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Mel, Lil is the same. This morning she had a vegemite sandwich, half of my cornflakes, an egg on toast. With in about 1 1/2hrs. Then wanted more. I told her no that she has to wait. I'm going to try teaching her to wait for food. Last night she had a big bowl of spaghetti, a long bread roll with half peanut butter and half vegemite, half a punnet of strawberries, some milk and water, and 3 little wafer biscuits. Within 2hrs. That is alot of food for a little kid and she needs to learn to wait. It's not like I'm starving her. She will alos sob and cry like she's never eaten before, but it's time she stopped demanding stuff and getting everything she asks for.
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I'm wondering if this is a phase or just that they need to learn to control their....i dunno I am at a loss! Olivia has just raided the cupboard and got popcorn out! Its only been 1 and aquarter hours since she had morning tea. She cant wait for lunch. Am I being to soft or should I just put a lock on the cupboard? Oh and she also had another banana!
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Woohooo, looks great Mel! YAY!!!
Kris - no offense hun, the doc's going to reassess in March if I'm not UTD by then. After all, I'm currently 38 and Trev's 47 ...
Pip is so cute! We do the whole "kiss it better" thing, and yesterday evening we were walking around Sherbrooke Forest and he was complaining he had a sore head (we thought he bumped it) and he kept asking us to kiss his hair better.
Then a little while later he asked me to kiss his chin better, but kept moving his chin up until I was kissing his neck. That continued until it occured to me to ask where his neck hurt - inside! So he had a sore throat, but couldn't tell us, only that he had a sore neck that needed to be kissed better :)
Same as when he had a tummy ache, he told us he needed moogoo on his tummy to make it all better :)
Aren't they just the cutest?
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Hi!
Feeling much better this arvo...kids are very tired and feral though so hopefully will have a sleep - Ethans fighting it and we've put Dylan down so cross fingers he'll sleep...
Louis is chilling out watching tv...
I know I've commited to heaps this term but I just want the boys to have some fun before bubs comes along! Ethan won't be doing gymbaroo after the baby arrives and the rest of the activities we'll be playing by ear...
I guess I don't want them to miss out because we've got so many kids iykwim?? It was very easy with just the 2 of them to take them here there and everywhere for activities and I just don't want it to be too different now that another babies on it's way. Louis has had babies arrive one after the other and has been such a great big brother and he is such a responsible boy I want him to be able to be rewarded!! Also, he goes to school next year so this is my last year with him at home - where has the time gone??
Anyway.... I'll be right - just needed a good teary I think!!
As for dh, he really is so super supportive!! I can't complain there at all really...
I really do appreciate all your support guys!! xo Means a lot to me that I can come on here and vent and have you guys listen (as such!) Don't have much of that in my family that's for sure!!
Kel - Have an aweseome trip!!! I hope the kids go ok in the car! The dvd should help I would imagine - I always wondered if they'd get car sick watching it??
Hope you feel better soon too - I've never had an ear infection so I can only imagine what a horrible feeling it would be!!!
Mel - Fair enough keeping it quiet for a while - hopefully the time will go super fast!! Yeah at Adam being home tomorrow - that will be nice for you!
In regards to food...it would do my head in getting food all the time as well...I majority of the time do brekky, snack, lunch, snack and dinner...Occassionally I will give Ethan a bikkie or a bit extra because he's fussy with s/wiches at lunch but other than that, that's it!!
So for my 2 big boys it's normally - banana, yog and 2 x toast for brekky, piece of fruit or such for snack, s/wich and choccy milk for lunch, muffin or fruit or bikkies or combo for aft snack and then dinner with sometimes a cordial/juice but most often just water. Obviously this varies but that's basics...if they ask for more I say it isn't snack time or it isn't lunch time and that's that. They're offered water in between those times if they're hungry - oh and if they don't eat their lunch it goes in the fridge and they can eat it later - I'm not going to all that trouble just to throw it out that's for sure. I also find it's best if they're hungry for dinner because then they have a big meal and are happy. I never make them finish their plate I just ask if they've had enough and if their tummy's happy...if they don't eat much I just tell them there's no more food so they may as well eat what's there! LOL! I probably sound like a mean mummy but it makes like much much easier!!
I must say that they def don't have free access to the pantry/fridge for helping themselves...if they want something they ask...the only time they get their own stuff is in the early am when they both grab a yoghurt each to eat if I'm still in bed or in the shower...
Personally I think it's important that they learn to regulate within reason what they're eating but most importantly that they don't learn to eat as something to do when they're bored or are not sure what else to do...such a bad habit us adults get into that if we can help them avoid that when they're young it's got to be of a benefit!!
Anyway...enough of my rambling - good luck with it Mel - I'm sure you'll work it out!!
Kaz - Great to hear from you! Here's hoping your utd by March but otherwise it's great to know you have another option!! I'm all for it for people when you see the stress they go under ttc...big hugs to you guys - hope it all happens soon anyway!! xo
Pip sounds very cute with his sore throat and sore tummy! (hmm that sounds odd - LOL) They're all getting so big now!!
Ok, better go - I have the most feral house but can't really be bothered cleaning it - might get a load of washing on though while the weathers so hot and windy!!
Chat later!
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Its funny Kristie...up until a couple of months ago I would have that same routine. I dont know how that went out the window. Do you lock your fridge? I dont want to lock everything because I want them to be responsible enought to go in and get things. I suppose for me its a good learning process and I have to find what works! I am wondering if she has worms! I think i just need to be more disciplined!
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Hi ladies, so lovely to hear from everyone!!
Mel, I have been giving Lily what ever food she asks for, or if she says she's hungry, I give her something to eat, even if it's close to meal time. But I am starting to stop this. She isn't allowed to go to the cupboard for herself and I have locks on the fridge and cupboards they can reach. I am teaching her to ask to go to the fridge. At my mums she will go to the fridge and cupboards on her own and I make her put whatever back and ask mum first. I was never allowed to take anything from the fridge without asking first, and at almost 32 I still don't!!
I had beengiving her what she wants with the thought that she knows when she's hungry and will eat, which she was, she was just a grazer, but now she's telling me she's hungry 5mins after she's eaten a big meal. There's no way she would be hungry every time she says she is! I will be regulating her food more now. I don't mind her grazing, but I won't be giving into her every whim now, particularly near dinner time, I'm so sick of cooking and they don't eat it! Like Kris says, she needs to learn about hunger and regulate their own food intake. Now is a good time for us to do that here. I think sometimes she is definately eating out of boredom. I need to challenge her more!
Kaz, how cute of Pip needing his tummy and neck kissed better. It's actually quite clever that he could identify that it's sore and needs to be kissed better, especially his throat, a sore throat is kind of hard to identify, lol! I hope he's feeling ok today.
And good luck with ttc for the next few months, I will cross everything for you!
Kris, glad you're feeling better now, sometimes a good cry is so cathartic!!
Ok gotta go and try to sort my house out before we go away tomorrow!
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Hi!
Had a lazy morning this morning - no sleep in but have spent so some time lazily reading...won't be doing too much for the rest of the day either! LOL!
Dh and I chilled out last night and watched a movie as well which was nice...
Mel - Nup no locks on the fridge/pantry - but then the boys have never got into it...
Kel - Have a great trip away - looking forward to hearing about it when you get back! Drive safely!
Enjoy your Sunday's!!
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you see i have locks on everything. Olivia was terrible right from the word go and would get into stuff. Rebecca is just the same! I dont have a lock on the pantry or the fridge...well i do on the fridge but we dont use it. Olivia has the door open every 5 minutes...i'm hungry mummy! I have had a really crap day with her and food. More sobbing, I have made her wait. She just stands at the fridge with the door open, trying to climb the shelves. Then becca gets into it too! I'm quickly loosing it in reguards to this whole hunger issue. I think I need dh home...5 more hours!
Today I have tried hard to sort through the endless amount of toys we have. So far I have chucked 2 bags in the bin and have a huge bag for the op shop. I still have loads inside and dont know what to get rid of. I am also over the girls having so much stuff that they hardly play with. I think if I got rid of most of it they would hardly notice.I hate clutter it drives me mad. Tomorrow I have more bookwork to do and once that is finished I am going to get down to business. We really need things sorted before we start the reno. especially seeing we are more than likey going to move out!
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Hey Mel...sounds like persistance will be the key here - she's probably just pushing because she knows you'll give in!! (no offence of course!!) Have you tried distracting the girls with other things - such as let's go and do this first and then it will be snack time or 30min until lunchtime why don't you go and get some stories or colouring to do until then?? etc...Or even letting them know what the plan is for the day in advance - after brekky we're going to have some play time or art and craft and then we'll have a snack...then they know what's coming??? Just some ideas - I'm sure you'll find something that works for you guys!!
I hear you on the toys! I still haven't completely finished sorting out their stuff. I've got homes for most of everything but I still have a pile that needs to either be given away, thrown out, ebayed or we find a home for...They tend to play with most of their things if I draw their attention to it but when their room's a mess then they just don't know what to play with!
Speaking of which, I may go and have a sort out now while Ethans asleep and the boys are absorbed in playhouse disney on the computer!!
Chat later!
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Hugs Mel. Olivia, Lily, Liam and Becca sound like they are all the same children. My kids are the same as yours. We have locks on everything too. I had locks on the kitchen cupboards since Lil was little but since Liam's been getting around, EVERYTHING has a lock on it, or the door to that room is closed (he can't open doors yet!), drawers, fridge, we have a barrier for the kitchen, plus locks on the cupboards in there. Lily will stand in front of the open fridge or cupboards if the locks aren't locked. She will pull things open and Liam joins in the fun too. I remember once whne I was pg she got into the fridge and pulled out the grapes, milk and vegemite. I was in the bathroom. She had it all everywhere! I have tried to teach them to just not go into places I don't want them to, to learn to be responsible but if I did that, all I'd be doing all day is saying- no, get out, go away, stop touching that...it's so so exhausting, and I just can't do it. So everything is locked. Today has been a good day for us though. She's had 3 pancakes, 1/2 vegemite sandwich, punnet of strawberries, and some milk and water. Oh and some 'parties' a little tube of mini M & M's as a treat. Lunch is yet to happen, they've been sleeping (yay!!) but it will be a ham cheese and avo sandwich and some diluted juice. Pasta for dinner, maybe yogurt/custard for dessert if they want (Liam is usually fine, he doesn't eat all of his food, ever! But Lil will eat more after dinner). Small snack at about 3.30ish I think, maybe more fruit and a muesli bar or something. I think that is soooo much food for a 2 3/4yr old!
Kris, glad to hear you're taking it easy today. We're having a pretty lazy day at home too. If you can call cleaning and doing mountains of washing and dishes a lazy day! DH has another night shift tonight, which I absolutely HATE! The kids never sleep well when he's on a night shift. Well they don't sleep great when he isn't (Lil will sleep through now, but Liam is a nightmare still) but it's worse when he's not home, Lil wakes 2-3 times crying for him and Liam wakes more than usual.
We have too many toys here too. I went through them last night and put some away that the kids aren't using and got rid of the junky stuff like the old colouring books and broken toys. I try to rotate the toys occaisionally so they have 'different' toys every so often. I also find when I set them out nicely only the shelves and in the toy box, then the kids will be more constructive with them.
Ok gotta go and do things.....
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Hi!
Had a pretty quiet day today which was nice! Took Ethan with me to the chiro this afternoon. He did pretty well considering he's a little wriggle worm. Dylan had a meltdown this arvo and I put him on our bed for time out for a minute and walked back in to get him out and he'd fallen asleep! Hopefully he goes to sleep ok tonight though as that was about 3.30pm he fell asleep...obviously needed it though!!
Kids managed to keep their rooms tidy today which I'm sooo happy about! Hopefully they keep it up!!!
Kel - Have a great trip!
Mel - How are you feeling??
Hi to everyone else!!
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Kristie it must have been an arvo for meltdowns. Olivia had one tonight over dinner. She told me she didnt like it and she was going to put it on the floor...then the bin! Then she screamed for about 45 minutes after that. I tried putting her to bed for a rest, on the couch...nope. I settled her with some mickey mouse! So tonight she had a few pieces of steamed broccoli and caulifower. That was dinner. Then I gave in and made her a milkshake. I was trying to be tough and say to her that she wouldnt get anything...especially a special treat for eating dinner...so she didnt get that. I dont like the idea of them going to bed hungry...I am a sucker! They are both out for the count now!
Time for a cuppa! I have been feeling somewhat unwell! Moreso with this pregnancy than with the girls. I just feel crap. My stomach is sick, I feel dizzy, hungry tired, my nose is snotty. I dry wretched making lunches this morning. I eat to feel better then I feel yuck. I suppose its a great sign:) How are you feeling?
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Aww - you poor thing...LOL at giving in and making a milkshake...no comment - LOL!!!
Sounds like you need a nice chill out tonight! As much as it's not nice to feel unwell it does sound like very good signs!!! I always craved carbs in the early weeks - pasta, bread, kfc chips..lol!
I"m feeling ok...actually had a moment tonight when I started to feel a bit sad that it's nearly all over - LOL! I'm a crazy woman!!!! Of course it will be nice to get my body back but I'm really just trying to enjoy this preggy feeling for a few more weeks...
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Awww Kris, you'll be holding that bub soon enough!
Mel - I do the same, give milk or a poached egg if he won't eat what he's supposed to ...
Us - Pip has a virus, so I won't be taking Friday off which I had planned to come visit! He has a rash, temp in the 38's, sore throat, headache and swollen glands. Apparently it's going round, so please be careful Mel / Kris!
Have a good one.
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Oh Kaz, thats a shame. I was really looking forward to seeing you. Its been ages....ethans birthday! I hope Pip feels better soon. I am a sucker arent I! I am really struggling with this food stuff. Kristie...what would you have done? Do you send them to bed with an empty tummy if they refuse their food? I had her dinner sitting on the table for ages after she had her hissy fit, but she wouldnt have a bar of it. Oh well, shall try again tomorrow!
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Mel - we give Pip a "one warning" system. He gets up and runs around mid-dinner. First time he starts to get up we give him the warning. Next time his butt leaves the seat, that's it, his dinner is removed. We don't leave it there, I was watching something (house of tiny tearaways i think?) that it then really becomes a waiting game battle. DH and I will finish our dinners and have our dessert and he doesn't ... if he asks for dessert we just tell him that he didn't eat his dinner like Mummy & Daddy did, so he can't have dessert. And no second chances at night. I was reading somewhere else that they really don't need a lot of food and will self-regulate. Another tip is to use a small plate with only a couple of things on it - a full plate is really daunting for some. Put the food in serving bowls on your table, and as they eat things, replace them. We've had success with that one too.
Good luck :)
Oh, and BTW, DH tells me also that Pip's to stay away from preggie bellies ... so we're doubly not coming!
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Think I might need to go to the library and pick up some parenting books! Any suggestions?
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Hello all,
How is everyone going?
We are well after our marathon trip across NSW! It was actually really nice. I was glad to get home yesterday though, well out of the car is more like it. If we could have done it in double the time we did it, it would have been a really nice holiday! But it wasn't really a holiday, it was for DH's work. So it's looking like we will most likely be moving out to outback NSW for a few years!! The guy DH was talking to said there are 3 positions going with another one coming up. They have 6/7 applicants at the moment, with applications closing this week and DH was the only one who has made the effort to go and visit so far. They expect people to come out to visit the place because it is so remote and very small!!
Bourke is pretty tiny, only a 2- street town really, with only a little grocery store and a few little stores like a butchery, bakery, hobby/crafts store etc. No Big W or target or anything!! Cobar is a few hours west of Bourke and is bigger and is another possibility for a job for DH. We would prefer Cobar just because it's a bit bigger and doesn't have the social issues Bourke does. It is a mining community and apparently has one of the highest rates of employment in NSW. The guy we spoke to there said 'You don't come to Cobar unless you have a job here!'. It has more shops and infrastructure. I think I would probably find it easier to live there! It will definately be an experience for me, having lived in Sydney my whole life!
But I could go to Bourke for 3yrs. It's not that long. If we go to Cobar it would be for 4yrs. Then we get to choose where in NSW we want to live!! Well pretty much anyway. DH just has to put in his expression of interest and they usually make positions for the people who are coming from having been in a remote location, so a beach somewhere in NSW here we come....well in 4ish yrs anyway, lol!!
The kids were great on the trip. Lily loved her holidays. She called the motels we stayed in holidays. Since we stayed in four motels over the four days, she went on four holidays, lol! She had a ball discovering all of the new places. She loved the indoor heated pool at one hotel in Dubbo, then the hotel in Bourke had a playground nearby which was her favourite apparently. The hotel in Orange had a spa bath in it and was bliss for mummy, freaked Liam out and Lil had a blast in the bubbles it created!!
Lil puked in the car between Dubbo and orange, and was such a trooper, she just whimpered, puked and I told her it was ok. We stopped, cleaned up and kept going, no more to be said!! She was such a good girl. Liam was good too. He was having early sleeps because we would start driving at about 8am, he was sleeping 10-11ish and then was the energiser bunny when we would stop driving at about 2pm til he went to bed at 7ish, lol!
I am kid free at the mo, and loving it. I came home to a beautiful clean house because I styed up til midnight the night before we left to make sure the place was tidy so I could come home to a clean house! I just did a bit of grocery shopping child free for the first time in I don't know how long, and it was so good!!! Being hubby free helped too, he drives me batty when we go shopping too! But I should go and hang the washing out and change the beds before I have to get the monkeys!
Hope everyone is well :)
