christy it took me 2 hrs to get sophie fown today only fo rher to sleep for 40 mins
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christy it took me 2 hrs to get sophie fown today only fo rher to sleep for 40 mins
*groan* how annoying!! Last night Jovie didn't go to sleep until 10pm :o She slept 2 hours later in the arvo and just wasn't tired. Nothing.... happy playing by herself.... and we've been up hours everynight in the middle of the nights with her so we just left her... she slept through last night at least :)
Hello you lovely ladies
Im feeling realy good :lol: i have got most of the packing done and im starting my new job on monday i can't wait we are finaly out of here on the 20th Sep :dance:.I won't be on line for a while after that date so ill try to get in and talk as much as i can up untill then. Sorry i havnt been here lately but Georgia is being a 2 year old and she not even 2 yet (help me!!!!) and iv been flat out trying to pack up the house befor i go back to work next week.
So how are we all going how are all the babies and the mum's to be babies?
catch ya later
i'm quite sad about it too christy
Well girls, I think we need to make a decision about it all. Obviously Kim is hurt and upset, some of us were surprised by her post, and some didn't ever read it. I wish we could put it behind us and move on. In every close friendship I have, we have fought, disagreed and overcome. You'd be surprised at my closest friends. I think only one is similar to me, the others are all different in many ways... yet we appreciate our differences.
In parenting decisions as well. As a gentle parenter, I find some decisions hard to agree with.... very very hard, but I try with everything within me to not judge. One of my best friends uses smacking, and recently we did have a big blow up regarding it IRL. It was hard because neither of us would change what we do. But wanted to persuade the other that our way worked. It was hard, it hurt.... and we had to agree in the end to support each other regardless. I felt so deflated afterwards. BUT our friendship has survived. We still love each other. Unfortunately it means I have had to decide when is enough for us. I she ever did it in front of me, I don't know if I could handle it.... I guess it depends on what it was for etc... the circumstances. Not that I haven't attempted smacking in the past.
Okay.... I encourage everyone to post what they feel and hopefully we can move on as a group.
Well said Christy!
I hope my post to V "I don't think anyone noticed" was misconstrued I was actually talking about if anyone noticed my ticker change but it all got mixed up in the mess. :(
Hi I personaly don't agre with smaking either but if the child is realy messing up then maybe a littel tap on the hand or as i beleave in a naughty corner for 2 years 2mins in the corner 4 years 4 mins in the corner etc. My brother in law has a 7 year old boy and when he gets in trouble my brothe-in-law waks him over the head or waks him in the back i don't like that he is just beeing a boy but noone can tell him he is doing it all wrong by hitting him on the head or back. what can you do i love him but i hate seeing him treat his son like that. He also has a 2 and half year old and he never gets a samk or a hit over the head or back.
I tap Georgia on the hand and send her to the naughty corner or her room and i close the door untill she settles down she isn't even 2 yet and she is throughing her self on the ground and screaming at me what can i do to help her and me through it safely?
well said christy and nelly that is one fine ticker :lol:
im really not sure what to say because i dont really want to start arguements but i feel very sad that this has happened, i was kinda shocked at the fact that it got reported and went as far as it has, cos i thought we were all "friends" and have "known" one another for almost 2 years now and when i read Kims post i didnt think twice about it, if that is the way she chooses to raise her children then thats her buisness, maybe the wording is what upset ppl i dont know. but i feel it could have been dealt with better and not taken so far, a simple pm could have let Kim explain what her post ment.
i do use smacking, i have tried different gentler ways but Emelia is a very stubborn and a determind little girl and things such as timeout just dont work for her. i dont smack for everything but for when nothing else works, i will smack.
there has been alot of things i dont agree about that some of you have posted about the way you parent and things you choose to do, but i would never comment on it nor try tell you to do it differently because that is your choice..everyone has a right to their opinion yes...i just feel that this small thing has hurt someone and has now divided the group when in all honesty should never have happened
hope i made sense and dont offend anyone or upset im just expressing my opinion:)
Fair enough Blanche, but it actually wasn't Vicky who reported it. I don't want her to be put up for it either. I don't think I need to say who or what happened in mods, but it was their decision as Jols & I stayed out of the decision making as Jols was offline and I said I wasn't sure how to handle it and would step back because it was my group. See I too felt we were all friends. If I was concerned about a friend I would approach them as well as others for advice.
thanks Christy - no I didn't report it. As I said, it disturbed me - probably because of my own personal history. And like blanche, there have been other times that there have been things said that I dont' particularly agree with. As I also said, lets agree to disagree. Being a parent is a hard job, one fraught with trails and tribulations, but also one full of wonder, joy and amazement. I'm sorry Kim that you feel confronted by this - but as you yourself have said, the way you choose to parent is your choice, just as it is all of our choice as to how we parent. Just as we choose to parent differently, we are all individuals with different styles, personalities, histories, and perspectives. What I posted was my opinion, just as I would say in conversation with someone face to face.
All relationships move through stages, from the superficial, to the blantantly honest. Kim, you were honest, just as my reply was honest. I hope that you are able to receive it as it was intended - not as judgement of you - but as an expression of how it made me feel, and the offering of an alternative. Relationships that are built on honesty tend to last the distance I have found - I have more respect for someone if they are honest, then if they are superficial. I guess at the end of the day - it depends on what we individually want from our relationships in our group. I have met and made real life friendships with some of you. Others I "talk" to regularly. I care about you guys -
ALL of you. :hug:
i'm in the same mind as Blanche. i didnt think twice about what kim wrote because i know what she's like and the tone in which she wrote it. If i, for one minute, thought that her or anyone else's children were in any sort of danger, i would take action. believe me.
I feel disappointed that kim wasnt asked for clarification...or maybe she was thru a pm. i dont know.
i hope that if anyone felt offended by something i wrote, they would ask me about it first because;
a) we are all friends here and
b) at the end of the day, it's the age old problem of not being able to hear inflections and tones in someone's voice..thats the trouble with typing and not speaking.
i'm not judging anyone and am purely making my comments based on what i believe to be true but realise that at the end of the day, i dont know the full story.
i'd like to put it behind us too, but i am saddened that kim's decided not to join us anymore.
COngratulations NELLY!
i feel like Blanche, we are not all carbon copies of each other, and that is ok.
But i do feel we have enough in common with each other, to make this a great group of belly buddies.
i do think a private PM rather than a public record, would have been more appropriate, to give Kim a chance to explain her sense of humour/way of expressing herself.
i have no idea who reported Kim or maybe a mod just looked thru the thread, who knows, but if that report means Kim will no longer be in our group, that makes me feel sad that we will lose/ or have lost Kim.
HAPPY DADDIES DAY!!!!
Hope all the daddies have a great day with their bubbas today!!
kim i hope you come back, lets all move on from this and continue to be baby buddies!
Happy Father's Day to all the Daddies!
I'm very very excited..these last couple of days evie has decided to start chatting away! today it was;
come here, ham, toastie, corn and hand
oh shes growing up *weep* lol
hope everyone had a good weekend
thats awesome tara!! now she wont stop!! sophie learnt puppy and maddie today!
hello lovelies. Our father's day started off ok, and went pear shaped as the day progressed. Laura is Premenstrual and as moody as buggery. We were working on the vege patch and she was cranky and mean. Aston had high temps and a yuk nose, so is home today. I was up on and off all night last night. Hopefully today will mark the beginning of a better week!
Aston is chatting away heaps too, and trying lots of new words. We are all playing the game with him "Say xxxxx (a word)" Its funny, because you can see him thinking about it before he tries.
I have launched my own WAHM business - and are very excited about it. Its keeping me busy, and motivated. Are enrolling in uni this week for next year. I am planning to do one unit of work over the summer, and returning fulltime in March. DH's dad and partner arrive in 3 weeks from the UK. have so much to do around the house!!!! DH's shoulder is still keeping him out of action, much to his frustration (and MINE!) so it is busy busy busy here at the moment.
Hope everyone else had a good weekend.
x
I'm excited to hear about your business Vicky! That sounds great.
I've had a bad neck all week & getting headaches from it. Going to acupuncture tonight so hopefully that will help.
Matilda's having a stomping tantrum atm.... oh lordy. Jovie's trying to copy.... and keeps falling over :lol: