Babies born ~ November 16th-30th 2009 #6

Hi Jess,
Welcome to bb, its a great place to get all kinds of advice, although lots of ppl will have the way it worked for them and others may totally disagree so... Ill just tell you what I know works for us :)

V was not sleeping very much during the day and because of this she was extremely overtired and unsettled at night, mind you she never was a great sleeper, my DH and I used to either feed or rock her to sleep then put her down. I was so exhausted that I ended up going to a sleep school called Tresillian and they helped me get her into a roper routine. I wrap her and give her a dummy and leave her with some music on in her room and she will cry a bit but then it gets less and less and she will drift off. Sometimes she makes a lot of noise and throws the dummy out and wants me to pick it up. I think she is at the age where she knows what happens if i throw it out..mummy comes back....So I have now stopped giving it back to her. If she is still upset a half an hour after she has thrown the dummy (usually she is asleep though after 15 mins or so) Ill give her back the dummy and rewrap her. There are a lot of ppl who would say what Im doing is cruel but she now sleeps 2 2hour blocks in the day and mostly all night but maybe I get up once to reassure her and wrap and lay her down. People (everyone) has commented on her being so much happier now.

All kiddies are different though and it depends on how you want to approach it. The nurses at Tresillian did tell me to disassociate bed time and feeding as the baby should know they are going to bed and that bed is an ok place.

Not sure if this is what you were after...Good luck though..

Just saw Alicias note too! See how we all have such varying advice? lol Trust yourself and your little man and you will be fine :)

Oh yes I always play music for Amelia too, have done since she came home from hossy. You're not cruel Natty, you've done a fab job with V's sleeping, a massive and rather quick turnaround because of it. They won't die from crying, sometimes we have to do it, last night when Amelia woke she tried on the cry thing and I could tell it wasn't a "I'm in pain cry" like the previous night so I just said, right, you've had a little cuddle, here's your dummy, mummy's going back to bed now and so are you and walked out, she cried for a minute and then went silent and that was it for the rest of the night. They try it on sometimes don't they!

Just quickly popping in to say a huge hello and welcome to Jess :hello:

Anyone who is a friend of Alicia's must be a rockstar ;) Belly Belly is awesome, especially the ladies on this thread:D

wow forgot about this thread since we chat elsewhere.....serenity has really got the hang of walking around on the furniture and i think shes teething cos she shoves everything in her mouth and she has lovely rosie cheeks

almost out of 000 too........almost hahah

Hey Jess!!! Welcome!! Great girls in this group! : )

I've got a funny little sleeper here too.....good advice from the girls....I dont have much to give as we are still learning what to do here as well!! After Abbey never putting herself to sleep once for 7 months I was shocked at how quick Abbey got used to putting herself to sleep so that was a surprise....still struggling with the whole staying asleep thing though! Ah well, 1 out of 2 is better than none at the moment!

You've got a great friend in Alicia - lovely lovely lady there!

xoxo

Welcome to our group Jess! I am the worst one to offer advice as Archie still sleeps with me at night and mostly in his pram during the day! haha! x

Hey JDsMum...

How did you get your little one to self settle ??? Asten doesn't even do that :(

Jess x

I ended up just doing the CC thing but it wasnt that traumatic and Abbey hasnt really lost it lost it and went completely ballistic or anything.....Natty has great advice on this sort of stuff too!! I just wait for her tired signs or if she's been up for about 3 hours or so then put her in her sleeping bag and put her in her cot with her little music thing on say night night and leave the room. If she's going off a little bit after 5 minutes or so I'll go back in and give her her dummy and give her a pat on the bum if she needs it and go back out.....I was surprised that she didnt put up more of a fight and wish I had done this earlier!!! Yesterday she went down for her 3 sleeps without a peep.....still not sleeping through though as I said, but we'll get there with that!! I find she sleeps better on her side or belly too...

Perseverance is the key!
All these girls have heaps to offer with great advice!! Got a good couple of sleepers in this group!
xoxox

Thanks heaps for that JDsMum, I just dont know if we should do controlled crying if he is teething.... we give him everything to help with the pain....and then I nurse him heaps and cuddle him heaps but he is still fighting and crying so one night we just had to let him cry, I feel bad :(

Just hope they come through soon for him and us x

Thanks heaps for that JDsMum, I just dont know if we should do controlled crying if he is teething.... we give him everything to help with the pain....and then I nurse him heaps and cuddle him heaps but he is still fighting and crying so one night we just had to let him cry, I feel bad :(

Just hope they come through soon for him and us x

I know...the whole thing is horrible and it's hard to know if its teeth or something else that's bothering them.....I have had a crap couple of nights with Abbey the last 2 nights and have given in and let her come onto the lounge with me or in bed....it's just too hard sometimes....she didnt go down well this morning for her morning nap and I had to pat her on the bum to sleep....just do whatever works for you to get through it!!!

aaaagh teething, I'm over it! We have had some bad nights the past week too, Amelia's top side teeth (fangs) are coming through, poor thing are giving her more grief than her bottom ones....she had a horrible cold last time so not sure how much of it was teeth or cold though. This time she actually screams with pain. Last night she woke up at 10pm with a real screaming pain, it took me 30 mins to get her to stop crying, I felt so helpless....I ended up giving her some panadol and actually put her in bed with us which we haven't done in months! She went straight to sleep though so that was good and we just put her back in her cot and she slept until 7.30am this morning! Poor things, I wish we could help them more. I can understand how she feels though, I had my tooth out a week ago tomorrow and I'm still living off Nurofen as the pain just won't go!

Hi Jess this is cut and pasted from another conversation so I hope it makes sense...

In a nutshell I wait for the tired signs, take her in the room, wrap and put on her tummy as she prefers it. She loses her dumy now and then but I wait till she is treally ****ed at losing it before I go in so she is grateful and doesnt spit it out again. If it becomes a game i leave her to suffer lol. She can now unwrap herself so I often find her standing or sitting so I just rewrap and lay her doiwn ahgain, I never pick her up, the idea is for her eventually to be able to self settle and not need me at all to sleep.

I used to stay in ther and pat her bum but that is because she was used to being rocked. Now I kiss her and leave but if she is distressed and only if she is actually distressed, not just ****ed at me for lraving her do I go in. Does that make sense? .

Oh sometimes I chuck a few dummies in so if she loses it there are spares lol.

It is tough Shayna but I figure I was exhausted too I got up to V last night once at 12 to feed her then she woke at 430 and woulkdnt go back to sleep and was still up at 530 so I got her up and gave her breakfast and she was all like "put me back in bed" lol so funny

Oh I just remembered something...If they are crying and then settle down a bit they are learning how to calm them selves and eventually can calm themselves to sleep so the more timnes shre goes quiet inbetween the crying, the better. .

I let V play until she is yelling lol then I wrap again sometimes I have to do it 3 or 4 times.... eventually she is so tired she doesnt bother...battle of the wills

Cheers Natty

Oh and also never do CC when they are sick because you want them to feel loved and safe and comforted when they are sick. :)

hey all i keep forgetting about here lol

im a very proud mummy to a BIG 1 year old

Happy birthday to Serenity (again!!)

I can't believe how old our babies are getting!!!

I know soon they will be going off to school!!!! I'm trying to hold off having another til 2012 but I get so clucky lol

haha! hopefully my cluckiness won't return after this one is born ;)

I'm clucky again now! I love babies! I remember you saying that you preferred toddlers, Mel... I think I do too! I love Archie at the age he is now though, he's heaps of fun!

Definitely prefer toddlers.. unless I'm cooking with them!! LOL

Same Mel, after last night's kitchen incident :( Love your Avvy!

Happy Birthday Serenity!!!!

Just thought I'd pop in and post as this is the first time I've been able to access the site in over two weeks! And this is the quietest I think I've ever seen this thread...

Mel - Yay you've got your monkeys back!

Woohoo for finally gettin on BB Suz!

I'm the opposite I prefer babies (however if I'd had reflux bubs I may think different), although it is nice when they can say what the want & you can understand, although DS1 whining when he can say what he wants does my head in. I have to live vicariously, no more babies here.

Hey, do you bub's kneel? Mr I spends a significant part of the day on his knees. He sits sometimes, somtimes one leg forward & one back, but lots of kneeling.

Abbey kneels alot....she gets right up on her knees (you know, standing position but on knees) and jigs about etc....holds onto her toys and things.....funny little mites at this age!

I've got some ingredients for home made pizza tonight (thanks snowy :) )
Did the groceries today, $411 (we shop fortnightly, although i usually have to go back for bread and milk during the week). How much to the rest of you spend per week?? Soo faarking expensive.
Snowy Feo just walks/runs/climbs everywhere now. I'm getting so sick of finding him on the coffee table, chairs.. you name it, he's up there. A bloody climber!! grr!
Mel i must have missed why you've decided to go vego??

we spend $300 a week on food maybe a bit more lol bunch of pigs here that eat all the fruit in the first two days lol

I'm terrible at getting everything at one time, I normally go at least twice a week. Groceries today were $110, fruit & veg on Sunday $20, I just got home & realised I have no onions so have to get some when I pick DS1 up & I'll probably remember more before I go.

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I'm terrible at getting everything at one time, I normally go at least twice a week. Groceries today were $110, fruit & veg on Sunday $20, I just got home & realised I have no onions so have to get some when I pick DS1 up & I'll probably remember more before I go.

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Snowy I'm a bit like this too. I find if I just go to the corner store, I save money. Although items are always more expensive, atleast I just stick to just bread and milk. As opposed to bread, milk, gee that chocolate would be nice, Oh i might get some coke while i'm here, oh do we need some more yoghurt?? LOL. IYKWIM?

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we spend $300 a week on food maybe a bit more lol bunch of pigs here that eat all the fruit in the first two days lol

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4 kids tho mon, I'd imagine it'd be around that mark, if not more!

heeeeeellllloooo baby buddies!
such a long time! miss you all!
happy birthday issac
happy birthday violet!
x madame x

Hehe hello Madame!

:hello: Isaac had a quiet birthday & managed to open a part of his pressies before his brother took over.

Why hi there pretty ladies :)

Heh heh heh Kym, thought I'd pop back in here too...

What's doing?

Howdy girls! xx

Hey ladies :)

I was just clicking through this site thinking to myself, "man this place is getting more and more boring" - and there you all were!

:heartbeat: Now time for a nap! lol
xox

Ladies, I am so excited that some of you are going through the pregnancy journey again. :)
Such a special group of women, I can't wait to meet all the new additions!

Mel did you go late, or early with your previous pregnancies?? :think:

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Mel did you go late, or early with your previous pregnancies?? :think:

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Wow I nearly forgot about this thread!!!!

Aricyn was taken out at 39 +1, Mehkelti was born at 42 weeks, and Eden was 41 + 5. So I know I'll go closer to April than anything else this time around!! :D

How is everyone else travelling? ;)

Argh, isn't going over the worst thing ever!! Feo was 8 days over too.

I know, i had to seriously search for this thread. Took a while too!

:hello: I'm off to the BB Brisbane meet. Hope DS2 sleeps for the drive or at least doesn't crack up!