Smiles and little coos here too. Exciting <3
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Smiles and little coos here too. Exciting <3
Mildez may I ask you a question? I've just broken a tooth *totally freaking out*! How on earth do you go to the dentist with a newborn? Do you express? Oh I'm really freaking. Waiting for crippling tooth ache to start.
Ouch!!
Im here, reading but not much time to post. Ill try to catch up soon! Hope all is well girls =)
With difficulty Rosey. I expressed the first time. DS was 3days old and screamed. DH didn't really know how to bottle feed a baby as I'd always BF the older ones. I went again when he was a week and a week and a day and had him asleep when my mum came to the house and fortunately both times he slept the entire time. I only went again last Friday and DH gave him 50mls of formula. I actually think that's why I got mastitis as I am constantly been stimulated as he feeds so frequently and then I went for hours with nothing. I am in the process of having root canal therapy which is why I am back all the time. Does your DS travel well in the car? That would be another alternative if he did to get your DH to drive around whilst your in there and pray you don't have to wait.
Root canal therapy. Ouch! You poor thing. Such a bad time having to have it with a newborn. There's no need to pump and dump with dental work is there? Car won't work he isn't a fan got more then half hour. I'll just have to start hand expressing enough for a few feeds. Though I don't even know how many mls they take at this stage, he would be close to six kilos.:
Yeah I'd want a few bottles too. Maybe do a few but only put 80mls in each and have a few frozen. They are easy to defrost if you need more. I have not pumped and dumped. Just BF like normal. Do you have an appointment? Other then the pain the worst of my dental work is its costing me almost $3000 which is a significant amount of my savings gone which was to help me stay at home longer. I am really out of avenues too financially so looks like I have no choice but to return to work the moment my maternity leave ends.
In other news I am officially on a health kick. I am not 100% sure what I gained during pregnancy. I know I got up to over 100kgs but now am back to 94. I've joined Michelle Bridges although am not following her program religiously. Just eating her foods for the clean diet but having double the recommended calorie intake. I'm 178cm and 1200cals or the 1700 when BF is absolutely not enough. I've been so tired and lethargic and frankly sick feeling and I am sure its my sugar/carb intake contributing. I only started yesterday but already I feel a little less lethargic. I am also hardly exercising at all. But hopefully I can increase that over the next few months. I really want to feel well again.
Oh, you poor girls, both Mildez & Rosey! How did it crack, Rosey?
When I asked about how many mL, I got told "it goes on birthweight." Bubby was 3.01 born, now 5.2kg/9 weeks. Taking a little over 600mL a day, that's 6 bottles of 110mL every 4 hours. Except he's a snacked, and only likes to have a full bottle at night.
I took him to the dentist yesterday. After having a midwife, nurse, lactation consultant (in hospital, not the one I'm working with now) and GP all tell me he is fine, I took him to someone who specialises in tongue tie. He has a posterior tongue tie and very pronounced upper lip tie. Which is why we have had so much trouble with feeding, shallow latch, sliding off, clicking... Makes me sad it wasn't detected earlier.
Mildez - sorry to hear that dental expenses have had to make you change plans. How long is your maternity leave?
good on you doing what you need to in order to regain health! It's so hard to make lifestyle changes with a newborn, so you need to congratulate yourself :)
I've got the opposite problem, underweight before pregnancy, lost all baby weight already. Which doesn't help make milk :( need to keep up the calories, especially the carbs.
I'm currently reading "mother food" (ie, skimming thru the iPad kindle version when I have a few seconds). It's very interesting, which foods support breastfeeding, which suppress it, what helps with colic, loosing weight, common healrh concerns, etc. One point I found fascinating, you can tell if your baby has an intolerance to something before he is even born if he starts kicking frantically or gets hiccups every time you eat something (within 4 hours). Keep a food diary, watch for same pattern in breastfeeding, and introduce those foods last as solids.
Turtledove I am not 100% sure how long my maternity leave will be. At this stage I know I definitely have pay until August. I may get a tax return that will help me stay at home longer. We really hate using childcare at any age but under 12months would be even worse. My DH said he will take 1 day off work to look after bub when I return for the rest of the year but I'm not sure if I can go back only 1 day. Its really disappointing to prepare yourself financially for extended time off only to need to spend it on your teeth.
My understanding was an upper lip tie shouldn't effect feeding. My DS has one too. Its very significant but fortunately no tongue tie. We have a paed at work who strongly believes it doesn't effect them. Once we had a baby who's tongue could not poke out at all. It was like the entire tongue was stuck to the bottom of his mouth. He was also admitted to the SCN no surprises with feeding problems and jaundice (as he wasn't feeding). Then our other paed snips everything. His wife is a speech pathologist however so I know that helps.
That book sounds awesome. I should have a read of it as it would probably help my job. The only time I have had a weight problem is just after pregnancy. I gained 35kg with my first. I went from a BMI of 18 to a BMI of close to 30 :( I've always lost it but I do have to try. I am very close to my first goal so that's good. Motivation to keep going when I feel better within myself.
Lip tie can affect breastfeeding, I'm sure it is why we have struggled with bubby's latch from the start. It also affects speech development, teeth alignment & hygiene. Have a look at some of the articles and testimonials on Dr Kotlow's site: Pediatric Dentist in Albany, NY - Dr. Lawrence A. Kotlow
You must be feeling really disappointed with having to return to work much sooner than planned. Do you mind me asking what you do? You have mentioned working with babies and mothers a couple of times.
It's a back wisdom tooth, I'm not sure why it cracked. Probably insufficient brushing back there. I'm sure the dentist will lecture me about the cause. It isn't deathly hurting yet thankfully as I am yet to express a drop. DS is really tiring me. No day sleeps off me and very unsettled nights. I can get him to fall asleep but he wakes within minutes of putting him down. Grunting and leg pulling. I hear abs feel his stomach gurgling. Of a night he spends a large portion of it grunting and straining like he's trying to pass wind. Also gets congested. I'm feeling so awful as my DD doesn't get much of my time, DS takes it all. Had a good cry about that earlier.
I'm so glad you found the tongue tie turtledove. It's a shame it wasn't picked up sooner. That's interesting regarding the intolerances.
Mildez yay for the health kick and reaching goals. I have no idea how much I weighed at time of delivery but I think I gained around 25kilos.
That's so stressful financial worries when on leave. I really feel for you!
Ps. Anyone Clucky for pregnancy again? I totally am. I think there's something wrong with me. Maybe because sadly there won't be another babe ever again for our family.
I am!! I thought I was crazy too. Not the tiredness & morning sickness. I just really miss feeling him wiggle inside me.
Really not ready to handle two babies tho!
How many children do you have, Rosie?
Bubby boy had his tongue tie reversed today. He's asleep now, but not looking forward to tonight when the anaesthetic wears off. Glad it is done though.
Ha ha turtledove I'm glad it's not just me. Morning sickness with a toddler is hard enough I would hate to have it with a young bub. We have two children, I would be happy to have one more in a few years. However my husband definitely doesn't want another, for several reasons. He will be getting a vasectomy in a few months. I have warned him that I will probably be very upset in a few years time that he's removed the option to have another, there is no changing his mind. How many children would you like?
I hope that he doesn't wake in pain! Poor darling but it's the best for him.
Turtledove now I am really confused. The literature I have been reading and what we have been discussing on facebook with other mums with bubs born Dec/Jan was in favour of not touching the upper lip unless it poses a dental risk. Obviously the tongue is an entirely different matter. How did your night go last night?
Rosey your not alone in feeling clucky. I think for me its the thought of never doing it again. I'm not a pregnancy fan but do love the wiggling baby inside. And I absolutely love having a baby. I myself would choose not to have anymore because of finances and the whole ttc thing but if DH wanted more I would need no convincing. My DH is also having a vasectomy. Is there anyway you can talk your husband out of it for now? It should be a joint decision and if your not happy about it I personal think he should wait. Not to say he will ever change his mind on more children but to make something so final if your not on the same page yet is a bit selfish. I did see a good friend go through the same thing. She was actually on her hands a knees begging him not to have it done when he was on his way to the procedure. She suffered severe depression afterwards for several years before he had it reversed and she recently had her 4th baby.
Your right Mildez it should be a joint decision. I am thinking with my heart though. Logically we should stop at two - two is hard enough work, financially draining, relationship stress, future plans impacted... etc. humph, I dunno.
I do know I am bloody exhausted. Our boy has no day naps off me, despite me trying for hours each day. Won't lay down in his bassinette until 10ish at night and only for several short stints. Then in bed with me to spend the remainer of the evening grunting. I feel like I'm doing something really wrong :( . He isn't often happy after a feed but seems to feed well. I hear and feel his stomach gurgling, which I don't remember my daughter having. Something is really bothering him - reflux, intolerance... I don't know. Have a pead referral for a few weeks time.
Mildez - parenting in general is confusing :( so much conflicting advice. This article explains why many say it doesn't need revising: The Difference Between a Lip Tie and a Normal Labial Frenulum ? DrGhaheri.com
Dr Ghaheri advises that it should only be released if it is causing breastfeeding problems or other symptoms.
Another good article from mommypotamus: A Step-By-Step Guide To Diagnosing Tongue/Lip Ties - MommypotamusMommypotamus |
I'm glad we had it done. Our little boy is feeding much better, his latch is wonderful - no more "straw sucking" or sliding off. The blisters on his lip are healing up.
The first night he was a bit grisly. Friday he was very clingy, and would only drink a small amount before crying. We seem to be through the worst now, panadol helps.
Rosey - sorry to hear that you and your husband aren't yet on the same page regarding possible future children. Hopefully you can reach an agreement before any permanent decisions are made.
I'm not sure how many children I want. Having a baby has given me a whole new respect for big families! I know I want another one, but not really ready to think about when yet... That would mean my little boy is no longer a baby! Hubby always wanted a big family close in age, but he realises how much work it is now, and is amazed that some people have more than one :) plus the emotional & physical toll for me, and the financial side. We'll see. Right now I want to make sure I'm enjoying this little guy best I can. Does it get easier as you go along?
How is your tooth Rosey?