Babies Born February 2007 #10

jayne - that not stupid that normal, i am so so lucky benji works only 5 days a week it would be nice if it wasnt 6 til 6 basically but at least i see him every night IF I didnt see him every night and we were talking about daughters first birthday and roster got changed i'd be fuming too

tashi - we were going to give jems cord blood to the blood bank not store it for her but we couldnt do anything coz of the time of night i had her AND that they needed her cord blood for testing to find her blood type right away coz i am 0- and scary things would have happened if her blood got into mine etc next bub we will try again to donate it but again i dont think they will let us coz of needing to test bubs blood right away (i said just ***** her foot but they all thought that was cruel?)

michelle - if brianna said she wanted hair removal would you let her do it?? i'm still thinking about the girl i babysat the other day - and do you think i should tell her mother that she was so sad about the time or lack of she was having with her mum she said her mum always on the computer (warning bells to myself not to turn out like that)?

i checked out 2 daycare places today - one over the top professional with mon, tues and thurs avail and one more laid back that only take babies from 15months so May for Jemima...... both different, both good and bad in different ways the 15month one i could walk to the professional one is less than 5 drive.
there are another 2 i will look at before deciding if i even want to think about going to work or part of me thinks to just bite the bullet as i wont like anywhere and just do it
gotta get a job first
gotta decide what i want, basically i have experience in offices and teeny bit of warehouse so can do either but dont feel like getting all prissed up everyday to go work in an office or the crap that goes with working in an office but do i feel like working in a warehouse..... or i think i do want to work in a warehouse but am i worried about what other people would say about that choice

oh well will keep thinking

jemima been awesome today so i would not have wanted to miss it being at work - she was awesome at kids club and before and she napped when got home til just before i went to a friendds for lunch where she had a blast and then was good when i got home and then five mins later decided to do a daycare run.... now though asleep after our walk she is going to be interesting coz we have to go to dinner for her PopI's birthday and she hasnt had first dinner let alone second dinner, so i guess i should wake her and get some food into her and then bath her..... or wait and see what happens..... when she wakes we will get into her what we can give her a change of clothes and bring some extra food with us.... hmmmmm

i am YES needing some time out BUT i dont know what i would do with it
mum maybe babysitting tomorrow hopefully lunch time and i am going to take benji to lunch - i have been really really awful to him, laying into him for nothing at all but it is not jemima that is the problem she is awesome i think it is just catching up with me now that i am trying to get stuff done how hard it is to get anything done
then when u do it the baby comes and messes it all up
ho hum

Kel, if Bri really wanted to shave her legs then I think I'd let her. She's already mentioned it a couple of times but she's got lovely blonde hair on her legs unlike my thick black hair that you need a whipper snipper to get through. I'd possibly think of getting her to wax or even use creams. Will deal with it when the time comes I suppose! She told me last night she has a crush on a boy. NOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My baby is growing up waaaayyyy too fast!!! Hairy legs are the last of my problems right now! Hee hee! I really feel for that poor girl though. Has she tried talking to her mother?

Now, about working in a warehouse, you need to stop worrying about what people will think/say. Anyone who thinks less of you because you do, well then they're not worth the effort IMO. (I'm in mothery lecture mode today!).

No matter where you go, you're not going to find the "perfect" child care centre either - I've looked and they don't exist! I just went by Bella's reaction. If she was happy being there, then I was comfortable with her being there. Child care centres are pretty strict these days, so I doubt you will get too many dodgy ones. I suppose the most important thing is that Jem is safe and secure at all times. If you can find a place that offers that and she enjoys being there, then that's your clue that it'll be ok. Hopefully other day care centres are like ours that let you take them down there for "orientation" a few times before they start!

Even going to work for yourself is sorta "you" time Kel. When I was working from home, I always had an ear out listening for Bella to wake up so I was half mother half working. Now it'll just be me at work - nobody to worry about except myself during the day. Will ring day care at morning tea, lunch, arvo tea to make sure she's ok (kidding! I'll just ring at lunch!!). Either way, be sure to pamper yourself sometimes too. I've made that one of my new year's resolutions. To pamper myself that is (sorry, but I'm not going to be pampering you!). ha ha!

I hope you're feeling better. Did you take Benji out?

Gotta go - we're doing a MAJOR house clean before Bella's birthday party next weekend. I'm too embarrassed to let anyone in our house right now, it is SUCH a mess!!!!

P.S. I just realised Bella's ticker is wrong. Will worry about it later....

PAT PAT PAT THE BABY IN HER COT TO SLEEP!!!!!!! OMIGOSH IT ACTUALLY WORKED, WHAT A GOOD BAAAABYYYYYYY!!!!!!! (sing that to the tune of row row row your boat)

there was nothing on telly so i decided to put jem in the cot and stand over her for what felt like forever and pat her to sleep.... it did take forever but it did work, so slow and steady i guess we can make it happen that she falls asleep in her cot in the day time too will be a long time until it is alone but step in the right direction

my mum babysat today from lunch time til dinner time and benji and i went to lunch at a little kebab shop we used to go to and toy shopping for jemima, we got her a broom and dustpan and brush set i think it has a mop as well, sadly she should love it then we are waiting to see what else she gets before we go and buy her the two other pressie we are thinking about which is a quad bike and a music/jewellery box, the quad bike is a little old for her just yet so i can find the perfect one (she needs it to keep up with the dogs) (oh yeah in my gallery photo of her and dogs) and the music box is a present she will potential get so waiting to make sure she doesnt get two.

it WAS nice to spend the arvo with benji and it had made me feel 'better' but so tired, you know how it is when you STOP it all catches up with you??? i didnt even realise i had not stopped....

benji said i should/could put jem in daycare one day a week and have a day off and i dont have to work....................... i am totally against that.............................. but thinking about it................................................ ...........

ps - thanks so much for all your support while i am being such a nutcase at the moment, it really helps and really means a lot to me

Awww Kel, Benji sounds like such a wonderful husband! You've definitely done well there!

The girls down at the daycare centre told me they sit there and pat the babies to sleep if they won't settle. Thing is, Bella hates being patted to sleep! I suppose with every baby it's trial and error! Glad to hear you had success!!! PMSL about the song! Woo hoo!

Lots of stuff on today so better go. I'm bback to work tomorrow, so have to get everything done.

Have a great Sunday everyone!

Hi Girls,

JAYNE - That is what annoys me that you pay so much for PHI and then still have to pay all the extras. I know it is a personal choice but it just annoys me when our friends earn proably 3 times what we do and still don't have it and then laugh at us as we have to pay so much out of pocket.
I will proably go to SJOG Murdoch even though Armadale is only 2 minutes away. I loved me last Ob so think I will see her again.
TASH - Is your hubby in the army? I did 5 years in the Army. I know what you meen I loved my rrom KEL- You need to do what makes you happy honey, stuff what people think. If they thought bad then they are not even worth the time it takes to worry about them. ( does that make sense??)Benji sounds like a Fab hubby, great that you guys got some couple time!
MICHELLE - That is so funny with the crush thing, we have all that to look forward to !! I know my Dh gets stressed out just thinking about it. reckons he is going to sit out teh front with a rocking chair and shotgun!!

Took Erin to a playgroup on Friday but didn't like it . I think I am a friendly person but felt that nobody made any effort at all. At Fruit time Erin grabbed a plastic cup withh water and spilt like a spoonful on this little boy which I apologised profusely and the Mum gav me a foul look and got up and left the table.! So don't think we will be going back.

Erin is asleep so going to have a quick Nanna nap!

GOOOOOOD LUCK BACK AT WORK MICHELLE!!!!!!! what did brianna tell you about her crush??? gosh it must be SOO different from when we were kids, but i know i had crushes from grade 3 onwards, his name was peter marshall and he was a crush, i had a boyfriend in preschool his name was andrew and he couldnt say kelly and called me curly which is funny coz i had dead straight blonde hair then, oh grade 3 i also was into kyal ratz, maybe i will facebook search and see if i can find them hehehehe
Jemima didnt really love being patted to sleep but she was sleepy so went with it and as i said it took FOREVER but i am so glad i did it, tonight she just fed to sleep like she kinda usually does

however

we are having a problem, 3 nights this week jem has woken for EARLY morning feed (3am!!) and then not went back to sleep properly, this morning benji had to take her out of our bedroom and get her to sleep coz she was not staying asleep with me beside her, perhaps coz i was getting the ****s with her pulling my hair..... not cool though
tonight will make sure the dogs cant wake her (just in case that is what was waking her in first place) and then feed her properly if she does wake (not lying down like normal wake up feeds or normal morning feed at decent hour even) then hopefully she will feed back to sleep or i guess i might try the patting thing again

any other bubs starting to wake randomly?????????

i am determined maybe NOT to go back to work at least for a while, thinking maybe will see if can get benji's mum to babysit once a fortnight for a couple of hours so i can have some me time, i dont care if that makes me a failure needing me time but hey..... SIL whom i feel i am compared to (as our bubs are only one week apart) goes to work one day a week on a day when her hubby looks after baby and i think that is a bit "her" time so its not that bad that i want it.....


another question for you allllllllllllllllllll

do you know you anymore without baby???????
i realise i dont know who i am or what i want to talk about when the baby is not on my hip.... i feel like i need her as i dont think anyone is wanting to talk to me..... know what i mean???? it is so wierd..... i have totally lost self confidence a little kinda..... which is funny if you know me coz i dont know if that is how i appear but inside that is what i am thinking........... hmmm??

oh and FINALLY some ladies at church noticed i had lost weight, the first people to notice that didnt know i was on a diet!!!!! yipppeeeeeeeeeeee i have lost 5/6kg this month so was hoping someone would notice soon! and benji's family today at jemima's cousin's party (and kinda jemima's party for that side of family) said i was looking good too, so yippee to that!
am going to buy new skirt to wear to jemima's party this week mine is too big

jayne - when is claudias party now???

kristy - PHI it is worth it, friends who dont have it and laugh are jealous as all hell when they see the good stuff you get in private hospital, they may say it is only for 3 days or they may say they get room to self, but really it is never the same..... my private room at the mater was AWESOME i had double bed to share with benji, recliner, ensuite, view of storey bridge and city from my balcony, the food was so so so good all the meals had icecream and jelly hehehehe i didnt have to chose food the day before or anything i could just wander out of room and pick it when it was being served unless jem was funny then they brought it to you, it was worth every cent! i also love my PHI as recently i decided to fix my lowerback pain i've had for about 7 years, going to physio is costing me $5 out of pocket!!!!! thats it!!! and dentist doesnt cost much either!!! so when my friends that dont have it tell me i'm wasting my money i think about my 5 day holiday at the mater where i got to know my baby in privacy not with someone on the otherside of a curtain.

where is everyone else??
cate??? ryn????? kirsten????

Hi everyone :)
Well, we are settled into our new home in Newcastle... the older kids are settled nicely into their new schools and DH is loving his job... I have been exploring everywhere with Harry and its been fantastic.
Harrison turned 1 last week... he was so excited that he was shaking!!! lol
and... as a small little gift to himself, he FINALLY got a tooth! He has been a grump and a half for it too! It actually looks as though 2 are coming up at the same time.

I should be on here a bit more often now that my phone and everything is connected, it took Optus close to 3 weeks to connect my phone... I ended up having to call them and cancel their connection, and went with Telstra who took 2 days to connect my phone... it has been very frustrating having no home phone or internet.
I will put some photo's from Harrison's 1st birthday onto his site... he is having a second, 1st birthday when my Mum and Sister come to visit in a few weeks... lucky boy. Thanks to everyone for his birthday wishes also :)

Hi girls

Just a quickie from me, can't remember all the personals.

Been very ill - had flu, ear infection, throat infection and bladder infection. Also had migrane so severe I couldn't see, talk, or control 3 of my limbs (random flailing rather than just inactive, not too fun!). DS has also been ill; just flu but rushed to hospital with suspected pnumonia. And DH has had flu and gastric flu. So not been around. Then we gave the house a deep-clean when we recovered; DS's windowsil was awful, I feel like such a bad mother. Thankfully, in a way, it hasn't affected his sleep as if a bit of dust was affecting him I'd feel so bad. But that room had been in a state due to the camp-bed being in there until Christmas and DH not cleaning it when it was "his" room, so 6 months of DH in there not cleaning, then 4 months of it being DS's room and me camping in there unable to have a good clean, then what with the burn and all the running around we've only just been able to do it. But I still feel bad.

Needless to say, his birthday party for the Saturday gone was cancelled. But there's still one on this coming weekend for family. He won't know he didn't have his friends round, so it's not important. But he does have a photo of his girlfriend now, I bring it out when he's upset and he smiles and kisses it - HAVE to get a frame for it now!

Kel, I have 2 hours on a Friday afternoon "off" - just time for a bath with a wine and a book, but it makes a BIG difference to me. I also had Saturday morning "off" a week ago - but I was in A+E - and that night off as I couldn't take care of DS so he had a sleepover with BiL and SiL and he slept all night (relief - it's bad that he won't for me but I hated the thought that someone else was having all that fuss).

Congrats Kristy on the pregnancy! So thrilled for you. And jealous, I've just had another period. WTF? Why aren't they 6 weeks apart any more? I don't want periods!

My prayer group, I'm the only mummy. There are 4 of us, so that's 3 non-mummy friends! But most of my friends are mummies now.

Yay that you're settled, Lisa, and yay for the tooth!

Kel, about the girl you babysat - my mother used to sit and cry at me that her kids were awful and they were going to drive her mad and she couldn't cope and al the rest. It's not ideal for a child to hear that sort of thing, but it does happen. I'd like to say "and I turned out all right" but as we all know, I didn't. Can't offer much help other than it happens and it does make you determined not to do the same to your kids! And I'd have really been in for it if I'd have told anyone and they'd have told my mother. So maybe it's best not to, or get her to tell her dad. At least that way it's from a parent. But my parents are together and I'd have been in for it if I'd have told my dad too, so maybe that's not a good idea.

As for hair removal, if hair is causing a problem, get it removed. Age is immaterial really. I wish my mother had been that liberal! I was hairier than most of the lads at school when I didn't get rid of the hair. I would be now if it weren't for hair removal creams, waxing and epilating.

Best be off, DS wants playtime and I need to finish up on BB! Love to you all.

hey ryn
YOU POOR THING!!!!!!!!!! really thinking of you and hope you are ALL feeling better! thanks for checking in though i was getting a little worried!
and you are totally right about the little girl i babysat, am not going to say anything about her being sad about lack of time with mother but still thinking about saying something about the hair removal ESPECIALLY since her mum works at a beauty salon as receptionist so she could easily arrange waxing for her!!!! which would hurt so bad the kid probably would only get half a leg done

i am going to talk to benji's mum about babysitting jemima once a fortnight for an afternoon to give me a break......... i am going to admit that i need a break............... that is going to be SO hard

yeah lisa about moving!!!

baby is sick AGAIN, her temp been going up all day and she has been sleepy and not eating, DRAINING as she was all better and picked something up at one of the parties she went to yesterday most likely from her COUSIN grrrrrrrrrr i just dont want her sick for her birthday next sunday

if i forget happy birthday pubert for wednesday!

and happy birthday to isabella for wednesday too, i think it was wednesday
i cant figure the rest of them out so happy birthday ALL OF THE BABIES!!!!!
been out WAY longer than you were in now!

Hair removal – I agree with Ryn, age is irrelevant and can be such a big deal with kids at school.

Me time – I don’t exactly have a set time or day, but I am really lucky that I have friends that live in our complex and I pop in and out of their places for coffee all the time. Even if I take Tobi with me, I still count it as me time as he plays with the other kids and babies, but sometimes I leave him with DH and that is awesome too. I would love to have some official time on the weekends or something, but then that is family time, so I never do. The last week or so we have been really good and finally getting Tobi’s night time routine sorted out, so by 7.15pm every night I am sitting on the couch, Tobi in bed and the kitchen all cleaned up. It has been heaven. I wish we made a point of doing it earlier. I do agree though, it is really hard to talk about anything other than Tobi. I still have a lot of friends that don’t have kids and it is getting harder as I have nothing exciting to contribute (well I think Tobi is exciting, but they don’t so much). Strangely enough this is why I became so close to MIL, she was the only one that could chat with me on the phone and happy to hear about Tobi. The only real thing that I miss about my old life is karate. I started up karate a couple of years ago and even though I could probably go and find a new one here, it is really difficult with Tobi and my DH’s work and never knowing when he is going to be home.

Ryn – Really sorry to hear that you have all been sick. I wish you health and happiness soon.

Kristy – Yeah, my DH is in the Army. We still have another 7 years before he gets out I think. I don’t mind it so much, the lifestyle and all. I especially like the fact that he isn’t home tonight as I am p***ed at him!!!!

Jayne – I would be pi**ed off too. I am glad to hear that you can swap the party dates around though so Alan can still be home for that.

Michelle – Crushes….they are so fun. I went through my old box of love letters not long ago. I had sooo many boyfriends and crushes growing up. They are the best thing about being a teenager…and the worst at times. That is fantastic that she is talking to you about it. Don’t freak out too much, otherwise she might stop, and you don’t want that.

Lisa – Welcome back. I am glad to hear that you are all settling into Newcastle and Harrison enjoyed his birthday. Can’t wait to see photos. Congrates on the tooth….looks like Monkey is the only one without them now.

Kel – I am really glad to hear that you are looking at getting some ‘me time’ in. It is really important and we ALL need it, so don’t feel like a failure. If it means that you can come back and be fresh to go again, then Jem will be all the better for it. And well done on the weight loss too. It feels so good when someone notices. Keep up the good work.

Talking about weight loss…My DH is still being an arse. I really am worried about him and this attitude he has developed. He really thinks that if I am skinny (and has a sports car) that he will be happy. Meanwhile, our relationship is going down hill because he wont put in any effort until I am skinny, so I am getting resentful, amongst other feelings. So a HUGE THANKYOU to Kym today when she said that I look good and that I have lost weight. It was really what I needed to hear.

Too tired to do personals tonight... but I definitely wanted to come back in to wish all the bubba's a very happy 1st birthday! I have been thinking about all our beautiful babies so much lately, and how 12 months seem to have flown past... its making me a little teary :( I will do personals tomorrow. Night all

Hello,
Sorry all, just a quick one, I've been busy. Of course. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ALL OF THE Babies and CONGRATS Kristy! How wonderful.

Quinn has now got 14 teeth - 2 molars - not fun times with them coming through it's like 4 teeth because they cut 4 times.

Kel: GET SOME ME TIME, nothing wrong with asking for help - if you think about it, you are doing it for Jem, if you get me time then you are a happy mummy and a happy mummy is a good mummy, so it's not really you time, it's recharge for Jem time :) I will find a way to make anything sound like it's worthwhile.

Anyway gotta go again Hi everyone! Bye everyone!

how exciting more toothy pegs... jem working on two more at the moment, but she worked on them 3 weeks ago too.

tashe you DH's attitude is Bullsh*t, he needs to support you when you are losing weight, it is too hard to do without his support/help..... is he perfect?? could he not improve himself for you in some way?? not necessarilly looks but something else??

i am green eyed monster tonight, SIL told me today that she is pregnant.... am very happy for her but wish it was me.
oh well, my body waited til 74kg last time so maybe in 8kg time it will be my turn.

TASH _ Your DH is horrible. He needs a kick up the backside on his comments. How shallow is he? I can't believe it!

RYN _ I've been thinking of you & I'm sorry to hear you're not well. WTG On Liebs sleeping all through the night on his sleep over though! That's awesome.

LISA _ Congrats on the big move being done so well & how aweome exploring your new surroundings! You sound really happy & content!

US _ Same old here, Alan gets home on Thursday morning. So that's exciting. I got the implanon implant in my arm yesterday, so that is a bit ouchie, but better ouchie in my arm than ouchie delivering another bub! PMSL. Claudia is going great, but boy does she have a temper! My goodness, she has thrown a few good wobblies today & while Jessica & I laugh at her, she just goes more wild. LOL.

Love Jayne

Happy Birthday Bella and Liebs!

Yes my DH is shallow and a major a*se, but don't worry I have stood my ground and pointed out that he is way from perfect and that it could take 12months till I am skinny and he can't be an a*se that whole time, otherwise I wont be still here putting up with it. I am just worried for him as something is really going on and he is taking it out on me, blaming me for not being happy. I have spoken to a couple of friends and they said their husbands went through a similar thing when they hit 28. Its a nearly 30 mid-life crisis. So I just have to ignore his comments and be there for him. That is what marriage is all about. But if in 12months time and I am skinny and he is still being an a*se, then I might be thinking differently. Meanwhile, I just found out that Curves is having a special, so I am going to check it out today to see if they have a play pen or something for Tobi while I work out.

Jayne - So you have definitely decided that you aren't having any more kids? Will you look at getting any more permanent ways for contraception in the future?

Kel - That really sucks about your SIL. But like you said, you want to lose more weight first and get some time in for you before you have another bub. Plus if you give it a little more time, then the age difference between the bubs wont be so similar and they might not get compared so much by your MIL. Have you worked out what you are going to do when your Mum babysits? Pedicures are the best and are highly recommended (but from a beauty place, not one of the Asian shopping centre ones - same price, but so much better).

Kirsten - I hope Quinn had a good birthday and 14 teeth. Wow. I just couldn't imagine Tobi with so many teeth. He must look so grown up.

Lisa - It makes me sad to think our babies are growing up too. But as DH said last night, he is so good at the moment and so cute, why would we want to go back.

Tobi - Pointed to his duck last night and said 'duck'. Very cleaver. He has also been saying it when a duck comes on TV. He missed his afternoon nap yesterday, so we feed and put him to bed early. Didn't work so well though, as he woke 4 times during the night. This boy loves his routine and you can't change it.

Take Care everyone

that is so cute that tobi says duck!!! do you quack at him!? jemima has this freakin annoying book that plays a song and the words are "did u eva see a duckie go this way or that way did u eva see a duckie go this way or that or this way or that way or this way or that way did u eva see a duckie go this way or that" over and over and over and over i got it from the opshop and she loves it

she has been saying golly golly golly and i dont know why

had to get jem a doc certificate to get out of swimming today coz she has a chesty cough and is real sleeping so i talked to him about the pregnancy thing and he said that breastfeeding supresses some chicks hormones more than others, so we are just waiting but the next time i think/hope i might be pregnant he has given me a bloodtest request so that we can check properly AND check hormone levels to see how high they are

lol about laughing at claudia's tantrums!!! i do that at jem and she stops and starts giggling too then remembers she was grumpy and tries again, but then i tell she is busted faking it and she knows she cant win - no one beats mummy

going to be housewife today and get heaps done, jemima so sleepy she has been sleeping or lethargic so quite placid and non-demanding so already changed sheets and stuff and been to doc etc

happy birthday to the couple of bubs that have their BIG day today MWAH