 2 at home too.. Its so weird. our kids are similar ages too..

Happy Birthday Susan.. I hope you are having an awesome weekend


Hello to everyone else.. How are all the new walkers doing?

I am just sitting down for a rest. We had an early lunch and Olivia is asleep already.. She was falling asleep eating her sandwich.. boys are watching star wars.. ah quiet time with ALL my boys :D

Isaac is a little annoyed that he can't go to school tomorrow :lol:

Hi Ladies,

Thanks for all your kind words :)

Well finally figured out why Molly has been such a grumpy bum. She has cut 2 of her top molars that i didnt even know where on their way. At least that accounts for the high temp and clingy days. We are having a fairly quiet day today with DH taking DD1 out for the afternoon so i am hoping to get some house work done whilst molly sleeps. I am finding her really full on when awake at the moment as she is into everything.

Will BBL to update on other stuff ;)

Sorry couldnt post properly b4 DH was lurking around. Things are still not great but its an improvement on the beginning of the week. His best mate has come up today and they have taken DD out. His best mate knows about the issues as he asked me if we were ok and i told him straight that NO we are NOT and if things didnt start improving i would be moving out. I have known him for 8yrs and he's a wonderful man. He is going to try and talk to DH this arvo without saying i said anything iykwim to see if maybe he can suggest counselling. He might agree to it if its NOT my idea. Well off to go Molly is asleep so while the big kids are out i should be doing housework.

(pls dont post anything on FB about any of this even asking if i am ok as no one else knows of our issues and the FB updates get emailed to our joint email address and i dont want DH to think i am slagging him off iykwim)

Hoody: Hope he agrees to counselling..

Morning everyone.... Rob parents get home tomorrow!! :lol: Getting anxious now..
I think Robs in the craps with me as it is anyways... hasnt paid his child support in 3 months...:angry: hes gonna love this next surprise coming,...

For those who went back to work and was still BF, did anyone gets sore boobs or blocked ducts?? ash does feed alot and when im at work i can only express at lunch time and by then my boobs feel like they are about to explode.. but ive had a blocked duct since that is causing soo much pain...

Hoody - Thats great u found out why shes grumpy.. i wish ashs teeth would all just come out and be over with...

Nic - how cute he wants to go back to school ... LOL must be such a relief hes taken to it like that!

Hope everyones having a great weekend.... Took Ash to see Bolt at the movies yesterday.. he slept through most of it but it was pretty funny :)

Going to the pub today for dinner.. yummoooo i love the pub! :D

be thinking of you this week Lauren.. I would be so anxious too..

Lauren hun I'm thinking of you too... Crossing my fingers for you...

With the expressing, could you express a little bit more often at work to release the pressure a bit? I think they legally have to give you the time and space to express as often as you need to..

Well, i told Nic on FB last night, but looks like dh is being laid off from his job today. I'm so stressed about it. He had a meeting at 8:30am and I haven't heard anything yet... I don't know what we will do if he loses his job. i guess we'll be ok for a while but wedding will have to be postponed again :doh:

Lori: Hope you hear something soon

Well my Little miss is getting her eye teeth (yucko) this will make teeth 11 and 12.. She had panadol just before bed last night and I turned the AC on around 9 as she was stirring heaps and she slept 7:30 till just after 6.

I am getting a little tired of all the screaming tantrums.. she wnated someting to eat and some boo boo and while I understand at her age she simply can't wait i couldn't sit right away and do it so she stoood there and just screamed and screamed.. my goodness my ears were ringing. I have no idea how Simon slept through it.. I will admit I gave her a tap on the bottom *blush* I went right and a little tap and sent her away.. she went to just crying then.. at least she stopped screaming.

My house is way to quiet now. Isaac and Ethan at school and Olivia asleep. Jacob is tired so watching tv.. I have done some housework but so don't feel like folding my massive moountain of washing..

Hi everyone,

Wow, lots of babies are taking steps! Summer has too. The most she has taken is 5. My mum bought her a little handbag the other day because she has taken to dragging around mine, and she stands up with it and then goes to walk off. So funny. She's trying to copy all women by putting the handle over their shoulder hehe how cute.

Sorry to hear some of you are having marriage problems. Must be going around becuase it isn't all roses over here as well. Think it must be the hot weather?? Must make everyone grumpy!! We are on track now though so hopefully the rest of the year can stay on course!!

Hope everyone is doing well, for those that are pg ... Belly rubs for all of you. Oh, i'm jealous!!

Hi Nikki.. Good to see you round..

Olivia loves handbags too.. she grabs my SIL's and takes off with it

Nikki - that pic in ur ticker is just gorgeous! what a beautiful little girl!

Touch wood here..... I think ash has moved passed his screaming 'episodes'. Hasnt done it in a week now... :pray: it stays away!!
I totally sympathis Nic with the ringing ears!!

Lori - hoping hubby keeps his job! fingers crossed for u both...

No news here yet....

Ash is fast asleep on the couch and im sitting here in the lounge STILL in my nighty (1pm)... discusting.. lol
Better do something whilst hes alseep....hehe

hey Lauren enjoy sitting around while you can ;)

I like doing that in winter ;)

LOL i keep saying 5 more mins and its already been 15 and im still on my lappy hehe
i do need to move tho cos i need to tidy my room ready for Ash to mess up again when he wakes lol I have so much clothes that need sorting... i so need a new waredrobe its not funny, im too borring when i buy clothes.....:doh:

Oh you should see my room *blush* I am amazed we haven't lost a kid in there yet

I'm stalking this thread Buzzie.... dying to hear :p :p :p

Me too.. Everytime someone leaves a post I jump in..

LOL so i should stop posting then till i hear something ..... ROFPMAO :lol: