Babies Born October 16th ~ 31st 2009

Hi everyone, sorry have been MIA for a few days our internet was down but is back up now so all good :D

Stevie hun, that sounds awful about all the stuff going on with your mum etc. I really don't know what to say other than just do what you think is right for you and try to make sure you dont have any regrets. I'm glad things with DH seem to be getting better. Jump on and vent to us anytime!

Tammie, good to see you in here a bit more! I'm the same, have never had time to myself, always been doing a thousand things at once so this is the first time I have really slowed down (although looking after a new baby is still pretty full on!) I'm finding that I actually do enjoy my own company which is nice.

Rach75 glad things seem to be getting better for you. I'm sure it is a huge adjustment having 4 in the family and it would be heaps different to having your first baby as with the first everything is so new and exciting, I definitely think the dynamics of my home life would change significantly when we have more babies. How is little Jack going?

Boomba, don't feel bad hun you are an awesome mummy! Running around after a 2 year old wouldn't leave you with as much time for Flynn as you had with Myles when he was a baby. I know at the moment I have the luxury of being able to waste an hour just staring at my beautiful little girl, doing that with #2 would be virtually impossible! Please dont be hard on yourself.

Who have I missed.... DM, LJ and anyone else I have missed sending you big :hug:

AFM.... I caught up with Rach2281 on Friday! Let me just say that little Evangeline is absolutely adorable!! And she is such a calm happy baby. Leila decided she would be a bit of a terror on Friday so she screamed for the entire time I was getting her ready to go out and all the way there until I put her on the boob for a feed. We had a few minutes of happy baby but generally she was a bit of a sooky high maintenance baby all day! Always the way, of course since then she's been an absolute angel :rolleyes:

Sorry if I have missed anyone or anything but I am thinking of you all.

Fi x

rach2281 hugs :hug: that would have been so hard

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Rach75[/B] wow I never new that about teh rotaviris one..I knew it was a live vaccs but never knew about being super careful..will chat to the dr and make sure he knows lol!

Re the DH interaction with ds2 I feel he is about the same..cant so the same for me though..i am still feeling a little disconnected form hijm...I spose it is because I have a 2 yr old running around too so its easy for me to put Flynn in the swing while i do everything..but I never had the instant love connection wiht Flynn like I did Myles? I feel awful and I feel like i am neglecting him..which i know I am not...maybe its the GD issue too?

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I feel like I neglect Jack at the moment, I am usually feeding luke and he plays up he was so used to it being him and me all day, we went to the shops the other day just him and me and he was like the little boy I have always had so well behaved I feel like I have been letting him down so am going to be more attentive, Luke had started taking a big nap in the middle of day so am going to try and do jack and me stuff, craft or play trains or something.. Jase is getting better, still not feeding him and he just has no clue when Luke cries, I am like have ya checked his nappy etc :wall:

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Rach's - apparently the recommendation for solids at 4 mths is going back to old school ideas. Many years ago solids used to be given at 4 mths and this has some benefits in terms of allergy identification - the research has been that delayed introduction of variety of foods is interfering with immune development and is causing babies/kids to have more food intolerances than previously. I have attached a link for a short article i found on this, it just reconfirmed what the dr said to me though - can start at 4 months and introduce a new food each day. He also suggested i start with vegies first.
The Solids Controversy


AFM, i caved on wednesday and gave Eli a dummy

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okay about solids each to their own just wasn't sure why he was saying it now IYKWIM!!!
I know what ya mean about the dummy I hate hate them but guess who has one :rolleyes: he seriously will not use his thumb, he tucks it into his fist...but he needs that comfort at times, you could be like me I refuse to use it except for comfort I will not have him walkign around with one...

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How is little Jack going?

AFM.... I caught up with Rach2281 on Friday!

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Jack is doing great he has healed up real well, we had some terrible moments, we are making him have a shower every morning (he still has a night nappy) and he fights me all the way saying it hurts etc but jase can give him a shower and no complaints grrrr... and can I say :dance: I would say only one or two lots more of ointment left again cracks it if I have to apply the ointment fights me arches his back tries to move away but is a angle for Jase

and YAY for catching up with rach :) I hope when I get down brisbane way to catch up with the girls down there :)

AFM we are back from our weekend away to AGnes oh that was boring :lol: but I did get some great sleep saturday :)... poor Luke was not himself the last few days dotn know if it was the needles or he got a little cold a few of the kids in town here have had fevers etc... we think he had a fever yesterday but as we were away no thermometre so we gave panadol on the safe side... he seems much more himself today... we also bought some thickener for his bottles he is such a spewy baby when we saw paed at 6 weeks we asked about it and she said it wont hurt to try, so hopign it will work, had to wait till we got home to use as it recomends using med flow teats and of course he was still on slow ones, so bottles are already to go with new teats, so pray it works I am tired of being spewed on ...oh also someone mentioned brauers pain releif and few posts back the only one I could find is not recomended for under 6 mths is there another one ???

ok should go to bed, luke has been down since 7.15pm ... hopign he sleeps till his usual wake up of between 1-2am

just a quick one from me atm saying im thinking of you all in this hectic season.
just dropped dh off to work and Ali is now hungry so i will bbl for personals am droppomg her off at MIL place later on so i can go and get some chrissy shooping done so i might have a spare 5mins to update and get back to you all
lotsa love
xxx

Just popping in to say hello and hope your all well.. DH was sick from Thursday till Saturday and then I was sick from Saturday night to Monday-ish.. Still not feeling the best, but when DH said to me yesterday what he said after I said that he could help out a lil just made me push myself further to get better.. I asked him if he could help out (cause he was complaining - again - bout the state of the living room) if he thought it was a mess, that he could do it, he says 'So I guess I can't relax and enjoy my holidays then'

FFS! It's only a 10-20 minute job! You have 6 WEEKS of holidays! :wall: Do I ever get to relax and enjoy a holiday? Do I ever get a holiday?! The only "holidays" I get is taking them two along with me OR the 2 or 3 hours I might get to rest at my ILs place while they look after DS!

He also said that because I'm a housewife that I should be the one doing the work.. Grrrr, I'm not superwoman! I do need help on occasions and I'm half tempted to call his mum and dad over to help while he just sits on his bum (and I can show them that he does)

Ok, enough of a vent - I've gotta go check DS and DH while they're both sleeping - Hopefully be back later
If I'm not on before, have a great Christmas everyone

:hug: LJ Men just dont get it! :hug: xx

Will bbl xxxx

:hug: Lj i totally know where your coming from, DH and i have sorted our previous dramas out, TBH and i think its a bit of a TMI but he hadnt got any for nearly 4 months, we DTD twice on his 4 days off and it made him a changed man hahah. But he's still super slack with Ali, i dont think its coz he doesnt love her or doesnt feel connected its just that he doesnt know what to do with her, he was really good while he was home, as long as i ASKED him to do, i couldnt say "oh i think she has a wet bum..." i had to be like "can you please change her while i make your lunch?" and i made a point of if i wasnt feeding her and she wasnt cracking it, and we were watching telly, id give her to him and say " going to do blah blah blah..." but id usually just jump on my computer ;) but its giving him alone time with her and he really needs that, he's like "all she does is sit there.." and im like "she IS a baby!!" but now she's smiling heaps for him and half laughing (making little noises) he actually got her out of bed this morning :dance: and put her in bed next to him ;) i even got him to feed her a bottle the other day :dance: but then she threw it up all over herself coz he wasnt watching what he was doing and stuck it too far into her mouth and made her gag.
BUT... the thing that he did do that annoyed thecrap out of me was she was crying (she had a really grumpy weekend) id dont EVERYTHING to try n settle her i was just sitting on the couch while she cried (she wasnt SCREAMING just crying IYKWIM) he was asleep (yes having a nana nap the lucky bum) then had the nereve to tell me to "go walk around outide obviously what your doing isnt working... im trying to sleep" i was just like :jawdrop::angry:
seriously bugger him, i dont even get to sleep that well at night why should he get a nana nap, i dont mind that he does but **** go sleep in the bedroom and let me have the loungeroom so i can do SOMETHING while she cries... grrr... men!!
but really, other than that he's been really good, i think him finally getting laid did the trick, simple minds i tell ya ;)

anyway am off to do some christmas shopping while MIL looks after Ali, am i a bad mum for leaving her with MIL? i dont do it all the time, maybe twice sometimes 3 times a week when DH is away, i just dont get much time when he's not here, even when he is i still dont but yeh LOL

Love you all
take care
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Big hugs Stevie and LJ - men can be incredibly annoying (and selfish too!)

Hi girls

thought I'd jump on quickly and say hello before xmas as I have all of DH family arriving this afternoon, some staying for a week so I probably wont get the chance to log on again for a while.

Stevie, glad things seem to be getting better for you with DH silly that it took DTD to settle him down though! Men :shakehead: Hopefully he becomes more involved with DD and stops taking nana naps in the lounge! Some one on one time for them is a must, I too have to force DH to do it sometimes. It's not that he doesn't love her or enjoy looking after her he just doesn't think that maybe he should pick her up and talk to her or give her cuddles or whatever. Sometimes I wonder what goes on in a man's mind - I'd say a lot of the time NOT MUCH! :lol:

LJ sounds like more frustrating times for you with DH. It sucks that they think they are entitled to 'breaks' and 'holidays' agree with you that as a mum we NEVER get a break and it can be utterly exhausting. You are not superwoman so please don't try to be! Maybe just try talking to him gently and explaining that you are really tired, that you never get a break and if he could pitch in and share some of the load then it would be much appreciated. Sometimes men don't get things until they are explained to them in plain simple language - as with my reply to Stevie, sometimes they just don't think!

On the topic of DH well I think mine tops all of yours for his comment yesterday about my weight - yep, he pretty much told me I was fat :o Bit of background, I have never been overweight and have always been very fit and athletic. I'm about 170cm and prepreg was about 60kg. I'm now about 68kg.... yep, still got a bit to lose! We were talking about another couple we know where one of them is pretty buffed and the other not buffed at all and DH said to me, not to worry that he wouldn't get too buffed. I said, what do you mean? He said, well I don't want to make you feel bad. Sorry, I said, I don't get you. So he said... well now that you're a real chubba I don't want to get too buffed and make you feel bad! WTF!!!! He wasn't even joking, he was just being really matter of fact about it. He still doesn't even understand why I am upset as to him he was simply stating the facts. I said, I've just had a baby you idiot!!!!!! Way to make me feel good. I was trying not to even think about my weight at the moment as I really tried to take it easy for the first 6 weeks seeing as I had a c-section so have not gotten back into exercise yet. As I've said above, men really don't think sometimes!

Hi Boobma, Rach x2, DM, Jellybean (you've been MIA!), Tammie, Shades and everyone else.

Hope everyone has an awesome Christmas.

Love Fi xxx

just a quick reply to you fi (while im on here.. i have to bave the freakin shops AGAIN today, yesterday id taken ages to get organised and had left Ali with MIL for over 3 hours, i still wasnt finished but i started getting a bit anxious coz i had been away from her for so long :( )
anyway... DH calls me fat all the time, im his "little fatty" :( i know its not really ment to be nasty, when i first met DH i was 47kgs.. i was smoking cigerettes, and not eating properly so naturally i was very thin, over the 3 years we were together id fluctuat anywhere from 50 - 53kgs 2 weeks before i had Ali i weighed myself and i was 72kgs:o
3 weeks after i had her i weighed myself and i was 63kgs, i was really upset coz i didnt think id kept so much weight, last week i weighed again and i was 58 :D i happily text DH telling him i was 4kgs off pre pg and he's like "you still have heaps to loose..." i was soo mad :( yes i will be loosing more than the 4 (coz even at 54 i was still carrying around muffin tops >.<) but geez.. he could be more supportive, he weighs 113kg (he's a very solid bloke) he's gettin a bit fat now but he truelly is big boned lol (anyone that has FB will see what i mean :) )
Fi, dont listen to your DH, they have no idea how hard it is to have a baby, let alone being pregnant and then practically doing all the work after its here. i realise they have to work, but they forget that babies are FULLTIME work, it never stops...

Fi - :jawdrop: sweety you are in no way overweight. Tell your DH to go jump into a lake, grrr. I think its cause they see all these celebs losing the weight straight away, so therfore so should we. But silly men seem to forget they they are paying alot of $$$ for a personal trainer. I hope he has had time to think about what he said, and why you were upset :hug:.
And it was great meeting you the other day. Leila is so cute! she was just having one of those days, hehe we had one yesterday :wall:

Stevie and LJ - :grouphug: bloody men grrrrrr. Hope you girls are ok today.

Rach - I have like the little Brauer gift pack, colic, stomach, teething and nappy rash. All 3 oral liquids say infants under 6mths 1ml on them. So not sure which one you were looking at??

A big :hello: to everyone else

Anyway, been another hectic wk here. Ethan has now lost 2 teeth :rolleyes: First one on friday arvo, 2nd on monday. The kid is only just turned 5, so i panicked a bit. But denist said its all ok. Evangeline she is her happy self. Though yesterday she was out of wak, just wanted xtra cuddles from mummy, heheh i didn't mind.

Hope all you lovely ladies have a grat xmas, xoxox

Evening Ladies :)
I probably wont get a chance to jump on tomorrow. So Merry Christmas Everyone!! Enjoy your babies :) Enjoy your family :)
Hopefully ill be able to enjoy a guilt free wine ;)

xxx

hope everyone is having a wonderful xmas day :)

MERRY CHRISTMAS everyone!! and Happy First Christmas to our bubbas!! Its 5 mins to midnight here - better late than never -lol!

Sorry, I have been MIA for awhile, yes. Will get back on to do personals soon - I have alot of catching up to do. DH is home for the next few days and he hogs the computer so it might be awhile! :rolleyes:
Hope everyone enjoys their Boxing Day...
off to bed to rest my weary head.

XXX

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