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Enigma - I am soOoooOOOo happy for you & honestly it will only get better! Strange enough since Ronan has been on the drops he poops EVERYDAY and never cries from the pain and he is now totally formula fed..
How often are you giving her the drops?
I know what you mean about time flying by, i can't believe Ronan is past 5 months already!
Hi just a quick question....before feed my dd. How did you get your tickers with pictures in your signature?
Kristee-Lea
KL: You go to a ticker site like Racoooon's Lilypie.com and select the "create a ticker" option... it will take you through the steps and give you the option of uploading an image from your files to insert beside your ticker. Hope that helps :)
ETA: Just changed my ticker... seemed pretty straight forward.... tricky part was modifying the piccy so that it complied with the sizing requirements.
I have created my ticker but how do i get it to show up with the actual ticker and photo not just the link?????
KL: you paste the link into your signature box in the Preferences area which can be accessed by clicking on User Profile (situated under the BellyBelly logo at the top of this page). Goodluck! :)
re: the dr phile quiz, it's a power point slide. so if you don't have powerpoint, it won't work.
Thanks Candy I don't think i do have power point so that could be it. Bummer tho I would've loved to have done it.
Well Cody's lump is still there but most of the redness has gone. I think it may have been a little black ant bite as DS2 is also allergic to them and comes up with huge welt mark after been biten, which is what Codys is sort of looking like. Poor thing.
Ok I'll go for now bbl.
hugs xoxo
Hi Junies
Amanda- good to hear that the redness is gone, in that case its clearing up - i just realized ( blame it on the post-pregnancy brain ) that you have 4 sons! ( i thought Cody was the 3rd).. well done :) I have so much amazement for anyone who has more than one child hehe
Rac - my packet didnt say how often i should give the drops, so i called them and they said not to exceed 12 doses in 24 hours , i squirt them into her mouth with a syringe and quickly give her milk after so she swallows it. She is smiling more again... it must have been really painful for her. Thanks again!... its funny tho , coz you were saying that Ronan seemed ok with farting / burping too - but it was a gas problem. We thought she didnt need anything for gas because she was like Ronan - all ok in that area , ahh well - all sorted now thank god :)
*vent* my mother told me this morning while DH was sleeping , that last night he refused to give Aneta milk when she was hungry , that he was trying to hold her off feeding for the rest of the evening. As you can imagine i was furious !!.. as soon as she went to work , i woke him and asked him wtf was he thinking .. turns out it was nothing like that , we feed Aneta no earlier than 3 hours after each feed, if she has one sooner she gets that wind problem. He said there was still over an hour left to her feed , so he rocked her to sleep and fed her as soon as she woke up ( 2 hours later ). The question running through my head now - is my mum trying to cause problems in my marriage ?? this is not the first time she has complained about him and made something sound the way it wasnt.. grrrr... and she kept saying to Aneta " daddy was trying to starve you wasnt he " *vent over*
Hope everyone has a good day , really stormy here - perfect weather for being lazy and sleeping all day - oh wait! I have a baby hehe
Yep, we don't have PowerPoint installed either but the quiz is probably similar to what you can do at the site... they are quite interesting.
Good that you feel confident that it was just an ant bite Amanda... are there many where you live? I haven't seen an ant in months... which is amazing given how many food crumbs are on the floor at the moment *blush* This house is just filth ATM... finger prints on everything... polished the windows during my 8th month of pregnancy (as you do LOL) but you wouldn't know it! Same with the mirrors... really need to deal with it now.
Went to PlayGroup this morning... lots of action for Wade so he should doze off soon (He's in bed now). Niall slept through the whole thing as usual... waking up in the supermarket on the way home... put an end to that plan! By the time I was on the train he was in full throttle, howling for a drink, lucky we only had to go one stop. He's happy now, beside me in the pram, fascinated with the fabric design that lines the bassinette part of it.
Missing a few regulars lately... wonder how they are all going... Nickel, Neeny etc.
Now what'll I have for lunch?... another boring tuna tin sandwich? Lucky DH usually gets something nice... oh well at least he's been able to come home earlier lately as his work has settled down (was chaotic at the end of the financial year)... nothing better than seeing him walk in the door before 6pm! :)
Enigma- Sounds like you are going to have to trust that your DH is doing what is best for Aneta, and just take what your mum says with a grain of salt- You and your DH and doing the best thing for your baby- I hope your mum understands that.
Bath- I concur on the filthy house, mine looks like a bomb site, even though DH and I try to spend some time on the weekend getting in clean, and I get as many jobs as I can during the week. It feels by the time I get done with the list of jobs it is time to start again.
Amanda- I hope Cody's lump/ bite clears up quickly, poor little fellow.
Well it is rotten weather in Perth today, the wind is howling outside. I fully agree with Engima, great day to stay indoors. I amstill in my pj's- partly because I have a back log of washing and no clean clothe, I have a queue of stuff waiting to go into the drier.
I have started today with getting Tori to settle in her bassinet rather than in my arms, I wait untill she is sleepy and then put her down. Then I sit in there with her with my hand on her tummy, and whispering to her as she falls asleep. I am hoping over the weeks I can put her down and just whisper, then put her down and sit in the room, and eventually put her down and leave her to settle herself. From all the stuff I have read it is good to do it step by step, so they become comfortable with self settling. So far this morning she is doing really well and has had her longest morning nap for ages.
Anyway best go and get a few more jobs done, Tori will be awake and hungry very soon.
Sorry missed your post Enigma... I agree with Ali: Grain of salt! My mother used to try that occassionally but you must put forward a united front (good practise for when Aneta gets older and tries to "divide and conquer" you both as well!!!) Still, I'd better not b*tch about mother... haven't spoken to her since she left here weeks ago. I reckon she might visit BB to see what I'm up to... wouldn't surprise me in the slightest given that she was one for reading my diaries when I lived at home.
Good idea starting the self settling process now Ali: gets harder as they get older. Niall has done it well since birth... much better than my other two... not sure why. I put him down all the time wide awake and he just drifts off. After I posted my last post I took him into his "big" cot for a change of scene. He watched his mobile for a while, whinged a bit when he got bored then I flipped him over and he fell asleep after I patted his bottom for a few minutes. The best trick for helping them self settle I find is to kinda hang around in the room as they are lying there... find something to do like folding nappies/laundry... make sure they can see you but go about your work like you aren't fussed... even wander in and out of the room. I've found that if I don't focus on them too much (and emit vibes that say "c'mon, settle please!") then my children settle faster. I think it's a gentle approach for both child AND mum... I know it's ok to hold and rock your baby to sleep but it's exhausting and I swear little ones can sense the frustration from the parent. Anyhow, whatever works i guess... I've just found the Put Down and Hang Around method to have worked extremely well for me.
hi girls, I know I've been lurking & I'm sorr but theres a lot going on here. teething, fights with family...... PND even though i have a great bubba.... oh the joys.
got him weighed etc. 6005 grams 60cm long :)
Bath - I agree, the more you need baby to cooperate the more likely they'll be upset by your desperation and uncooperative with your goal! I have been using the method I use with my horse and that I then used with Odin when we got him as a puppy. The 'method' is actually just a mindset thing, where horses teach you that the more urgent you are about anything, the longer it will take to achieve anything! Say, if you are running late and you are trying to tell your horse that you are in a hurry, guaranteed it will take you about half an hour to load him into the float. SO, I slow down, take deep breaths, imagine my heart rate slowing down (which actually initiates a slower heart rate!) and realise that I'm now working at the horse's/puppy's/baby's pace and no matter what I do, when baby's ready, that's when I'll get things done :) I figure that if I really need to get something done, I will and anything that doesn't get done wasn't important enough in that particular day. Unless there is something really up with him, I can put him into his bouncer, wrap him warm and flit about the house for a given amount of time before tending to him again. Sometimes the dummy will get him drifting off to sleep so that I get even more time. I'm also not fussed about teaching Oscar self-settling because I don't mind being the one to rock him to sleep, or to feed him to sleep. If he self-settles then that's fine, but it's not my aim to do that ever. But that's just me and my gentle/natural parenting philosophy. It works so well for me. I am the least stressed new mother that I know in my circles (as in, of all the women I've known after having their first child) and Oscar's healthy and happy, so my method is working for me - my baby, my way! I know that many people see that as elevating Oscar's centrality to my world, instead of him fitting into mine. I find that such an odd way to think about it because if you can't feel important in your own family, where can you feel like you're the most important person in the world? Nowhere is where, and the family is the most appropriate place to feel like everything would be dropped for you and the only such place, especially in our society. Nothing's more important than Oscar and my family so he can't cramp my style!
That reminds me, I have just purchased some swim pants from eBay that go from 3 months to 3 years - just in time for my girls weekend in Daylesford! Actually, I might even get him into them sooner (being that he's such a heifer) and practice at the local pool. And now that I've gone and paid for them I'll have to take him to the Peninsula Hot Springs, too. I know, that's a stretch, but I'm using that as an excuse to get down there and play in the mineral hot pools!
Hi everyone!
Sorry I"ve been MIA for ages - you know the mummy stuff gets in the way!
I've only skimmed the last page - page 6 so sorry no personals.
update on Aleise: MIL bought us a cot on Friday and we assembled it Sunday night, just gotta put it in her room now and see how she goes. She's starting to sleep all night (sorry to those who are jealous) and today she woke at 6am for her bottle then back to bed until 11am! I bet the bad days are around the corner though! Been using the digi camera heaps - will have to email some more pics soon.
Daycare: I've got her down for 2 places. One said its too late to give me any definate answer about starting her in October (2 days only) and the other can only offer me one of my work days. MIL can help as can my mum but I'd rather settle her into daycare. I'm supposed to go back to work end of Nov but want to get a spot for Oct so I can go back then.
Apart from that we've got preparations for her Baptism which is 2nd of September. Meeting up with a mother's coffee group tomorrow (I met via another site)then a hairdressers appt and catching up with my mum.
Nothing much else going on - still awaiting my fat tax cheque. Well take care all and hope everyone is doing well. Great to see that Simone's baby, Anneleise, is home now.
Catch you all soon and hugs all 'round! :hug:
Good Morning :) Hi Neeny... was just thinking of you yesterday... good to hear all's well... that's a darling piccy of Aleise beside your ticker!
Day at home for us today. Going to see if I can deal with some of the grot!
Getting very quiet in here....
Engima thanks for that, yeah it can be trying sometimes with all the boys and testostrone flying around, but I love them all.
Candy sorry to hear that your having problems, I hope that it sorts itself out for you.
Bath I agree that it is getting quite in here, I'm also doing cleaning to day. DS3 was up vomitting all last night so have alot of dirty linen to wash.
Well I thought Cody's bum was getting better and this morning when I was changing his nappy the lump has got a bit bigger so I'm going to the Drs tomrrow to see what they have to say about it.
Better go the boy is calling.
hugs xoxo
Let us know what the doctor says Amanda... sounds odd about it getting bigger when we all thought it was an insect bite... hope it's not infected. Maybe it could be a boil? It would be very painful if it was... does he cry when you touch it?
Niall's sleeping... Wade's having moods swings today... destructive one minute, sweet as pie the next... it's up to me to stay calm though even when he constantly seems to ruin the most precious things!
Hope to see you again in here soon Candy.... please let us know how things are darl.
Bath when I looked at it this morning a boil is what come to mind as well, he has been starting to flinch a little when it is touched just recently and it's still redish as well as a bit purple.
Hope Wade settles down a bit for you this afternoon.
On another note DS1 has an operation next Friday to get grommets in and his adenoids out and then it's his birthday on Saturday my poor baby. So I will be MIA on Wednesday next week as we have pre-admission and then on Friday and Saturday.
hugs xoxo
Candy - lurk all you like and feel free to vent if you need to
Amanda - all the best for Kailens op
great to hear from you neeny
Nathan had injections yesterday, he was asleep at the time, woke up and screamed then ent back to sleep. he had a very unsettled rest of the day, I put him in his bassinet,but every 10 mins or so would cry out then drift back to sleep, it was so sad. He is fine today.
Hi all,
Have had a shocking couple of days where Freya has been crying a lot. She seems to be constantly fidgeting and is very fussy when feeding. I am exhausted but am having trouble sleeping, even when Freya is fast asleep. Hope it's just a stage, and things will be better soon!
Amanda, hope your DS's op goes well - that is a horrible bday present for him, poor lad! Let us know how you go with Cody at the drs.
Candy, you sound thoroughly fed up...you know we don't mind if you let it all out here...thinking of you.
Neeny, glad to hear Aleise is doing so well!
OK, time's up according to my hungry little alarm clock!
Hi Girls - in the public library again (broadband has been ordered, now just waiting for connection!!) so gotta be quick
Jo, hope Freya settles a bit better for you - I have had gastric flu for last 5 days so Flynn has been a bit ratty and I have been worried my milk supply is down, so I know how you feel :crying: But last night after a top up of EBM he slept from 8pm to 4am - wish I could get that every night!
Bath, I have found the hand around the room thing works for me too - Flynn's cot is in our room so it works particularly well in the mornings while I am making the bed. IK, I love how well you are doing - you go girl!! In terms of priorities, I think we all have to be comfortable with how we mother our babies and to hell with what others think!
gotta go - my time has run out
ciao bellas
first vent.
my toxic mothere called today I was trying to give ryan a bottle and he was playing I said to him "eat don't play" mum commented "wouldn't hurt him to loose a bit" (I had just told her his new weight)
Candy - toxic sounds about right, how awful :( At least you've identified it though, so many people continue to hang around with toxic people and take on their toxicity cos they haven't figured out that they are not good to be around yet! If you can't avoid the toxic person (hmmm, like one's own mother...and I'm no stranger to that) then you can at least remember that they are toxic and relate to them with that understanding in your head. So sorry that you've been having a hard time, too:hug:
Yep, Rory, I've said it before and I'll say it again, WE have to be the mother of our OWN children so if anyone criticises then I would advise use of that old chestnut...'bite me'. Makes me feel better every time I utter it!
Been to the osteo for Oscar today and he's going great. The maternal nurses have nothing to worry about so they can back off about Oscar's so-called 'tension', he's just strong and uses his neck muscles a lot. He had some tightness lower down his back but that's only cos of how often he uses his neck, not because of any pinching, or alignment issues as they thought. My own appointment with the myotherapist went very well today, too! I'm in the weaning phase - I concluded that I am just blissed out at this stage of my life and my shoulder is responding accordingly at last :)
Gotta check on rice cooking, planning a trip to the fire station tonight because I can't help myself...
good morning... typing single handed... where is everyone?! Rainy day here, no outings planned :( Wade's doing jig saws... not sure what to do with myself... looks like Niall has a small infected scratch on his face, he's been scratching himself a lot lately need to put the scratch mittens back on... he's such a happy boy though! Slept well in the cradle beside my bed again last night... brought him in with me at about 4am.
Are you going to the doctor's today Amanda? Let us know the verdict regarding the lump.
Hope Nic and Rory get back online soon!
*twiddling thumbs* oh well... family finished that cake I made the other day... might make another one for the weekend. Going into the CBD again tomorrow so won't get a chance to do much cooking then... like to have a few yummy things for the weekend. Might even attempt to make some brownies... can't recall whether I've made them before... probably have... anyone else made them from scratch? Ok... better give Niall a feed before i start all that. back later when there's someone to chat to!
ETA: Decided to make baklava instead... turned out well... had a bit for lunch... better stay away from junk for the rest of the day and drink lots of water to compensate! Where IS everyone??? I'm getting a tad paranoid now... have you all gone off and started another secret Junies group without me??? :eek:
Bath - how did you find out about the secret group???
Quiet here, too - rain is good, I have implemented the wet weather program...stay in bed till Oscar goes to sleep so I can have a shower (oops, fell asleep whilst waiting for Oscar to sleep, try again...that happened 3 times!), do whatever emailing Oscar allows, tidy up lounge room so that I can potentially watch a DVD I've borrowed from a friend...all is well. Oscar is still asleep, which is a shame cos I think his nappy is a bit leaky...but if it doesn't wake him up then he's obviously happy enough living with it for now. His skin is good around his bits and I'll clean him up good and proper to ward off nappy rash when he eventually wakes. God I LOVE sleeping with him! I have had the best sleep since I took to having him on my chest. He went about 4 hours last night before feeding, so that was nice. He nodded off straight away after that feed and was mainly asleep for that nappy change, too. What a cherub. I am SOOOOO in love. DP is home today and thinks I'm quite the sap - I can't stop gushing about my boy. It's a bit pathetic, i'm sure!
Ok, better go again, I have the opportunity to read the local paper while he's still asleep...
Quiet day in here!
We had a shocking evening yesterday, probably the worst one we have ever had. Tori managed tog et throughly over tired and IMPOSSIBLE to put to sleep. We went to mothers group in the afternoon and we have been asked not to bring our prams in because there is not enough room. However, it seemed to be Nap time for all the bubbas and none of them slept properly because we only had mats on the floor to put them on. As there is only 5 of us in the group we have decided next week to bring in the prams because the time of the group seems to be right in the middle of everyones nap time. By the time we got home Tori was ready for another feed, then we went grocery shopping and she didnt go to sleep in the pram, so by the time we go home from there she had been awake 5 hours, and just cried and cried, wouldnt settle to go to sleep. It took us untill 8 to get her to nod off. Then she woke an hour later and it was 10:30 before she was asleep.......I guess the one good thing was she slept till 5am. However I said to DH I would rather get up once in the night than have her that upset again.
We had needles today, which was a bit trying. I had to admitt I cried.... it was so sad to see her soooooo upset. Although, after a feed she settled down and now she is sleeping soundly.
Best go and get some jobs done while it is quiet.
Just got an sms from Nickers: she misses us all but won't have the internet connection back until next week :( I told her it's been very quiet and that she hasn't missed much. I also meant to say: Jo: Hope you and Freya had a better day today! Maybe it's just a growth spurt? Has she had hers yet?
Well over the course of the day I've developed a cold :( Wade also seems to be teething again as his left cheek is bright red :( and he has a snuffly nose too. We both stayed in doors all day, lucky we didn't have anything planned. I really want to go into the city tomorrow because I've had 2 full days at home now and I'm bored out of my mind!
Hope we hear from more Junies tomorrow! You got me worried IK... *sniffing armpits* I certainly explored more of BB today (looking for the secret group!) LOL
ETA: oh sorry Ali! Let us know how Tori goes with her needle reactions (if any) hope her temp doesn't get too high... I think most of us have found that our little ones sleep well during the following 24hr period.
Hey everyone,
I haven't been in lately...sorry guys been busy IYKWIM.
Well lately Tarleha has been feeding like there is no tomorrow, and not sleeping for as long as she used to. Maybe its a growth spurt. She is exactly 8 weeks today. She is starting to put on the weight which i suppose is good but for me its hard because she looks so fat to me. She has to have her needles on Saturday morning, i think i'm going to be like a lot of you guys and be more upset than she is.
Me and DP are finally getting married, we have no idea of dates yet. I'm already looking at dresses and stuff.
any way my DD and i am getting hungry
talk later girls.
Kristee-Lea - 21
Tarleha Maye - 29/06/06
TTC around/after getting married.
Congrats, KL! have fun looking for dresses!
Trying to watch a DVD with DP but Oscar keeps crying - poor mite has air bubbles in him that won't leave him alone :(
Good Morning... well poor Wade is miserable with teething... at the moment he is watching Sesame Street (those weird aliens that go "yip yip yip uh huh.... uh huh" are on LOL) he threw a huge tanty this morning which left me no choice but to put him in his "quiet place" (the toilet)... apparently you only put a child in time out for as many minutes as they are old... so it was 3 minutes for him as usual (I round it up). He has calmed down now. Apparently he was up since 5.30am according to Verity... but she was a good girl and when he went into her room she allowed him to sleep for 20 minutes in her bed (she has a double bed).
IK: Hope Oscar gave you both a good night's sleep after those bubbles!
KL: Oooh that sounds exciting! Are you doing all the arrangements yourself? How many guests?
Speaking of looking for dresses; I've got another day at the races to attend with my DH during the Spring Carnival (Caulfield Guinneas)... it's in a corporate marquee with his clients who are all lawyers and their partners... so the pressure is kinda on me to look pretty reasonable.... managed to last year... hope I can pull it off again this year... takes weeks of preparation (took me 3 weeks to find the right hat last year!) so it's a lot of self induced pressure but my DH and his boss made me feel really appreciated last year as I was able to keep the conversation flowing... not hard for an isolated SAHM to do! LOL interesting at the kind of topics that were raised that normally wouldn't have been raised... I had one of Melbourne's leading QC's talking about his childhood and how he stupidly dabbled with a ouji board! LOL DH was thrilled. Anyhow I was thinking of going for a 1950's look this year now that my hair is shorter.
Better stop waffling on... C'mon Junies... where the heck are you all?
Well I am pleased to report it seems Tori had no adverse reactions to her needles, other than a tad of crankiness.
I think I have cracked the problem with her day sleeps and self settling, we haventbeen swaddling her properly (she always seems to get herself unwrapped) so yesterday I bought a purpose built swaddling rug and the last couple of sleeps she has had in that have bee great, she has self settled and slept for longer.
KL- How exciting about getting married, it is funny I was only thinking back to my wedding the other day, it was such a wonderful day. Our first wedding anniversary is a month today.
Bath- OHHHH how wonderful to have such a great event to get all dressed up for. I can totally understand how it can take weeks to create the perfect look. I cant wait for the next formal event that we have so I can buy something fabulous to wear and get all dressed up. I think the next big even for us though is Nov next year when I am Matron of Honour at my friends wedding.
I have bitten the bullet and decided to head back to weight watchers to help shed some Kgs I was actualley doing it when I got pregnant and had lost 17kgs, so hopefully it will be just as useful this time and i can get myself ready for summer.
Anyway better go and get some brekky, hopefully we will see some Junies today!
hi guys, sorry i havent been on much, i really miss you all. oh and im typing one handed so sorry for any mistakes.
things are still the same for me. lachlan will only sleep for 20 mins at a time and wont re settle unlless i hold him and then he wontlet me put him down. he is now waking up 5 times through the night instead of 3 so there goes any chance of sleep that i might have. i feel like i have done everything i possibly can and i have failed! he is just so unsettled and seems to be getting worse.
i want to try the infacol again but DF dropped it the other day and broke the lid, do you think it will still be ok to use??
also, i just put this in the general discussion part but what are you all doing for contraception? i was prescribed the mini pill but was told it might dry up my milk. has anyone tried it?? not that i really need it. DF sleeps down the other end of the house these days, and when he gets home from work and on the weekends he spends most of his time up in the garage. we are bickering at each other all the time now too. i thought this was supposed to be a nice time in our lives!!!
Oh Dee ((hugs)) It's hard when things prove to be very different from the myth. I guess we learn during pregnancy (the first time) that reality is often very different from the warm fuzzy stories we hear and see on TV. I often wonder why society goes to such great lengths to retain these myths... I guess many of us wouldn't procreate if we knew how truely hard it was! I don't want to sound too cynical though... for sure there ARE amazing moments... and they also don't tell you some of the positive things like how deeply you will love your new baby, I mean, so deeply that it makes you cry! Anyhow, what I'm trying to say is that it's an incredbily hard time for couples and that needs to be raised more frequently that what it is. My DH and I bickered a lot too for the first year (although there were a lot of other issues) and we still bicker a bit these days but we get over it much faster... it's like we've been humbled by our children... we both understand how demoralising raising children can be and so we are easier on each other. Once you have children you really can't fool each other much... or maintain any pretence that you are in control and capable etc. Even today i am wandering around the house thinking to myself: "this is soooo damn hard! (trying to deal with a sick toddler and a hungry baby at the same time) what's the solution? Should I put Wade in DayCare? Should I give in and pay somebody to do it? That's what most women seem to do? Working in the paid workforce is much easier/satisfying than dealing with mundane chaos every single day! Men don't want a bar of it! No wonder!" etc etc etc so no wonder couples take out the strain of it all on each other. Having a baby really does high-light the differences between the sexes. Before having my first baby I thought a lot of gender issues were created by society... and intially I really resented my DH for his differences but now I just kinda accept them; still annoys me that he can sleep through a child crying but hey... no point us both being sleep deprived... at least I know he'll be able to deal with some extra house work this weekend/ grocery shopping/ taking the kids to a park etc while I can catch up on some sleep.
The medication should still be ok though i don't know much about Infacol.... what are you concerned about? Shards or it not boing air tight?
I can't take the mini pill... makes me feel queasy... I'm just too sensitive to it. We use condoms.
Both boys asleep now.... time to put on the kettle.
hi all,
WOW, what a strange job mother hood is.
My big news: I have a baby hammock, as Alexandra would sleep for a max of 45 twice a day and then maybe four or five 10-15min cap naps, that was it - it was driving me insane - she would only sleep if I was carring her - at night she was fine, just the day time thing... anyway, as soon as we put the hammock up (at 10am) she sleep for 2.5 hours - that afternoon I had mothers group, got back at 5pm and she went back to sleep till basically 7.30am today!!!!!!!!!! (I woke her every 4 hours for a feed, but she would go straight back to sleep). I've declared my house a no cry house now.. it is AMAZING... When every she gumbles, I pop her in and she LOVES it.. There have been no tears in 24 hours.. lets hope it last hey?
Dee78 - the girl I go to mothers group with is on the mini pill and she told me that she felt her milk drying up because of it. The midwife who was runnign the group said that it was a common side effect, but maybe you can try and see for yourself, if you feel you are getting less milk, you can stop - I'm pretty sure your supply would come back once you stoped? (maybe check this with others?).... Sorry your having a few relationship problems, having a baby is a HUGE change on anyones life.. HUGS
I hope it gets better soon (I'm sure once you get more sleep it will)..Have you tried a hammock - I swear for me it has been LIFE changing...the house is clean, dinner is made, DH and I had a good cuddle last night and I'm back on belly belly...I think if you get more sleep you will both be in a much better place to spend time together and enjoy each other...it is probably not the relationship, just the lack of sleep both of you are enduring.... and lack of time together..
KL - Congratulations
Dee - sorry to hear things are hard at the moment. When I had ds1 he was just as unsettled as your Lachlan, and it was a huge adjustment and strain on our marriage having an unhappy baby. I don't know what advise to offer except to hang in there. I found that it very hard to cope when you are sleep deprived. Have you got any other support around apart from dh? Can someone just take Lachlan for a while during the day so you can get some sleep?
Wow, Cee Cee! I'm so glad you've found your solution! I was reading about your new hammock in the other thread :) I was going to get one before Oscar was born, then after, but now the co-sleeping thing is working so well (was going to use it at night in our room) that I don't need it anymore. I will most certainly keep it in mind, though!
Dee, I really hope you sort out your communication soon:hug: It's a bit rich of your DF to leave you looking after a baby you're BOTH responsible for and leave you high and dry in the communication department. It IS supposed to be a nice time in your lives...unless there are unresolved things that are made worse by lack of sleep and the exasperation of feeling like you're on your own.Like I said to DP once, I have to nurture Oscar and I'm trying to nurture him and us...doesn't leave me a lot of space left to nurture ME, so I asked him to look after me a bit and be a bit more considerate. I'm still not getting breakfast when he's home, but we are working much more like a team and speaking to each other nicely - a real partnership. If your DF can't find the energy to be communicative and nurturing in some way of the woman who gave him his beautiful son, then he needs a BIG wake up call. It's up to you to do what you need to do, but this situation is clearly making you sad...and is probably affecting your boy, too. Stress hormones do make their way into our milk, I reckon. First thing's first, though - do try baby-wearing and see how that goes. I would also give the hammock a try if you could hire one first to try. I wish I could go and slap your DF upside the head to remind him that he's got an awesome life now, if he chooses to open his eyes to see it...
I have filled out my mini-pill prescription but not started to take it. As much as I'm lamenting this over-supply issue of mine, I would be out of my mind if my milk dried up. I have actually decided that I think the IUD is the way to go. My GP recommended it, as I had a couple of adverse reactions to the injection - she said that Implanon is supposed to have less side effects because of the lower dosage, but there are still side effects...and now that I'm fitting into my favourite jeans that I haven't worn for 3 years, I'm not really willing to chance it!! Now I just have to do something about getting to a gyney.
Better go, I think I heard Oscar stirring...and these boobs need an emptying before we go for a walk with the dog (all rugged up cos it's FREEZING out there...I do like to rug up!)
PS DP and I are quite buoyant ATM, musing over a semi-proposal about a property...a rare, great opportunity...gotta talk to my cousin's partner about our chances for a substantial loan cos he works in a bank (lending manager!)...stuff our dreams are made of...even if it doesn't happen, it's given us a real psychological boost towards our goal!
Just missed Karen's post - you're right, it could actually be the other way around. it's a bit of a chicken or egg scenario, huh? Is it pre-existing issues, or is the strain of an unsettled child creating strain in the relationship? I can't say, Dee, what it is in your case. I know that for us it's pre-existing stuff that becomes apparent when Oscar is stretching my tolerance for anyone else (I just can't get mad at Oscar), but if that 'anyone else' can work with me a bit, we ride the wave so much better.
thanks for your replies girls, its good to come in here and vent, the main issue with us is that DF is from the old school, he expects dinner to be ready when he gets home and the house to be spotless etc, i find it hard to even get myself dressed some days, and if i dont go anywhere he tells me im a homebody.Dont get me wrong, he is a loving man and has really helped out around the house but now feels that i should be doing most of it.
When lachlan is having one of his crying fits DF will take him and if he doesnt stop crying he will give him back to me and tell me he's "over it". i just want a bit of support, i want to be able to have a shower and not worry that lachlan is crying and DF is getting flustered and yelling at him. DF's solution to it is to put him in a room and let him cry himself to sleep but there is no way that i will do it so when i have to hold lachlan DF tells me its my own fault that the baby is like this. The other day we were having a bake dinner and he put the meat in the oven and i went and asked him how long it was going to take so i could start the veges and put them in at the right time and he told me that i should know and i need to learn to cook and he cant "do everything"
I just dont know what to do. some days its all good and we get on really well and other days im really angry at him and i dont want to be around him. Im sure once the baby settles things for us will settle too but its just such a hard time in our lives.
Bath - with the infacol i was worried about the air having gotten in there for a couple of days, i dont know if these things go off or not. hmmm i might call the chemist and ask!
Sorry to come on here and vent but i really need to get it out. This is the only place i can really vent.
thanks for all your help, im hoping that this all settles down for us soon. As for the mini pill, i might give it a go as i have heaps of milk and a really fast let down so it might even improve that for me, if i feel that its starting to dry up then i will stop, im sure the milk will build up again.
Oh No! Dee! No no no... I'm sorry if this further upsets you but your DF is behaving like a relic from the stone age! Geeze i want to march right over to your house and tell him to wake up, smell the nappy, and get with the new century's program! "yelling" at Lachlan???? Nooooo
Sorry... I need to calm down before i can be helpful... back in a sec.
Ok, *deep breath* Now i know I said in my previous post that i am now appreciating my DH more for his "differences" (I'm talking masculine traits) but I think on the whole most men these days have taken on board the idea that, for example, domestic duties do not compromise their manliness... yeah? Sure my DH is more akin to the concept of a SNAG (sensitive new age guy) but that's mainly because he was married before to a staunch feminist who trained him well.... if I had got him straight from his mother's wing he probably would have been more like your DF)...
The phone just rang.... my sister had her baby an hour ago!!!! A little girl! They're both well!!! Gotta call my DH... back later!
Ok back now... Dee, I don't want you to feel any worse about your relationship but I do want you to continue expecting your man to contribute more. It seems to me that he feels that the way he is behaving is "normal" and acceptable? I gather his parents support his attitudes? Does your DF have mates with wives that perform their womanly duties in the way he expects them to? Has it crossed your DF's mind that if he was to be more supportive you would feel better and THEN Lachlan would settle down? Does he know he's got it backwards like IK said? Little babies can sense when thier mummys are unsettled and it reflects in their behaviour. There's an old saying "If Mumma ain't happy then Nobody happy!" which is highly acknowledged in our house... it's not to say that I take advantage of it and try to milk it for all it's worth... but thankfully my DH knows that at the end of the day if he provides the support I need it will be repaid tenfold in a happy atmosphere, yummy baked treats, and even more intimacy IYKWIM ;) So somehow you need to express this to your DF... uh oh... wade awake.... back later again!