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That's good Satya about work, that's what I'm doing at the moment, job sharing with someone. It still remains to be seen whether it's going to work out because sometimes the person I share with just makes up her own procedures and I end up having to pick up the pieces. We keep a couple of registers for various things and she copied them to another location and was keeping the copy updated instead of the actual register that everyone else was using. Not impressed. Found out yesterday it was because she didn't know how to create shortcuts :-S
But that's worst case scenario!! I guess if you see eye to eye on issues and have the same level of skill you shouldn't have any issues!!
Very quick one, sorry no personals I have read them just no time to reply.
Taylor cut her first TWO teeth today.... well I think today, Its so exciting I onyl noticed like two days ago a few bumps. No rash No tears No fever nothing. Everytime she opens her mouth I sneak a look.
Sniff my little girl is getting so big.
Hi Ladies
I have been MIA for quite sometime, it's just taken me 1/2 an hour to read all the posts... no personals too much to take in atm and I am not sure I will mangage to get through all that's happened with us of late.. will do my best and try not to bore you all at the same time!
Cooper is going great guns! He now has 4 teeth and chews on everything! He looks like a real lil boy. He is trying his hardest to crawl but it's more of a cammando drag action and he seems to be stuck in reverse. As much as I want him to be mobile, I am kinda dreading it also.. the house is so not child proof as demonstrated by a GFs 8 month old! On a not so good note, his skin is a mess... four different GPs, four different diagnosis' ARGH it appears to be an eczema/infant acne type thing... at times he has these huge juicy pimples and I am concerned about scarring :( the PEADs DR believes it's an allergy to the protein in cow's milk and gave us a prescription for Pepti Junior - the stuff is rank and Coop refuses to drink it (i don't blame him) so the DR told us to put sugar in it.. UM NO THANKS and told us to use a hyrdocortison cream on his face which I have to wear gloves to apply.. UM NO AGAIN if i have to wear gloves to protect my hands why the F*** am i rubbing it on his face?? We have an appointment with a dermatologist 24 Jan but I can't see that being much help so in the meantime we have seen an iridologist (sp?) She told me that he has a weak digestive track with very little acid in his tummy so no matter what fomula he has whether it be cows, goats or hydrolised it will make no difference because he can't digest any protein. So she gave us two capsules to put in his bottle each morning to increase the bacteria in his tummy... we have been using them for a fortnight and no change as yet but she did mention that it would get worse before it got better.. we see her again in a fortnight... I am desperate for something to work.. quite over everyone commenting on his face, asking me if I wash his skin.. what kind of mother do they think I am?? We have started solids despite the PEADs advice of not to until his skin clears up... if his skin doesn't clear up than does that mean he will never eat?? Anywho he loves his food, apples, pears, bananas, carrot, sweet potato and pumpkin so far and what ever he manages to grab off my plate during the day - such a gutz!! I feel very domestic goddessy steaming and pureeing.. I'm certain the novetly will wear off soon but I have a stash and a half of frozen puree cubes so we'll be right for a good few weeks when it does!
DP and I have been having a few dramas.. the whole 28 day work cycle is taking it's toll on our relationship! The last time he was home it was like world war 3.. I get the cranks because I plan to get certain things done during his time off and I expect him to spend every minute he has off with us despite the fact i know he needs time to himself also.. he works bloody hard in crappy conditions but in saying that his job is from 6am to 6pm each day, once he gets off his machine that's it... where as my mine as a sahm is from 6am to 6pm than once coop is asleep, it's bottle washing, nappy washing/stuffing, resettling, soothing and because he is not home he just doesn't get it.. and even on his week off he will hand Cooper to me when he has a wet or pooey nappy and saying "here mum, your turn" GRRR i've had my fair share of turns during the month you've been away buddy! His way of dealing with our 'arguements' is to go the pub to have a punt and few beers but this just seems to make me crankier because i deal with things by talking them through which is mighty difficult when you're home alone... :wall: Towards the end of his 28 days away I can't wait to pick him up from the airport and by the end of the week I can't seem to put him on that plane fast enough MEH!
And ontop of all this his mum is sick again.. she had both breasts removed this time last year and 2 rounds of chemo but found out on monday that the cancer has spread to her uterus and bowel :( she goes into hopsital on wednesday and we are praying that they get it all this time, she keeps saying she won't do chemo again but if it comes to that I think she may change her mind.. at only 56 she is too young to just give up!
On a happier note, I am super excited about Christmas! Coop had his photo taken with Santa on Thursday, was so stoked when he didn't crack the sads (as did all the kids in front of us) when it was his turn to sit on the big red suited dudes lap! Santa was a very lucky fellow to keep his beard, Coop had such a fascination with it! He also tried to give Santa's glasses abit of a clean with his tounge! The photo I am not so impressed with but I think that's more to do with Coop's skin than anything else :( Any idea for pressies?? I have bought a few xmas picture books and wrote little notes in the front of each, thought we could share the stories for years to come.. but I am stuck as to what else to get..
OK bored you all enough will try and get on more often so to not bore you again with such an epic of a post! Hope it all made sense.. Take care mummies!
hi everyone
Serendipity - that sounds a bit of a worry. I'd never even thought about stuff like that happening in a job share. Anyway, I've decided to go back full time and see how it goes. If it's all too much I'll look for something part time at my workplace.
Smudgiesmum - 2 teeth - how exciting.
Tan - Poor Cooper (and mum) with the skin issue. I hope you find an answer to that soon. We've had loads of issues with Brock's skin - his is with rashes & possibly eczema. We keep getting told to put either canesten or weak cortisone cream on it. Just when it starts to look good it goes bad again. The warm days always make it worse. I used to use Dermaveen moisturiser on him but now that seems to be making it worse too. I'm now trying Gaiia moisturiser - only trying it today so we will see how it goes. I'm not surprised you are having relationship issues - it can't be easy with a roster like that with a bub. I hope you get things back on track soon. I'm sorry about your MIL having cancer again, such a stressful time for everyone. I hope she changes her mind about the chemo. Brock does a backwards crawly thing too and usually ends up on his back cos he loses balance.
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Brock has started on food. He gagged the first time he had rice cereal but he can now eat it OK. He tried sweet potato today and wanted more than what I was willing to give him as I'm so worried about bad reactions cos of his sensitive skin.
My DF started on rotating shifts today. Arvo shift this week. I think it will work well while I'm off work but I'm absolutely dreading it when I go back to work.
Satya: let me know how ft work goes. We seemed to have gone from being fine with money to being dire in the period of a week. I gues Xmas does that to ya. Anyways Im going back to work ft temporarily because its taking way too long to get a part time job.
Tan: I dont even know where to start. I hope things improve soon. Keep us posted on how things are going.... granted you have time.
Taylor is HATING Farex. Even with fruit she doesnt like it one bit. I gave her weetbix this morning although some people say not till 8 months, Ill just give it to her for a change and keep trying the Farex. But she absolutely loved them. Taylor is on lots of different foods now. Fruits being her favourite.
Went to see the MCN the other day (my last 'extra' one post PND) and she said that for Taylors height she doesnt weigh enough. Not sure that its a huge issue though. Taylor eats fairly well but she does have off days, hopefully now that she gets 3 solid meals a day as well as milk she will chubba up a bit but its not like she is skin and bones either and although her weight gain has slowed she is still putting on around 150g + a week. All these means tested charts and stuff..... pfft.
Anyways I have finished all my PND counselling and relationship counselling (until possibly next year where we may take a course) yay.
Taylor is enrolled to start swimming in Feb. Lets hope I am working pt by then coz its on Tuesdays.
Been experimenting a bit with food. He loves sweet potato and sweet potato with apple & carrot. Not so keen on rice cereal on its own but likes it better with apple. At first didn't like apple but now seems to like it. He's still drinking as much milk as ever & 3 small meals a day - 2nd feed of day around 9-10 then 3rd feed at 12-1 then at his last feed for the day.
Had Brock babysat on Sat night (by my parents) as we went to a party & we had the impression that kids were not welcome. We get there and most people hadn't bought their kids but 2 couples had. It made me miss him twice as much & I just wished I'd taken him. Realistically though he was better off home in bed as it was a bit cold.
WOW this thread has slowed down alot! It's almost be a fortnight since my last post and there are only three for me to read not sure if I'm happy or disappointed about that :think:
SATYA i totally understand your concern about sensative skin and eating.. we went into town last week and were gone for longer than expected so i gave Cooper supermarket purchased food - a popular brand that's slogan is + nothing else - and i will argue until I am blue in the face that they must contain 'something' else because he has had no reaction to the three ingredients when i have pureed them myself and after he ate the packaged stuff he had a rash all around his mouth and down his throat! And Cooper is the same with baby rice, won't have it without something else mixed in. He is actually abit of a gutz. He gets quite cranky when you don't shovel the food in fast enough, i have increased the size of his serves (he gets three a day) and he still doesn't seem content! Like Brock he is still guzzling down his milk. I am abit concerned about over feeding him.. Mother's Helping Others (a local organisation) are holding a nutrition workshop tomorrow so I am hoping to get some advice than. How are things going now that DF has started shift work? Are you going back to work anytime soon?
SMUDGIE'S MUM I am rather envious that you and Taylor have had such a pleasant 'teething' experience thus far! I wish the same can be said for us. I think there maybe more on the way, Coop is showing all his classic signs IE: he is a real grumble bum! Rash, snotty nose, flushed cheeks - i'm seriously over it, although i'm sure he is too!AGREE! :dance: for finishing your counselling!! And hope you find a work situation that suits your needs soon.. swimming lessons will be sooo much fun! Have contemplated enrolling Cooper but i can't justify spending the money as I am a qualified swimming instructor and we have a pool where we are living, on the other hand it's always good to get out of the house - will think more about it after new years.:
All these means tested charts and stuff..... pfft.
Cooper's skin seems to be getting better (just jinxed myself by typing that i reckon) we go back to the irodologist at the beginning of next week so it will be interesting to see what she says.
DP and I seem to be getting along better (albeit over the phone) he has been gone for 21 days and he gets home on the 23rd.. another long stint away but this time I think we needed it!
DPs mum seems to be doing ok thus far. They seem to think they have got it all but we have been down that road before so for now we all have our fingers crossed!
HAHA just reread my last three sentences... "seems" i am hard up for another way to start a sentence.. LOL
Tan: That sounds promising (about you DP's mum) Taylor and I will keep our fingers and toes crossed for you.
I found flavoured farex at the shop the other day..... Banana mmmmm Taylor doesnt mind this one so much but I wonder if maybe its the texture of it that she isnt enjoying. Im watching her drink her bottle now.... we bought the avent handles to put on the bottles, ahhhh so independant.
I have officially stopped breastfeeding, which is a bit sad but I do want to go back to work and I gave it a fair go I think. I wont feel guilty about it but maybe a little sad for awhile, Ill miss the closeness.
I have a second interview tomorrow for a job I REALLY want. Its in property again but for a massive company, its 3 days a week so its perfect except for the location but we will see how we go getting home in time to pick up Taylor, Im sure we can get DP to have his meetings on nights when Im not at work because he can finish early and is at the train stations door step so he could pick her up at around 5.30 whereas I would be around 15 minutes behind him because I would have to walk 10 minutes to the station from work and the centre closes at 6. If I get the job I can request to finish slightly earlier and start earlier but I wont get ahead of myself. I just want to go to the interview witghout sounding as desperate as I must have in my first one. I just really want this one.
Satya: We went to a party a few weeks ago and felt funny as we were the only one with a child (albeit because we were the only ones who actually had kids) but she was quiet and went straight to bed without hassle so she wasnt really in the way. I dont feel guilty about taking her just a bit awkward when she was awake. I feel more guilty trying a get people to babysit!!
Tan: I love the sound of this mothers helping others, Let me know how you go. I think we are all in the same position Taylor wants to be fed more often at the moment. In saying that she has 3 meals a day and 5 bottles Im too scared to take her off the dreamfeed (like my MCN said) because she is eating so much. However i do know bubs have their last big growth spurt at 6 months so maybe thats it.
Well I better go and get Taylors Cereal ready now that she finished her bottle.
Oh and I had Taylor out the other day like you Tan and the only thing my dad had (with a 8 month old in the house so I dunno why its all he had) was egg custard. I didnt realise how much sugar it had in it but I had no choice.... they had bananas that I was going to mush up but they were green still. Anyways although Taylor didnt get a rash she had the runs the next day. It was yucky.... wont be giving her that again any time soon. Cant say im sad that it happened..... dont want her getting a sweet tooth already.
Ive got bear in the big blue house on and Taylor is scared on it........ its on ABC and she wont take her eyes of him and is crying..... hrmmmm
Smudgies mum - hope you get that job.
Tan - I'm back at work Feb 2. It's great that you guys are getting on better. I hope it lasts. Hope your MIL is doing OK.
Brock now loves anything with banana in it. He's so close to crawling it's not funny (bit scary). He gets up on hands & knees and rocks - usually ends up going backwards. At other times he gets up on his toes & hands & his head goes to the ground, looks really odd. He can drag himself forward & rolls everywhere so if I leave the room I never know where I'll find him a minute later. He managed to turn the TV off the other day - it's one of those ginormous ones that doesn't go on a stand & he can reach the controls if he goes on hands & knees. It's so hard to keep up with him now, can't imagine what it will be like once he actually starts crawling.
YAHHHHOOOOOO I got the job. I start on 7 January and may have to go interstate for some training. Very exciting, means I have to go shoppng for new clothes my prepreg ones are all a bit too big. It will be strange to go shopping for myself.
Satya: Taylor loves banana too, her absolute favourite food, followed closely by cauliflower and then banana flavoured farex. Taylor has started an army crawl, she gave herself a bruise the other day, I walked out of the lounge for literally 2 minutes and she had crawled halfway across the room to her bouncer and got stuck on the metal foot of it. Scary, not sure I ever want her mobile LOL.
Taylor is screaming DADADADADADADADADAD when she gets frustrated or angry now, it took 3 days for DP to actually hear her do it which was a bit sad but its funny now coz every time she does it he goes running to her LOL.
Well I dont think Ill be back on before the holidays, so much to do now. I hope everyone has a fantastic Xmas and New year and keep safe. I cant wait to hear all the first Christmas stories.
congrats on the job Smudgiesmum. How exciting that Taylor is starting to talk & crawl - fun and games on the way with all that movement.
Brock started to crawl this morning. He's doing what I think is called an elephant crawl. Head down on hands & tippy toes. Think he might be about to have another growth spurt. He only just ate food an hour ago & now he's had 250mls of milk when he usually only has 200mls (less this week, usually only about 150mls). Finally happy now. Took a while to work out he wanted food, not bed.
Hope everyone is ebjoying the holidays and all the first Christmas' was memorable.
Christmas was draining to say the least. It started of great with just us three, DP's fa,mily were good but my family fought and screamed and in general loud.
DP proposed on Christmas Eve. It was no big surprise really, I had a feeling he was going to LOL. Very sweet though.
Taylor is going through a rough patch, she has gone from eating everything in sight to not eating much at all. I hope this doesnt last long, I much prefer her when she is eating a lot.
Had her injections on Boxing day, slight fever and a bit grumpy but by tomorrow morning she should be back to her old self..... and if not Im not home LOL.... Im finally having a day to myself, going out for lunch with a friend yippee.
Well everyone have a safe and happy new year.
Congratulations on your engagement. I hope Taylor feels better soon.
We have Brock's injections on Monday. Hoping it all goes smoothly (touch wood).
Had a great xmas.
Hey all. I am sorry I haven't been around for a long time. Just SOOO so busy leading up to Christmas. A friend passed away from cervical cancer just before Christmas (so sad - died within 4 months of diagnosis!), had a small bingle in the car on the way to the funeral.. oh the joys, friends had babies, I had all of the families from both sides at our place for Christmas day (who's stupid idea was that!?), and Liv was sick early december with some random virus that had her with temps up to 40. Fun fun fun.
Christmas was good. Charli spent it teething and over the week of Christmas sprouted her first 2 bottom front teeth. She actually coped really well! She's a lot more grizzly now they are actually through poor little thing. Liv is just off her tree from all the events, sugar & presents and just is all out of routine and whack with sleep etc. Happy to have DH at home for this week!
Congrats on the engagement smudgie!!!! That's so lovely!!! Must have enjoyed having a day to yourself too!
DH and a cousin and I all went and saw "the curious case of benjamin button" on boxing day - awesome story but be warned if you go - it's almost a 3 hour movie! I didn't realise and we got back to my mums very late and Charli was very over it - not asleep! It was so nice to go to the movies though. Been years since we'd been to a movie on Boxing day!
Hope you are all enjoying your post Christmas relax?? xo
good luck! Charli's is next Monday!:
I'm sorry to hear about your friend's passing Livyloosmum. Sounds like you've been busy.
Brock has a tooth sprouting at the moment. He's coping very well with it. Hardly any different at all but dribbling a lot & has a teething rash some days. He didn't even cry when he had his needles. He frowned with the first one, then with the second he put a real sad face on and whimpered and then was over it. Very brave boy.
Well it looks like I'm headed for single motherhood. My DF & I busted up last night & I am determined this time will be the last time. We've busted twice before for exactly the same reasons and I can't keep going through the same stuff every year to 18 months. Not feeling that great about it but I guess that's to be expected. It's amazing what a difference a week can make - fantastic family Xmas then a horrible lonely NYE.
satya - oh no! What a huge thing to happen. I hope that everything sorts through smoothly and that you can work out things easily with kids and so on. I am sorry that it's happened but if it's the right thing then surely things will only be better right? Hang in there!
*hugs*
Thanks. I may have over reacted a little. He's back at the house and we are trying to sort things out. Looks like there could be hope. I am over reacting to things big time these days. There are two ladies in my mums group who are ready to walk out on their partners at the moment so I'm starting to wonder if we are all just still adjusting to motherhood & getting used to the fact that our partner's (for us three anyway) aren't helping us with bubs as much as we'd have liked them to. Anyway all is well in the household today. Brock's tooth is feeling really sharp & he's continuing to be really good. The dribble is driving me nuts. It's also making his eczema flare up & he's starting to chuck more often again. His crawling is getting a little faster. I really must baby proof the house and get a gate to keep him out of the kitchen.
Satya: I hope you and DF have sorted things out. DF and I had weeks of couples counselling after Taylor was born and I can tell you it was hard and often caused more trouble then what were were having before we started them. Our arguements peaked in the weeks we had counselling but we stopped in October or November I think and we havent had one fight since. I think adjusting to a new family is a HUGE part of instability for the first while, my friend went through the same thing as me. I think that sometimes so much focus is taken away from your relationship and its all put on the baby that you forget how to deal with each other, during fights and forget to cherish each other when you get a moment alone...... after awhile if you cant stop you just 'live' together...... does that make sense.
Livy: Thats terrible about your friend, such a shock and so quickly. Its not the most sensitive thing to say but its a story like that when I thank my lucky stars that when I got Taylors injection last week I also remembered to have my cervical cancer vaccine too. My condolences.
Christmas is a horrible time, it takes so much energy out of you. I was actually thinking that next year we should have Xmas at our place but not after seeing my families this year LOL.
I want to see Benjamin Button, thanks for the heads up. I would have been looking at my watch every 10 minutes half way through it wondering when I would be able to get pick up Taylor.
Well not a whole lot to report on this end. I'm beginning to wonder if Taylor has hayfever and thats the cause of her sniffles and constant sneezes. Its quite funny because Ill sneeze 4 times in a row then she will start as well.
We got 6 month pixifotos of Taylor and I started to feel dizzy while picking out the photos we wanted that I rushed through them and ended up buying 2 sets of all of them and the cd..... idiot.... doesnt matter its paid for now and Im sure we can give some away. She doesnt smile at strangers so she looked a bit stunned in some of the photos.
Back at work on Wednesday..... what is it with people looking down at me for going back to work. At least its not full time. But if I have to politely smile back at one of those 'you should be staying home' looks or one of those 'oh they take children that young at childcare' or 'oh you wont be looking after her, where will she go' comments I think I will cry. I dont want to go back to work, but for so many different reasons I have to....... I want to spend as much time with DD as I possibly can but I also want her to have a SISTER LOL and buy a house and open a trust fund for her and give her swimming lessons and so on and so on. Spending time with her was my top priority which is why I am working 3 days instead of full time, but no one wants to listen to my story - not that I should have to defend myself to anyone - so now you guys had to listen to it lol.
Anyways Im exhausted so Im off. Hope everyone had an non-eventful happy new year.
Smudgies mum - It would be lovely if we lived in a perfect world and all mums who wanted to stay home could do so. I really don't want to go back but if I don't we would lose our house so back I go. I have to go full time as at the moment my boss is only offering 30 hours or 40 hours. 30 hours means paying for 4 days of day care which is more than a full week so full time it is.... for now. If things don't work out with DF & I, I have decided I will quit work and concentrate on being mum - the house would have to be sold & I'd just rent. I'd go back to work part time when he went to school. So I guess, if it doesn't work out there is a silver lining. Things are still very tense in our household & I honestly don't feel that confident about things. Will have to wait and see what happens.
Brock is now crawling quite quickly so it's getting harder to keep up with him. I've also got a recurring problem with shoulder pain which has got worse since giving birth & picking him up all the time isn't helping. The doc can't find anything wrong with my shoulder at all so have to put up with it.
Brock is now starting to be more awake at night & he's been up til about 9.30 every night for about a week. I keep trying to put him down but he's just way too awake. I think I'll really like this though once I'm back at work as at least I'll get to see more of him - he used to go to sleep at 7-7.30.
Satya: I am very sorry to hear things havent improved yet. I know its hard going back to work and maybe I am just being spoilt. Things are tense now here coz to be honest I resent Dave, well less Dave and more his boss, As soon as someone mentions Taylor at work I get upset. We looked into putting Taylor into Kids on Collins because I am literally across the road and I could visit at lunchtimes and I wouldnt be watching the clock and feeling so rushed to get home and see her but when I spoke to them today they were so vague about how long the waiting lists were and numerous other details. Anyway, Im going to look into doing family day care, The course (unfortunately because I started working I wont qualify anymore for the government freebie) is about $1500 and I can do it from home. The outlay and our rent will be tax deductable and because I would be doing it everyday I would actually earn more money and the benefits tax wise are another bonus. Even if I only took in 2 kids (the limit is 4 plus Taylor) I would earn slightly more then now and get the benefit of tax deductable rent, toys, food, computer, internet. Its just really getting me down now being with her. Its been made worse because she had just woken up when I came to pick her up the other day and she was screaming, as soon as I picked her up she smiled. I cant imagine how she feels waking up without mummy or daddy there to say hello. She just doesnt understand that we will be there soon.
Anyways enough dreary stuff. Taylor is on the move too.... and she wants anything except her toys. Our shoes, my computer, the heater, the power cords, the highchair or the jolly jumper frame. Time to kiddie proof the house!!!