OMG cass that sounds just awful. REST REST REST!
G- is L ok today> what did Dr say?
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OMG cass that sounds just awful. REST REST REST!
G- is L ok today> what did Dr say?
bbl girls.
thanks girls :hug:
G: it is a bit serious. my GP was not happy and told me that the slightest thing could set my heart off. but TBH there's not a great deal that i can do, other than parent from the couch and try my hardest not to exert.
How is L today? i feel for him if it is tonsilitis. poor poppet. hopefully though the ENT can bump him up the list.
Arte: yeah, i guess that is what he is checking for? i had a throat infection that i had ABs for then this happened...
DH is back but doesnt really have much time off. he just went into work but will be there until about 9pm. thankfully dinner is ready and i will just have to bypass kids baths and dress marta on the floor. argh, i am a bit stressed about it all :(
oh no cass that sounds absolutely terrible.
its times like this you really notice the lack of support isn't it? xo
L has some ulcers on his tonsils but not tonsillitis. he is much better today and has been eating and went to playgroup.
Cass :hug: take care, rheumatic fever is nasty. Did your Dr put you on a course of anti-inflammatories along with the ABs? I think that's fairly important to keep the inflammation down around your joints/heart. It might be worth getting DH to organise a few days of carers leave. :hug:
yep, GP has me on a fairly regimented dose of anti inflammatories. they are helping a bit with acute pain but dont seem to help with the tenderness and pins and needles.
bedrest is just too hard. i have been sitting on the couch as much as possible, but when the girls need lunch etc it is impossible as i have to lift M up into the highchair (and boy do you feel it!).
DH has no time off and unfortunately even if he did, his way of dealing with me is to basically ignore me as he is freaking out a bit. so in a way i feel that i now have more to do ITMS....
Arte: woot woo on the getting the invites out! i also had to invite everyone from playgroup as well, i guess i would of just felt bad to leave some kids out ITMS. means alot more organising, but hopefully they will all have a gorgeous time and it will be worth it.
Cass! Forget the highchair - for the next few days the kids eat on a picnic blanket on the lounge floor! Feed them cleanish things like cheese on toast, apples etc that don't leave sauce stains. Who cares if they eat too much junk and watch too much t.v for a few days - their turn to take one for the team. Keep a pile of nappies and a step by the couch so M can half climb up for changes. What other half assed parenting advice can I think of.....skip bath time, don't be afraid to use L as an extendable arm!
You need to look after yourself xx
Oh Cass, you poor thing. Look after yourself, I'm sure L will be a good little helper. Arte has some very good ideas there!
Cass, that is really worrying :hug: Did they give you any idea of how long it can last? If Dh can't get leave to help you, can you access some home help?
Cass, I've been really worried for you :hug: It's one of those times I wish I had a big virtual DH-slapper that could reach through the screen and slap your DH for you. Can you phone a friend to pop around and help for an hour or two?
hows everything going cass?
Cass I hope your ok, are you feeling any better? Please look after yourself, Arte had some great ideas.
hi girls,
thanks for all your thoughts xx i thought i was a bit better yesterday, but today feel like have been hit by a truck. sooo frustrating! it is such a gross feeling with the pins and needles and wobbly legs. thankfully it is just M today at home, so can bring in some of those ideas from arte (thanks babe!) with relative ease. that, and she is easily placated by the boob lol.
thankfully i have a friend coming on saturday to help out and DH can get tomorrow off :dance:
just really dont feel well :(
Cass - I am not meaning to be too direct but i am at work so have to be quick. Your DH must take some time off, it is just BS that he is going to work when you are this unwell and I am sure he would have access to carers leave or something like that. IMO this is the most important thing he can do right now, and no piece of work/deadline/meeting shoyld come beforeit. I am surprised they sent you home if they suspect rheumatic fever... you poor thing!
I hope your DH isnt playing soccer this weekend - its great your friend is coming to help but what yoiu really need is for Dh to take the girls all day - and for you to have rest/quiet and no demands. even with someone coming over to help, if you are the parent who is home they will demand things of you and i think this is just not on when you arr so unwell.
He is prob hiding out a bit bc he is freaked out that you are unwell. he needs to pull his socks up, buikd a bridge and get his %ss home to help you - the ramifications of you not recovering or going downhill are much worse...
There - again sorry if its blunt (and yep I am feeling a tad moody today!)
Hugs to you
xxx
Well said MP
ok i am back... i hope i havent offended anyone with my rant!
Cass - I dont think there is much I can do to help you but if you would like me to cook and drop around some food i would seriously be very happy to do so. pls PM me if you would like to - you know I love a cook up and i am happy to do this for you. xxx
We are having quite a few 'boundary pushing' issues with N. I just bought 1.2.3. magic. anyone read/used it? i need to find some time to read it. he has changed so mcuh recently - really becoming a boy now. developing so fast - can write his name!!! I think he has had the testosterone surge they say boy shave around this age... man he pushes my buttons!!! J is also much more hard work than N was at this age - so dreading what he will be like at 4!!!!! they are delightful together though and even strangers in cafes/shops mention to me how beautofully they get along so that makes my heart sing!
i am flat out at work - half enjoying and half not!!! i have just started to work from home on a wed and that makes it all a lot easier. am finding the juggling pretty hard.
oooh we went to Vue de Monde for lunch on Sunday. once in a lifetime experience but OMG so amazing!
Well said MP. Cass when are you going back to be reviewed by your doc?
I keep hearing of this 1.2.3. Magic bizzo. What's the gist of it? We've had the boundary pushing too, I whined about it a few posts back. It's absolutely worst when it's me and E alone, I find it completely exhausting. I've started sending her to time out in the hallway, she screams like her heart is breaking so it's quite harrowing, I would welcome some kind of "Magic" strategy instead.
MP - I'm guessing Vue de Monde is some swizzo restaurant? Why once-in-a-lifetime? Did it cost a kidney to get in? :lol:
oh MP you know that i could never say no to food!!
and dont worry, no offense here! it is exactly what i have been thinking. feeling a bit sorry for myself today, and then when DH did call and ask if he should come back home, what did i say...no. :wall: WTF is wrong with me??!!!! :wall:
tomorrow i see the GP again and we'll see where i stand a bit better. i was secretly hoping to not have anymore pain and tenderness though :(
(also, sorry for hijacking our wee thread...i am just a bit bummed that i can't get 'normal' sick lol).
what is 1 2 3 Magic? i think whatever it is i need it :rofl: L is a bit full on ATM and if it helps understand her then i must have it!
MD: vue is like total spesh! in fact, i think we should all sell a kidney and then have our Sept 07 meet up there :lol:
Cass, I really feel for you sweetie. Why do we do that to ourselves? It took me a long time to admit that I might've had a lot more help and support when I was pregnant and barely able to walk if I had just TOLD someone how shockingly appallingly I was NOT coping at the time. :hug: You could always ring DH back, you know.
Ring him and tell him to come home.
I'll PM you about food. If Dh is working I think he is close to our place so he may be able to collect it. If not I will drive it over to you on weekend.
xxx
I agree with the others Cass, ring and get him home. He has rocks in his head for even going in at all today! If it is rheumatic fever then it is serious. Like scary serious. Especially since your heart is inflamed - it can cause long term damage to your heart valves. Not a time to be messing around with politeness. Put yourself first girly!
The 1.2.3. Magic thing is the counting evenly giving them a chance to stop what they are doing and then a time out when you get to 3? We already sort of do that and it works most of the time. Except when he keeps doing it and says he will stop when I get to 2. Grrrrr.
We got the new attitude a few months back but he seems to have settled again now. Apart from the hand. If I am telling him off he puts out his hand and says he can't hear me!! Nothing makes you want to slap someone more than getting the 'talk to the hand'!
MP, DH and I keep being amazed at how much of a big boy W seems all of a sudden. He randomly started cleaning the lounge after dinner the other night and we were staring at each other thinking WTF!, then he piled it all in the corner and asked if cleaning up had earned him any money lmao!
We've got 1-2-3 Magic and sort of use it, but not specifically. It's very big on only counting for behaviour you want to stop, but rewarding for behaviour you want (ie count for whinging, banging, noise but reward for getting dressed, tidying up etc). Sometimes though we have a complete meltdown when we start counting, just the threat of counting seems to really set her off sometimes and I'm not sure what to do about that.
On a plus side we seem in the last fortnight to have progressed to DD getting dressed all by herself. She has been able to for yonks, but preferred me to do it and I have folded because I am soft and mornings are a bit of a rush, but I put my foot down last week. Seems to be working, she and DH have a race each morning, but sometimes she starts before he's even out of the shower. I've got a little chart up that she can tick off for her jobs. They are taking her night time nappy off, getting dressed, putting shoes on, putting cutlery on the table and emptying her lunch box.
Cass - I'm not sure what to say apart from 'you're a duffer!!' Why did you say no??? Not that I can talk, no is hardly in my vocabulary. Hope the doctor's trip goes well tomorrow, you really need a couple of nice quiet days with nothing to stress about.
*sigh* Sounds like I invented 1-2-3 magic about 13 years ago, then. Except I count to 5 because it allows for increasing dramatic effect on 3 and 4. In fact, I often hear myself saying, "Don't make me count!" :lol: Except it's usually when she's not doing something I asked (ie dancing around instead of sitting down eating her breakfast).
Cass, hope it doesn't feel like we are picking on you or your DH (well, maybe your DH a bit), just a lot of concern in here. You took tonsillitis to the extreme, would hate to see you do the same with this :hug: Please, please rest. Make sure you utilize your DH and friend fully over the next couple of days, they want to help so don't be afraid to ask.
Cally, I cracked it with W about a week ago with his shoes - same story, has been able to do his own shoes for well over a year but wouldn't do one particular pair and I was indulging him but mean mumma came out the other day 'cos I just can't be bending down to do it now. I still do his socks, lord knows we have had enough tantrums over socks ("BUT THEY ARE TWIIIIIISTTTTEED!) that I just can't be bothered and he is happy enough to sit on the couch where I can reach.
MD, sucks when you pre-invented a product that got someone else rich! I swear my cousin and I invented 2 in 1 shampoo and conditioner when we were little - it was called shamditioner lol
Last thursday we went out for a walk in the snow with snow boots, hats and jackets. Today we went out for a walk in full sunshine with shorts, tee-shirts and skirts!
oh girls you guys have been amazing :hug:
by some sweet relief DH did end up coming home early! it was such a big relief you have no idea! he still mananged to ask if i had put the washing out lol. but i was firm and decided to not move off the couch AT ALL for 2 hours. it was hard, having to listen to him chase the girls and listen as i could hear the girls digging up the plants and then 20 minutes later listen as he realised lol. but i did manage to sleep.
thankfully he has all day tomorrow off and be will taking the girls out for loads of trips. i have the GP appt tomorrow :crossfingers: that it goes well and that i am on the mend. TBH i have no idea! all my limbs still feel achey and swollen and i am fast out of breath, but hopefully by tomorrow it will be a bit better.
thanks for all your love, it really means alot xx
Cally: oohhh we also had shoe issues! L decided that all of a sudden she couldnt do the straps! and then it morphed into other things like buttons on shirts, putting singlets on....oh my goodness!
:grouphug: Cass. I'm glad your DH came home. xx
Arte I tried to rep you - for inventing Shamditioner! :rofl: Gotta share the love. xxx
You have to admit that Shamditioner has a nicer ring to it than Conpoo :)
Arte - love shamditioner!!
Cass - so glad that DH came through for you and you managed to get a break and a nap.
some good news! i am on the mend :leap:
ok, so my throat is still a bit ick, and i have a headache and apparently some cysts in the back of my knees are still inflammed (oh man i am must be gorgeous lol), BUT the good news is that he thinks that i am recovering normally! wahoooooo!
have low iron again, but apparently he reckons that after the tonsilitis drama that it can take years to get that back and stay up in normal levels. i dont mind having to take iron supplements...too easy!
(can you tell that i am excited??).
just have to take it easy for the next few days and not stress the ol' body, but this is good news!
now i am hoping to be 100% for Leila's 4th birthday (next friday! :dance:)
That is great news Cass! Have you considered the iron injections? I have just had a series of them because I can't take pills. They are over and done with very quickly. Downside - the big black stain that comes up on my arse cheek that stayed for two years after the injections I had before A was born!
I am not sure if this baby realises it is the third one in 4 years, but if she keeps head butting like she is then she will just fall out! Hoping she stays put until next weekend - the kids have both started coughing in the last couple of days and I would rather they were over that before we get a newborn. But I guess there is no stopping her if she wants to come.
Arte, was that the sound of the microwave going DING??! Are you due? I'd like to put in my order for a birthday-buddy for Missy E on the 11th, thanks. That's a Sunday. Does that suit you? ;).
Cass, yay for recuperation! :cheer: But don't get ahead of yourself. You still need to give yourself plenty of recovery time. :hug:
How's the Trill-ster going these days?
Well the exciting news of the week was that the greengrocer was selling eeny teeny bananas for the bargain price of $8.99! Good times roll! I can feel some banana pancakes coming on...
MD, not due until the 9th. Hoping to avoid the 5th and 10th (A and W's birthdays) but any other time is alright. I just have to fit it in between making the birthday cakes, wrapping the presents and organizing the kids party.
Should I even tell you that I had to make a smoothie today because our $2.99/kg banana's were going black. Usually I just throw them out.
$2.99 for bananas? oh man, they were the days. here they are still very much a gourmet treat lol.
MD: thanks for the tip! i must admit that i got a *bit* excited and tried to clean the girls room. ended up flat on my back on Ls bed with a massive dizzy spell lol. argh! i hate being unwell!!
MP: thanks so much for sending the meal over tomorrow :hug: it comes as great timing as DH is away tonight and tomorrow night and monday night, so one less meal to prepare when standing up for any period longer than 5 mintues is yuk is just the best. thank you thank you thank you :hug:
Arte: i reckon the 2nd and the 7th of September are great days (I think MD might agree with the 7th ;)). But then again, we could try to fill up most of the dates of september. i reckon between you and me we can make it happen :rofl:
great that you are on the mend cass! :)
how lovely of mp to bring you some yummy mp food :)
arte- i would say that the 7th oct is a good date to have a baby (L's birthday) but i think you'll kill me!!! LOL
md- mmmmm banana pancakes
G, there is no freaking way I am holding out until October!
Would like to avoid the 4th and 7th if possible - my cousins birthday's - mainly because they were both due to have daughters on my birthday in May and neither of them had the good manners to deliver on time! But then twice I have passed them over too lol
Cass, I don't know if your half italian kids can lower themselves, but frozen pizza from the supermarket is a life saver sometimes. When I was sick when DH was away my kids ate a lot of processed chicken and boxed pizza.
MP, that is lovely of you to make food for Cass - bet it is something fabulous!
yeah i was thinking today that some of those frozen chicken kievs or schnitzels might be a good idea. but the pizza would be easier still as it is just throw in the oven...i will get DH to get some on Sunday (if he is home :rolleyes:). as it stands i still dont want to drive, too dizzy and sore.
G: 7th of october :rofl: she will sooo kill you hahahaha!
yeah i didn't think you'd be too keen for the 7th of october. geez it nearly killed me waiting that long!!! i wouldn't wish it on anyone else LOL
my kids love those frozen dinosaur nuggets and potato gems. great dinner!!!
We went out for dinner tonight. K had chips and sauce with salad and then ice cream. I think she ate half a lettuce leaf, the rest of the meal was white (apart from the red sauce and brown topping). Vegie stirfry tomorrow night.
Cass - so glad you are on the mend, don't rush into anything, the girls room can stay messy for a few more days!!
MP - you are the best baby buddy
Arte - $2.99 bananas - WOW!! Not so wow about iron stains for 2 years.
Whenever I'm missing the bananas, I always think of that time in Little House on the Prairie when "Santa" had to ride through snow and ?flood waters? and the kids were all besides themselves with joy because they each got a stick of peppermint candy and a WHOLE ORANGE for christmas (!!!) Kinda puts it all in perspective LOL.
Cally, the kids meals at restaurants are often tragic. Not that we dine out, yannow, but I do have hazy memories...
Yeah, don't wait until October Arte. September folks are good folks. (*cheesy grin*)
Cass, is your friend still coming around today? I am sure she wouldn't mind popping out to the shop for some convenience foods for you :hug:
Cally, that is what I don't get about the McD's debate - doesn't matter if you go to a good restaurant or a takeaways, the kids meals are all chips and deep fry anyway! If they even eat any of it.
So not waiting until October! This is definitely the most uncomfortable pregnancy, although it has got a lot better in the last few days since she has moved from posterior and engaged. Before she was pressing on something and I could only lift my left leg a few inches - was making it very hard to get in the car!