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Ali - glad the move went well. Don't worry about all the boxes just do them a bit at a time.
Dee - a cruise would just be the best! I have always wanted to go on one, maybe one day. Expo sounded great and so nice to meet some other BB mums. Gotta love free samples! Will definately go to the melb one this year, I think in Oct. Good thing about my job is that I get 12 mths paid maternity leave so all this time I have been off I have been getting paid so returning to work doesn't increase my pay that much. It seems weird that I have been off all this time and return and still get paid the same (a little bit more but not much!).
Amanda - the soak did a wonderful job! I took my book in there, put on a face mask and relaxed reading for about 30 mins, it was lovely. Slept well too and back feels heaps better today. How nice is it going out with only 1 child??? Its great that you were able to leave the older boys at home and I bet you enjoyed yourself alot more (except the expensive food which is always annoying).
Nic - sorry to hear not much is happening with the rental. I hope something comes up for you soon. I know how desperate you are to move. After driving 200kms I can understand why you are stuffed. Have a good snooze!
What a funny day in Melb today. It was really sunny this morning and didn't feel too bad outside. Chelsea wanted to go swimming and DH had been promising her all week so he took her this morning so Marley and I went for a walk. It was so nice outside and I actually felt warm when I was walking home. Within 15 mins of being home, it turned black outside and rained for ages! It was then freezing and it only got to 11! Had to go shopping to stock up on supplies for MIL as she is having Marley for the first time next Tuesday. Got the usual, nappies, wipes, panadol etc so she has everthing she needs. DH set up the portacot and portable highchair. She went out and bought herself a new pram, which is really nice. I think she is secretly stressing about how she will go as she is very nervous about Marleys allergies. One good thing is she has 2 small dogs and Marley just loves them! She spends more time trying to catch one (who usually runs off) and patting the other one, all the while giggling and laughing. I'm sure both she and MIL will be fine!
Finally off to bed, sleep well everyone. :)
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Hi Guys,
Sorry i havent been on much, i have had a shocker of a week. Last saturday night DH went to sydney so me and lachlan were having a nice night at home alone, at about 11pm he woke up gasping. He couldnt breathe properly. DH had parked his work van in front of the garage and i couldnt get the car out so i had to call a neighbour to drive us to the hospital (about 1/2 hour away) when we got there, he seemed fine and i thought i had wasted my time, we waited a little while and he started again, he had this horrible cough (like a bark) and he couldnt breathe properly, they gave him oxygen and steroids to open the airways and monitored him for a few hours. It turns out that it was Bronchiolitis and Croup. It was horrible, he has been really sick since. He has a really chesty cough, and now an ear infection. The worst part is that he was sleeping so well and is up all night now (every hour or so) and will only sleep about 40mins to maybe 1 hour in the day.
DH was in sydney and i couldnt get in contact with him so i called mum and she rushed down and my sister rang around to try to get in contact with him. Then he pretty much accuses me of over reacting and making a drama when Lachlan wasnt that bad and my parents didnt have to drive down they were just making a big deal out of it!!!
hmmm just writing about it makes me angry!
Anyway, im at work today so ill go and do a little bit and then get back on for some personals.
Hope you are all well.
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Ohhh Donna that's terrible, how is he now, slap that DH in the head for me please, bronchitis and croup are serious childhood illnesses, he should be ashamed of himself, actually bring him to the computer, This is for the git, (sorry, hun I know you love him) Wakeup to yourself mate Donna is reacting as any normal loving parent would react to that situation, She is not dramatising for your benefit or anyone elses and quite frankly from everything discussed it's high time you grew up and stop being so self absorbed.
:hugs: Donna
Mel that is fantastic, I didn't know that, wow, cool, lol.
Nickers I've still got my fingers crossed for you babe.
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Thanks Dee,
Im really angry at him at the moment, even after all the drama he still didnt get home until 2.30pm the next afternoon. He told me that his mum called the hospital just to make sure that i hadnt taken him there because he had a 'little cough' and they decided that there was nothing he could do anyway so he stayed up there and came home the next day.
I dont know about you guys but im sure that you would agree, if the situation was reversed and i was away from my son and found out he was in the hospital no matter how bad he was i would drop everything and make my way there, even if it cost me $500 in a taxi, i wouldnt wait until the next day!!
Thats all im going to say. Thanks for letting me vent girls!
Nickers - Im sorry i didnt catch up with you when i was in Engadine, Lachlan was unwell and i was feeling a bit sick myself and didnt want to spread any germs. Nixon has been sick enough without mine and Lachlans germs too! Any luck with the rentals? I spoke to my mum and sister and they have both rented their places out. They were units though, im not sure if you would have been interested. I guess anywhere is good when you are unhappy where you are!
Ali - I say if you can start your maternity leave early then DO IT! especially if you can get a doctors letter!
IK - Maya - Its going to take me a while to get used to the new name but ill try my hardest!!
Bath - I hope you are having a great time away!!
Big hello:hello:to everyone i have missed! HOpe you are all well.
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Good evening :) Wow! I get back from a weekend away to discover all these changes, for the better! Kelly seems to have taken on board yet another suggestion i made about adding a photo gallery to the BB site, IK is now Mayaness (and I haven't decided whether to call her 'Maya' or 'Ness'... both are very pretty and very fitting ;) ) and Moods are back (and this time the function actually WORKS for me (it didn't last time it was activated for some weird reason)... phew! Had a good weekend in Castlemaine... DH and I decided we could easily retire to that area... maybe the heritage listed town Muldon (sp?) which is nearby... will do personals tomorrow girls... and work on Ness's avatar :)
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Bath - don't know much about Maldon, except that they have an Urban Fire Brigade running team! Like I said, I'd love to take a trip out that way. I'm going on another girls' weekend at the start of August and we'll be in Trentham. I think that's the general vicinity? Not sure. Close to Daylesford? Glad you got to get away for a bit, anyway!
Nic - sounds like you have to get onto these RE agents and hassle them till they start doing some work for you, just to get you off their backs!
Donna - you know you did the right thing by your boy :hug: Your DH has tried his best to distance himself from much responsibility for Lochie, and this recent episode of behaviour from him doesn't surprise me, although it really does dismay me because you deserve to be honoured so much more for your mothering role, especially because Lochie has asked so much of you and you have given it, largely unsupported. For what it's worth, we honour you right here! I was under the impression that croup is serious, too. DH is going the right way to prove that you don't need him to raise Lochie or to complement your life :( You know we love you, honey, so you come back here any time to vent or ask for anything. You've got our phone numbers, too. And, we can all PM each other, too, if you want to ask anything off-forum from any one of us :)
New name - I won't be miffed if anyone still uses 'IK'! I just got sick of it as my username on the post banner. The new name is softer, too, so when someone responds to a post in one of the other forum threads that gets a little heated, it will take the edge off the argy bargy if I have a softer-sounding name! Two letters can hardly be called a username, anyway!
Ali - sounds like a sweet arrangement to me, like Donna said - take it and run!
Dee - when you get that cruise, be sure to venture beyond the port towns in the islands! Depending on how long you have, you could get a local taxi out to the beach resorts, otherwise you'll only see the port town markets, where they charge in American dollars for the American market. Further afield there are dolphin swims, boat rides, snorkelling etc. Belize might have the closest Mayan ruins if you're doing a cruise (from the top of my head), but if you can take a side trip for more than a day, Guatemala has some. The impressive ones at Copan, in Honduras, would require more time than I think you'd get from a cruise trip. But if you get to go to Mexico for a few days you'll get shopping AND ruins as well! Aztec and Mayan. My sister cleaned up with local jewellery! Anyway, it sounds divine, and you'd better hold DH up to his promise!
I managed to avoid my parents on Saturday, but spent yesterday afternoon at their place. It wasn't so bad until the guests started to leave and we were left with a long-time family friend and my mum started to get morbid again. We left soon after and went to MIL's as an antidote! It's just too hard work to deal with two depressed parents anymore. My dad isn't so bad (though DP resents his company because he doesn't seem to WANT to be UNdepressed!), but my mum is bent on torturing everyone along with herself. As DP said, she may learn the hard way that access to Oscar is dependant on her effort to maintain a somewhat harmonious relationship with us. Thus far, she seems to think it's her right to see him, regardless of how she treats me. I don't want Oscar to get used to that. Vent over.
We had a fabulous Saturday. My sister came over for coffee and croissants, then we went to a VIP sale for a jeans company in South Yarra...and absolutely cleaned up! It was like a fantastic dream that I was expecting to be woken from at any moment...and that was BEFORE the 'everything is now $5' call! We'll be at the next one, there are only 2 per year. I think we could get a goodly bit of Christmas shopping done at the next one. It's a sample sale, so the clothes were going to be pulped or sold.
Anyway, boy asleep in sling and I'll have lunch now!
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Thanks Maya,
I have put the full story of what happened in the relationships thread. im just really unhappy at the moment and i dont know what the best thing to do is. I dont want to do anything that is going to affect my boy for the rest of his life. im trying really hard to work through this but its hard when i feel like im doing it on my own.
Sounds like you had a great shop, im a bit jealous!!
Bath - Sounds like you had a great weekend. Good on you, you deserve it!!
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Donna - vent all you like. Thats what we are here for. I would be totally peeved off at my DH if he did anything like that. Its really terrible. Like Maya said, croup can be very serious and any childhood illness should be taken seriously. I really hope he has learnt something from this and make sure he does. You deserve much more support from him that you get. Keep smiling, we are here for you. Keep us updated how Lachlan is going, hope he is feeling better very soon.
Dee - well said!
Bath - glad you enjoyed your weekend away, nice to go and recharge the batteries. Love the gallery idea, well done on suggesting it. Had a quick look last night and there are some beautiful photos.
Maya - Not long till your girls weekend then, how exciting. I have a friend who lives on 40 acres at Trentham and she loves it. Are you going to the whole day spa thing? My montly dinner club are going in October so I can't wait and it will be child free (how divine lol!). Very good philosophy about your mum, you don't want any of her negative vibes rubbing off on him, negativity is no good esp around young children. Hopefully she will lift her game. You lucky devil snarring a bargain!!! Sale sounds fantastic, make sure you let me know when the next one is. I really like the idea of nothing over $5! Better to be worn than turned into pulp!!!
I chatted to my GF in Brisbane last night and we generally chat every fortnight. It was our longest session ever, 4 hours! My ear was very sore at the end of it, I think I need a hands free phone! We have been discussing ideas for our own business and we have come up with some good ones, so hopefully something will come of it soon. Not much happening today. I find the day before I go to work, I have to get so much stuff ready thats its much easier to do it during the day than at night. Marley is off to MIL for the first time tomorrow and MIL is still a bit nervous. Marley has her follow up allergy testing with the paed tomorrow so I am hoping for good news.
Has anyone been in the new chat room yet, what do you think of it? I still have to have a look.
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Donna, I'll check out your thread soon. Just remember that to do nothing now can affect him for the rest of his life, just as doing something now can, too. It's how it affects (as in, negative or as positive as possible) him that will inform your decisions :) Whatever you do that is the best for you, as a person and a mother, is highly likely to be the best for Lachlan, too. One day he'll have a family, and I don't think you want him to have your current situation as his model of what a family is, or what parents should be like with each other when they are together, or what daddies should be like with their kids. Something has to change, remembering that the only person we ever have control of is ourselves :hug:
Our friend gave us a huge printer that has fax, printer and scanner - it's an office thing that they updated from and don't need anymore. Well, DP got it out of the car just before, put it on the rug to have a look at it...and ink leaked onto the rug. I would have just put vinegar on it, but he insisted he needed water too. I hope it hasn't ruined it. He then put it in the bath to soak. Better than leaving it to dry, I suppose, until I can google an appropriate remedy. Any ideas, anyone?
Mel - we're not doing the day spa thing this time. We found that last time we were too wanged out to enjoy the evenings together, and this time we'll be in a converted church with a gourmet's kitchen! We decided to just hang out and put on a feast in the evenings. Oscar will come as well as my friend's 2 month old.
Better go, Oscar is bashing the printer that I am hoping to flog on eBay!
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Hi all (yawn) got in to work at 6am this morning cause my feral child woke at 3am - so I caught a lift into the city with FIL (poor guy is staying with us this week)
Yawn!
Donna, my sympathies on your sitch with Dh - I hope you two find a way out of this mess :(
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Clear as a bell up here! Fog is causing consternation at the airports, but the sky is a beautiful shade of blue :)
I'm up, I'm awake, about to wake the boy to collect my sister and niece so we can go for a swim...before the school holiday crowds kick in. I'm waiting for the logs on the fire to start heating up the house...
I'll get home and contact Centrelink...I've neglected to do something that had a deadline...that has now elapsed by just over a week...do you think my exams would cut it as an excuse??? My payment advice came yesterday, so they haven't cut me off as they said they would in the 'if you do nothing' letter...It was about my tax return and I need to do it soon, to cover the 2005-06 year, too! Norty...
Well, I have got to get the hell out of here...Coco just walked in, farted and fled. It's not good!
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Good morning :) lovely and misty out there Rory, makes the world so quiet. Wade is beside me on the other 'pute playing French language games... so funny how French animals make different sounds "meu meu" etc. DH took another annual leave day off yesterday... he pottered around the house doing all my housework LOL I didn't do much... what a slacker! Although I did a bit of baking. I'll make up for it today...
Rory: have you still got that appointment at the Mercy tomorrow? Drop in afterwards if you want :)
Ness: We should do a weekend away at some stage up in the Daylesford/Macedon region... there seems to be a new Day Spa in Macedon... I checked out the site yesterday... not sure how child friendly it is but we're going to check out holiday homes in Woodend for our next weekend away and DH said that he'd take the boys out and that Verity and I could spend an afternoon there. I can't believe you took the ebay buyer his purchase!!! You're such a softie! tsk tsk ;) Also I know a bit about what it's like with morbid mothers and their influence on children... one big mistake we made with Verity however was to debrief about my mother's atrocious behaviour within her earshot... very bad move... you don't want volatile pre-teens armed with that kind of information believe me! It will be hard, but try to always be respectful of your parents with your kids... just my experience... don't mean to give a lecture! :)
Mel: when I pulled the curtains across this morning and saw the thick mist one of the first things I thought of was you! Hope it didn't hold you up and that your run was smooth and fast! Also hope Marley enjoys her day at Nana's :) Love hearing about life working outside the home... share! :)
Dee78: I read your vent in the relationships thread. *hugs* there was some good advice there. It's sooo hard to know what to do. Would he attend counselling? I know what you mean about not wanting to harm your Ds's childhood... trust your heart. My DH and had a terrible first year after Verity was born... the adjustments to parenthood were tough, more so for him because he'd had more freedoms in his life (financially, socially etc). One of the things that helped was making friends with couples with other children. If your DH can spend more time talking to happy and content dads then he might gain a healthier perspective... spending time with single men and selfish dads will only make the problem worse.
Niall grissley now... BBL
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Hi Girls,
Bath ....Glad you had a great weekend away, and ohhh a day spa sounds divine, wish I lived closer:) Your right about your advice to Mayaness, through all that has happened in the past 3 and a half year my kids have been left out of the loop and thats the way I want it. I'm sure they have an ikling of what's going on but it is not really discussed with them or around them.
IK.... Hope you have a lovely swim with your sister and neice and eeewwwweee to the nordy doggy, lol
Rory... How's work going this time around, big belly rubs babe. Grrrr to the early start. Does it mean you finish early??
Donna...:hugs: sweety, how are you feeling today? It can be very stressful in the first year as Bath said and I agree he needs some positive male influences to show him the light. He really hasn't shown much interest in being a daddy has he, he seems really self absorbed. My DH played golf the first year of our marriage and continued to go out with his brother's ans a mate, well I got jack of it and cracked a right old narna. I was fortunate DH saw the error of his ways and well the rest is history and he is the most doting dad around and isn't to bad on the end of vaccumm either. I think men in general find the transistion from virtual freedom to father/ husband hard. You got married even though you had all these issues so may be there is something worth hanging onto there, Communication is definitely the key. You need to tell him how you feel or perhaps even write it out and put it on the toilet wall , or make it positive by writing ten things that make you happy and get him to do the same and make sure you do atleast two things on that list for each other each day. Tell him you want it to work but that you both need to fix it or walk away, Tell him you want to fix it and be the first to do two things on his list. Don't play into the blame game (even though we all know he is, humour him, if this is what you want.) My Gradmother bless her heart told me that a marriage is not 50 50 it's 125 to 75, you should always give more then you expect to receive and you will always receive more then you expect. It's good advice. and so very true.
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Dee I do get to finish early - I will leave here at 2pm.
LOL at your Grandma's advice - I got told marriage was 60-40 by DH's Grandma for exactly the same reason!! Wise old sods - doesn't make it any easier though :(
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