Babies Born ~ September 2007 #74

Well, it looks like we won't be moving :) I made DH contact the people to ask about the salary before he bothered to take two days off and travel hours to have a trial with them. Turns out they are offering a 35K base salary pay cut, bonuses and super that are better than now but overall we would end up on a much lower day to day living budget so it is probably a no.

Got hit with a tummy bug yesterday. It has been ages and was just as unpleasant as I remembered lol. I missed out on going to the A & P show where W got a third place for some of his artwork.

Yay for no moving but BOO for tummy bug! they suck!

Miss L is doing some active after school program this afternoon...feels weird not picking her up from school at the right time...feels like i am forgetting to get her lol.

also beginning to have doubts about the school...

9000 posts Cass!

What is making you have doubts? And is Miss E walking!! Awesome!

what? OmG! I am on here way too much :rofl:

just a bit of a gut feeling ITMS. Miss L is super resilient and all, but there are things about the conformity and strictness that is rubbing me the wrong way. everyone is lovely and super involved in the learning etc it's just that there is a HUGE focus on rules and strict behaviour modelling. Coming from a school of self directed learning it is a huge shock to the system for both DH and I and DD. we are not running for the hills just yet, but it is in my radar. I cannot change her from school to school but i do need to work out plan b if need be.

Which school did you end up going with Cass? The little one further away or the bigger one close by? DD does the active after school thing at after school care - 2 different activities a week. She's really enjoyed all the different sports they've done.

Arte - so you didn't really need to make a decision about moving, it was made for you.

Looks like there is an improved offer coming...

Cass, it probably won't take long to adjust to the new school, but if you think it might never quite sit right then I would suggest having a look at the other school asap, before she invests too much time making new friends.

W has his first wobbly tooth!! How long do they wriggle for before they fall out?

Arte - I can't remember with Miss K's bottom ones, but her top teeth are currently wobbly and have been since September/October. I tried pulling one out this morning so she would be gappy for the school photos, but it's not quite there yet.

That is 5 months of wriggle!! OMG, I so want it to fall out lol. I have been waiting ages to do the tooth fairy thing. Got so impatient last week that the fairy left them all a note thanking them for all their good brushing. Glitter and everything.

So the potential employer matched and even slightly bettered the current package, with a fast track to South Island manager and subsequent pay increase. Swirling head. I don't want to say goodbyes and I love the area but we do have to move before high school and this is DH's dream job. With most of my regular crowd moving away from the kindy scene it sort of feels like an ending anyway. And if we move we could get a few acres, a pony for the kids....and is it insane to want to hatch an emu?

Wow arte that sounds a bit exciting!! What are you guys thinking? When do you have to make a decision?

cally I had a chuckle at you trying to make her happy for pics. Ns top teeth are wobbly and I'm hoping for the same thing. His pics are on Wednesday tho so I'm thinking I'm out of luck

An emu???? I like the sound of a pony.

She would have looked better for pics with a proper gap - her jaw has grown heaps in the last month and her top teeth are sitting there with massive gaps next to them ready for the new grown up teeth. Looks weird.

Arte, I'm not sure anyone fully understands what's happening in ADHD and the one thing that amazed me when I was reading up on narcolepsy & stimulants etc is the massive overlap between people with sleep disorders and those with "ADHD" and I can tell you that a lot of those people were also questioning which of those things were the symptom and which were the cause. Good to hear little A is sleeping well now though. :D

One of E's wobblies came out pretty quickly (a few weeks) and the tooth grew through really fast. The other one though is hanging on for dear life (!) even though the other one is now growing through behind it (!!). So she's been instructed to wobble it sideways every day, but at the end of the month we're going back to the dentist for removal if the wobbling doesn't do the trick. PMSL @ the fairy note & glitter!

Oh yeah, the new offer sounds tempting and challenging and scary and possibly exciting all at once. I'm just not sure about the emu part LOL. What way are you leaning?

Cass, sorry to hear you're starting to get question marks re the school. Is it all the teachers or just the class she is in (because different teachers create very very different learning environments).

As for us, all good here. Relishing the cooler weather this week. It's made a difference for the family too, everyone is sleeping better and is calmer and happier :).

And yeah, don't I look fetching in orange?

You do look lovely in Orange MD :)

I think we were going to move :( There isn't a formal job offer yet but should be here in the next couple of weeks. DH has already told work because they were pressuring him for dates for a conference in Canada and he most likely won't be there for it. I keep bursting into tears at the thought of leaving everyone lol. Not coping very well really. This isn't what I want to do but there is no way that we can stay because DH really wants to do it and my life would become very unpleasant very quickly if I said no. So probably in the April holidays after Easter I will be packing up my life and taking my crumbly marriage and dubious mental health down the the far reaches of nowhere to start all over again. Will have to work on being positive for the kids. W has a really good friend at school and it will be very upsetting for him to leave. A loves her friends but I think the g-parents will trump that. They don't know yet.

Sorry for the pity party. Today is my anniversary and I look at my wedding photo hanging on the wall and want to ***** slap some sense into that stupid girl lol

Arte :hug: :hug: :hug:

Oh sweetie. I feel for you. This could be me in 6 months time too (except minus the bit about family support & a payrise). But you know what, it is what it is. Write down all your options (even the unpleasant/unusual ones) on a piece of paper and decide which ones are the ones you're prepared to run with. Then make your own choice - even if it's choosing the least **** option. Trust me, that one step will help you connect with whatever the year is going to bring in a more positive way. Or, as I like to say, IT COULD BE WORSE. I know from my own life experience that there *will* be new friends, new opportunities, new good times in the new place - you just have to sustain feeling uncomfortable for a little while through the transition. You can do this! xxx

Thanks MD xx

Where are they thinking of sending you? That really sucks.

Oh Arte :( I totes feel for you...that was where we were at with our move. kinda backed into a corner as DH was absolutely hating the city. I kept putting off any potential move and tried and tried to make it work while we were there, but in the end, he was so hating it that it was becoming really unpleasant at home...every.little.thing would annoy him (from the way the house looked, to the architect plans, to the bricks, to the kids playing on the grass, to the plants i bought yada yada. it was so gross.

not sure that the move was/is a good idea, but it has saved our marriage for the interim! I like it well enough but i was happier where i was and i have to be careful to not let resentment cloud my judgement on this place (because it really is a lovely town and the house is just sublime).

An emu...that could be cool. one of our neighbours emus got out the other day...they do that apparently. in many respects they remind me of goats. cool, but another child in the house hahahaha

Yeah, that is what it is coming down to Cass. DH wants to go and I can't survive the marriage if he doesn't get his way. Already any voiced opposition has led to the "you are selfish, you only think of yourself" rant. It will only go downhill from there. And it looks like country life is impractical for school/kindy runs so we will be in a house in town. No emu :( Don't know if I can bottle up my resentment this time (about the move in general, not just the emu lol).

:hug: to both of you.

In answer to your question, Arte, nowhere and anywhere. The axe could fall at any time, if you know what I mean. Last year was particularly horrible while we waited something like 5 months to find out if we had to move somewhere we didn't want to go. My resentment has topped out too. It is what it is.

I hope everyone's having a great weekend. I'm celebrating (on the inside) because E's "shark tooth" (the one with the new tooth growing in behind it) has finally fallen out, saving us from a repeat trip to the dentist to have it forcibly removed. *insert gappy grin*