Hi Becky, I'm not sure why Emily sleeps so well, just lucky I guess. She does cluster feed every two hours from around 3pm each day and doesn't sleep as much as Ellie during the day??? With Sarah she had to be dressed, teeth and hair done in the morning before tv goes on, that way we are ready to go if need be like to daycare. She has to have quiet time on my bed with a book for half hour minimum every day after lunch and lights and all off at 7:30pm.
I also make a point of doing an activity with her morning and afternoon like drawing and reading. That's about it, it seems to work at the moment anyway.