enjoy the beer tara,i swear on the very rare occasions that i actually have adrink, garretee it's the night sophie wakes!!!! dont worry tara were all inthe same boat and understand!! just sod what you thinks right!!
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enjoy the beer tara,i swear on the very rare occasions that i actually have adrink, garretee it's the night sophie wakes!!!! dont worry tara were all inthe same boat and understand!! just sod what you thinks right!!
LOL AJP I always express at 10pm if I have a drink jic Jovie wakes early & wants a feed. I got caught out once & she woke up at 11pm and I didn't feel safe so had DH give her a bottle of EBM.
mmm reading that made me feel like a drink lol
Kim: I dont like suprises, so thats not good lol, hope the scan goes great and you see heaps of stuff though and go healthy team blue for you :) even if i wont know till the end
nothing much happening here really, so much to do and heaps of time to do it, just choosing not too lol
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Hi girls,
Yes, I am still alive and well, just MIA as have been back at Mother/Baby unit for past 2weeks still trying to sort out Logan's sleep issues and have a break myself. Was not expecting to get back in again so quick but they rang and said they had a spot come up that day if I was willing for such short notice, Couldn't pack my bags quick enough ... hehhe!!
Can't say I was desperate to come home and back to housework, cooking etc. The house looked like a tip with only DH and the pets at home.... agggh!
Logan's sleeping is still hit and miss but not much more I can do but accept it.
He did sleep through a few nights at NorthPark but not convinced this will happen at home in the near future. Last night was a shocker - awake several times for the dumm then up (just for fun!!) for 2hrs b/n 3-5am and then wanting to be up again a 6am. Think I will just have to give in to sleeping a bit during the day (easier said than done) and try and ignore all the jobs that need doing (waaaay easier said than done!!)
Sorry have not reall had the chance to catch up with where everyone is at but hopefully everyone and their babies are well.
Can't belive they are all b/n 5-6mths old - where did that time go???
whats b/n?
Between? Im just taking a guess~!
LOL Yeah I think its between... at least thats how I read it :)
Its good to hear from you Meredith. One thing I found at the sleep centre with Matilda was that even though it didn't "fix" the sleep issues, it gave me confidence. I hope that you gained heaps of confidence there *hugs*
Jovie's refusing to sleep and we have someone coming to take pictures in a few minutes... ah well... had to happen. We are being photographed for the newspaper doing a story on birth choices & VBAC's.
Ah goodluck with the newspaper article Christy, should be interesting!!
Jovie was VBAC wasnt she?
Welcome back belinda and meredith, good to hear from you both!!!
Goodluck with photo shoot christy!!!
Thanks girls!! Its went okay, Jovie missed her nap & didn't turn on the smiles but she looked beautiful anyway :) Yep Kim she was a VBAC and one that I had to fight for so I guess the more I had to fight for it, the more passionate I got about women's birthing choices or lack there of... so I got to know a few "fighters" for birthing rights through Kelly(BellyBelly) and thats how I've gotten where I am atm LOL.
oh of course, between makes sense! duh!
Christy, maybe you can answer this, i've been talking to my SIL who's about to have her first at the same hospital i went to and we were talking about how expensive it is. For example, the OBGYN i went to at John Flynn hospital was great and i loved the hospital so i will definately go back, but it costs $70 for each visit and then there's a $1500 "planning and management" fee when you're 30 weeks. so depending on medicare you dont get a whole lot back. My health fund covered $3900 of the total $4000 bill for the pleasure of going to john flynn so it wasnt so bad in that respect. ANYWAYS what i want to know is, can you go to a private hospital to have the baby but not use one of the ob's who work there? cos a midwife delivered evie and then my ob came in for all of about 5mins to stitch me up. can you just "hire" (for want of a better word) a midwife to be present at the birth?
does that make sense?
also thinking ahead as still no af. potential m/s this morning? let's see where this is going...:doh:
Do a HPT Tara!!!!!!!
oohh tara it sounds like you need to poas!!!!
EDT snap kim!!!!!
great...what poas!!! why dont i know any of these abbrevs?!
wtfieta? ihniwgo!!!!
Pee On A Stick- preggy test
LOL Tara....
I'm not sure about the hospital sorry!! One thing is you can hire a doula or a private midwife if you like. I had a doula who happened to be a midwife with me. It was fantastic. I went public and when you go public at my hospital it is a team of midwives & you see an OB once or twice during your pregnancy and maybe to stitch you up or something but they are definately not the ones involved with your pregnancy or birth. Because I was trying for a VBAC I decided I needed more support and got a birth support person to help us during labour & meet with us before to help make decisions etc... it was fantastic.
we just tried evie on farex..mmm. she loved it and when we gave her the spoon she stuck it straight in her mouth and continued to feed herself, i dont want to jump the gun here but child prodigy comes to mind.
KIDDING!
LOL Tara :) and POAS!!! well when ya ready lol
Aww cute Emelia did that too! she tried the farex banana custard this morning wasnt to keen on it!!
Am i the only one not feeding my child solids???????????????
KIM sophie hasnt started yet!!!! wont be until saturday
I tried holding off but when Emelia started waking through the night and not wanting a bottle i started solids and now she sleeps through again yay!!
How r the headaches going ? ?
Thats right i remember u saying that Sophie wasnt on solids yet AJP! I was beginning to think i must have been the slack mother again!
Chels sleeps thru without solids now :)
Headaches are coming and going, but a relief now i have panadeine forte!!! Just gotta work on the tummy pains and get rid of the m/s!!
pretty sure Jovie hasnt started yet either
I tried apples. Chels opens her mouth *sometimes* and when its in there she has no idea what to do and pushes it all back with her tongue and it goes everywhere....and besides she vomitted it back up again 10 mins later. Have only tried twice
Yep Jovie isn't on solids yet either. I made a homemade rusk for her the other day & offered it to her but she just kept hitting herself on the head LOL... I bought some rice cereal the other day and I am steaming some vege's up tomorrow to freeze for convenience.
i hadnt planned on doing solids for another month but the nurse suggested we give it a whirl since evie still has a bit of trouble with reflux, she thought having something a bit thicker in her tummy might help.
NEW DILEMMA: evie was doing really well at putting herself to sleep during the day and for a few months has done it at night (just cos its dark). but the last few days she cries as soon as i leave the room and has obviously worked out that if she cries, i come back. the thing is that i end up having to cuddle her to sleep or at night i end up feeding her to sleep. i just dont want to get in that habit because she was doing so well on her own. tonight for example, i made sure she wasnt overtired and gave her a feed just before i put her down but as soon as she's in her cot she starts crying and it's that cry that makes you feel like somethings wrong. i dont want to do control crying and i want her to go to sleep happy, so do you think this is just a phase? what does wonder weeks say?
sorry tara i cnat help you!! christy has the wonder weeks book so hopefully she will be able to help, mmmm perhaps try and sooth her with out picking her up? either stroke her head or sshhhh to her til she stops crying then leave the room. repeat if necessary
YOUR terrible tara!! all that talk last night about wanting a beer, made me want one!!! so i had one!! and really enjoyed it!!!! then sophie woke!! but resettled with out me going in phew!!!!
CHRISTY i have a recipe for homemade rusks but it says for 10 months + would they still be ok?
Kim - no your not the only one, Aston is on solids yet either. We tried one teaspoon of Farex, which he ate like there was no tomorrow, but paid for it allllll night. so while he is ready physiologically, he isnt physically I don't think. so I will wait....the thought of having another rough night like that one is enough to put me off until he reaches 6 mths!
Tara - I would do what AJP suggested too, and only pick up for a cuddle if after several times of doing the other doesn't work. but instead of cuddling her to sleep, once she has settled, after a few minutes, put her down...btw, have your brought a pregnancy test yet :)
AJP - I could have done with something a whole lot stronger then beer tonight! I think my anxiety is starting to peak as the days get closer to the FIL arriving. its stupid I know, but I can't help it. Hangover from my previous relationship, and his parents. so I just have to keep reminding myself that this is different!
Christy - lol at jovie hitting herself in the head with her rusk, had a great visual of that.
Kim - do you think that your headaches are from all the stress you are under, or hormonal, or both? I got a lot of hormonal headaches with all my pregancies. they were horrid
Hi Belinda - you have been a busy girl haven't you? How is your baby boy going? its hard to believe that he is 6mths old!! too quick isn't it!
Hi meredith. welcome back darlin. good on you for jumping at the chance to go to sleep place. and like christy said, if all you gained is confidence in you - then that is worth more then money! Nat was a shocking sleeper til about 11mths, then it all changed, and now he sleeps like a brick! nothing wakes him. go figure.
well, the bread just beeped which means its ready, which means I can go to bed!! night all
AJP I didn't know that about rusks and the 10months... hmmm.... I use our homemade bread and just roll it up while its still fresh so its quite doughy & sticks together. I cut off the crusts first. Then I pop it in the microwave for a minute & let it cool. They turn out really hard & as the baby chews it it crumbles & softens. When Matilda was 9months old I used to make them & put a smear of vegemite over them too. I just thought of making them the other day when Jovie was grabbing for all my food & I thought ah well... almost time. I know she's not sensitive to wheat because I can eat it. If she was the way she is with milk I would know about it already ;). But there may be another reason to hold her off... I will wait now.
i also just realised that evie has been particularly reflux-y this last week which is probably why going to sleep isnt such a joy. we;ve had 4 changes of clothes in an hour - both of us! i think i may adopt a nudist lifestyle.
hear about that poor woman assaulted in a shopping centre? it was a teenager! not too late for a whoopin' if you ask me! shame on him
No solids here either. Logan is watching intently when I eat now so he is probably about ready but I'm not desperate to start. Don't need anything upsetting his tummy and sleep.
Will be hanging out until 6mths if i can.
Tara - I feel for you with the sleeping thing. It's up to you whether to feed to sleep or not. Yes, it may mean you have to continue to do it for awhile but it won't "harm" her - just a pain for you. I wouldn't have been fussed at all if i had to feed Logan back to sleep 2-3 times a night but alas, feeding doesn't work so no point and his sleep is no worse with no feeding overnight (last feed is dream feed at 10pm). You could try other settling mehods such as patting,stroking, soft music etc. Wait until she is asleep or almost asleep before leaving the room. if any of this works then just gradually "wean" her off the amount of hands on help needed to settle. May be tedious especially if you are used to her self settling (haven't experienced that one yet myself!) but in my mind better than CC (controlled crying). Much as I am frustrated by Logan's sleep issues, I will never resort to CC.
Vicky - When is FIL coming and how long is he staying? Do you get along with him ok?
Hope this time passes quickly for you. I know how draining anxiety can be. What may seem trivial to others is still a big deal to YOU when it causes stress.
Christy - good on you for being vocal about birth choices. It can make SUCH a HUGE impact on your own self confidence let alone physical health when you have control over how your child is birthed. I feel quite strongly about this issue too, given my fight to have a natural breech birth. Obviously both of us (and many other women) did have successful natural births when many OBs would be ready and waiting with the knife.
Hopefully some women will be inspired by your newspaper piece nd seek out their own choices!!
Kim - Rest up darl !! Chels and your new little bub need you to not burn yourself out.
AJP - How are you and Sophie doing? Any improvement with the family situation?
Another fairly wakeful night for my little man but not quite as bad as the night before.
Wish he would learn to replace his own dummy - would at least cut out a few of the wake ups!!
Hi Meredith
Yes it would be nice if they could replace their own dummy wouldn't it...
I havent met my FIL before, its the first time, we have spoken on the phone, and via webcam. I'm sure it will all be fine, and if it they don't like me too bad, because at the end of the day, DH has chosen to be with me, by just coming to Australia to live, and that's all that matters. (Well that's my stance today...see how I am on Sunday evening as the time gets closer! lol)
I agree with not doing the CC - its not something I do either, I know things are really up if Astons looses it, because he is usually such a happy content little thing. if he howls, its pain, or discomfort, or just over tired, like last night. most of the time I'm extremely lucky and aston puts himself to sleep (shhhh he might hear me, and that will all change!) He will have a chat to his mobile, and laugh at the animals, then I will go back in and tuck him in , and off he will go. The one and only time he was sobbing his heart out in the cot was when we had people arrive, and all of us where out side, and I didn't have the monitor with me. I was absolutely mortified to come and find him sobbing his little heart out. I felt like a heel!! And of course DH made me feel even worse (not quite sure how it was MORE my fault that he was not heard, but anyway...)lots of cuddles and kisses later, he calmed down, but I know I could do control crying, its cruel, well thats how I feel, and a little loss of innocence, and there are more then enough opportunities for that to happen unfortunately without adding any more into the mix... anyway, i'm raving so will go...lol...stuff to do before sunday...like finish doing the study!
Oh wouldnt it be lovely if they could work out which end of the dummy goes in the mouth. Ella sucks all around it and by that time is awake.
Her night sleeps are just out the window these days. Waking up every 30mins after busting out of the wrap and flinging the dummy away or crying because she can find which way goes in the mouth. (while still holding it in her hand). Last night after waking at 4.30 i went in to find she'd escaped her wrap and had pulled her blanket over her head. She was crying cause she couldnt get out!!!! It scared me. Next week we're going to ease her out of her wrap and look at getting one of those grobags.
Well she had her shots yesterday and they went well. (didnt cry just whimpered) but when we weighed her she had lost weight! My GP said "oh that's why she cant sleep - she's starving". I felt like the WORST MOTHER ON THE FACE OF THE PLANET. I was in tears last night and just couldnt sleep either.
I thought she was getting enough. She was breastfeeding and sometimes not having both boobs and she was on 3 solid meals. I guess she was spreading her feeds out thinking she could feed during the night. But i was popping the dummy back in when i should have been feeding. (AGAIN FEELING SO GUILTY.)
There are so many issues...i've gotta just deal with it one at a time. I've been ranting since last night so i should probably just chill out and deal with her weight first...Its just that after 2months of sleepless nights i'm about to lose it!
Ann
ANN your not a bad mum!!!! please dont think that!!! how much weight has she lost?
dont forget they slow down by this age with weight gain, had she had a poo before hand?
she may have had a full tummy last time she was weighed so it might not be as bad as it seems
Dont feel bad hun... ur a great mum!!!! Im glad Ella's needles went well. Chels has hers on the 29th May.. then now more til November YAY!!!!
I have updated Chelsea's site now with new pics (page 2 & 3). Got her 4 month professional shots on there to!!
Ann - as AJP said there weight does slow down now cos they are becoming more active, ur a great mum :D u just have to look at Ella and u see that!
Kim - Chelsea is so adorable and those proffesional pics are great !!
well this morning Emelia only drank half her bottle :s i have no idea y but she wasnt interested?? last night she drank it all but was wringling around and didnt seem interested..she seems her happy bubbly self
HURRAH!!! back to the land of the self-settling!
Chin up, Ann - if you thought she was getting enough then thats all you can go by! as if you wouldnt be feeding her if you knew she was hungry. what an a$$hole of a GP anyways, how dare they speak to you like that!
I know how you feel about having a lot of things to deal with. so why dont you calmly sit down and write down everything that is bothering you and then write down at least 1 or 2 possible solutions for each thing. post it on here for us to help you with if you like, or show it to DH (you know men are problem-solvers by nature) and then you'll get more ideas and options so that the next time things bother you you can look at your list and try something different. most important of all, just stay positive :) you're a fantastic mum!
ah Ann *hugs* it is so deflating when someone says those things to you. Matilda lost weight at 6 months even with consuming a HUGE amount daily, mainly due to her constant moving!!! She was on the go all the time & burned up heaps of food that way.
Jovie woke up at 4am and wouldn't go back to sleep & then at 5.15am did a HUGE poo so I think that was what woke her... but then she's only slept 30 minutes since :( Matilda's been having a tantrum day & Jovie's not sleeping & Mummy is at the end of her rope.... I just put Jovie in her swing & Matilda's just fallen asleep so I am taking 10 minutes off.