Thanks Jen, its nice, well not nice, but a relief to know we are not the only people that have a strained relationships with their family. You start questioning what type of people you are when you are not on speaking terms I think. I hate it. BUt things have been said by MIL that I am going to have a hard time getting over. I dont think there is any going back for us, but we will see what mass and the funeral are like. Who knows! My husband it very anti making up with her, he really cannot stand her. The problems started before I come along, its just now that I am here, I am someone she can blame for all of the problems!