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Sorry I've been missing in action for days.....my little girl just WILL NOT SLEEP! And it's driving me nuts. So I'm exhausted and barely get time to eat/go to the loo let alone post on BB!
I hope things get better soon, yay to those bubs who are sleeping. What is the secret??
Ash hun hope you are taking care of yourself. Your latest pics of Blake are so adorable.
OMG she is awake again, she seriously doesn't sleep more than 15mins. I call them her 15min powernaps!
Hello,
Just a quick one from me too. Every day is different with Julian & I have no idea what to expect. Last night was awful, he was up from 1am to 5am. Some days he wakes every 3 maybe 4 hrs if I'm lucky at night. during the day he hardly sleeps at all so that is challenging. Hurray to you girls getting some sleep, i'm very jealous!
We managed to go out to dinner for my brothers bday, it was great. Exhausting getting out though, expressing and then trying to feed before we left. My mum has been very supportive and i've stayed there the last few days.
anyway got to go, have an unhappy camper here!
Hi mummies,
I'm losing my mind. My little "angel/terror" has been a nightmare today. It was my first day out for lunch with SIL's & girlfriends and their babies and she screamed from 9.30 this morning until we arrived at lunch where she slept in everyones arms except mine. Olivia settled in everyone's arms and kinda slept but everytime they gave her back to me she started screaming again. I hate it but I feel like she doesn't like me. By the end of lunch I was nearly in tears. At home she slept in my DH's best mates arms and DH but not mine. She slept for everyone except me. Shouldn't it be the other way around? I'm her mum. She's supposed to be most comfortable with me. It is getting so hard to keep positive. She settles so beautifully for DH all the time.
Sorry guys I think I'm just exhausted and my hormones/emotions are just completely out of control. Fingers crossed she slepts overnight and I can gain some sanity and stop these silly thoughts.
Another selfish post, sorry everyone. Tomorrow is another day and hopefully Olivia will give me time to do personals and catch up looking at all the beautiful baby photo websites.
Luv Dan.
oh dan...hunny she doesnt hate you! Mason will smile for everyone except me...so i kinda know how you feel.
I hope it was just an off day for her. Big hugs sweetie :hug:
**Big whiney whingy post!!***
Dan - big hugs to you hun :hugs: she doesn’t hate you babe - it must be a day for it - Izzy has had another unsettled day and screamed all afternoon and once DH came home she settled and was fine with him, daddy’s girls. I’m sure they were just having a bad day and like you said, tomorrow is a new day.
Danni – Mason will smile soon for you hun – when he does it for someone else, just tell yourself that its wind! Otherwise I hope you are going well babe.
Jan – Each day is sooo different isn’t it – thank goodness, I hope Julian sleeps well for you tonight and gives you a break. Mums are great aren’t they- mine is coming for “Operation day-sleep school” tomorrow and Thursday!! Yay on getting out – its such a mission isn’t it but it does feel good to get out and feel like there is more to life than having a baby attached to the boob!
Lis – I want the secret too! We totaled 2.5 hours sleep – (not consecutive!!) from 645am – 7pm… hence my mum coming over to help!! Good luck – I hope Elena starts to co-operate too hun.
Lulu – your pic of Isabelle is GORGEOUS!! Looks like you have a water baby like my Izzy too – she luuurves the bath!! Great news from the ob – I’ve had a few people mention no#2 too ….man that will definitely be a little (read FAR) way away!!
Ash – Hope you are feeling better babe and I love your new photos of Blakey, I love the one with his hand in his pocket, little cool cat!!
Sez – Hope your MCHN appointment went well today! I have huge admiration for you doing this all with a broken foot hun..how long til you get your plaster off?? You must be counting down. I swear these little monkeys time their crying for when we are about to 1/eat, 2/shower, 3/ go to the toilet, 4/ do anything vaguely resembling a normal non-baby related activity!!!
Alex – Can’t wait to see pics of your mini Rambo – and go Lara!! Yay for Toby and his routine – that’s great!! And with two little men – you deserve to be in pjs all day – man I really don’t know how you mums with more than 1 do it!! Huge medals to you all!!
Sarah – your photos of Noah are sooo cute – I love the black and white one of him on his tummy, and sleeping with you. So adorable and he deserves a big hug and medal too the brave boy with that plaster on. :hug: I hope he gives you a bit of a break and you can get some rest tonight too.
Tara, Rae, Kristen, Lee, Kelly, Ange, Mel’s!!, and everyone else I’ve missed - a big hello to you all!!
Well we have had another day where we have not slept at all really. A few 20 minutes naps scattered throughout the day, in the pram at the shops, in the car briefly etc…. and then she just screamed from about 3pm until 7pm, unless she was feeding or actually pretending to – does anyone else’s precious suck or seem to be sucking and when you take them off you realize that your pants, the bib, the couch and your little darlings clothes are drenched because she has been sucking but letting milk just drain out of her mouth??? What a waste!!:rolleyes:
Well like I said mum is coming to the rescue for Operation day-sleep school!! :lol: for the next 2 days to see if we can work out something that works to get her to sleep. I really feel she was upset tonight because she was sooooo overtired. Surely just because she sleeps for about 7 hours and then 4 hours over night doesn’t mean she doesn’t need sleep during the day?? especially as she shows tired signs??
Man I am crapping on – sorry I feel like this is my only release sometimes.
Oh another thing – DH comes home and she’s screaming so he takes her for 5 minutes and then says oh she might be hungry again when she’s just fed…. I feel like he can’t and won’t try to settle her because his solution to her crying is just boob. So then Im in tears trying to explain that this is what its been like almost all day and I cant feed her constantly. Plus my right nipple is KILLING me again and will have to use the shield again tonight….
Well enough of a whinge from me – thanks for reading this far and heres hoping all bubs are great for their mummies tonight- lots of sleeping, settling, eating well and smiles all round!
Dan - Olivia definitely doesn't hate you!!! Maybe its just the old "mum smells like dinner" thing that everyone tells you about? When you try to snuggle her just for a cuddle she thinks its food time?
Tan - oh I am soooooo with you on the DH thing. Mine used to say all the time if my Izzy was crying that she must be hungry - at least he did until I had a complete melt down at him one day!! Funny though, he had her on Saturday afternoon all on his own for a whole 3 hours while I was out and told me that night how exhausted he was because she just didn't sleep all afternoon!! Ha ha I said. Welcome to my world!!! Good luck with your mum and your sleep school - crossing everything for you that it works.
It must be the day for it. My Izzy has been screaming all afternoon too. She hasn't settled for more than 15 minutes at a time and that's when I've been holding her. Putting her down has just been out of the question. DH's having a go at settling her now while I'm supposed to be doing dinner. Think I'd rather just go to bed and cry . . .
Hope everyone else is having a nice, quiet, sleepful evening with their little princes and princesses
I'm so sorry I have not been able to do PMs. Between these kids (three just broke the camel's back for sure, but I'm loving it) and a baby that refuses to sleep at all in the day, and also now hates the sling even but wants to be held and my house looking like shambles, I'm only able to usually read and type one handed, and doing personals one handed is near impossible
I wanted to say thankyou all so much for you kind wishes. The ABs are doing their job well and I'm feeling heaps better and really optimistic about missing a D&C this time.
I so want to catch up with everyone and really hope to over the next few days. I'm thinking I might invest in a better sling. this one is not working and I'm unable to get anything done.
Leo also wants to feed almost constantly for the last 4 days, i'm assuming growth spurt? My bbs are sore and empty and I've been worried it's because my milk is going away, but I'm hoping it's because he's just draining them so much they aren't getting a chance to fill up.
Love to you all, I'm going to try and attempt personals tomorrow, even if it's just a few. I just can't put him down or he screams the place down!
ETA: We've got a break, I'll attempt a few now!!!
Tan, just read your post and she sounds just like Leo, I think it's all normal at this stage unfortunately. I sooo relate to the milk thing, I'm sick of it running down my pants! My two other kids also had the unsettled hours of an afternoon and evening, and Leo starts around 4pm and goes till around 8:30 pm at the moment, screaming like there's no tomorrow. It's apparently very normal that time of day. My DP takes him as soon as he comes home and has a shower, and the crying doesn't seem to bother him (I didn't know men like that existed LOL) and he just holds him and rocks him and seems to be able to settle him better than me because he doesn't smell like milk I reckon. I go and cook and fold washing, it feels relaxing. I can really relate to the constant sucking and sore nipple thing. The midwife said to me back in week one when I asked about why baby's start crying week 3-4 constantly, she said it was because the usualy experience aa growth spurt then and it takes the BM a few days to adjust and they need to suck constantly then also. DP reminds me of this over and over when I get stressed about him wanting to suck so much. :hug: Hang in there hun
Lulu: :hug: Order take away when you feel like that and go and have a break. It's so important. The last thign you feel like doing sometimes when you finally get a break is doing more work.
Dan: it's definately the BM factor, I've been feeling the same a bit, Leo seems so much more settled for DP. He can be screaming for several hours with me, but with DP is asleep on his chest in 5 mins. I've felt less bonded with him because my other kids used to only want me an no one else (their father , my XH never held them as babies though), and now I have this baby that loves being with his dad as well as mum and I've felt it means he doesn't love me as much or that I'm doing something wrong. But I know it's got a lot to do with the BM as he mouths as soon as I hold him. Please dont' let it get you down at all hun.
Lis!!!! Don't worry, most of us having that problem too. All I can say (from memory) is that this will not last forever, they do get into a routine, from memory it was around 2-3 months with my other kids and they will sleep in the day. 15 minutes max is what I get too. Poor DD was singing to a screaming Leo today when I attempted to go to the toilet. HE was bright red and covered in sweat when I came out due to crying so hard and DD looked like she was going to cry because he sounded so distressed. All because I dared to put him down! Good to see you around still hun.
Ash - :hug: I'm thinking of you hun, love you xxoo
ARgh, it couldn't have lasted for long. He's screaming for my poor nipples again. And please exuse the typos, I am typing very fast between putting him down and not having time to go back and correct, I hope it's readable!
Great job Tara!
Yep, the day for it! Lots of crying and not much sleep here.....in fact my little munchikin is still awake :rolleyes:! He's gotta go to sleep soon, but he's bug-eyed ATM. Unlike Tara, I definitely can't post personals with one hand so I'll leave it at that for now!
Nighty night!
Yay for Izzy - we fed at 7pm, 1.30am, 6 am and only just got up!!! Whoo hoo - means that i wont be tired and teary all day now when she wont sleep again the little angel!! Ha ha - hope your nights were ok - talk later am typing one handed while scoffing weet bix!!!
Wanted to ask- last night after the long stretch of 6 hours again - my boobs didnt go rock hard??? Its a bit scary and hope it doenst mean my body is making less milk??
yayyyy!!!! :D
Ladies I think we all need a huge :grouphug:.
Olivia is asleep so let's see how I go with some personals.
Lis - hang in there petal. These first few weeks are the hardest and just do whatever you can to survive and worry about everything else in a few weeks when everything has settled down.
Tan - I've got everything crossed for your sleep school today. Praying that you and your mum find something that works for Izzy. There is a magazine called "Your Baby" which is released yearly and it has 30 tips from mum's on what they used to settle their babies. Might give you some ideas to try out for Izzy. Let us know how you go.
Ash - Hope everything is settling down with you and your AD's are working.
Sez - Did you manage to get your little man down to sleep? I absolutely love your ticker photo. He looks so adorable with his huge hat. Makes me smile everytime I see it.
Tara - You are a supermum having kids and a baby. I don't know how you do it. Don't even worry about the housework. If people have a problem tell them to bugger off or do it for you. I was told to always have the vacuum out because 9 out of 10 visitors will vacuum for you when they visit if it's out. So far it's been working for me. Best of luck with your D&C. What do you do about b/f? Does the anaethestic affect your milk?
Lulu - I completely agree with Tara (voice of experience) and when you feel like that order takeaway. I did that last Thursday after a terrible day and being so incredibly exhausted that I got fish and chips and went to bed. We can always cope better with a little bit of sleep under our belts. Did Izzy sleep for you last night?
Danni - What a naughty boy not smiling at mummy. Isn't it weird how we are the one's that spend the majority of our time with them and they behave better and give other people the rewards like smiles. Little terrors aren't they? Do you go out to the shops everyday? Is that the only way you can get some peace during the day?
Jan - Great to hear from you. Glad that you made it out to the dinner. Going out makes you feel like you still have some kind of life apart from being a milk production machine. YAY for mum's!!!! It's fantastic that you have the option of going and staying with your mum for a few days. Hope Julian gives you some rest today and everyday.
Ashley & Sarah - You two must be proud mumma's with such gorgeous little men. I love their photos. I really must do an album but it is unfortunately something that has been added to my to-do-list. Hopefully I'll get to it before she is 18.
Sarah - How is Noah's cast. Is he getting some sleep or is it still hurting the little man?
Alex - So great to hear that one baby is behaving themselves and sleeping for their mummy. Do you get a rest during the day when both your boys are asleep at the same time?
Okay I know that I have missed a few mummies but my computer won't let me go back any further. I'm sorry. But a huge hello and I hope that you are travelling along okay and your baby is letting you sleep.
Last night I had a melt down and layed on the couch and bawled when Olivia settled perfectly for daddy (of course, definetely daddy's girl) and he put her down and then half an hour later when she was in her deep sleep he got her out and gave her to me to hug. I had a mini fit that he got her up because it would ruin all the hard work we've been doing trying to make her settle herself but he said he didn't care if he didn't sleep for the next week because me having a nice cuddle and bonding time with Olivia that didn't involve feeding her was more important than anything. DH is just amazing at times it still surprises me. But that hug was exactly what I needed and she stayed asleep. YAY!!
Well I'm off to grab a quick cat nap before Olivia's next feed. Have a great day ladies and I'm sending out heaps and heaps of
BABY SLEEP VIBES
Catch up later,
Luv Dan and Olivia
YAY!!!!!!!!! Tan that is fantastic news. Don't worry about your bb's not being rock hard it could just mean that your body is getting the hang of Izzy needs and your supply is meeting her needs and not oversupplying. Does that make sense?
Tan & Sarah - What birth announcement designs did you decide on?
Woohoo I made in here for the second day in a row! Elena has been asleep for 30mins now, a record for day time. Here's hoping she's down for a little while.
Tan my bb's aren't getting rock hard anymore either and I was worried that my milk was running out. But Dan is right and apparently it just means that your body is getting the hang of it and not oversupplying.
Dan your DH sounds fantastic! Isn't it frustrating when these cheeky bubs don't settle with mum but will for anyone else...gggrrr enjoy your nap before the next feed!
Tara you are a super mum, I don't know how you do it but I take my hat off to you! Glad to hear that you are doing ok and I have my fingers crossed that you can avoid the D&C. Were you affected by that nasty weather again, I saw something about it on the news yesterday?
Ash hun how are you feeling? Do you have anyone to help you out with Blakey during the day?
Danni how cheeky of Mason to not smile for him mum, don't worry he's probably saving the biggest grins for you!
Sez hope you managed to get your little munchkin down for a sleep. Sending you some bubba sleep vibes!
Lulu your pics are just so gorgeous! Isn't bath time great, these bubs just seem to love it. Good news that your OB appointment went well too.
Alex what very well behaved little boys you have! I have days when I can't get out of my PJs too and I only have one bub to take care of.
Jan lucky you getting to stay with your mum, I hope that means you manage to get some rest. Julians sleep patterns sound a lot like Elena's - cheeky bubs, lets hope for both our sakes that they start to sleep longer soon!
Ok I'm going to go and get dressed and eat something while I still can!
Hello to everyone I've missed and I'll try to catch up with you lovelies soon!
Lis-Nope, no one. I had mum for 2 weeks when she took some holiday time, and god did I love having help with washing, and having time to sleep. Now that I don't have anyone, it's proving to be really difficult. Just a couple of hours a week would really help out, so I could get housework done, but I've got no one :(
Lis - yay on Elena going down for a sleep. I hope you got a bit longer out of her so you could have some time to yourself.
Ash - so sorry you don't have any backup. I'm guessing your mum doesn't live close by? Hang in there. It has to get better - doesn't it!?!?! :pray:
Tan - how's sleep school going? I hope you and your mum are finding some answers.
Dan - that's lovely of your DH to give you a cuddle with your beautiful sleeping girl. Sometimes they do surprise us with their sensitivity don't they! I hope you're getting some more special time with Olivia today.
Tara - I hope Leo is giving your poor BBs a break today. Those growth spurts are murder on us mummies aren't they. Pleased to hear the ABs are working and you're feeling better.
Gotta go - Izzy has been asleep on her own for a whole 2 minutes and is now screaming. Knew it couldn't last. Definitely spoke to soon when I said her reflux and colic were settling down. She hasn't had more than an hour's break from screaming her lungs out.
Ash don't worry about the housework hun, just take care of yourself and Blake. Hang in there, everyone keeps telling me that it will get better as bubs gets bigger. I hope Blake behaves himself today and has a sleep so that you can too!
Lulu have you given Izzy anything for her colic/reflux? Elena still has it as well and its such a battle to settle them isn't it? I hope it settles down soon for both our little girls.
Ok here we go again, guess I was dreaming when I thought that Elena would go down again this afternoon after she slept for 1.5hrs this morning. BBL I hope!
OMG - I can't believe I've finally found a spare second to jump on here!! I'm so sorry I haven't been keeping up again.
Typical, I spoke too soon. Luke is screaming - hopefully I can get him back to sleep as I really need to talk to you guys - we've been having a rough time lately.
Will try and pop back on in a minute and fill you in on the details.
Take care.
Kelly xxx
Hi all,
Will jump back on for personals later but what a day - typical when mums here its all smooth sailing! Operation sleep school has been sucessful - in a nutshell I think i was keeping Izzy up too long and she was sooooo over tired, been in somewhat of a routine today- Kristen, very similar to the save our sleep one actually!!
Well I think she is hungry, will try to jump on later tonight- hope you have all had a great day today!!
Busy, busy day here, but my man has been wonderful! :D
Kel, I hope you have some time to jump on and chat, and vent about your tough week. Sending you lots of cyber hugs hun, thinking of you.
Sez- so glad you had a good day - makes you feel sooo good doesnt it!! What a little champ Nicholas is!!
Kelly - hugs to you babe - hope you can get online and vent all you like soon.:hug:
Lis and Lulu - I hope your angels settled down a bit for you both today and gave you a bit of a rest.
Ash - you poor thing - I wish you lived in Melbourne - actually with this weather let me rephrase..I wish I was in Brisbane ;) so I could give you a real hug, take you out for coffee and just chat - so heres a virtual one anyway....:hugs: Hope you are ok.
Dan - Ive put my birth announcement on my site if you want to check it out- I had done a few others and found it hard to choose but DH liked this one the best. I just did them myself and printed them on our colour printer!! I use a free program i found online called Page Plus Se 1.0 and just copied cards I found online! If you want me to email my other ones to you just let me know!
Thanks for the advice re: my bbs!! Feels strange to have milk there but not feel full after such a long time. Im just now getting real let down feelings too - thats weird as well - and at the strangest times! I might check out the mag you mentioned too.
Glad your little cuddle helped hun - its amazing how hours of screaming, tears (hers and ours) and feeling like we cant go on can be all washed away by a cuddle, or a gummy smile!!
Danni - I lied when i saw you the other day :rolleyes: ha ha - I thought I was feeling let down - clearly not because I REALLY felt it for the first time yesterday - and though WTF is going on and then realised!! Its happening at weird times too - like while washing dishes?? and when I get out of the shower - not even when I hear her cry or think about her!! Hope you are well hun and Mason is being a good boy for mum!
Sarah - you are a bit quiet today - hope all is ok with you and Noah hun.:hello:
Everyone else - apologies and hope you and bubs are all well!!
Well like I said -today was so good - my mum is great! I really just think that Ive been keeping Izzy up too long during the day and letting her get too worked up and crying before putting her to sleep and then she wouldnt sleep. So today my lovely mum helped me see the little signs Ive been missing that tell me she is tired, hungry etc and we have gone with that - also I think Ive been too scared to put her to bed unless she is already asleep from feeding but she actually settled really well with only a few grizzles.
I even got DH to put her to bed tonight while she was awake - up until now he has been cuddling her and pacing the house every night to get her to sleep - he was so cute though, when she started crying after her put her down - I asked if he wanted to go back and he was all panicked saying - i dont know what to do!! Ha ha - I just said neither do I so lets go together and work it out!!
Ive also put a dark sheet up over her window as the curtains are cream - so I think that helped during the day. So anyway - we had some sort of routine today and fingers crossed we can keep it up- poor exhausted girl!!
Getting my hair done tomorrow night - whoo hoo - looks terrible at the moment and Im feeling a bit down about my jelly belly... Ive lost all my baby weight - 15kgs! whoo hoo but still cant fit into my pre-preg jeans etc because of my belly, its gross. I really dont want to spend money on new clothes either becasue I know it will hopefully eventually go away once i can exercise properly....anyway enough of a whinge about superficial things from me...
Ive also got new pics up - Im putting a few up each day at the moment!!! Crazy snap happy mummy!!
Have a great night ladies!
Babies - give your mummies a great nights sleep pretty please!!
hey everyone, sorry no time for personals as i need to jump into bed!
Check out my website for a pic of Mason in the hug-a-bub. its our new best friend! Yesterday and today he slept for 3 straight hours in it...i cannot believe it. There is no way he would have slept more than 20 mins without it.
I strongly suggest buying one guys. You can get them second hand too. OMG i wish I had have used it weeks ago!!
Oh btw, I messaged Lee today and made sure her and Baden were ok. She said she is doing well but busy and finding motherhood a bit challenging. I told her that all of us are having troubles in one way or another and to jump online soon.
Oh cool Danni - I want one too!!! and glad to hear Lee is ok!
Hi Guys,
Sorry, haven't been able to get back on until now. Thankfully my Mum and Stepdad are here tonight helping me out as Ryann is out at a work dinner, then he's got a conference tomorrow and Friday, so I'm staying at Mum's tomorrow night, hoping to get a bit more rest.
So, have to be quick but just need to have a whinge - I've got mastitis AGAIN!! Yep, it's back with a vengence (sp?) in the same bloody problem right boob. I can't believe it, its been even worse this time. I've been really quick sick - very bad flu symptoms and the pain has been horrific. I'm on my second lot of antibiotics now. Just cleared up the last lot and felt like I was on top of all the feeding problems and bang, I get a kick in the face yet again!! The right nipple even cleared up and is looking better, although the last feed I did was getting painful again, so I think we've still got problem there too. I just don't know what to do anymore and have been really quite depressed and down in the dumps. Am feeling a bit better tonight but am starting to wonder whether we need to put Luke on formula. I really don't want to because I've got such a good milk supply and the left boob is just perfect. I'd hate to have to give it up. Luke is thriving on my milk but I can't take much more of this!
Anyway after lots of tears, I think the antibiotics have started working again, so lets pray this is the last of it.
Luke is still great, although we've had a rough couple of days with him too - he's been really unsettled and I think he's getting overtired too. I'm having trouble getting him down during the day but at night he's pretty good - until about 3am!! Then he's been a right little bugger!!! Hopefully tonight will be better.
Take care!
Kelly xxx
Tan - I am ok, I had a rough day with Noah yesterday because he wouldn't sleep but he slept during the night and now I am about to soak off his plaster in preparation for the new one today. I am not looking forward to getting up at 4 every Thursday. Well I better dash because I have 2 hours to get ready and it takes an hour to get the plaster off. Will try to catch up tonight or tomorrow!
kelly: im so sorry you are having so much trouble. It is a shame if you need to put him on formula but you need to do whats best for you. A happy mum is a happy bub remember! Hope he slept well last night :hugs:
Sarah: hope you got off ok this morning. And hope you got enough EBM for today. Good luck :hug:
I am off to the toys r us sale today to pick up Mason and his cousins xmas presents :D
My god Danni, you are so organised! I can't even bear to THINK about Christmas at this stage! Mind you, now that I think about it, having Christmas with our little man will be very special....maybe I'll actually look forward to the day this year! Don't get me wrong, I'm not a scrooge, I love the day, it's just the build up and the 35, yes 35! presents that I have to buy for our families. Have fun at toys r us!
Sarah, hope all goes well today, and that you're not too tired. It's a big day for you all isn't it? Looking forward to hearing from you when you get back :)
Oh Kelly, you poor thing :hug: What a nightmare, getting mastitis again! Could you try the LC again? I can hear how much you don't want to give up BFing, maybe it's a worth a shot to see if you can keep going for a while longer. Please don't stress if you decide to give Luke formula, he will continue to thrive. He needs a happy and well mummy, you need to do what's best for BOTH of you. I'm thinking of you. If you need to chat when you're on your own, just email me your number and I'll give you a call.
Nicholas is starting to stir, so no more personals form me! Mother's group today for the first time, I'm looking forward to it. Better go and start the long haul to get ready LOL!
Love to all, Sez xoxo
Danni have a great time at Toys r us, hope you get some bargains! OMG you are one organised chickie thinking about xmas already! I'm so looking forward to my first xmas with Elena, he he can't wait to get her first pics with Santa. Yay on the hug a bub too, I was thinking of getting one as well. How much are they???
Sez have a great time at your mother's group! :)
Kelly you poor thing I pray that the mastitis clears up soon and stays away for good this time! Don't feel bad about using formula if you have to, your little one will continue to thrive and remember that you need to look after yourself too. I'm sure you'll make the right decision for the both of you.
Sarah I hope Noah has a more settled day today for you.
Tan yay for having some sort of routine with Izzy! I think Elena is also overtired and therefore grizzly but she just won't settle because of her colic. So frustrating for both of us! I hear you on the jelly belly, I feel so frumpy at the moment and I just can't seem to find enough time or energy to do any decent exercise. And I have my brother's engagement party in a few weeks and I'm worried about what to wear. Gonna have to go shopping I think! Yay for your hair appointment!
Well we had another sleepless night, Elena was so unsettled and just wanted to be cuddled and screamed every time I tried to put her in her bassinette. In the end I gave up and put her in our bed. Hope everyone else had a better night!
Okay, let's see how long this one lasts for!
Lis - I've given into the baby in the bed more times that I'd like to admit. Whatever gets you sleep I reckon. I actually got a rocking chair with the baby bonus and it's been worth it's weight in gold. It helps with the hours of screaming, you might not be able to put bubs down, but at least you can sit in a chair and rock. Thanks for asking, we did get the nasty weather which wasn't as bad as they thought it would be, just some really severe wind and as we are right on the beach we got it here pretty bad. DP was so worried about Leo sleeping on his own during it, that we had him in the bed for the night, in his little insert that's designed for safe sleeping in parents beds, but it has to go between our pillows and takes up a lot of room, and I have to sleep with my hand in it so Leo can snuggle with it, it's not that comfy LOL. We saw that ship on Monday too that got washed up up close, it's massive!
Sez - HOw was mother's group? You girls joining up mother's groups are so organized, I don't evne know if there is one in this area. Do you just sit around and talk about babies? Is it organized or more of a get together?
Danni - you are the HAB queen!!! Please let me know is the huge thing easy to tie? After my recent failure with the baba sling, I'm giong to buy another sling, but I'm stuck with what one (I want a soft sling, safe for his back). What's put my off the HAB is tying it, it looks severely complicated and the threads in the sling section on "HELP" about the HAB put me off. So how would you go if you had no one to show you how? YOu are doing so well hun, you've adjusted to motherhood so well, good on you :)
Sarah - I'm sorry I haven't caught up with you for ages, you've got your hands full with Noah's foot, but I'm so glad you got a specialist that is treating it. How long is the plaster on for all up?
(typing 1 handed now, bubs awake)
Kelly - This is my third baby, and with my first baby DS1 I had 8 bouts of mastitis and still fed till he was 12 months old. The worst bout actually landed me in hospital as it had turned into an absess and had to be drained and I had to have IV antibiotics, DS was one month old. Mastitis is so so painful and your body feels like it's been bashed with a baseball bat, and it's a hard thing to think about facing again. I don't at all blame you for feeling horrid about it all, it's so painful, one of the most painful conditions I've heard. You need to do what's right for you, but I Thought I'd list a few things I did that enabled me to continue BFing. 1)find a good LC, they're job is to help women continue to bf and they treat it like a mission. 2) heat on the affected area is very important....shower on it, heat pack, all helps unblock it. 3)no matter how painfu, continue to feed as baby will drain lump. i put pressure on lump when baby feeds as it will help push it through. Antibiotics will take the infection away, but if yo don't drain out lump, when course of ab's are finished, it will get infected again. So even if u get better, you need to work on lump and get baby to drain it. Once you've had it in one spot, that spot is suseptible and you need to check it for lumps daily. IF it gets blocked again (if there is a lump there), you put pressure on it during feeding and drain it before it gets sore and infected. Now that you know your vulnerable spot, it will be easy for you to keep on top of and watch it before you get an infection. It took my 8 bouts of mastitis to learn this LOL. I have had it once this baby already, but now I'll be more vigilent. So Im watching this spot daily and just massaging out the lump when bubs feeds and I'm on ABs which have cleared the infection up, and have now finally gotten rid of the lump too. I hope that helps anyway, the best advice I can suggest is to definately see a LC and she will be able to show you some good lump-draining techniques too. Now that you've had two bouts of mastitis, you will be priority to see one. If you want to continue to BF it can be done easily, just need to watch your body lots more for those nasty lumps.
Tan - it sounds like you are going so well and congrats on getting your hair done! I have teh jelly belly thing too, especially because Leo was a big boy and my tummy was huge with him, it goes away, just takes a few months from memory. 15 kg is awesome, I'm jealous!
Lulu- I'm sorry to hear Izzy has colic and reflux...is she on meds? I'm sorry if this is old news, I haven't been able to read up as much as I'd like on here.
Ash - DO NOT WORRY ABOUT HOUSEWORK. If your DH has a problem with it, he can do it (that's what I say LOL). You have enough on your plate with sick bubs, and adjusting to the AD's which make you feel yuk for a bit. The ADs take around 6 weeks till you feel the full affects of them too, so dont' feel disheartened if you aren't feeling better yet. It will get better, I can promise you hun :hug: and then you'll feel more capable of getting housework done and other things. You should see my house, because I have two other kids, it looks terrible some days, my whole bed is covered in washing that needs to be folded, but if ou can't do it, you can't. My kids actually help out a lot and without them, I"m sure the dishwasher would never get stacked in the day or my floor would never get swept. I just can't put Leo down and I cant get anything done. Hang in there hun.
Dan - Your DH sounds like a gem, and he's very right. HOw lovely! HOw's your day shaping up today? It's very frustrating when they are good for daddy, I know. I am hoping I won't need a D&C but if I do, I am not express milk before anethetic and then express out afterward and then the next feed should be fine. They use a special one for BFing mums (well this is the way it was when I had one after DD over 6 years ago)
I"ve put Leo down so I can finish this and hes screaming at me. We bought a rocking chair which is a life saver, means I don't have to pace with him. I"m frustrated at not getting thigns done. ILs are coming tomorrow and I am stressed as I don't have the best relationship with MIL, they are staying a week. I am very worried about others touching my baby, so I don't know if I can handle it all without having a panic attack. ILs are older and unsteady and I"m scared theyu'll drop him.
I've got to go because he is screaming and I cANT type one handed anymore, too hard.
A quick one here,
Sarah - glad you are ok and hope the appointment goes well today too.
Kelly - you poor thing, :hug:you are doing an amazing job babe,and are way stronger than you think. I completely understand why you feel like you do - and as someone else said (sorry not sure who) Luke will continue to grow and thrive even on formula...there are way worse things that can happen. We put so much pressure on ourselves and wonder what people think - BF is such a huge issue for new mums but if you feel that you will cope much better and Luke will too make sure you do what you think is right. If you decide not to - can you just express from that side occasionally until it clears up-?? Sorry not sure what the go is there.. but am thinking of you and hope it all gets better for you soon.
Sez - hope mothers group was fun and thanks for reminding I need to call and find out when mine starts!!
Tara - Yay for the rocking chair - sounds divine! I definately think the catch phrase in here right now is "whatever works"!!!
Danni - Christmas - OMG - I cant think past the weekend!! :rolleyes: It just hit me that its the end of June nearly - that freaked me out! December seems a long way away..Have toys r us got a sale on????
So after another great night- slept from 6-1230, then up at 6 and 930 - whoo hoo we've had one 1 hour sleep and another 45 sleep= both times about 10 minutes after she woke up she did the biggest poo so wonder if thats whats waking her so soon. Now we are in the bouncer with the hiccups!
Talk later anyway ladies - have a great day, by the way have to say I reeeeealllly hate winter In Melbourne - defnately going to try and time No#2 (a looooong way off!!!) to be due when the weather is nicer so we can get out more and stay sane - really want to go for a walk but this wind and cold is ridiculous..:cryinglaugh:
OMG - have been settling her since 4.. dummy in asleep for 2 mins then crying again........my mum casts spells i swear...and here she goes again...
ok im one handed now too. i prefer to do the xmas shopping now so i dont hAve to worry bout it later. toyrs r us had a massive sale and i got the BEST bargains :D
mason slept in the HAB the whole time while i pushed a hugely overfull trolley. this sling is just amazing i swear.
tara: it comes withh a dvd to show you how to put it on. it is soooooooooo easy once youve done it a few times.
mason has been very unsettled this arvo... cant wait for dh to get home so mason & i can have a bath
love yas xx
Thank you all so much for the support & encouragement. I'm feeling much better today and have now decided to change our feeding routine to see if that helps clear up the mastitis once and for all. I was feeding on just one side each feed because I had such a large milk supply, but I'm now trying to feed off both sides each feed and we'll see what happens. I'm a bit worried I won't be emptying the boobs fully but have expressed a bit after some of the feeds and all is going well so far. My bbs feel sooo much more comfortable too as they're not getting as full. I'm praying this works and we can get through it all.
Luke was great last night. He fed at 6pm, then went down at about 7.30pm and slept till 11pm. Fed again at 11pm, got to bed at midnight and he didn't wake until 4am. Then to my surprise, he went down again and didn't wake until 8am!!! What a champion. I hope it stays that way. He hasn't slept much since but hay, as long as he sleeps at night!!!
I'm at Mums for the night as Ryann is out at a work conference, so it will be interesting to see if Luke sleeps well in a new environment. I hope he does but if not, at least Mum is here to help!!
Better go but thanks again!
Kelly xxxx
OMG Tara - I forgot to say I can't believe you went through this 8 times - what a legend, I don't think I could handle that!!!
Take care!
Hey girlies,
Sorry I haven't been round much...just been super tired and super busy. I'm starting to get the hang of this whole business, but sometimes I feel like I'm not even "here" sorta thing, I dunno if that makes sense or not...
Blake's sleep patterns are usually like this at night: 7pm start feed, goes down at 8pm, wakes up around 1.30/2am for a feed, back to sleep at 2/2.30, then again at 5am, and sometimes goes back down after after this feed (usually if he's on my chest or next to me all snuggled up hehe I don't mind having one section of co-sleeping). So, he is getting much better! I think he is definitely on the mend, but will give him his antibiotics till the bottle is finished to protect him from anymore nasties. He is having his vaccinations on Saturday, I think this is going to throw a spanner in the works!
I'm going to try and keep up as best I can, thanks for all the concerns and encouragement, I know the AD's will kick in eventually and hopefully save me from this deep, dark place.
Love you all to bits, Ash xoxo
oh ash, good luck with the vaccinations. I thought it was awful and refuse to take him again. Hope Blake is fine :hug:
Someone asked if I go out every day? Yes I do! I have to otherwise Mason will not settle and wont let me put him down
Hi all!!!
I am so sorry I havent been around, the last few weeks have just been so crazy!! And not the easiest!!!
I will catch up, I promise!!! But for the moment, I have a question for you all!!!
Jade has been really good with her bottles and drinking them all like a good girl!! We started to get her up to 200ml a feed!! But the last 2 days she has droped down to 140ml... I just CANT get her to drink anymore!!!! Does anyone know if this is normale?! I mean, she is happy enough after she is finished, she will still go 4-5 hours between feeds so its not like she is still fussing cause she is hungry!!!
I do things to break it up a bit as well, like half way through we will stop and Ill burp her, talk to her for a bit, change her nappy then try give her the rest. But she just doesnt finish them off anymore :(
Ill ask my dr next week about it when I take her for her needles...... but thought untill then you girls might be able to ease my mind a bit!!
Hugs to all!!
Sorry about the selfish post... Im just lost....
Danni-I'm not going in with him when he gets his shots, Scott can hold him while I wait outside far far away so I can't hear the poor little fella! I wish I could go out everyday, Blake is such an angel when we're in public!
Ange-Don't worry sweetie, Blake takes random amounts too. Sometimes he'll take 100mL and fall asleep, sometimes he'll take over 200mL of AR formula and still be fussing about for more. As long as she's gaining weight, don't pay much attention to the amounts written on the can. 200mL per feed seems pretty huge for such a lil girl anyway, did yout GP tell you to give her that much? 140mL seems like a pretty decent amount per feed to me, if only Blake would take that amount instead of sometimes 220mL lol he takes forever!
ange: 140ml is plenty for her. Mason has only ever had as much as 190ml ONCE and he is 2 weeks older. So dont stress.
Good idea ash! hope it goes well.
I will attempt to catch up on personals but I don't know how long Noah is going to stay settled for, he stayed settled for my shower at least.. PHEW!!
Ange, like the other girls have said, don't worry about the Mls on the bottle, as long as she is gaining weight and seems happy to eat what she is eating it should not matter at all. There will be days when she wants to eat less like there are days she wants to eat more.
Ah ha the fussing starts already, that wasn't even 5 minutes. One handed typing for me :doh:
Ash, what you are saying makes perfect sense, I often feel like I am elsewhere and the body is on auto pilot. Don't worry about cleaning your house either, let your hubby do that for now and only do bits and bobs if you are up to it. We can't be expected to be super mums and housewives as much as we try. It will just make us suffer in the long run.
Kelly, I hope Luke was a good boy for you while you were at your mothers. Tara's tops are exactly what the LC talked about at the breastfeeding class and I hope they work for you. It is hard not to be discouraged when you are in pain but you are doing spledidly!
Danni, Yay on the bargains, you are super organized! I will have to check out the pics of Mason in his HAB later but that is great that he loves it!
Tan, that is great that Izzy is sleeping well for you, lets hope she keeps it up for you..If you hate winter in Melb then you will hate winter in Horsham :lol: Tomorrow night is expected to be -1or2 Brrrr!!!
Tara, Hugs for when your IL's are there, it isn't easy when you have a hard time getting along with them. I didn't have a very good relationship with my ex husbands mother and it really put a strain on everything. Great that you got a rocking chair! It sounds divine! I will update on Noahs foot at the end, it is exciting news!!
Lis, sorry to hear Elena was not the best for you the other night. If the co sleeping works then stick with it if it doesn't bother you to do so. I gave up trying to settle Noah on his own and will try again when he is 3 months, it isn't worth me losing extra sleep over.
Sez, how was mothers group!! It is so great to get out and meet other mothers and be able to talk about everything you are going trough and being able to see the babies as well. When i visited Danni a few weeks back it was the first time I had been close to another baby in a very long time and it was great to say 'Oh Noah does that too!!' Now at mother group it gets to happen every week.
Well that is as far back as I can go for the moment, I know I missed a few people and I will try to review and catch up later when Noah is asleep, if he will sleep.
The appt went very well. The specialist saw Noah's foot and said that this would be his last cast before the tenotomy because his foot already looks so good after the one plaster! After the tenotomy (cutting the achillies) he will wear a plaster for 2 weeks and then I think he is fitted with a bar and boots but I don't know how long that is for as of yet. I am worried though because the girl who refered me to Dr Patel asked if i was told to fast Noah and I said no, she said I will get it in a letter more than likely. OMG I have to fast a baby for a local anistetic (sp) and be in the same car as him for 4 hours? I don't see how that is going to happen and it was my understanding that breastmilk digests in 1 1/2 hours so I might see what I can do to get around it :wall:
Well I think Noah wants to be entertained so I might indulge him, I will try to get on later!!
Sarah-If only DH would realise that! It makes it difficult because our house is up for sale so we have to have it looking spotless pretty much 24/7 because people come to inspect the property :( Ah well, that's life, no one said it was going to be easy! I'm happy cos now it's the weekend, Scott does the overnight feeds WHOO HOO I get to sorta sleep through. That is such wonderful news about Noah's foot...the tenotomy sounds painful, poor bubba, I'm sure they'll dose him up on painkillers though. FASTING A BABY? WTF?!?! Isn't that about the cruelest thing you can do? Definitely see if you can find a way around that, imagine how upset the poor tacker would be.
Ok guys Blake is being such a good boy! I put him in his cot today, chucked on his fisher Price Aquarium, and he put himself to sleep within 10 minutes. Whe I left the room, he was just looking around smiling, I went back in after 10 minutes and he was fast asleep lol what a little champ!