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erybery so sorry to hear you are having so much trouble, i hope the test gets you some answers, it so hard to know what to do...
cam hunni go for your life, i felt like that too, well still do really!
i had c/s too and completely understand how u feel, but i have to say yesterday was the day that changed it all, day 11 it was for me, barely any pain and i could finally cough properly and get in and out of bed, so there is an end to it all, its just a damn hard few days, especially with a demanding newborn. keep your chin up till the pain eases hun, cos u r doing great. rely on DH as much as u can, after all we already did 9 months hard work, its their turn for a while now.
i had 2 good nights with Jade, so happy to get some decent sleep, looking like tonight wont be a replication tho, but im still besotted!
sorry i dont have time to do more persies, screaming starving baby in the background.. well u would think she hadnt eaten for a month, but in fact its only and hr and half... that high pitched anguished wail really gets to me....
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Ok, I spoke too soon. Ella has been awake screaming since 3pm. I caved in and gave her the Zantac, I can't handle the high pitched shrill screams anymore and I HATE that i've given medication to a baby that's so little, I am paranoid something bad will happen to her now I've given it to her. The paed said we needed to try it for at least 2 weeks 3 times a day to see if there is any effect. I sure hope so! So emotionally exhausted, DH has taken over holding and comforting her to let me have a break. I feel like Im going insane, at least the communit nurse is coming tomorrow for my home visit so I will pick her brains.
gnight all, hope we all get some sleep tonight.
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:hug: Erybery go easy on yourslef hun. If the Zantac works then she must need it. Try and get some sleep. I hope the nurse can give you some answers or at least some things to try.
ETA I have been trying to post all night and it hasn't been letting me.
Cheapie my DS has been pretty good so far but I am going to pick the brains of my two girl friends tomorrow as they both have toddlers the same age and I want to be prepared. I will let you know if they have any tips, a reward chart sounds good though.
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just quickly and one handed:
Skye - not stupid about feeling like you missed part of the pg...cos you did! Even though she seems to have been fine for size etc, in your head you were at a different stage, so it's really understandable :hug:
Boobs aren't as crazy now. Parents came and went and all is well.
I have an opposite sibling story - the only resentment we had was when DS didn't want T to come with me to put him to bed. A couple of nights ago I had to bring her and I was able to get out my boob from the side of the HAB...all was forgiven and he's been happy since! He gives hugs and wants holds in bed. Coincidence or not, this is the outcome I wanted when planning the birth and not allowing DP's 'back up plan' of shipping DS off during labour to be part of the plan! In my homebirthing network there were plenty of similar anecdotes, so I had to keep the faith.
I'd advise against a reward system to get co-operation, too.Have a look over Alfie Kohn's website (google it) about rewards and punishments - they both achieve the same thing and it's not the kind of motivation that lasts or 'works' for the right reasons. It takes a rethink on parenting aims and a real re-examination of how you were parented because it challenges prevailing assumptions about child-rearing in the West. What you want for real co-operation (as opposed to compliance and obedience - not the kinds of things we admire in adults) is intrinsic rewards, not external things like stars and toys etc (even in the absence of designed 'punishments', because NOT getting a star or tick feels as much like retribution and conditionality of acceptance, so it is still Rewards and Punishment based). Your older child needs your unconditional love at this critical time and rewards and charts etc just reek of conditionality of acceptance. Confused much? Hope not! If what I've just typed (one handed still!!) resonates, then chew on it and take the time to explore it and add it to your parenting palette (I get so much more out of my DS for it), otherwise, move on seek other answers :)
Time for bed!!! Night all...for now...
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Hi mummies
Hope everyone is well!.....
Thanks Ozstar I look forward to hearing what you GF's have to say!!
Also Mayaness thank you - I have googled Alfie Khon and am begining to read through the website, thank you for that!! I guess I am tired and worried about Aiden ..... my upbringing was interesting to say the least and very lonely, I guess my own insecurities are coming through (sorry probably not making much sense)..... but thanks again for the advice :D
Hope all the bubbas are giving their mummies some much need sleep and snuggles xx
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Chepie - makes sense :hug:
Missy Moo isn't all together herself today, says my mummy instinct. Goopy eye, not feeding much, she was red last night (for no apparent reason) and isn't signalling much today when she needs to do a poo (I could tell in advance when she was going to do one because of the way she'd wriggle). So, we'll see what tonight brings. She's still cute as a button (whatever that means!).
Better go check on defrosting dinner...hope everyone else is hanging in there!
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Cheapie unfortunately my GF's weren't a big help lol, both of them have little girls and they never had any issues. Does Aiden act out at any particular time, like when your feeding?
Maya hopefully your not in for a rough night.
Erybery how did the Zantac go?
Cam your little man really is adorable!!
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Chepie - in tandem with Kohn, Steve Biddulph's books are wonderful, especially Raising Boys :)
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hi girls! chepie doesnt sound like ur having too much fun, wish i could offer some suggestions but charlottes been really really good.
i'd try the rewards chart and urban baby have timeout pads on special for $30 atm, theyre mats the kids sit on with like a traffic light timer so they know when their time is up and when it is it plays a cool jingle.if they get off it before the time is up a little alarm sounds so that u know theyre up (handy for when u cant keep eyes on them sneaking off coz ur busy with bubs) not sure if timeout is something ur ok with, but if u are these things look fantastic!
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Hi Skybie - thanks hun... we use time out and sit down with Aiden and talk about what has just happened and talk about his actions ..... I like the sound of those mats! Things are getting better as Dh had to work yesterday so it was just the 3 of us and Aiden was pretty good.... He is an awesome child and a gentle soul I guess he is just expressing himself - maybe not the best way but he is only 2!!! I think I need to chill out about it more and lack of sleep doesn't help as you all know .... we will get there.. How are things going for you babe?
Ozstar- no problems thanks for asking that was really sweet of you xx
Mayaness- How was your night hun?
Ery - How are you going? Did the zantac work???
LJ- hope all is well with you too and your enjoying your babymoon!!!
Thanks for the advice and help mummies!!! Hope everyone is well .... BBL Charlotte is sleeping and Aiden is playing outside with dad and its time for lunch!! Haven't had breakfast yet :lol: (me that is!)
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The Zantac appears to be working well at the moment but I'm afraid of speaking to soon and getting another screamathon from her. BUT yesteray would definetly have been our most calm day with only 1 unsettled period yesterday evening between 6-10 so if its the zantac working then I am claiming it to be a miracle drug. She even slept through from 1:30am-6:30am this morning!!!! I can tell you my BB's were most uncomfortable but the sleep I got mae it all worth it! hehehe. Hopefully will have another good today, though shes already woken twice with a pain in her tummy thoigh when Ive put her down again shes gone straight off to sleep. DH took her stool sample to the lab this morning s hopefully will know soon if she lactose intolerant or not. I think not as the frequent pooing seems to be slowing down so most likely just the reflux!
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Chepie - Daddy Time will be really important for your DS from here on in; new baby or not, actually!
Night was good - T fed better than the previous night and was happier, despite a bout of thrush she has. Her eye seems better, too. Had my first shower with her today. Nappy change beckons, then have to get the hell out of the house if DP doesn't. He's looking for different work and missed the boat with an opportunity that came up (long story) and despite my full support and encouragement (I wrote half of his friggin resume!) I'm copping some wonderful attitude. Gimme the 3 yo any day!!
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hi girls sounds like everyones got some issues in here, i hope they get sorted out soon, this time should be for enjoying.
ery so glad u are getting some settled periods thats terrific
chepie not good about ds, but hopefully with time he will adjust.
am having supply and feeding issues again, jades not putting on weight now, and my supple is dwindling, she is still not sucking effectively and am back to formula top ups to stop the screaming. the communicty nurse is great, so helpful and supportive of whatever decision i make. however and i know this may go against everything u all believe, but i think if things dont sort themselves out by the end of the week i will just ff... i dont want to and it makes me sad to think i may have to, but no matter what my heart says about bonding and the benefits of bf, my mind is telling me a full and nourished baby is the utmost important thing in this situation and as much as it breaks my heart to ff, it breaks my heart to think shes hungry too so i will just have to do what i hve to do if i cant sort this asap.
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Jen - ask Barb in the BFing support forum and/or hire a LC - if it's something a LC can help you resolve for about $100, the it's worth a red hot go, no? Also, the ABA helpline is free, even just to talk to someone about how you feel about what's happening and where you're headed - the counsellors are excellent and available 24hrs. It's very rarely an 'easy' decision :hug:
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Oh Jen, how frustrating for you! You do whatever you need to do and feel comfortable with. I will fully support you in whatever decision you make! big hugs hun xox
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hi girls!
jen hunny, do whats right for you, just make sure when u make a decision its what U want. charlottes a formula bub and she's no less intelligent than the breast fed bubbas in her kinder group and she rarely gets sick!
Erybery hope the zantacs working for you hun, that little girl is still keeping u on your toes!
Cam, ur little man is sooooo delicious, i just wanna smooch all over his chubby chops!hope u guys are settling well.
AFM little miss is 6 and a half weeks old already!!! i cant believe how quickly she's growing. Still having issues sleeping, but im sure that'll resolve itself one day. i've cut out coffee to see if that helps, she's still up a million times a night but seems to be easy to resettle compaired to when i was drinking coffee.
Izzy is much more alert and seems to be recognising people a little bit more, still not happy to be held by anyone other than mummy though hehehehe.
She's been making a few sounds this morning, other than her normal grunts which is sooo cute, cant wait for the babbling to start.
Im good, still loosing weight due to this breastfeeding caper and started working on my mummy apron this week, nothing strenuous just a bit of walking and a few situps a day.
been waking up feeling nauceous, but i think that has to do with the whole lack of sleep thing!
anyway the milk monster is hollering, hope ur all well and those bubba's arent giving u too mch of a hard time
xxxx
Skye
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Jen- :comfort: Do what's right for you...the best thing for any bub is a relaxed mummy. BF or FF- the most important thing is that you're acting in the best interests of your little girl. You've given BF a really good go...don't be hard on yourself if it's not working. Having a newborn is one thing- having a newborn, recovering from a long labour/ceaser and having BF issues with a screaming baby is another altogether.
We're having our own issues here. I've still got shocking pain in my left nipple when feeding and I'm pretty sure that the thrush in DDs mouth has spread to my breast. I'm treating the both of us with Daktarin. I'm airing as much as possible and even expressed from my left last night to give it a rest. Unfortunately, I (stupidly) used the wrong teat and my poor little girl ended up with the most shocking wind. She was hysterical and could only be calmed by lying on DHs chest for an hour...didn't I feel useless??
Anyway, DH is out getting the right sized teat and some Infants Friend because her wind has become worse over the last 3 days...esp at around 8 at night. I would rather not medicate her but I hate seeing her uncomfortable. I've tried Brauers Colic Relief but it seemed to make it worse.
On the upside, my recovery seems complete. I'm off painkillers and I'm moving around pretty freely.
Ery- thinking of you, hope the Zantac is working for you and bub is more comfy.
Sky- good for you with the walking...can't wait to get started myself. Good job on getting off the coffee...it's not easy, those headaches are awful.
Maya- What are you doing about DDs thrush??? Hope DP is being nicer to you today.
Chepie- you're right- lack of sleep seems to blow EVERYTHING out of proportion. Sounds like you're doing an awesome job with DS.
Oz and Nina- hope you had a great meet-up. Can't wait to join in soon x
Sending out good vibes for an easy day for everyone today...:D
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Hi all my dd Serenity was born at 32 weeks on the 2/10 by emergency csec....recovery has been great been walking around since the day after op.....I went into labour and after 15 min was 7cm but she was breach bum first which was fine but then a foot came down so off I went, although for the last 2 weeks I haven't even felt like I had the op I find the whole thing a horrid experience as I had never prepared myself emotionaly and had 3 previous vag births with just gas or nothing...she's my 3 premmie but my second to need nursery but she will be coming home today weighing 1.97kg so I'm very exciting.... I will bf and have a total 2 yrs from 3 kids behind me so hoping it goes well
congrats to everyone haven't read the past posts as I'm on my phone do a lil tricky
