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aw Christy sounds like you have had a crap day - hope it got better.
Ann - I cut Jake down to 2 night feeds at the beginning of June but if he didn't feed he'd only settle on me. I was a mess bcos I was only getting sleep in 1-2 hour blocks before getting up and feeding or cuddling to sleep. So went to child health to get a referral to Riverton (a specialist sleep place) and they told me I had PND was a risk to myself and my child and needed to be admitted to Belmont (which is a specialist PND clinic). I knew I wasn't depressed, but I also know I wasn't far off it but I needed sleep - I was sleep deprived. So went to my GP the next day (27th June) and he told me exactly that - I wasn't depressed, but I wasn't far off it. So he prescribed sleeping tablets for a week and drew me up a plan to do controlled crying. His theory was that Jake was just used to the comfort but didn't need the feeds or the comforting based on his solids intake and his behaviour in general. I did not want to do CC. The plan involved my DH doing the nights so that jake wouldn't see me and would (eventually) settle. The first night he woke for 11 feed and Darren said he was pretty adamant he wanted me (read screamed) but eventualy settles. Woke again at 3 and settled in 30 mins, woke again at 7 for his bfast booob. The next night woke once at 3 and DH settled him in a few mins - he rolls him on is side away from you, pats him on the bottom and tells him he's a good boy. The days since have been pretty much the same except he's been stirring around 4-5 for a pat and then goes back down until 7.
Lucky for us his theory was right. If you have a GP you trust it might help to see them - my GP has known me since a little girl.
Hope this helps!
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Hi Leanne, Jake was 9lb 5oz and is over 10kgs - haven't weighed him for a few weeks.
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Welcome Leanne..ur DD name is beautiful
Emelia was 9lbs 4 1/2oz!
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Emelia is over 10kgs now will be getting her weighed again at the end of this month!!
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evie's woken up screaming 5 times since going to bed 3 hours ago. one time i went in and she was crawling but asleep. as soon as i put her dummy back she settles back to sleep. any ideas/thoughts?
i put a carrot stick in the microwave today and she was really happy to chomp on it. the only prob was that chunks came off and she choked a bit. then i mashed it with a fork and she was actually salivating but it was a bit thick for her i think. so at least i know she's interested in eating - it's just a matter of getting the consistency right i think.
i dont know what to do, i just feel so weird...
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Christy, just read your previous post (i didnt refresh so i was still on pg 5 when everyone else has long gone). sorry you're having a rough time. i say we qld'ers all need a good cry-session. the 3 of us are really having a bit of a rough time! must be the drought
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sophie's still on the lighter side!! at 8 months weighed 7.830 kg!!
TARA we put sophie in a sleeping bag for night sleeps and tucked in tight, that way she
a) cant roll over
b) cant wriggle up the bed on her back and roll over, keeps in one spot!!
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Thanks AJP will have to try that.Do you tuck the end of the sleeping bag in? i can never get her sheets tight enough. despite my huge biceps ;)
Evie was in bed at 6 and was up screaming every 40-90 mins until 11, then slept until 1 and then in bed with us til 530.
I have noticed that all this night waking also started when i began looking after my nephew, who, as i mentioned is a high-need baby. so HUGE mother-guilt on my part. i said to DH that it's hard when i'm on my own looking after 2 babies and evie's generally happy to play on her own while nephew is demanding constant attention. i realised that generally i do whatever i can to keep evie happy while trying to stop nephew from squealing the house down.
i think i've broken her good nature, and i'm going back to work soon so that just throws another lot of insecurity meat into the pie. (i made that analogy up)
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Sorry Leanne hello and welcome! I hope you're already sleep-deprived otherwise you soon will be! it's contagious in here! Just kidding!
Evie was 6lbs 10 and is around 8.5kg now, but i do need to get her weighed...and i'm sure that will go up when she actually starts eating solids :)
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Tara - Jake started mucking up too after we went on our first hol at the beginning of May. Bcos we were in a diff place I over compensated for his unsettledness (a word?) by feeding him back to sleep if he woke up during the night. We got home and it kind of continued but not as frequently the he started teething, got a cold, there were a thousand reasons that I gave myself to get up and cuddle him to settle and or feed him back to sleep. In between all of this he was weaned off his reflux med which also contributed to his unsettledness and not BFing properly. Then I went to Sydney for just over a week at the beginning of June and once again an unfamiliar place plus he'd come off his meds and I and him in a flat portacot (his cot is usually at approx 30 degree angle) so I started trying to feed him back to sleep. So began the 3 plus feeds a night and he STILL wouldn't settle. SO I thought it's too f%$^&@g cold to cuddle him in a chair in Sydney so I'll take him to bed with me. Have never done this before not a fan of co-sleeping bcos I am a roly poly sleeper. Plus at home when he comes into our bed it's usally in a weekend morning for a cuddle and a read / play. BUT he slept. SO I started the only settle when feeding and sleeping with mummy cycle. I was a mess in Sydney not only was I sleep deprived but doing it all on my own bcos DH was in Brissie still and my sister was 38wks pg and too huge to move let alone try to help settle a writhing 10kg heavy weight. Tried panadoling him to sleep, tried demazin bcos he had a cough / runny nose still, tried polaramining him to sleep. All of this just irritated his reflux even more consequently making him cranky as all hell. SO we went home and I cried as soon as I saw my DH and basicaly for at least 5 mins every hour so. He went back onto his meds - saw Dr as soon s we got home - and stopped waking so much but still at least 2 -3 times and only settle on mummy. Sleep deprivation worsened. FOund myself one night holding him in front of me bawling yelling at him why won't you sleep. Of course that helped settle him! lol! That was when I went to child health and then to my GP and that takes us to the beginning of my long story last night.
It's ****. I wracked myself with guilt bcos I should have known his reflux was contributing, I shouldn't have filled him with all those meds, I should hav angled his portacot.... and the list goes on! Mother guilt is the worse thing and when you think you have a handle on it something else comes up - am I feeding him enough food, is he getting all his food groups. Oh no he has started pooing 5 times a day I'm over feeding him blha blah blah...
sorry this turned into a vent!
Qld catch up and cry session would be great!
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Sorry Tara re solids q - maybe toast fingers, pieces of pear and banana and other finger food might be better for her. She may just not like the spoon. Once she realises that the stuff she chews fills he up better than milk she may be more interested in the cereal etc?
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tara i dont tuck the end in beacuse as she tries to push herslf backwards, her feet are on the bag so she cant actually go anywhere, does that make sense???
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Nelly - if I could reach through the screen and hug you I would!!! Thank you for your honesty, for telling it how it is, for describing the last few months of what has been going on with me. and yes that qld crying session would be greatly appreciated! See you soon....
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Thanks for the info Nelly. I think we all use our best judgement at the time (often not always the best when sleep deprived) and in hind-sight we have "oh i shouldnt have done that". But we're so desperate to help our babies we'll do anything.
Well I had 5 hours sleep last night - woo hoo! So much better than 3hrs. :) She fed at 11 and then woke up at 4am. Patted and rocked her for 1.5hrs when i realised the cheap-o emergency nappies i put her in were damp. Popped her in fresh nappy and she went to sleep after a quick rock.
On the food front she's still not back to her usual self but at least its an improvement from earlier this week where she refused everything. Still not keen on BFing - I wonder why. She's not eating that much that she's cutting out BF. She just seems distracted (even in her favourite feeding place) hmmmm...
Ann
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Ann - Jake started doing that on his 10am BF a week or so ago so I stopped offering it and he has never missed it. Maybe she's self weaning?
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oh and YAYYYYYYY!!!! for sleep!! :clap:
:happyforyou:
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Time for a new thread everyone
