thats exactly what i am feeling meercat! that if i did have another one, it would take the focus completely from Hamish and i dont want that. gahhh its so hard and so frustrating!!
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thats exactly what i am feeling meercat! that if i did have another one, it would take the focus completely from Hamish and i dont want that. gahhh its so hard and so frustrating!!
My biggest thing at the moment is that I think I will be a better parent this time around and I feel bad that I "learnt" on Tiah you know?
I am only just now finding my groove... And then this little boy will come and get all the benefits when Tiah had to have me stumbling through!
She is so excited about her baby brother though. She tells people he is "kicking awound!" and loves to listen to him on the monitor I have.
that is so cute! i dont know if hamish would understand that i was having another baby. i think he would. he seems to understand everything else but chooses not to listen or do it lol
Teresa - I've also had my doubts about Angus feeling left out with this baby too and been quite emotional about it all (during pregnancy). But I will be the 3rd one in our playgroup to have another baby and all the others seem to be coping well (big brothers/sisters). Angus is really excited about the baby and I think they will fit in well together. Angus is at the stage where he loves to help and I think being a big brother will help with his confidence.
As for the pregnancy bit - you never can tell.. My first pregnancy was fantastic, but this one has been quite hard on my body (MS, sore back, pelvis etc).
I also wanted a different birth to my first one which was lots of intervention. I wanted to go in to labour spontaneously, but I'm not sure that it's going to happen, despite my best efforts. I have an appointment tomorrow to make a date for induction next week.
Despite all that, I think in the end all that matters is that we have a healthy baby and that it's not too stressful.
Teresa I think subconsciously all the pregnancy scares are you wanting another baby!
I think every mother has doubts. Mine is "how can I possibly love another baby as much as I love jemma?" and another friend said it was her fear too and you just CAN! She's having her 4th baby in a couple months.
In saying that I've always known I want more than one. The universe making it hard for me has only reiterated that!!
Looking into wedding stuff now DP
Is home! Woohoo!!! Exciting :D
Hi ladies, hope everyone is well!
So I've been linked in with domestic violence counselling and have my individual appointment with the mediator on Monday. If they decide it's not safe or appropriate to be in the same room as him then I get a certificate for court. Haven't heard from him in over a month now.
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OMG! rooey - is that because of the emotional abuse he did? i hope things work out for you!
afm, told DH that i wanted another baby. he said he wasnt ready, then turned around last night and said he has been thinking about it more and more. hmmm interesting lol
Yeah because of the abuse, which continued after breaking up in the form of suicide threats, threatening to not give DS back during one of his times with him, and downright nasty language and accusations. Hoping that the light at the end of the tunnel appears soon.
That's promising that DH told you he's thinking about it more! He still goes on deployment yeah?
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rooey - not for the next 3 years while we are in wagga. he is an instructor now for the next 3 years so only does day shift monday to friday with no trips away! loving it at the moment :D
Ahh yeah I forgot you'd recently moved there!
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lol thats ok! i am starting to wonder whether its really worth talking to an ob about care i am going to get here and just go ahead and get pregnant and just see from there. ahhh decisions! :(
Do you know where you head after Wagga?
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no, we are talking about staying in wagga for a couple of extra years cos we really like it here.
:) great news Teresa
Nice to hear from you Rooey. Hope things get easier for you soon.
I'm going well, 20 weeks today thank goodness.
I don't think wagga is a bad town at all, played a few footy games there!
Thanks Rach :) I hope they start to ease up a bit, too. Halfway mark for you now!
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Hi ladies,
Well the day after my last post I went in to labour - hence why I haven't posted on here lately! This labour was so different from my first. People say that it is quicker the second time arouned and it really is true... I started getting mild contractions at about 1:30 in the afternoon and then by 6 my Mum told me that I really should call my DH who was still at work. So we got to the Birth Centre at 7:30 and I was 8cm dilated. After a little while I said to DH "why am I doing this? (drug free) I should just get an epidural and I can go to sleep" I had a student midwife looking after me mostly and I was a bit scared to ask about pain relief, but when I did she suggested a bath. So in I went and after a few contractions I yelled out "I can't do this" - just before my waters broke. Then a few contractions later I yelled out the same thing and the head popped out! It was such a lovely and peaceful experience - so, so different from when Angus was born... Funny, I was really scared about the birth, but I could go back and do it tomorrow - just can't do the pregnancy again :shakehead:
Hugo is doing really well. He's putting lots of weight on, although he was already 4.14kgs when he was born. Angus loves him so much and everything I was worried about before, like Angus feeling left out, is definately not the case. The only thing he gets funny about sometimes is the amount of time Hugo spends feeding and he comes over and says "no more drinkin'" and tries to get Hugo away from me - but it doesn't happen very often. He's such a good little helper and always brings me nappies, wipes etc for Hugo.
Rach - is it taking forever for you? My pregnancy just dragged on forever + a week and 1 day!! Now I can't believe it was almost 3 weeks ago that he was born. Are you going to get some pictures done? We did the other day, but I wish I started looking up photographers before he was born. I found this one that was reasonably priced, but I'm not really happy with what she did. I really wanted one with both boys, but Angus wasn't co operating on the day (he was tired) and she didn't even offer for us to come back on another day. Anyway, hope it is all going well for you...
Teresa - talking to an ob seems like a good idea. When exactly is anyone really ready for another baby? I had my concerns even after I was pregnant, but I know we did it at the right time. The boys will be close in age and it means I can go back to work sooner. The fact that you are settled for the next few years is really good. We are in the same positions for the next 3 years, although unfortunately DH is in a really demanding role and comes home late every night. Just as well my Mum is with us for the next 6 months :D I hope it all works out for you soon and you can add another one to your family! Oh and I remember you saying something in a previous post about wanting the next birth to be different to your last. Mine was and I felt so empowered after.
Rooey - that's horrible, but I hope everything gets better for you ((hugs))
Hi nat
Congratulations on Hugo's arrival! Cute name! I love it!
The pregnancy is going really fast for me. Probably because I buried my head in the sand for the first 12 weeks so if I miscarried again it wouldn't hurt so much I guess?
I'm getting lots of movement and kicks now so much more relaxed.
I got newborn pics with jemma at 9 days old so will do the same with this baby.
Glad to hear everything is going well with the new addition :)
thanks nat
well had another chat with DH last night. he is more concerned now with the financial side of things. especially with me taking maternity leave again, 2 lots of child care when i do return to work, and the extra cost of another child. i feel like we are just going around in circles some days i just dont know what to feel or think! i told him as long as the next one is a boy we shouldnt need clothes lol. we kept everything from hamish so the only things we would need is a car seat for each car for hamish and clothes if its a girl. i also thought that next time i would get a baby shower since i missed out on one for hamish so i could ask people to buy clothes. gah this is a really hard decision :(