nai its for co-sleeping feeding to sleep, ive adapted it to suit me as we dont do either but need to stop DD waking so much. and its gentle!!
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nai its for co-sleeping feeding to sleep, ive adapted it to suit me as we dont do either but need to stop DD waking so much. and its gentle!!
Thanks Olive - I just had a read and it was what we did last night so it made me feel better that I'm doing the right thing.
Ah I should get around to googling that guy too. Last night was a bit ordinary. Fed at 6:30pm, 9:15pm, 1am, 3:15am. Woke at about 5am but got DP to resettle him. Woke again at 7am and fed then too and then he was up. I went to bed at 11pm but was woken every half hour until the 1am feed then woken 2 hourly after that :( So sick of feeling tired.
Ali - Too late for this house. DP likes cricket but he hates just sitting in front of the telly so he has it constantly on the radio in the background but he can do other stuff while listening (just gets distracted if there's a wicket :rolleyes: ) I am sure DS will be schooled in all the finer points of test and one day games as soon as he's old enough.
I was thinking about your comment on DD's toys and what to do for her birthday - you could always tell people she has enough toys for now but that you're starting an education fund and ask them to donate or deposit the money they would have spent on a toy. Even $10 or $20 from each friend/family member will add up and if it's in a long term high interest account for a few years it will grow. Just a thought. :hug: for you being so bored too!! I remember when you were pg and you cleaned underneath the washing machine :rofl:
Nai - Hope that evil smell has left your dishwasher! It's the same in this house - DS won't settle for me at night, just wants to feed. DP has much more luck.
Shell/Olive - I had a :( day too re: not enough help from DP. He's great generally but he doesn't see kitchen mess or washing up AT ALL. I feel a bit like the kitchen maid slave at times cause he leaves stuff everywhere and can't even be arsed to pack the dishwasher at times. I can wash up 3 or 4 times a day easy and I hate it with passion. Anyway - think the message got through. Hope it lasts (it never does though).
OP - Good on you for going to the wedding. So glad you had fun. Hope DD is feeling better soon and that tooth comes through. I am so scared of teeth. We have enough sleep trouble here and DS doesn't even have any teeth yet and isn't even close!! All late on both sides of the family - my brother was about 12 months old before he got his first tooth so we're on track to do the same with DS.
Holly - Is there any way you can start to leave DS for short periods now to get him used to it? Come and go from the room he's in so he knows that when you disappear, you come back and then build up to leaving him for 30mins, an hour etc so that it's not such a shock to be left for 5 hours. That's just MHO anyway. Good luck with the house hunting!! It is a lot of fun, don't let it stress you out - the exact right house is out there waiting for you guys.
Shell - Back to work :o Yucko. But the money will be nice!
For those of you leaving home tomorrow, have fun shopping girls!! I got out alone today to do the grocercies :dance: NOT!!! with every other resident of this town after NY day.
We've got a mate coming to stay for a few days tomorrow. He's a bit self centred and drinks an awful lot so it should be interesting (or perhaps not, just hard work?).
Olive, Seaford is getting too far out I think, well in DP's opinion anyway. He thinks Chelsea is too far, I'm trying to convince him to at least check out some houses there.
Shell, we'd prefer private sale too, auctions are so daunting.
Re L and formula...yeah I think I will have it as a backup but knowing him he will probably turn his nose up at it. He will just have a booby feast when I get home I guess. How long can he go at 12 months without a milk feed? I mean, how long is appropriate? He doesn't have a breastfeed in the morning when he wakes, as he's feeding on and off all night. I only usually give him a breastfeed before sleeps to get him to sleep, and sometimes in between if he's cranky or it's hot and I think he might be thirsty. So he usually has 3 breastfeeds a day to coincide with his sleeps. When I am at work he will miss the first breastfeed of the day (around 10-11am when he has his first day sleep). I will be home by 2pm so he will get milk then. So that's no milk until 2pm! Is that okay? I really hope he takes to formula as I'd like him to be having some form of milk in the morning...but what if he doesn't!?
Thanks for your experiences Nai and Ali, I'm glad it worked out for you guys. I hope L takes to it too! I might buy some tomorrow and test it out :think:
I'm really nervous about going back. There's been a lot of staff movement and half the people I was working with aren't there anymore. I can't even remember how to use the computer system! I'm sure it'll all come back to me once I'm there...I hope. I'm actually meant to go back 2 days but I only want to do 1. I'm yet to ask the manager though (she's a new manager and I've never met her) so I hope she says it's okay. I guess I should call her on Monday, not leave it too late.
Kaz, thanks for your support!! Hope your guest behaves!
Gtg, this one hand typing is killing me!
crap night....blah... bbl after brekky
Olive- I saw on FB crtap night, kids?
Holly- maybe on the day you are working offer a BF before you go to work and just leave sippy cup formula for ion case in between. With Ash I went back to work when she was 10.5 months 2 days a week and she'd have 2 bottles formula in that time and then I'd just BF the rest of the time. Did take me a while to get her using a bottle tho so maybe go straight for sippy cup or straw cup?
Kaz- you might have to ban alcohol from the house! Is he a quiet drinker or gonna be loud and disturb everyone? Hope you frind success when you google that guy, seems like others are impressed with the plan.
yep DD2 shell!! we've been going well at night, doing 9-10 hrs straight, last night was up at 1am and 4am, but she didnt really settle after 4am, ive been awake since then :o need toothpicks today!!
kaz eek on the houseguest i hope he behaves!!
Crap night here too. I will come back when I can function. But it was not E, it was J. Up every hour, crying and playing around. It is def a behaviour and always happens after he has been sick
We have had a crap night too! Wouldn't settle until 9.30pm, just really restles and then woke at 1am and 5am!!! Think I might try to have a nap on couch when L goes for his morning nap,
Holly- Good luck with the house hunting, I too loved looking through house inspections such an eye opener to how other ppl live!!!
Kaz- Good luck with the house guest!!
Olive- Strong coffeee....hope it helps
Shell- love the advice about leaving DH with the kids, sometimes I just don't think men will ever get it...
Nai- GL with the Jay gordan stuff, is sort of working in our house, I just must not give in to feeding.
Ali- Good on ya for cleaning....must admit though my machine doesn't get nearly as dirty as it used to now I use liqud not powder.
L is pulling himself up onto his kness atm, and into everything he also gets cranky if we tell him no, yesterday I was in the bath and he was trying to touch the hot tap, I tolf him no and he dropped the bottom lip and cried!! :rolleyes: I can't believe how much he is starting to understand, they grow just too quick....
:hug: meg
pinny go L!!! M's favourite thing inthe bath at the moment is standing up :rolleyes:
i give in to feeding too :( though going to try and not too tonight, DH is only home one more day
omg im seriously at the end of my tether :( :cry: just when i think sleep is getting better it gets worse. yesterdays morning sleep=20 mins todays=30 mins, im just getting beyond it now
Cr@p night here too!! J went down ok at 7pm, woke at 8 and didn't go back until 9 - then woke at 12.30am (fed and settled as per the plan), then woke at 3am and every 15 minutes between then and 4.30am when she woke completely and screamed until 6am. DD1 moved into bed with Daddy and I slept in the toddler bed (yes it is the size of a cot!) in the girls room. Miss J eventually screamed herself to sleep in my arms while punching me in the head - Dr Jay was right, they really DO get angry being denied bb!!
:hug: to everyone else who had a crap night!
Kaz - I hope you get through your houseguest visit unscathed. If he gets too much just let J scream for a few nights ;) The dishwasher still stinks a bit but nowhere near as much!
Pinny - Miss J is pulling herself up on everything and is doing the standing inthe bath as well! Must be the age for it :D Although if I tell Miss J "No" she LAUGHS at me - hmmm bad sign I think!
:hug: sounds like we all had a crap night
we where out at some friends house and m slept in my arms :o hasnt done that since she was about 6 months
:hug: girls for all the crap nights going round in here. I so sympathise. We had an ok night last night for a change - DS actually resettled himself without any parental intervention when he woke at 10:30pm!!! Fed then at 1 and 4 I think. Hard to remember.
Olive - DS day sleeps have been fruited too lately - very short, very unsettled, hard to get him down etc etc. This morning he didn't go down until 10:30am after getting up at 7am (he normally only stays awake 60-90 mins that first cycle of the day).
Lilima - wonder what it is about being sick that triggers the behaviour afterwards for J?? Is it the extra attention he gets when sick? Or is he seeking reassurance? I bet lots of kids his age do the same thing. You must be so tired!
Holly - I feel the same way about work. I'll have been away for over 12 months by the time I go back and so many staff will have changed and both my direct colleagues are "new" but I will seem like the new one cause I haven't worked with them yet (although have been in the field for 10 years). I worry I will forget how to do stuff too. I'm sure it'll be like riding a bike ;)
Shell - He's often a quiet drinker but it can bring out the paranoid side to his personality (he's a bit narcissistic plus has had mental health issues in the past). If that happens he'll scream the town down. He's a good mate of DP's from school but he's just broken up with his 22 y.o g/friend on Xmas eve and so I think will be hitting the drink hard. I am prepared to lay down boundaries though with DS in the house. Hopefully he'll be respectful of that.
GTG - DS whinging cause he's tired and won't sleep.
ETA - hahaha! After whinging that he would not go to sleep, DS has been down since 3:30pm! Debating whether to wake him up. We're normally up to the bath at this stage! He'll probably sleep til midnight!!
I'm lucky in a way with the fact Emily has her "blankie" to sleep, as long as she has it she self settles. If she doesn't I'll make her a bottle in the night but blankie has been a lifesaver.
Kaz- Thats the tricky part when there is mental health issues also, the few ppl I know with mental health probs also have either some sort drug or alcohol dependancy and I see how each thing affects the other, not good sometimes. Hope he is ok, good idea on laying down the rules.
Nai and Olive- try keep telling yourselves that you are getting to the top of that hill, they are fighting it but you are nearly there and going to slide down the other side, hope tonight is better.
Meg- when you went to the paed did he say anything on the behaviour side of probs? Any good advice from him?
Pinny- hope you got that nap! Yeah they do understand so much now, as soon as I say no she stops dead and stares at me and isn't impressed.
Left the girls with Df today and list just few simple jobs to get done, of course they weren't done. Now I know ppl think I should be happy he is looking after them but i think so he should he's there dad and if he can't do simple day to day things then it means I have to rush round and try do it all. I just think about when I go back to work how I will still have to do everything I do now but will have so much less time to do it in. How hard is it to watch/ sterilise bottles, give floor quick sweep and tidy kitchen?
I hear your pain Shell. It is the same here with simole things not getting done. I have to work tomorrow - Oh and it is our 7 year anniversary tomorrow too. 4 years ago tomorrow, james was concieved.
J appears to have sleep apnoea. (SP) Not really bad, buthe does stop breathing in his sleep. After being sick, an d with problems with his ears and throat, I think it triggers the apnoea. So maybe that's why he wakes?? For a while there we weren't hearing boo from him till morning (and miss E was playing up) Now not hearing from E, but he is waking, Knowing myluck I will have both of them upo tonight :(
Nai - Did you sleep at all while in the toddler bed? You poor thing!
Olive - wishing you a better night tonight.
Kaz - What time did he wake?
Pinny - E also gets cranky when you say no!
Holly - When I am around E is booby all the way, but she takes a bottle fine from others when I am not there. I can't be bothered with expressing, and it doesn't seem to affect my supply.
Well my sister still really isn't well. She is still in MBU (Been 2 weeks now) She is now having anxiety attacks when thinking about going out. She is scared to leave the unit. I really beleive that her husband is half the issue, as he says things in front of her like, he is never having any more kids as this is all to hard etc. it breaks my heart to see her struggle. i just want to take her and her bub and bring them here. I can get up to the baby. heavens knows i am already up anyway!! oh and they have put her on a bottle now.
Also my Grandmother is quite sick. She is 88, and is just tired and old. I honestly don't know how much longer she will be here. I will be devastated, as I am very close to her. I speak to her at least twice a week, and see her once a week.
Hi ladies,
Meg, sounds like you are having a rough trot with DS, your sister and your grandma. Really hope it all gets better for you soon hun!
Do you think now that her DD is on the bottle, you might be able to look after her a bit?? That would be so lovely of you. Once she is up to leaving the MBU that is. Can you have a word to the husband??
Shell - I hear you. While I was at the wedding DH rang me and said "I was feeling better so I did that load of nappies and also washed the sheets" - well he washed them, I get home and there's two loads of wet washing not hung out, a houseful of dirty dishes, no DRY nappies and no new sheets on the bed! :rolleyes: At least he's trying. He has told me that when I go back to work he will help more, pick up some slack... we will see!
Really hope DP pulls a bit more weight when you're back at work! When do you go back? I am going back tomorrow week, eeeeek!!
Kaz - did J wake up?? 2hr nap, that's impressive!Hope he's gone down well for you tonight. Hope it goes well with your houseguest too... don't really have any words of wisdom sorry!
Olive - DD will still go to sleep in my arms, eventually... but if we are out somewhere, only if she is exhausted! Too much to look at otherwise!! Hope you have a good night tonight hun! GL with the Dr Jay...
Confession... I went to his website and got so confused by it all, I didn't know where to click! :redface: Feel free to point me in the right direction...
Nai - hope you have a good night tonight too! Hopefully no more punching in the head...
Nai/Pinny/Olive - DD is always standing in the bath too! DH gets very frustrated by it.
She is a cheeky monkey - knows exactly what NO means - we have a wine rack that we've purposefully left where it is and she goes to touch the bottles of wine then looks to see if I'm watching, I say "No! Not for touching!" and she pulls her hand away but then slowly creeps it back again... already testing the boundaries!!
Holly - I left DD with mum on NYE and with formula, for the first time, as trying to express for her before I left was just stressing me out. She loved it! Like someone else said (Nai?? maybe) she seemed to think it was a different drink - she hasn't turned off the boob at all. She had a massive feed when I came home.
I think when I go back to work I will try one expressed bottle (will take my pump to work - should get one bottle if I express twice) and have a formula as backup. She still has four feeds during the day (7, 11, 3, 7 or thereabouts) so she will miss two feeds. And she is pretty regular with them so I don't think I will bother getting mum to try and stretch her out so she is only on EBM.
Going back to work freaks me out too. Like you - lots of changes in our team including new manager, so will be very interesting. I also have to tell them I am pg again!!
Good luck with the househunting!
AFM: woke up yest morning feeling very average and yep, the gastro hit me too. Thank goodness DH was here - he took DD all day, I basically migrated between the couch, the bed and the loo :redface: Double thank goodness he had it first and got some maxalon - I think that definitely helped. Feeling much better today thankfully! My sister (36wks pg) had it and was almost hospitalised so I was desperately trying to stay hydrated and not end up like her...
All better now which is good as DH is back to work tomorrow. I think DD's other top tooth is pushing through... she has been grizzly and a pain to get to sleep all day today. Asleep now... we'll see how long she sleeps for.
Interested to know what everyone else is planning for the big first birthday extravaganza???? Looks like we will be doing ours on Valentine's Day due to other family functions so we're thinking about doing breakfast/brunch to allow people to do stuff in the arvo/evening.
Does that sound good to you guys??
Re the work thing its funny cause both times now that I have gone on mat leave there has been huge changes, when I went back after Ash I only knew half the staff.
OP- I go back thurs and friday thsi week, will do 2 days a week but varies. Its just once Df is back at work I will have to do arvo shifts which is 1pm til 9:30pm so if I am up with the girls at 7 or so its a very long day. How many days will you be doing? We gonna do BBQ for the 1st b'day, just close frineds and family.
Meg- thats very sad, does she live alone or in care? Its so hard, my gran went into a nursing home recently as her dementia has gotten terrible. Grandparents are so special.
As with your sister do you think you could have quiet word with her hubby? Just point out those comments are not very helpful but try word it nicely so he doesn't feel its an attack on him? Maybe see if she can get weekend leave and have her come stay with you, show her she can cope outside of the hospital? Good luck.
Oh and congrats for your wedding anni tomor! Tomor is 4 years since we got our BFP with Ash, I remember like it was yesterday.