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tanya
Dont feel bad about the bottle thing.
Seriously ashley was 7 months before she would take the cup and nothing before hand andwe tried everything.
Ethan wont take the bottle either. I will try a cup closer to 6 months.
Some babies just dont like the bottle and that is normal
As for the self settle. It can be hard work. I remember ashley took about 3 weeks of hard self settling and controlled crying to get her to sleep through. She was 4 months old at the time. before that we was waking every 2-3 hrs overnight to feed. Then i decided i cant keep doing this, It was exhausting to spend 1/2 hr to get her to sleep without a feed and teaching her to settle in the cot in the middle of the night but i am glad i didnt cave into the emotion and stuck it out. As she has self settled ever since and it is bliss!
Ethan will only settle at night in his cot. Throughout the day he wont sleep in his cot and needs to be in a vibrating chair or the cradle swing.
I think his night time routine we started early. really helps.
He has a feed about 6pm, then bath, then massage then we lay on my bed and have a feed, burp and then down in his cot with the night light on and walk out.
It took a week or 2 of him crying or not wanting to sleep and i would have to walk it and either pat his bottom (he sleeps on his tummy), or pick him up tell him it is ok until he stops crying then put him nback down.
Do you have a night time routine so bub knows it is time to sleep at night? t is never too early to start- even if it is reading a book. doesnt mattter what it is - even if it seems silly to such a young bub.. it is about the routine and consistency so bub knows what comes next. and give it a few weeks before you give up on it.
I hope this helps and you are doing a great job. E still wakes every now and then in the middle of thenight and sleep routines will change as rolling, crawling, teething etc all come along.. so when you think everything is perfect and bub has finally gotten it!! it can all change in the blink of an eye :) so dont get too discouraged .
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just a quick one.
thanks for all the hugs, they come in handy :)
went to the movies with dragon tonight n he slept all the way thru! had to feed him in the sling just before the lights started to dim so theres my 1st offical public feedin LOL
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Teru :comfort: hugs hun...it must be hard for you with your DH being like he is....I know before i met my hubby he drank alot..(complicated life with his ex) and since Jack has been born he has been drinking quite abit and i have had enough...i think next time if he gets blotto I am going out...i will leave him here to his own devices...i don't care for it one bit.
To everyone else...have a safe night tonight and a happy new year :)
We are doing NOTHING tonight AGAIN...BUT i probably wouldn't have the energy to do anything anyways.....
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hrmmmm i wonder if i will still be awake at midnight...
Matt wanted to go out to his parents for new years and i said im not going n im not taking Mia. New years.. sleeping on a floor.. mozzies.. flies.. sweat... no thanks! so we are both staying home and visiting them on sat for the day.
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omg PP! im catching u in the posts!!!
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LOL Hollye do you have LOTS to say??? :p
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i do! no life u see... if only i could find a way to put the cot and the fridge near the computer and i would be set for the day!! lol
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hmmm thats an idea Hollye!!!! *must look for bar fridge when out shopping* hehehehe rubbing hands together
i wish at times i had more to say.....
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oh Katones u are a pure LEGEND!!!! Orgainised Mia's cot today.. took a side off and put it next to our bed and she asleep in it right now!! only took 30 mins to get her to sleep!!!! OMG!! thankyou so much!!! The only thing i have to do now is lower it (its still on the high setting) to the bottom base and all is good!! yay!
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AWWW Hollye i am sooo happy for you!!!!! Jack is asleep in his bed now too!!! I have just spent the last 45mins putting him to sleep as we were out earlier... he is down now..soo we shall see how long this cat nap lasts!!!
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Thanks PinkPalace. I think what I'm struggling with most at the moment is how I thought it'd be versus how it really is. Like I just assumed every baby would take a dummy and drink from a bottle but Maya doesn't. At least if I have a second child I'll know not to expect anything! :lol:
Well after saying all I said last night.. this morning after Maya had finished her feed at 6am, I put her down in her bassinet while she was awake. I heard her 'talk' for a bit, then get the hiccups, then everything went quiet and I looked over and she was asleep!!!!!!! :) :) :) So I guess that means she CAN get herself off to sleep?! It hasn't worked during the day though. I've had to rock her to sleep. But I think I've now worked out that she was actually tired this morning and wanted to go to sleep whereas during the day she wants to stay up so I have to force her to go to sleep. I'm not sure what the answer is - to forcing a baby who wants to be awake but is over tired to go to sleep?! :dunno:
Our night routine is to feed in the dark and wrap her up and we give her a bath every second day (cos she hates the bath still!). On bath days she does go to sleep so much easier and quicker - but I think that's exhaustion from all the crying she does not from the bath. :lol:
Anyway, I am feeling better today. I think just having her go to sleep on her own this morning has given me hope again!! :)
Happy New Year girls!! Is anyone staying up tonight? I am normally up till 11 or midnight anyway cos I can't get Maya into bed before then, so I guess I'll be up! And I suggested to DH that we do a BBQ tonight and have a couple of glasses of wine. :) I just wish the weather was nicer.
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HOllye - game on girl! lol
Tanya - woohoo for self settles!!! We have a couple of peeps coming over tonight with kids...
i am exhausted as DH took us all to the zoo... big day lol. Ashley had a ball and Ethan slept hehe.
Ill pop up some pics at the picnic lunch DH made for us and E and I just lazed around lol
here you go https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...ry.php?cat=967
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Happy New Year! :) I can't believe it's 2009 now!
DH and I had a BBQ outside and took Maya outside with us. She happily sat in her rocker looking at the sky, while we ate dinner. It was very nice. Then I made it to 11.30pm and I was soooooooooooo exhausted I decided to just go to bed! :lol: I did hear fireworks going off at midnight though.
I've uploaded some Christmas photos.
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HAPPY NEW YEAR everyone. I had no chance staying awake till midnight. I did wake up though,it was so noisy when it hit midnight, all the fireworks, people yelling & tooting their car horns. I went straight back to sleep but.
My mastitis is healing up now. I feel much better. Still have to take panadol & the antibiotics. I also had good news back from pathology.... The melanoma had not grown through the skin so it looks like we got it just in time. I still need to get the rest cut out but at least it's good news.
TANYA The first words I'm teching Byron is Mumy & Daddy, then milk & more are the others that I teach too, just not as often as Mummy & Daddy. I also sign twinkle twinkle little star as I sing that to him. I do that a few times a day.
Hope 2009 is a great year for you all.... xxx
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HAPPY NEW YEAR everyone.
I had no hope of staying awake until midnight, I crashed at about 11pm, but there was someone letting off fireworks close by and some idiot drivers racing around.
I had my parents and brother and SIL over today and it was a nice day except for the heat, it has been so hot up here lately.
hugs xoxo
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morning girls...
i hope you are all doing OK and bubs are all well and happy :)
Jack is still sleeping :) he woke at 6.10am this morning..and i fed him and he went straight back to sleep :)
i can't believe he is 12 weeks old on sunday!!!! my goodness times flies when your having fun :p
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hollye i just noticed the bit in your ticker....8 more sleeps til your 21st....wish i was 21 again :p add another 10 years to that.... gawd i feel old!!!
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Georgi - I'm thinking of starting with signs for drink and milk. I'm trying to think of what words she'll need first. I think after I've done then for a while I might teach mummy and daddy.
katones - I'm with you.. I can't believe Maya is 12 weeks today!
I had such a bad day yesterday. :( Sorry long rant to follow:
Yesterday I decided that I wanted to get out of the house for a bit. DH has been wanting to visit his father and show Maya to his father's partner (who just keeps not turning up to anything we organise) so I suggested going to their place. They live in Geelong - an hour or so drive away. Maya slept most of the way there, so at this stage all was good. We arrived at my FILs and she was still sleeping but woke when we got her out of the car. We went into the house and greeted my FIL and when my FIL said hello to Maya she started screaming. And she screamed and screamed and screamed. DH was trying to settle her. And she always settles normally! But she just would not stop screaming. And the scream was awful! I have not heard her like that before! So my brain goes into over drive trying to work out what's wrong. Was it my FIL that set her off? She does cry when she is held by strangers but not when they look at her and she definitely doesn't scream like that. Was she tired? We had gotten her up from her sleep. But again she would never scream like that. Seriously the screaming was horrible and was breaking my heart!
So we decided to go back in the car and drive around and see if that would settle her. Nope. She screamed the whole time!! So we went back to my FILs house and I got her out of the car and took her over to a tree. And she quietened down finally. She was now sobbing but at least she wasn't screaming. So we went back inside my FIL's house and BAM the screaming started up again. And at this point I finally worked out that it was the smell in the house! Before we arrived my FIL had cleaned his entire house with undiluted disinfectant and both DH and I found the smell so overwhelming so I can only imagine it must have been too much for poor Maya. You could smell it from the street even! I took her back outside and again she settled - back to sobbing not screaming.
But what really ****ed me off is that my FIL and his partner kept saying things like "she must have wind" and "oh she must be so difficult!" Both DH and I kept saying over and over and over again that she's never been like that before and it must be the disinfectant smell! But they didn't believe us. And I am so sick of people not believing me! As soon as Maya behaves out of the norm people think it must be wind or they think she's always like that. And when I tell them it's not normal for her they don't listen to me!
What really really ****ed me off is that when I was outside with Maya calming down finally my FIL's partner suddenly grabbed Maya off me!! I am not kidding. She just took Maya out of my arms! And then she wouldn't give Maya back and Maya started crying again because she doesn't like strangers. And what's even worse she took Maya back inside the house because they didn't believe me that the house was where the problem was!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So Maya started screaming again!!!!!! I basically chased my FIL's partner into the house and yelled at her to give me back Maya. I took Maya back outside and went into the car and I told DH we were going. We took off and Maya vomited - I mean there was a serious amount of food coming out and she was making awful noises bringing it up. By this stage I thought OMG she's so sick. We pulled over and I fed her. She calmed right down and fell asleep straight away. Then woke up near home and was back to her normal self. And she's been fine ever since. In some ways I think how on earth could the smell/fumes of disinfectant cause that much pain for her but I am always second guessing myself and what else could it be! After this experience I've realised I need to start trusting my instincts more.
Though I feel like such a bad mum at the moment. How could I have let Maya go into that house three times when it was obvious something was setting her off in that house. And how could I have let someone grab her from my arms?! :(
