hey all, just a quick question - how would you all go about telling your husband that you don't trust his mother to look after the baby?

I know that sounds awful, but I seriously don't trust my MIL :af: . Its a very long story, but basically she's not "plugged in" to Coby at all, all she ever does is buy him things, she isn't even affectionate to him when she sees him, just a quick hug and then puts him down. Whereas my mum comes over and she can't get enough of him, she reads to him, feeds him, baths him etc etc, but DH's mother doesn't do any of that, and is dead set not even interested. She only knows how to show affection by buying things, she's strange!! :boggle:

Oh yeah! She's LOOPY!!

We have an engagement party this Saturday night and my mum will be out of town and Coby's godmother (who lives down the street) has a wedding so she isn't available, so the only option we have is to ask MIL or take Coby with us, which isn't fair as its in a smokey noisey pub and he should be in bed by the time it even starts.....

Any suggestions??